Stuck Not Broken

7 ways that you are not listening: You say you understand. You say you have an answer before you've heard the problem. You cut someone off before they finish speaking. You finish someone's sentences. You're dying to tell me something while I am talking. You share your experiences instead. You refuse my thanks. Your homework assignments -  Notice when you are not listening. Accept gratitude. Connect with Harry Poliak, Life Coach - http://www.connectedconsciously.com/ Parents by Choice presentation is available to watch here - https://www.justinlmft.com/parentsbychoice Even more Polyvagal Podcast content in the Members Section for $5 a month - https://www.justinlmft.com/members Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Watch the “Safe & Social” music video - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ql2TGMRDh7k&feature=youtu.be   Miles Irving Website - https://www.milesirving.com/   Forager - https://www.forager.org.uk/wild-food-blog/19-ideas-philosophy/140-worldwild-podcast   More Polyvagal Podcast content in the Members' Area - https://www.justinlmft.com/members   Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

All about consequences in this episode: Why they are important When they mean nothing Positive consequences vs gift/reward/bribe Natural consequences Your homework assignment - Plan out your consequence structure and discuss with everyone that needs to be a part of it. More detailed show notes on justinlmft.com/post/episode28 SUPPORT the Polyvagal Podcast and get access to exclusive BONUS EPISODES - http://www.justinlmft.com/members CONTACT either of us - http://www.justinlmft.com/contact Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeat --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

Deb Dana - one third of my Polyvagal Trinity.  Deb Dana is called "the Pied Piper of the Polyvagal Theory," and honestly someone I want to be like when I grow up.  She does the stuff I do, but better and first.  I gotta be honest.  We talk in depth about: "Story follows State" Climbing the Polyvagal Ladder Diagnosing DEB DANA - http://www.debdanalcsw.com/ (these next two links will take you to Amazon, where I get a portion of the sale as an Amazon Affiliate.) The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy - https://amzn.to/3409v8z Clinical Applications of the Polyvagal Theory - https://amzn.to/322IZK3 Intro/Outro music by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

You're not you're diagnosis.  It's a label - a shorthand system for professionals to use - to collect "symptoms" that typically occur together.  It makes communication among therapists, psychologists and psychiatrists easier.  And that's the point of diagnoses.  And insurance building. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

We go in depth into each of these four ways to express love.  It's not enough to just love your kiddos, you also need to express it.  And express it in ways they will be able to get. 1. Say it out loud 2. Write it down 3. Physical affection 4. Play DETAILED SHOW NOTES - http://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode27 JOIN THE TRAUMA NERDS Forum - http://www.justinlmft.com/forum CONTACT either of us at http://www.justinlmft.com/contact Music & Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

We answer two questions from our amazing Listeners.  We originally answered these on our weekly Instagram Live segment, which you can be a part of every Sunday at 915pm PST. Consider supporting the podcast - $5/mo will give you access to the Bonus section and the exclusive episodes inside.  This section is updated every 1-2 weeks! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

Lots of co-regulation ground covered in this episode: Kids neurocepting danger cues your state vs your empathy your empathy vs your compassion face to face interaction self-regulation (for you, parent) DETAILED SHOW NOTES - http://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode26 JOIN THE TRAUMA NERDS Forum - http://www.justinlmft.com/forum SUPPORT the podcast at - http://www.justinlmft.com/support Music & Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

We answer two more questions from our Dear Listeners about parenting -  1. "How can parents avoid creating a trauma with their kids?" 2."How do you approach a parent who is stuck?" Support the podcast here - justinlmft.com/support --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

Self-regulation is built upon co-regulation.  Kids aren't born able to self-regulate, but they are born ready to receive a parent's co-regulation. DETAILED SHOW NOTES - http://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode25 JOIN THE TRAUMA NERDS Forum - http://www.justinlmft.com/forum CONTACT either of us at http://www.justinlmft.com/contact Music & Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message