Love and Libido

“I could go the rest of my life without it.” That’s how countless women feel about sex after going through menopause. Today’s guest, Dr. Susan Hardwick-Smith, was no different. Despite the fact that this is a common feeling, it’s not one that most women feel at peace with, and it lends itself to some pretty frustrated partners. The fact is, if sex was important to you before menopause, there is no reason why you can’t continue to enjoy it after menopause. That’s the topic of today’s episode. My guest, Dr. Susan Hardwick-Smith is a Board-Certified Gynecologist specializing in women’s midlife wellness, hormone optimization, and sexual wellness. She is the founder of Complete Midlife Wellness Center in Houston, TX, and the best-selling author of “Sexually Woke- Awaken the Secrets to Your Best Sex Life in Midlife and Beyond,” which she wrote after waking up to the realization she didn’t want to live the rest of her life without a vibrant sex life. She conducted a study on thousands of women to discover what the secrets were among those who maintained a hot sex life even later in life. You can learn more about Dr. Susan Hardwick-Smith on her website and her Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, Youtube, and LinkedIn. Today’s episode is sponsored by BetterHelp, an online therapy platform that has already helped millions. Get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting www.betterhelp.com/dremily. EMJOY is an app for women who want to learn how to have consistent orgasms, boost their libido, experience body acceptance and high self-esteem, and improve their relationships. Click HERE to claim your 14-day free trial. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission. We always give you the option for us to disguise your voice with our fancy editing software, so no worries there if you would like to remain anonymous. Visit loveandlibido.com to see what our focus is this month. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you like what you’re hearing, don’t forget to leave me a five-star review. And don’t forget to check out my online workshop, The Five Sex Languages: Secrets to Long-Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off the full price of the workshop.

I thought there would be no better way to 04/20 than by dedicating a whole episode to the exploration of sex and cannabis. The healing properties of cannabis have been known for centuries, but modern medicine has only recognized its use in more recent years. Today, special product lines are being designed that enhance sexual arousal and even treat sexual pain. Today I’m joined by sex educator and medically certified cannabis consultant Chelsea Cebara to outline everything you need to know about how your favorite flower bud can be strategically used to enhance your sex life. Chelsea Cebara has been helping humans effectively and mindfully combine sex and cannabis since 2010 as a professional sex educator, product developer, medically-certified cannabis consultant, and founder of Cebara Consulting. She is proud to have developed the world’s first water-based, barrier-compatible THC lubricant, Velvet Swing, and cofounded the Sex & Cannabis Professional Alliance. Ms. Cebara has been featured in publications such as Forbes, Cosmopolitan, and DOPE, was named one of MJ Venture’s “Top 40 under 40” and has been a regularly featured speaker at industry events such as WomenGROW. She lives in Seattle where she advises cannabis businesses at all levels of development and speaks nationally on the intersection of cannabis with sex, kink, and consent culture. You can learn more about Chelsea on her website and her twitter. Today’s episode is sponsored by BetterHelp, an online therapy platform that has already helped millions. Get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting www.betterhelp.com/dremily EMJOY is an app for women who want to learn how to have consistent orgasms, boost their libido, experience body acceptance and high self-esteem, and improve their relationships. Click HERE to claim your 14-day free trial. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option for us to disguise your voice with our fancy editing software, so no worries there if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too.  Visit loveandlibido.com to see what our focus is this month. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you like what you’re hearing, don’t forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. And don’t forget to check out my online workshop, The Five Sex Languages: Secrets to Long-Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off the full price of the workshops.

Have you ever wondered if you or your partner might fall on the autism spectrum? Do you have autism and struggle to understand how to navigate romantic relationships and sex? Do you have an autistic child and are wondering how to help them navigate their sexuality in a healthy way? Then you need to listen to today’s episode. Autism affects about 2% of the population, and we are beginning to have a clearer understanding of how to help autistic folks have meaningful relationships and sexual experiences if that’s what they desire. Today I sit down with sex counselor, Nicholas Maio-Aether. He brings a unique perspective as a licensed clinician and an autistic adult. Together we chat about all things sex, love, and autism. You can learn more about Nicholas on his website, his instagram, and his facebook. Today’s episode is sponsored by BetterHelp, an online therapy platform that has already helped millions. Get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting www.betterhelp.com/dremily EMJOY is an app for women who want to learn how to have consistent orgasms, boost their libido, experience body acceptance and high self-esteem, and improve their relationships. Join the hundreds of thousands of women who have already benefited from all that EMJOY has to offer. Click HERE to claim your 14-day free trial. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option for us to disguise your voice with our fancy editing software, so no worries there if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too.  Visit loveandlibido.com to see what our focus is this month. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you like what you’re hearing, don’t forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. And don’t forget to check out my online workshop, The Five Sex Languages: Secrets to Long-Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off the full price of the workshops.

It’s Q&A day! We tackle two great questions today. First, I address one man’s concerns about his partners’ negative reaction to his uncircumcised penis (1:17). In the second segment, I give tips to a guy whose wife has struggled to regain libido following cancer treatment (8:18). Today’s episode is sponsored by BetterHelp, an online therapy platform that has already helped millions. Get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting www.betterhelp.com/dremily EMJOY is an app for women who want to learn how to have consistent orgasms, boost their libido, experience body acceptance and high self-esteem, and improve their relationships. Join the hundreds of thousands of women who have already benefited from all that EMJOY has to offer. Click HERE to claim your 14-day free trial. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option for us to disguise your voice with our fancy editing software, so no worries there if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. Visit loveandlibido.com to see what our focus is this month. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you like what you’re hearing, don’t forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. And don’t forget to check out my online workshop, The Five Sex Languages: Secrets to Long-Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off the full price of the workshops.

Are you curious how to experience pleasure more completely, on both an emotional and physical level? Maybe you’re struggling to understand why emotional intimacy as a prerequisite to sex is so important for your partner. Do you long to feel more present and connected to your partner? Then you need to listen to today’s episode. Today I sit down with Dr. Nicole McNichols, a human sexuality professor at The University of Washington, where she teaches the most popular course in the university’s history. Nicole and I chat all about the role of emotional connection in sexual pleasure. (9:18) We also give our $.02 about how sex scenes are depicted in your favorite Netflix shows (19:25), how to navigate motherhood while staying connected to your sexuality (24:39), and even tell you what monkeys and dolphins can teach us about sexual pleasure (31:32). If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at loveandlibido.com. I am also currently accepting upcoming submissions for an upcoming episode about sex on the spectrum. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option for us to disguise your voice with our fancy editing software, so no worries there if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. Visit loveandlibido.com to see what our focus is this month. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. Special thanks to EMJOY @letsemjoy for sponsoring this episode. EMJOY’s purpose is to normalize female sexual wellbeing as a key part of wider wellbeing and self-care. Click this link to receive your free 14-day trial. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you like what you’re hearing, don’t forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. And don’t forget to check out my online workshop, The Five Sex Languages: Secrets to Long-Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample.

Thank you so much for tuning in, everybody. Today, I answer two subscriber questions. I give one man tips on how to cope with ED and premature ejaculation with a partner who is unwilling to collaborate with him to improve sex. I answer one woman's question about how to handle her boyfriend's anxiety about having sex while she's pregnant. And then finally, I share a subscriber-submitted story about how poor sex education made it hard for him to initiate sex.  If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at loveandlibido.com. I am also currently accepting upcoming submissions for an upcoming episode about sex on the spectrum. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option for us to disguise your voice with our fancy editing software, so no worries there if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. Visit loveandlibido.com to see what our focus is this month. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show.  Special thanks to EMJOY @letsemjoy for sponsoring this episode. EMJOY's purpose is to normalize female sexual wellbeing as a key part of wider wellbeing and self-care. Click this link to receive your free 14-day trial.  If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you like what you're hearing, don't forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations.  And don't forget to check out my online workshop, The Five Sex Languages: Secrets to Long-Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample.

Are you a parent who is dreading the birds and bees talk with your child? Could you use some insight about how kids think about sex in 2022? Want to learn more about why we need to be alarmed by the fact that teens are having less sex than ever before? Then you need to listen to today’s episode. I’m joined by Dr. Logan Levkoff, an internationally recognized expert on sexuality, parenting, and relationships. In addition to covering these important topics, we also answer subscriber questions (42:00) and share stories about how we taught our own children about sex, including the hilarious things they repeated at school (51:22). If you have a story about the first conversation you and your parents had about sex, you can submit it at loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option for us to disguise your voice with our fancy editing software, so no worries there if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. Visit loveandlibido.com to see what our focus is this month. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. Special thanks to EMJOY @letsemjoy for sponsoring this episode. EMJOY’s purpose is to normalize female sexual wellbeing as a key part of wider wellbeing and self-care. Click this link to receive your free 14-day trial. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you like what you’re hearing, don’t forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. And don’t forget to check out my online workshop, The Five Sex Languages: Secrets to Long-Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample.

It’s Q&A day! Today I answer questions about how to revive the romantic and sexual connection amidst a life with toddlers (1:55), what to do if you’ve fallen into the “roommate stage” with your partner (20:37), and how to get your partner to give and receive more oral sex (13:47).  If you have a question that you would like to have answered on the show, you can submit it at loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your question like these folks did or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option for us to disguise your voice with our fancy editing software, so no worries there if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. You’ll have the opportunity to share your story as it relates to the topic of one of our episodes. Visit loveandlibido.com to see what our focus is this month. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. Special thanks to EMJOY @letsemjoy for sponsoring this episode. Emjoy's purpose is to normalize female sexual wellbeing as a key part of wider wellbeing and self-care. Click this link to receive your free 14-day trial. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you like what you're hearing, don't forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. And don't forget to check out my online workshop, The Five Sex Languages: Secrets to Long-Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample.

Are you or your partner one of the many people who find it hard to focus during sex? Have you ever wondered whether you might have ADHD? Do you have ADHD and struggle to maintain healthy relationships and satisfying sexual experiences? Then you need to listen to today’s episode. My guest, Dr. Stephanie Buehler, and I take a deep dive into the effect of ADHD on sex and love. ADHD can have a lot of symptoms and can present differently in different people. Whether you have a formal diagnosis or not, you will learn tips that will help improve your relationship, keep you focused, experience pleasure, and deepen intimacy. Let’s get started. To learn more about Dr. Buehler, you can visit her website learnsextherapy.com. You can also find her on Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedIn. By the way, if you have a story about how ADHD has affected the way you experience pleasure, I want to hear about it! As much as we learn from other experts, nothing makes us feel more connected than hearing from our peers. Visit loveandlibido.com to share your story. I’ll compile them and air them on an upcoming episode. Also, if you have a general sex or relationship question, you can submit that too, by visiting loveandlibido.com. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you like what you’re hearing, don’t forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. If you’re ever interested in learning more, you can find me on Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, Twitter, or YouTube. And don’t forget to check out my online workshop, The Five Sex Languages: Secrets to Long-Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample.

It’s Q&A Day! Today, I answer questions about what to do if you’re attracted to your spouse’s sibling, how to introduce polyamory into a traditionally monogamous relationship, and how to cope with a small penis and rapid ejaculation. If you have a question that you would like to have answered on the show, you can submit it at loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your question like these folks did or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option for us to disguise your voice with our fancy editing software, so no worries there if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. You’ll have the opportunity to share your story as it relates to the topic of one of our episodes. Visit loveandlibido.com to see what our focus is this month. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you like what you’re hearing, don’t forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. And don’t forget to check out my online workshop, The Five Sex Languages: Secrets to Long-Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample.