

The Emotionally Focused Therapy Podcast
The Art, Heart, and Science of EFT
The Emotionally Focused Therapy Podcast explores the art, heart, and science of EFT. Hosted by EFT Trainer Michael Barnett and EFT Supervisor Michael Preston, each episode offers deep insights, real conversations, and practical wisdom for therapists learning and leaning into EFT.
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Nov 4, 2025 • 44min
S1 Ep10: Breaking Down The Tango. Move 1-2 Stage 1
In this episode of the Emotionally Focused Therapy podcast, hosts Michael Preston and Michael Barnett discuss the intricacies of the EFT Tango, focusing on moves one and two. They explore the goals and processes involved in these stages, emphasising the importance of understanding the dynamics between partners and the emotional narratives that drive their interactions. The conversation highlights the significance of creating a safe space for clients to explore their emotions and the role of repetition in therapy.To learn more about working with or training with Michael Barnett visit his websitewww.michaelbarnettlpc.comTo learn more about working with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit Michael's website.www.michaelprestonlpc.comFor more info on Michael's Tango Course visitwww.michaelprestonlpc.com/tangoAttribution: Intro MusicPalms Down by Blue Dothttps://app.sessions.blue/browse/trac...

Oct 21, 2025 • 47min
S1 Ep9: Stage 2 Tango Overview
Explore the intricacies of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) as the hosts delve into the crucial differences between stages one and two. Discover how de-escalation sets the stage for deeper emotional connections and the importance of the 'reach' in fostering attachment. Learn techniques like evocative past invitations and the significance of empathic responses in creating lasting change. Tune in for insights on sustaining emotional activation to foster therapeutic breakthroughs and empower clients to navigate their relationships with newfound security.

Oct 7, 2025 • 49min
S1 Ep8: Stage 1 Tango Overview
Explore the transformative EFT Tango in relationship therapy. Discover how to unveil core emotional processes that drive conflict. Learn to view attachment as the root of distress, not just communication issues. Delve into the steps therapists take to help couples express vulnerability and shift their interaction patterns. Uncover the importance of repetition in fostering emotional resilience and enhancing connection. This insightful discussion dives deep into the strategies that facilitate lasting change in relationships.

Sep 23, 2025 • 39min
S1 Ep7: How Does it Fit Together? Organizing the Stages, Steps, and The Tango.
In this episode of the Emotionally Focused Therapy Podcast, hosts Michael Preston and Michael Barnett explore the intricate process of EFT, focusing on the stages and steps involved in therapy. They discuss the importance of understanding the EFT process model, the role of the Tango, and how therapists can guide clients through emotional experiences to foster secure attachments.LINKS:To join EFTLCA for their Externship in November check out EFTCLA's website or visit Dr. Silvina Irwin's websiteeftcla.orgdrsilvinairwin.comTo learn more about working with or training with Michael Barnett visit his website michaelbarnettlpc.comTo learn more about working with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit Michael's website.michaelprestonlpc.comSteps as Guideposts for therapeutic progress document:https://docs.google.com/document/d/1UyE3zvesgZumexJzzmPdd1L4Ik_2YTds/edit?usp=drive_link&ouid=113919720137459051708&rtpof=true&sd=true

Sep 9, 2025 • 27min
S1 Ep6: Stage 3 Overview: Consolidating Change
Explore the transformative power of vulnerability and attachment in therapy. Hosts discuss how authentic connections can lead to personal growth and healing in relationships. They share insights on emotional fluency and the interplay between individuals and their partners. Learn about the consolidation phase, where couples often need minimal sessions to address lingering issues. The conversation highlights the importance of summarizing key moments in therapy and the desired outcomes, such as increased security and playfulness.

Aug 26, 2025 • 45min
S1 Ep5: "Stage Two Overview: Restructuring the Bond"
For More Information on joining Michael Barnett, Dr. Irwin, and Michael Preston at the EFTCLA Externship in November visit www.drsilvinairwin.com or www.eftcla.orgJoin hosts Michael Preston and Michael Barnett as they delve into the intricacies of Stage Two in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). This episode explores the profound impact of addressing attachment fears and needs, and how therapists can guide couples through deep emotional healing. Discover the importance of the therapist-client relationship and the transformative power of vulnerability in therapy.Key Topics:Understanding Stage Two in EFT The role of attachment fears and needs Therapist-client dynamics in emotional healing The significance of vulnerability and trustHighlights:Michael Barnett shares insights on the challenges therapists face in guiding clients through deep emotional work. Michael Preston discusses the importance of creating a safe space for clients to explore their attachment fears. The hosts emphasize the transformative potential of EFT in fostering long-lasting relationship changes.To work with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit www.michaelprestonlpc.comTo learn more about working or training with Michael Barnett visit www.michaelbarnettlpc.com

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Aug 12, 2025 • 28min
S1 Ep4: "Markers Of De-Escalation"
De-escalation is crucial for thriving relationships, with markers indicating when couples are ready to move forward in therapy. The hosts stress the importance of vulnerability and emotional availability, highlighting how these elements enhance connections. They warn against rushing through the therapeutic stages and underscore the need for stability before progressing. Real-life examples illustrate the dynamics at play, emphasizing that both partners must engage in the process for effective outcomes.

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Jul 29, 2025 • 42min
S1 Ep3: Stage One Overview: Navigating Conflict in Emotionally Focused Therapy
The hosts share humorous skiing tales before diving into the intricacies of Emotionally Focused Therapy. They dissect the conflict dynamics that disrupt couple connections and introduce the critical concept of de-escalation. Emotional triggers based on attachment styles are explored to enhance communication. The importance of creating a safe therapeutic environment for partners to express their feelings is emphasized. Ultimately, listeners gain insights into breaking negative cycles to strengthen emotional bonds and improve relationship dynamics.

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Jul 15, 2025 • 43min
S1 ep 2: Exploring Attachment in Emotionally Focused Therapy
The hosts dive into how attachment theory shapes our emotional connections and relationships. They discuss the profound impact of early experiences on emotional wiring and the importance of empathetic support in healing. The conversation highlights the role of emotional distress as a pathway to recovery, emphasizing effective communication and trust in therapy. Through exploring attachment dynamics, they illustrate how navigating past traumas can enhance relationships and parenting. Listeners gain insights into the transformative power of emotional bonds in the therapeutic process.

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Jul 1, 2025 • 47min
S1: Ep1: The Arc of EFT Therapy
The hosts dive into the transformative world of Emotionally Focused Therapy, highlighting its structured approach to couples therapy. They emphasize the significance of emotional connections and attachment theory in building therapeutic rapport. The discussion reveals the journey therapists take in de-escalating conflict and deepening relationships through emotional fluency. Listeners gain insights into navigating complex dynamics while fostering a supportive community within the therapy landscape. Expect practical tools and a refreshing perspective on emotional healing.


