Love and Libido

If you’re like most folks you want it all. But it can be challenging to balance your personal ambition with your family all while maintaining a juicy sex life. Today’s guest, Dr. Joli Hamilton has the answers. Drawing from her entrepreneurial spirit and experience raising seven kids while maintaining a passionate relationship, Joli talks about how to design your relationship. We chat about what it means to truly anchor – to your partner, to your family, and to your intimate time together. “When you see the connection you foster with your partner as an investment you’re making for your children, it’s easy,” Joli says. Thank you to BetterHelp, an online therapy platform that has already helped millions, for sponsoring the show. Get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting www.betterhelp.com/dremily or by using code DREMILY at check out. If you like what you’re hearing, don’t forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option for us to disguise your voice with our fancy editing software, so no worries there if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. And don’t forget to check out my online workshop, The Five Sex Languages: Secrets to Long-Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off the full price of the workshops.

Jealousy…think your immune to it? Guess again. I treat couples who are jealous of their partner’s relationship with the kids, with the dog, and with their career. It’s an emotion that we can identify in babies as young as 6 months, but we don’t talk about it enough. What is jealousy versus envy? How we can foster a healthier relationship with jealousy so that we can use it to learn about ourselves and develop a stronger connection with our partners? Jealousy expert, Dr. Joli Hamilton, who gave a TED talk all about jealousy, is going to help us make sense of this very complex emotion. Joli is also a research psychologist, professor of human sexuality, and a sex & relationship coach. Let’s dive in. This episode is sponsored by FirmTech. If you’re a penis owner, then you need to know about FirmTech. FirmTech has rings designed to increase sexual stamina and give you stronger, longer-lasting erections. Their high-tech ring gives you the added benefit of providing health data based on the quality of your erections. We have devices to measure the quality of our sleep and how many calories we burn, so why shouldn’t we have a med-tech device to measure the health of our erections? Well, now we do. Visit myfirmtech.com and use code IKNOWEMILY for 20% off your purchase. Thanks to FirmTech for sponsoring this episode. If you like what you’re hearing, don’t forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option for us to disguise your voice with our fancy editing software, so no worries there if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. Visit loveandlibido.com to see what our focus is this month. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. Thank you to BetterHelp, an online therapy platform that has already helped millions, for sponsoring the show. Get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting www.betterhelp.com/dremily or by using code DREMILY at check out. And don’t forget to check out my online workshop, The Five Sex Languages: Secrets to Long-Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off the full price of the workshops.

Are you one of the millions who feel like you’re blinding navigating the dating world? Whether you’re swiping through profiles on an app or scanning the room at a bar, there are some tried and true dating principles that can help. Today’s guest, Dr. Susan Campbell, has written several books on this topic and has personal experience as someone who’s stepped back into the dating world a few times throughout her life. Today she’s going to explain how her “get real” approach to dating can help you stay confident and more easily connect with potential partners. I had her on the show before to chat about the five relationship stages and loved our conversation so much that I had to invite her back on. If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option for us to disguise your voice with our fancy editing software, so no worries there if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. Visit loveandlibido.com to see what our focus is this month. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you like what you’re hearing, don’t forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. And don’t forget to check out my online workshop, The Five Sex Languages: Secrets to Long-Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off the full price of the workshops.

Have you ever wondered if you might be in a relationship with a narcissist? Narcissism comes in many forms. Some obvious, others….not so obvious. Being in a relationship with someone with narcissistic tendencies can be emotionally draining and deplete your self-esteem, but hope is available. Today, I chat with relationship expert Joe Kort on how to recognize the signs and develop an exit strategy if that’s what you think you need. We also chat about what it means to come from a narcissistic family and shed light on lesser-known components of narcissism such as “narcissistic injuries” and “narcissistic defenses.” If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option for us to disguise your voice with our fancy editing software, so no worries there if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. Visit loveandlibido.com to see what our focus is this month. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you like what you’re hearing, don’t forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. And don’t forget to check out my online workshop, The Five Sex Languages: Secrets to Long-Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off the full price of the workshops.

If you’re in a long-term relationship, chances are you can look back and identify when the relationship shifted from the bliss of the honeymoon phase to the reality of the everyday life together. You can probably think of times when you’ve really struggled to balance each other’s needs versus times when you dreamt of shared future goals. Did you know there are actually 5 distinct stages in every relationship and that couples can cycle in and out of each stage multiple times? Knowing what stage you’re in can help avoid breakups and more easily navigate typical relationship challenges. That’s what I’m discussing with my guest today, Dr. Susan Campbell. Today’s episode is sponsored by BetterHelp, an online therapy platform that has already helped millions. Get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting www.betterhelp.com/dremily. Or you can use code DREMILY at checkout. If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option for us to disguise your voice with our fancy editing software, so no worries there if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. Visit loveandlibido.com to see what our focus is this month. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you like what you’re hearing, don’t forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. And don’t forget to check out my online workshop, The Five Sex Languages: Secrets to Long-Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off the full price of the workshops.

Have you ever been having a perfectly enjoyable sexual experience only to find yourself uncontrollably sobbing afterward? There are lots of reasons why someone might cry after sex, but most of the time, it’s because of something called post-coital dysphoria. And it’s more common than you might think. Studies have found that nearly half of all women experience this at some point in their lives. We’ll talk all about this condition and I’ll also give tips on how to handle it if this happens to your partner during sex. Today’s episode is sponsored by BetterHelp, an online therapy platform that has already helped millions. Get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting www.betterhelp.com/dremily. Or you can use code DREMILY at checkout. If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option for us to disguise your voice with our fancy editing software, so no worries there if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. Visit loveandlibido.com to see what our focus is this month. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you like what you’re hearing, don’t forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. And don’t forget to check out my online workshop, The Five Sex Languages: Secrets to Long-Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off the full price of the workshops.

If you’re a regular listener of the podcast, you probably know the difference between gender identity (whether you identify as male, female, or nonbinary) and sexual orientation (straight, gay, or somewhere in between). But how much do you know about erotic orientation? Simply put, erotic orientation describes the kinds of things that turn us on. Interestingly, however, erotic orientation doesn’t always line up with commonly held assumptions about gender identity and sexual orientation. For instance, some straight men enjoy sex with other men. Some lesbian women get turned on by heterosexual porn. Confused? Don’t worry. Today’s guest, Dr. Joe Kort, is here to break it all down. An expert on gender identity, sexual orientation, and erotic orientation, he’ll help make sense of the complexities of sexual behavior. Today’s episode is sponsored by BetterHelp, an online therapy platform that has already helped millions. Get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting www.betterhelp.com/dremily. If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option for us to disguise your voice with our fancy editing software, so no worries there if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. Visit loveandlibido.com to see what our focus is this month. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you like what you’re hearing, don’t forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. And don’t forget to check out my online workshop, The Five Sex Languages: Secrets to Long-Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off the full price of the workshops.

I am so excited about today’s episode because it is our first ever live Q&A! I finally had a subscriber brave enough to schedule some time with me so that we could dive more deeply into her concern. Her longtime boyfriend has a sexual fantasy that is making them question if their relationship is really on solid ground. The worst part is, that she feels partly responsible for the fantasy he’s stuck on. Have you ever questioned the meaning of your sexual fantasies? Has your partner ever reacted negatively when you expressed a fantasy or desire? Then you need to tune into today’s episode! Today’s episode is sponsored by BetterHelp, an online therapy platform that has already helped millions. Get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting www.betterhelp.com/dremily. If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option for us to disguise your voice with our fancy editing software, so no worries there if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud and want to tell us who you are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. Visit loveandlibido.com to see what our focus is this month. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you like what you’re hearing, don’t forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. And don’t forget to check out my online workshop, The Five Sex Languages: Secrets to Long-Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off the full price of the workshops.

If you’re like most folks, you’ve probably heard of tantric sex. And while you might be curious about it, you probably can’t imagine ever practicing it with your partner. I mean who has time for that, right…? Think again, my friend. My guest today is going to shed some light on how the everyday couple can incorporate tantric principles into their sex life in a way that deepens intimacy, expands meaning, and enhances emotional and physical pleasure. Good intention, and open heart, and strategic breathing are really all you need to practice tantric sex. Listen today, you’ll thank me later. Dr. Sally Valentine is a psychotherapist, sex therapist supervisor, who is certified in sex therapy, hypnotherapy, EMDR, and Imago relationship therapy. She has been practicing for over 20 years in Boca Raton, FL. Dr. Valentine creatively teaches Tantra to her clients, couples, and colleagues to enhance their connection, self-awareness, intimacy, sexual competency and to overcome sexual wounds. Today’s episode is sponsored by BetterHelp, an online therapy platform that has already helped millions. Get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting www.betterhelp.com/dremily. If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option for us to disguise your voice with our fancy editing software, so no worries there if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. Visit loveandlibido.com to see what our focus is this month. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you like what you’re hearing, don’t forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. And don’t forget to check out my online workshop, The Five Sex Languages: Secrets to Long-Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off the full price of the workshops.

We have so many great questions to dive into today! I answer one man’s question about how to improve ejaculatory control (0:57), another man’s question is about whether he should tell his wife that he’s interested in having sex with other men (13:03), and another listener’s question about what it means that his partner never initiates sex (18:14). Today’s episode is sponsored by BetterHelp, an online therapy platform that has already helped millions. Get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting www.betterhelp.com/dremily. If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option for us to disguise your voice with our fancy editing software, so no worries there if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. Visit loveandlibido.com to see what our focus is this month. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you like what you’re hearing, don’t forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. And don’t forget to check out my online workshop, The Five Sex Languages: Secrets to Long-Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off the full price of the workshops.