The Emotionally Focused Therapy Podcast

Andrea Medaris on pacing EFT with trauma, disorganized attachment, and keeping couples in the window of toleranceMichael Preston talks with Andrea Medaris of EFT Maine about working with couples where trauma is in the room, how to pace EFT without becoming too cautious, and how to stay present when both partners are getting activated at once. Andrea also shares how she supports newer EFT learners through residency cohorts and why supervision matters so much in trauma work.In this episode, they focus on how developmental trauma shapes attachment, how to recognize flooding and disorganized attachment in session, and how to keep making room for both partners without losing the cycle. Andrea also discusses the role of transparency, validation, and constant check-ins when working near the edge of a client’s tolerance.To work with Adrea visit:https://www.centerforrelationships.org/about-the-directorTo learn more about working with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit Michael's website.www.michaelprestonlpc.comTo join the Waitlist for the Michael's Tango Deliberate Practice Group visitwww.michaelprestonlpc.com/tangowaitlistTo register For Michael Barnett's Upcoming addiction Training Visithttps://awakeningscenter.org/product/eft-and-addiction/To register for the Upcoming EFTCLA Externship in November visit:https://www.drsilvinairwin.com/offerings/p/externship-2026Attribution:Intro MusicPalms Down by Blue Dot Palms Down by ⁠Blue Dot Session dfrv4qmi

Deliberate Practice in EFT: Why Scripts, Repetition, and Micro-Skills Matter. Michael Preston is joined by Kamila Kaminska for a focused conversation on how therapists actually build EFT skill. They unpack what deliberate practice is, what it is not, and why small, repeated interventions can change both clinical competence and the therapist’s way of seeing clients. The conversation explores how therapists can move from broad conceptual understanding to embodied skill, why specific scripts matter, and how deliberate practice can address both clinical technique and personal blocks.Key TopicsWhat deliberate practice really means: Kamila defines it as focused, intentional rehearsal of one small therapeutic skill at a time.What deliberate practice is not: The conversation distinguishes deliberate practice from simply discussing a case or participating in a broad role play.Why therapists plateau: Experience alone does not guarantee continued growth. Without intentional skill development, therapists may become more comfortable without becoming more effective.The value of focusing on one skill: Michael shares how narrowing his focus to a single part of the EFT Tango helped him build confidence and competence without becoming overwhelmed.How deliberate practice progresses: The process may be sequential for some therapists and more exploratory for others, depending on their specific learning edge.Why scripts matter: Repeating exact therapeutic language helps interventions become part of procedural memory, making them easier to access in emotionally intense moments.Using supervision effectively: The speakers discuss how a broad suggestion such as “validate more” becomes more useful when translated into specific words a therapist can practice.Working with personal blocks: Deliberate practice can address moments when therapists freeze, lose their thread, become judgmental, or feel dysregulated in session.Finding your own therapeutic voice: Kamila explains why learning and repeating scripts does not erase a therapist’s individuality. Structure can provide the foundation from which personal style develops.Learning from teachers: Michael describes studying phrases and interventions from experienced EFT clinicians, then adapting them into his own work.Making practice manageable: Deliberate practice does not require hours every day. Even a few focused minutes can help keep skills fresh and support steady growth.To learn more about working with or training with Michael Barnett or Dr. Silvina Irwin visit their websiteswww.michaelbarnettlpc.comwww.drsilvinairwin.comwww.eftcla.orgTo learn more about working with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit Michael's website.www.michaelprestonlpc.comTo join the Waitlist for the Michael's Tango Deliberate Practice Group visitwww.michaelprestonlpc.com/tangowaitlist

EFT externships, LGBTQ+ therapy, and dementia: What therapists need to know!Michael Preston talks with Sandra Taylor of the British Emotionally Focused Therapy Center about what makes EFT externships powerful in person, how to prepare for a four-day training, and what therapists often miss when working with LGBTQ+ couples. Sandra also shares deeply personal, clinically rich reflections on working with couples facing dementia, including grief, connection, and the idea of “rementing.”To Join Sandra, Sarah, and Michael along with the rest of the BEFT Centre Training team in Edinburgh visit: https://www.beftcentre.org/efct-in-person-edinburgh-oct-2026/To learn more about working with Michael Preston for supervision visit www.michaelprestonlpc.comDon't forget to follow The Emotionally Focused Therapy Podcast on Spotify and Apple Podcast.Attribution:Intro MusicPalms Down by Blue Dot Palms Down by ⁠Blue Dot Session dfrv4qmi

Michael Preston talks with Laurie Watson about why sex belongs in couples therapy from the very first session, how sexual and emotional cycles intersect, and how attachment shapes desire, vulnerability, and repair. Laurie shares a practical EFT lens for understanding sexual pursuer-withdrawer patterns, coercion, shame, affair recovery, and how therapists can normalize sexual conversation without taking over the couple’s work.To Preorder Laurie and George's new book Brave Love, Great Sex visit https://www.amazon.com/Brave-Love-Great-Sex-Relationships/dp/B0G7CTTFTKTo learn more about working with Michael Preston for supervision visit www.michaelprestonlpc.comDon't forget to follow The Emotionally Focused Therapy Podcast on Spotify and Apple Podcast.

EFT Intensives with Kelly BourqueMichael Preston talks with Kelly Bourque, resident EFT intensive specialist, about how to screen couples, structure EFT intensives, and decide whether this model is the right fit for a therapist or a couple. Kelly shares the practical systems she has refined over years of doing intensives full time, plus the pacing, safety, and follow-up work that make the model effective.In this episode, they focus on what actually changes in an intensive, what does not change, and why clarity matters more than trying to force a breakthrough. Kelly also explains how her training and e-course help therapists prepare with paperwork, consult structure, and realistic expectations.To learn more about attending Kelly's EFT intensives trainings visit www.RedTherapyGroup.comAs always to work with EFT Trainers Michael Barnett or Dr. Silvina Irwin visit their websites:www.MichaelBarnettlpc.comwww.DrSilvinaIrwin.comTo work with EFT Supervisor Michael Preston visit his website:www.MichaelPrestonLPC.comAttribution:Intro MusicPalms Down by Blue Dot Palms Down by ⁠Blue Dot Session dfrv4qmi

In this episode of the Emotionally Focused Therapy Podcast, Michael Preston and Katarina Sandizell explore the nuances of integrating psychoeducation within EFT sessions while maintaining emotional engagement. They discuss strategies for therapists to stay authentic, avoid over-explaining, and foster client vulnerability—all while navigating their own personal and attachment patterns.LINKSTo Learn more about Joining the EFT Deliberate Practice Group that will start in September, Go to:www.michaelprestonlpc.com/tangoTo learn about working with Katarina visitwww.lovefrontiertherapy.comAs always to work with EFT Trainers Michael Barnett or Dr. Silvina Irwin visit their websites:www.MichaelBarnettlpc.comwww.DrSilvinaIrwin.comTo work with EFT Supervisor Michael Preston visit his website:www.MichaelPrestonLPC.comAttribution:Intro MusicPalms Down by Blue Dot Palms Down by ⁠Blue Dot Session dfrv4qmi

Navigating EFT with the LGBTQIA+ Community: Insights from Matthew HarrisIn this episode, Michael Preston is joined by Matthew Harris, an EFT supervisor with a rich background in working with LGBTQIA+ clients. They explore how EFT can be adapted to better serve sexual and gender minority populations, emphasizing authenticity, curiosity, and cultural humility. Whether you're new to this community or seeking to deepen your practice, this conversation offers practical insights and inspiring reflections.LINKSTo Learn more about Joining the EFT Deliberate Practice Group that will start in September, Go to:www.michaelprestonlpc.com/tangoTo learn about working with Matthew Harris visitwww.matthewharrismft.comAs always to work with EFT Trainers Michael Barnett or Dr. Silvina Irwin visit their websites:www.MichaelBarnettlpc.comwww.DrSilvinaIrwin.comTo work with EFT Supervisor Michael Preston visit his website:www.MichaelPrestonLPC.comAttribution:Intro MusicPalms Down by Blue Dot Palms Down by ⁠Blue Dot Session dfrv4qmi

Breaking Down Barriers: Integrating Sexuality & EFT — An Expert Conversation.In this discussion, Lisa Blum shares her insights on how EFT therapists can confidently incorporate discussions of sex and intimacy into their practice. We explore practical strategies for normalizing conversations around sexuality, addressing desire discrepancies, and enhancing relational safety in therapy.LINKSTo Learn more about Joining the EFT Deliberate Practice Group that will start in JULY, Go to:www.michaelprestonlpc.com/tangoTo learn about Lisa and Sil's Hold Me Tight Weekend or working with Dr. Blum as a Supervisor visitwww.drlisablum.comhttps://www.eftresourcecenter.com/As always to work with EFT Trainers Michael Barnett or Dr. Silvina Irwin visit their websites:www.MichaelBarnettlpc.comwww.DrSilvinaIrwin.comTo work with EFT Supervisor Michael Preston visit his website:www.MichaelPrestonLPC.comAttribution:Intro MusicPalms Down by Blue Dot Palms Down by ⁠Blue Dot Session dfrv4qmi

Navigating Family Dynamics and Therapist Self-Care in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)In this insightful episode, Michael Preston and EFT trainer Sarah McConnell explore the nuances of working with family systems, shifting from couple to family therapy, and maintaining therapist resilience. This conversation offers practical frameworks and reflections for therapists seeking to deepen their understanding and effectiveness in EFT.Main Topics:Transitioning from couples to family therapy: hierarchy vs. equalityStages of EFFT and their focus on caregiver availability and child blocksValidating behaviors in family sessions: tracking and understanding responsesManaging self-awareness and self-care as a therapist in complex sessionsSimplifying EFT process for ongoing growth and managing messy sessionsRecognizing and working with pursuer and withdrawer cyclesBuilding secure attachment through responsive caregivingResources and upcoming trainings in EFT and EFFT modelsSarah shares her perspective on shifting from couple to family models and the importance of understanding stages in EFFTDiscussion on how attachment principles underpin family work, emphasizing caregiver availabilityTechniques for validating different behaviors and keeping the focus on process during family sessionsPractical advice for therapists to stay grounded and self-compassionate when sessions become complicatedThe significance of ongoing practice, reflection, and community engagement in mastering EFT skillsTo Learn more about Joining the EFT Deliberate Practice Group that will start in JULY, Go to:www.michaelprestonlpc.com/tangoTo learn about working with Sarah McConnell visit:https://www.beftcentre.org/As always to work with EFT Trainers Michael Barnett or Dr. Silvina Irwin visit their websites:www.MichaelBarnettlpc.comwww.DrSilvinaIrwin.comTo work with EFT Supervisor Michael Preston visit his website:www.MichaelPrestonLPC.comAttribution:Intro MusicPalms Down by Blue Dot Palms Down by ⁠Blue Dot Session dfrv4qmi

Join Michael Preston and Rachel Chiu as they explore the impact of patriarchy and misogyny on emotional health, gender roles, and relationships. This conversation offers deep insights into how systemic oppression shapes personal experiences and therapeutic practices.keywords patriarchy, misogyny, gender roles, emotional health, systemic oppression, EFT, therapy, cultural narratives, gender equalitykey topicsImpact of patriarchy and misogyny on emotional healthHow systemic oppression influences gender roles and relationshipsStrategies for therapists to address cultural narratives in sessionTo Reach out for Supervision with Rachel Chiu visit her website:https://www.restoretherapysc.com/eft-supervisionTo Learn more about EFT Triage 2026 in Los Vegas visit: https://efttriage.com/As always to work with EFT Trainers Michael Barnett or Dr. Silvina Irwin visit their websites:www.MichaelBarnettlpc.comwww.DrSilvinaIrwin.comTo work with EFT Supervisor Michael Preston visit his website:www.MichaelPrestonLPC.comTo join Michael's Tango Class waitlist visit:WWW.MichaelPrestonLPC.com/tangowaitlistAttribution:Intro MusicPalms Down by Blue Dot Palms Down by ⁠Blue Dot Session dfrv4qmi