Sex for Saints

I have a lot of men come to me wanting to be coached. And while I feel for them, I have dedicated my life to helping women with their sexuality. But in this episode, I want to talk to you men out there. I know that you want to change things in your marriage, and not just because you want more sex, but because you want a truly intimate marriage. Let’s look at what you can do to help and what you shouldn’t do.

So often the men in our lives focus on what turns us women on. (Maybe we women do that a bit too!) But maybe they are consciously, or unconsciously, doing something that absolutely turns us off. In the past weeks, we’ve talked about sexual context and what turns women on. Now let’s take a look at what turns us off and how that knowledge can end up helping our sex lives.

In doing research for this episode, I found a lot of information that is just plain wrong! No wonder men are confused about what  women want! So let’s talk about what actually turns women on. What takes off your sexual brakes. And I’ll tell you, it’s not all about candlelight and sweet nothings. You may see things in a different light after you listen.

Explore the vital role context plays in our sexual experiences. Discover how our thoughts during everyday moments can enhance or hinder emotional connections. Learn to create a supportive environment that fosters desire and intimacy. Uncover the balance between low stress and high affection for a fulfilling sex life. This conversation challenges you to rethink how your mindset impacts your romantic relationships.

Have you ever heard the phrase that a woman is like a race car? It isn’t that far from the truth. Our bodies were created with systems. And those systems are constantly scanning the environment for things that will press on our sexual accelerators or stomp on the brakes. The key is to figure out how to use that system to increase your sexual desire and have a little fun in the process. Let’s work on releasing those brakes, pushing on those accelerators and seeing what happens!

Garments aren’t sexy. It’s just the truth of the matter! But we are taught that they are an outward symbol of an inward commitment so maybe it’s time that we look at them differently. Symbols are arbitrary - they only hold the meaning that we assign them. So in this episode, we talk about some ways that we can change how we look at our garments, what we can do to change the way we think of them, and how we can increase our intimacy with our spouse.

Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you’ve heard about the 5 Love Languages and how you need to figure out what your spouse’s love language is and give them love in that way. Now, there is some truth to this, but I also think that it often becomes a way to keep score to see who is the better partner. That’s not good for you or your marriage. In this episode, we talk about what is good for you and your marriage! You may be surprised by the answer.

Ever wonder why orgasms take so long? The discussion dives into female orgasm complexities and encourages women to prioritize their pleasure. Delayed orgasms are explored, highlighting the need for self-advocacy and open communication with partners. Practical strategies are shared to enhance sexual experiences, including the benefits of self-exploration and tools like vibrators. It's all about reclaiming your pleasure and understanding that you are worth the time!

Did the title of this podcast surprise you? It surprises a lot of my clients too. But it actually makes a lot of sense that you don’t like sex. In this episode, we talk about the top reasons why you don’t like sex. Which one will resonate with you? Then we talk about why those reasons make it so you don’t like sex. Maybe in the end, you’ll find that what you’ve been thinking all along may not be the actual problem.

Are you afraid of pleasure? This discussion dives into the significance of embracing intimacy and the diverse forms of pleasure in life. It uncovers how societal fears and shame can hold us back from experiencing joy in our relationships. Listeners are encouraged to let go of inhibitions and focus on their own pleasure as a vital step towards emotional and spiritual well-being. Discover how pleasure is not just a luxury, but an essential part of who we are.