Ruwando Podcast

Since raising a daughter, I’ve become more sensitive to women’s experience in dating men.So I invited on my friends Reece and Efia to get a bit of female perspective. Reece and Efia are coaches who met in a women’s mystery school in Spain. We met in Mexico last year.We discuss dating, relationships, gender role culture, and the female version of Nice Guy Syndrome.[Video Excerpt] Two Kinds of Women? Nice Gal Syndrome in Dating(Full episode in audio only)Reece: mamanourish.coIG: @mamanourish_Efia: yamayelore.comIG: @yamayelorecoaching Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Josh Hatcher of Manlihood and I connected earlier this summer to discuss about man stuff. But once I found out he was a father of four adults (and grandfather), I had to pick his brain on his role in his family.Here’s a video preview of our talk. (Full episode is in audio/podcast only)Check out his stuff at manlihood.comruwando.com/archetype (Still includes coaching call with me) Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

I was raised both Buddhist and Catholic. Neither really stuck.I spent my twenties being “spiritual but not religious”. And otherwise prioritizing individuality over cultural constraints.However for the first time as an adult, I’m seeing the value of traditional religion.I don’t think I’m alone in that. Global culture is at an inflection point. After centuries of moving towards secularism, many seem to be returning to tradition. Especially for those interested in personal development, religion may be the next unexpected step. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Muslim and Christian families uniting in protest shows us a historical pattern of ideological conflict. Read article version at ruwando.substack.com Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Sexual desire is one of the few places where individual nature will hold out against collective culture. (Comedy being the other big one.)Most of my life I’ve been focused on the importance of individual expression over collective “oppression.” My explorations in sexuality have been a part of that.But lately (since having a family) I’ve been seeing the great value of the other side— there’s a lot to be gained from “belonging” to a greater framework, even at the expense of some individuality.So I was particularly interested in speaking with Yuval.Yuval is a sex educator who came from a Orthodox Jewish background. We speak about the tradeoff of sex and culture, taboos in human relating, and other interesting threads.His work: https://yuvalman.com/Archetype Challenge: https://www.ruwando.com/archetype Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

I’m joined by my friend Vicente, one of the psychotherapists who run Iboga Quest, an ibogaine treatment center in Mexico. This conversation was shortly after I attended one of his retreats. We speak about mindfulness, plant medicine, psychotherapy, and how to change your mind. https://ibogaquest.com/ Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

This podcast explores the complexities of dealing with a woman's emotions in a relationship, emphasizing the importance of recognizing emotional moments as tests of a man's ability to provide support. It discusses the negative feedback loop triggered by insecure reactions and suggests becoming a secure 'daddy' figure. The impact of avoidant responses, the significance of setting boundaries, and the concept of emotional testing are discussed. The importance of responding with love and security and creating a positive feedback loop is highlighted.

Religion seems to be making a comeback. Whereas most self help and pop psychology of the 90’s was more about blaming religious oppression, now it seems to be weaving back into personal development.I personally have become more interest in tradition lately. And I’ve been curious to speak with someone who knows both of these worlds.I met Issa a few months ago in a coaching program. He’s a YouTuber who covers similar topics to me. He’s also Muslim. He and I discuss culture, psychology, principles for creative entrepreneurs. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Relationships are expensive. And men with options have less reason to be in one than ever before.This episode is on 1) how women can reverse that trend, 2) how men can overcome the internal dilemma. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Brian Begin, a TrueCourage coach, shares his experiences with overcoming grief and recreating his life. They discuss the flaws of pickup, the impact of anxiety on interactions, the importance of emotional connection, designing life for more real-life experiences, expanding focus beyond dating, and the power of personal growth through true courage.