Lessons from a Quitter

We’re all doing too much. Busy has become a badge of honor. And as we continue to run on the hamster wheel to get ALL THE THINGS done, we miss out on this one precious life we have. No more. The goal is not to get more done. The goal is to have less to do. Without guilt. That’s what I teach you on the podcast this week. 

Balancing all of the thoughts around your career is already hard enough, throw kids into that mix and it can feel like you’re constantly drowning.  The guilt of feeling like you’re always dropping some balls.The resentment of never having any time for yourself.The exhaustion of always taking care of someone or something else.  This week on the podcast, I’m going to show you how thought work helped transform my relationship as a mother which allowed me to create the career of my dreams.  In this episode, I talk about how learning to manage my mind helped me:  Understand my real role as a mother  Understand myself better  Understand my children more fully  All three of these things allowed me to take off the martyr-badge most moms are required to wear and create a life that actually works for me and my family.

This week, we tackle a big topic in high-achieving communities like this one: Imposter Syndrome. So many of my clients, who have years of experience, degrees, great reviews, insane accomplishments, still believe the lie that they have no idea what they’re doing. Why is that? This episode tackles why we hold on to the thoughts causing Imposter Syndrome so tightly and how to start loosening that grip.

This week's episode is a replay of Episode 76: From Lawyer to Chocolate Maker: How Shawn Askinosie Found His Calling. Sure, quitting is easy if you've always hated your job. But what if you used to love it? What if you loved it for many years? What if you were really, really good at it? I'm so excited about this week's episode with the amazing Shawn Askinosie. Shawn walked away from a very successful career as a criminal defense attorney, a job he used to love. Until he didn't. He realized that the career he once loved was putting him into an early grave and that it was time to do something else. Shawn is now the founder of Askinosie Chocolates, named by Forbes as “One of the 25 Best Small Companies In America.”  He was also named by O, The Oprah. Magazine, as "One of 15 Guys Who Are Saving the World." No big deal. He spends his days traveling between 4 continents to directly source his cocoa beans from farmers, where he offers them above Fair Trade prices, open books, and a share of his profits. He has created an inspiring company that not only gives back directly to the farmers but his community as well. His book - Meaningful Work: The Quest To Do Great Business, Find Your Calling And Feed Your Soul, co-written with his daughter, Lawren Askinosie, published by Penguin Random House is a #1 bestseller on Amazon. I got to chat with Shawn about how he walked away from a career he loved and how he figured out what he should do next. Here is what we chat about in this episode: Do the deep work and figure out who you truly are. Look for those thresholds. Be vulnerable with the people in your life. And so much more! Where to find Shawn: Book Business Blog TED Talk

That inner critic you have that drones on and on every day about how bad you are at being a human is NOT your voice. It was put there by society - capitalism, religion, patriarchy, white supremacy, school, religion - in an attempt to control you. And it’s time we undo it.  This is Part 2 of a 2-part series that will help you get rid of your inner critic. If you haven’t listened to Part 1, definitely start there because the first step is truly becoming aware of what it is and where it came from and that’s what I’ll cover in this episode. Part 2 will start giving you the rest of the steps to move you from a harsh inner critic to unshakeable self-trust.

That Inner Critic you have that drones on and on every day about how bad you are at being a human is NOT your voice. It was put there by society- capitalism, religion, patriarchy, white supremacy, school, religion- in an attempt to control you. And it’s time we undo it.  This is Part 1 of a 2-part series that will help you get rid of your inner critic.  The first step is truly becoming aware of what it is and where it came from and that’s what I’ll cover in this episode.

One of the skills I see people struggling with the most–and one I struggled with for years–is making decisions. And the reason people struggle is because they’re focused on the wrong thing. You’re focused on guaranteeing the outcome you want which is impossible. Instead, I want you to focus on the reasons you’re making the decision. When you're clear on what your reasons are and you actually like them, it becomes a lot easier to make decisions.  I dive deeper into why knowing your reasons is the most important step and how it can change decision making for you in this episode.

On this week’s podcast, I’m taking you behind the scenes of all of my UNCERTAINTY and DOUBT around my new membership launch. You might be wondering: “Why are you doing this, Goli?” Because I want you to stop thinking that other people have it figured out.Because I want you to see that the entire process is filled with fear and doubt. Because I don’t want to just show you results; I want to show you the messy middle.

This week, we dive into the new viral trend of Quiet Quitting and why it’s a problematic term. Quiet Quitting is a trend on social media where people stop going above and beyond their job descriptions and instead only do what they’re paid to do.  This is, in no way, quitting.  And it’s harmful to call it that because it operates under the assumption that the employee is doing something wrong when really they’re setting up proper boundaries.  On the podcast this week, I dive deeper into why this is problematic and what we should be calling it instead. 

This is Part 3 of a 3-part series on Toxic Work Environments.  The term “toxic” is thrown around so often that it has all but lost its meaning. It’s hard to know what truly is toxic and what is something we just don’t like.  In this series, I’ll dive into how to start discerning what is toxic, what you have control over and how to think about your career in a way that will serve you.  Part 1 dealt with Toxic Coworkers. Part 2 dealt with Toxic Bosses and other people who have a direct impact on your job.  This episode dives into how you can manage your mind around jobs that have toxic hours, tasks, or conditions that are not ideal.