The Emotionally Focused Therapy Podcast S1 Ep9: Stage 2 Tango Overview
Oct 21, 2025
Explore the intricacies of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) as the hosts delve into the crucial differences between stages one and two. Discover how de-escalation sets the stage for deeper emotional connections and the importance of the 'reach' in fostering attachment. Learn techniques like evocative past invitations and the significance of empathic responses in creating lasting change. Tune in for insights on sustaining emotional activation to foster therapeutic breakthroughs and empower clients to navigate their relationships with newfound security.
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De-Escalation Defines The Stage
- De-escalation determines whether you work in Stage One or Two.
- If the cycle still has them, continue Stage One; only shift when the couple is stable and exits the cycle on their own.
Stage Two Targets Intrapersonal Healing
- Stage Two's goal differs from Stage One: it aims for deep intrapsychic change, not just stopping conflict.
- The tango process stays, but the emotional targets and meanings within moves shift to promote healing.
It's All About The Reach
- The essence of Stage Two work is the "reach" toward attachment needs.
- Move Two is the crucible for eliciting working models and attachment fears from the limbic system.