Ruwando Podcast: Psychology For Men with Brains and Balls

Brian Begin, a TrueCourage coach, shares his experiences with overcoming grief and recreating his life. They discuss the flaws of pickup, the impact of anxiety on interactions, the importance of emotional connection, designing life for more real-life experiences, expanding focus beyond dating, and the power of personal growth through true courage.

I’ve done a lot of things in the world of men’s personal development.But there’s nothing that has positively impacted me as much as combat sports.Here’s how:References:The Hour Between Dog and Wolf (Coates)Arousal and Physiological Toughness (Dienstbier) Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Culture encourages us to stay “young” (because then we make better consumers).This can be especially troublesome for men. And most men (including me) probably have some inner conflict related to that.Patrick and I discuss “Peter Pan Syndrome”— When a grown man is stuck in elements of “boy psychology”.Referencing Carl Jung, and Marie Louise von Franz's The Problem of the Puer Aeternus (1959) Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Captain Sinbad is my favorite Youtuber in the personal development space. So I hired him as a coach. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Last month I noticed my mind was going in a bad direction.At moments I thought I was depressed, and maybe I was. But I realized there was a lot within my mental state that was well within my control.So I decided to do a little lifestyle challenge following the principles of one of my historical role models— the Miyamoto Musashi.This video covers the 21 principles of Dokkodo alongside my 3 week routine:Btw, I’m revamping the Archetype Challenge to include some new content along with a physical journal. Which means next month the price will increase. If you want to get it at the old price, sign up now :). Still comes with a free coaching session.https://www.ruwando.com/archetype (The old page will be replaced mid-June.) Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Alex Petkas is the host of The Cost of Glory Podcast— which I discovered while researching for History of Man episodes III and IV and thoroughly enjoy. He’s was formerly a Classics Professor. We speak about what we can learn from the great men of history and developing your ethos.Ancient Life Coach SubstackRome - Speak Lead Retreat Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

How “truthful” should you be in your relationship?In a committed relationship, that’s actually the wrong way to ask the question…This episode covers a man’s role in influencing the shared perceptions (viz: Magician Archetype). We’ll look at it through different lenses such as “controlling frame” (Red Pill) vs. shared meaning-making (nation-building).(This was recorded before my concussion and I literally forgot about it till now.) Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Many of our patterns of behavior and feeling do not originate in us. They are passed down, through nature or nurture, from those before us.However if you’ve “inherited” undesirable patterns, or see them spreading in your family, you can be the one to interrupt them.Noelfry rejoins the podcast to share a recent experience of disrupting his familial patterns.Btw, I’m back on Youtube: Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Atonement with the Father is a stage in Joseph Campbell's monomyth (Hero's Journey) where a man confronts 'The Godhead'. In doing so, he becomes complete-- unlocking the "god" within himself (Apotheosis). Psychologically it represents healing of the Father Wound-- the gaps in one's masculinity due to the shortcomings of one's father figure. Ruwando Substack is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

(Apologies for the bad audio-- my main mic cut out.)Havingness (a.k.a. self-concept) is how much you subconsciously believe your deserve when it comes to different areas of life— money, love, respect, attention, ease, etc.We tend to revert to our this "Having Level" when we deviate too far away from it.But you can increase your Having Level, and upgrade your sense of normal through certain practices. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe