Dear Dr. Tracy

We all have triggers.Our partners all have triggers.And they are not always the same things.Building a relationship that brings an understanding of each other’s triggers, strengths and differences is complicated.When we bring compassion, understanding, kindness and accountability into our relationships, our love and connection blossoms.In this episode, Michaela Thomas, clinical psychologist, couples therapist and founder of the private psychology practice The Thomas Connection, and I discuss build compassion for healthy and strong relationships:7:23 - The Fire Triangle of Relationships22:59 - The 3 Parts of Compassion29:12 - Motherhood & Compassion33:13 - Defining Compassion & Mindfulness46:07 - What you can do in your relationship to start using compassionLinks From This Episode:Michaela Thomas on IGPause*Purpose*Play Group on FacebookThe Thomas ConnectionThe Lasting Connection Book Now Available Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In June of this year, I was asked to speak at a conference on imposter syndrome for women in business. Being one of my goals for the year, I was super excited and quickly said yes.Then, a feeling crept in.This feeling of “who are you to speak in front of all those women?” and “do you really have anything to share that they already don’t know?”Have you been there before? When you start feeling like an imposter and that you are not qualified or worthy of that opportunity?That’s what Amanda Tobe, an Industrial Organizational Psychologist from Toronto, Canada, and I are diving into on the podcast today: Imposter Syndrome. Whether this is a new term for you, or an old familiar face, Amanda shares how to move beyond imposter syndrome that may be holding you back: 7:10 - Amanda’s personal experience with Imposter Syndrome 8:58 - What is Imposter Syndrome? 12:21 - How your core beliefs support Imposter Syndrome 21:14 - Imposter Syndrome and Self Sabotaging 22:19 - The 3R’s to help you overcome Imposter Syndrome 37:07 - Growth Mindsets and the Key Factors 41:32 - How you can use fear in a positive way Links from this episode:Free E-Book: Leading Through Crisis and Transition: A COVID19 toolkit to help you lead with strength, intention, and graceBook: Own your Greatness: Overcome Impostor Syndrome, Beat Self-Doubt and Succeed in Life (by authors Lisa Orbé-Austin and Richard Orbé-AustinBook: Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We know that women and mothers carry a higher mental load than their partners. It isn’t just completing the household and childcare tasks, it is also the mental and emotional work that it takes to remember to do these tasks.The mental load became even more evident to me after my second child was born. It wasn’t just going to the doctor appointments for check ups, it was remembering to schedule them. It wasn’t just showing up for the birthday parties, it was buying the gifts and remembering to RSVP.In this episode, Dr. Morgan Cutlip, relationship coach and owner of My Love Thinks, and I discuss the mental load: 5:05 - Our own stories of addressing the mental load in our relationships 8:19 - Taking the invisible and making it visible 16:28 - How women tend to self-sabotage addressing the mental load 29:28 - Dealing with the guilt that shows up when we start to change 39:09 - How to address this with our partners  To find out more about Dr. Cutlip, you can visit her blog here, check out her course for couples on coping with the mental load, and be sure to follow her on Instagram. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When I returned to work after my second maternity leave, I was doing it all.Eight clients back to back.An hour commute home.Nursing my daughter.Building a website. Creating a podcast.The list goes on. I was feeling exhausted. I was often dizzy and short of breath (despite looking after regular meals, water intake, and sleep). And then my body started screaming at me, telling me that I needed to stop. This. Was. Burnout. If you have experienced burnout, or think you might be experiencing it, you are not alone. In this episode, I speak with Mallory Rowan, coach and speaker, and a recovered woman from burnout, about moving towards living your life and business in alignment with what matters most to you:  9:26 - Mallory’s experience with burnout 13:01 - Signs and symptoms of burnout 18:39 - How to start recovering from burnout 26:49 - The mindsets that put us at risk for burnout 30:41 - Mallory’s non-negotiables for managing self-care 44:26 - Strategies to help live a meaningful life For Mallory’s free guide to help you master your Instagram bio, click here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Overwhelmed.Can you relate to this feeling? Overwhelmed with the number of things you need to get done. From cleaning the house, homeschooling your kids, organizing meals, working, maintaining friendships, and connecting with your partner - the list goes on.But what would happen if you took a pause? Took a deliberate moment to rest through the day.In this episode, I connect with Allison Keating, founder of bWell Clinic in Ireland, about how we can move out of the mindset of being a perfect woman and giving ourselves the space to not always please, perform or be perfect.  Here are a few of the highlights:  5:32 - What does the ‘striving mode’ look like? 9:53 - The Pause  12:03 - Reflecting to determine where we learned our norms from 19:43 - What’s the impact on our relationships with our partners and children? 21:43 - Strategies to help you let go of the overwhelm 37:53 - Ways to start to nourish and replenish yourself Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Friendships are hard, particularly as adults. Many of us believe that the quality of our life is based on the number of people we can count on as friends. The more friends we have, the better off we are.So when we go through a friendship breakup, it's hard to understand that it’s not necessarily about the type of person we are, or the kind of life we live, but rather a part of any relationship and personal growth.To dive deeper into the world of friendships, I had the honour to speak with my good friend, Dr. Miriam Kirmayer. We spoke about:  How we relate friendships to success How can friendships change? What are changes appearing in our friendships through COVID How can we support our friendships through change How to give you friend feedback How to decide when you need to let go of a friendship Ways you can choose to end a friendship How do you mourn the loss of a friend and why do they hurt so badly? Want to learn more with us?Dr. Miriam Kirmayer and I have a special bonus. We were asked what it’s like to build friendships as therapists. So, we had a candid and unscripted conversation around what it’s like to make friends as a professional. If you are a professional, a therapist, or curious about friendships, head over to drtracyd.com/friends to download this bonus episode. To learn more about Dr. Miriam Kirmayer, visit her website or follow her on Instagram. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There is so much happening in the world today. The events taking place are outside of our control, from COVID19 to the Black Lives Matter Movement.So that is why today’s podcast brings my favourite colleagues from across North America to share their top way of coping with the challenges so many of us are facing in the world today.Here is the list of experts sharing on this episode: Dr. Rachel Goldman, Clinical Psychologist in New York City, New York, on the importance of daily check-ins. www.DrRachelNYC.comDr. Morgan Francis, Clinical Psychologist in Scottsdale, Arizona, on how to cope through the pressure of a whole body transformation after this pandemic. www.scottsdalepremiercounseling.comDr. Ann Louise Lockhart, Pediatric Psychologist, parent coach and business owner in San Antonio, Texas on the importance of connection over correction. www.anewdaysa.comDr. Betsy Chang, Clinical Psychologist in Newport Beach, California, shares about the power of teamwork in your relationship. www.DrBetsyChung.comHatty J Lee, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Los Angeles California, dives into our own trauma responses and what happens when they are triggered. www.oakandstonetherapy.comDr. Shawn Horn, Clinical Psychologist, TEDx Speaker and host of the Inspired Living Podcast, shares what toxic shame is and how to work through it. www.drshawnhorn.comDr. Morgan Anderson, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Coach shares one mindset that you, as single women, could find helpful right now. https://www.drmorgancoaching.com/Dr. Morgan Cutlip, Relationship Expert, Coach and Course Creator on how to shift the guilt of motherhood during this time. http://www.lovethinks.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are in a time of crisis. Moving into the summer, what is one question that you should be asking yourself.Picture your life as a garden. Everything you can pour your energy into, everything that is important to you is a different plant.You have a plant for each relationship (your children, your partner, your extended family), for career, friendships, self-care, etc. Close your eyes for a moment and imagine your garden.When you can see your garden, now picture a watering can filled with water.That watering can - that’s you.You get to choose, each day, where you pour your water into. You only have 1 watering can; what will you choose today?Launching Season 2 of I’m Not Your Shrink Podcast, I share the number one question we all need to be asking ourselves, which I have personally learned in the past year.Looking for more with me?Check out my weekly Q&A. Each Friday I answer your questions: https://drtracyd.com/blogJoin my 5-day challenge to help cope with crisis in your relationship: https://sendfox.com/lp/1x7ey3Come join me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.tracyd/Check out my new membership space for women who are looking to strengthen their relationship: https://beconnected.drtracyd.comLooking to master stress and find balance? Check out my e-course to help you Cultivate Self-Compassion and Awareness: https://cultivating-awareness.teachable.com/p/from-stressed-to-balanced Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's episode 12 and the season finale! In this episode I'm talking about my THREE R's for maximizing your wellness over the summer months. Be sure to get out a piece of paper because I challenge you to set an intention for this season, and I want you to write down one idea under each R! We know that when we write out our goals and intentions we are more likely to achieve them! I look forward to touching base with all of you in Season Two! Want to get the latest updates and keep in touch? Sign up for my email list here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Anxiety. So many of us experience this normal emotion. And yet, anxiety is a common presentation in the therapy office, often times clients saying they want to get rid of it. It has taken over their lives and impacted their ability to cope each day. They have stopped going out to the grocery store. They have stopped seeing friends. They can't complete what they want to do each day because they are stuck in a worries and fears.Can you get rid of anxiety?Dr. Julie Groveman, clinical psychologist in NYC who focuses on helping clients break toxic patterns, conquer fear and empower them to be the most confident version of themselves, talks about whether we can get rid of this emotion, and what we can do to manage anxiety.In this episode, we discuss: Dr. Julie’s early experience with anxiety and what this message taught her The importance of labelling and noticing this emotion Traits about you that contribute to the experience of anxiety How our inner critic and self-doubt leads to anxiety Common things people do to cope with anxiety that are NOT helpful Dr. Julie’s top three tips for coping with anxiety Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices