

Modern Masculinity
Hector Santiesteban
"Modern Masculinity" is a podcast that explores the real-life challenges that men face today. Whether it's balancing work and family, figuring out how to be a good husband or father, or just trying to make sense of the world - this show is for guys looking for practical, down-to-earth advice and guidance. The podcast discusses the struggles and triumphs of modern manhood and features interviews with men (and women) who can share their methods and mindsets to maneuver the world as a modern man.
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Sep 12, 2023 • 40min
The Modern Man’s Man with Lawrence Dunning
Lawrence Dunning dives deep into his personal journey, exploring the intricate balance between masculinity, fatherhood, and personal growth. From the discipline of martial arts to the challenges of partnerships, Lawrence shares candid insights on navigating life's highs and lows. Drawing from his experiences as a professional fighter and a dedicated parent, he offers a unique perspective on resilience, ambition, and the ever-evolving definition of success. Dive in for an intimate reflection on life, legacy, and the lessons that shape us.Chapters:00:00:00 - The Evolving Definition of Masculinity and Embracing Change00:03:18 - Fatherhood Insights: Valuing Time and Staying Present00:05:17 - Savoring Life's Moments: The Art of Daily Joy00:07:05 - Triumphs and Trials: A Personal Journey from Struggle to Success00:10:47 - Legacy and Lessons: Transferring Generational Wisdom00:14:22 - Martial Arts: Seeking Mentorship and Growth00:16:20 - The Dual Life: Balancing Martial Discipline with Parenting00:17:45 - Modern Fatherhood: Ensuring Safety in a Dynamic World00:21:44 - Walking the Tightrope: Parenting, Pushbacks, and Pursuits of Joy00:22:54 - Letting Go of Norms: Celebrating Individuality in our Children00:26:28 - Beyond Fighting: The Deeper Teachings of Martial Arts00:27:07 - The Martial Way: Cultivating Grit, Discipline, and Team Spirit00:33:05 - The Relationship Playbook: Valuing Partnership and Teamwork00:35:11 - Unfiltered Reality: The True Dynamics of RelationshipsLinks And Resources:Lawrence Dunning on LinkedIn Enter the Lionheart PodcastHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Sep 5, 2023 • 39min
Igniting your Inner King with Michael Diamond and Russell Reynolds
Michael Diamond and Russell Reynolds discuss personal growth, navigating challenges, heart-guided actions, societal trends, the impact of words and actions, the essence of manhood, and the strength in male unity. They emphasize the importance of authenticity, inner healing, and balancing strength and vulnerability. A must-listen for a deeper understanding of self and relationships.

Aug 29, 2023 • 29min
Embracing Brokenness: Erik Hatch's Path to Connection and Community
Join Hector as he delves into the inspiring and challenging world of modern masculinity with real estate expert turned advocate, Eric Hatch. Eric shares his mission to save children facing unimaginable hardships and explores the power of self-validation. From overcoming insecurities to finding purpose, Eric's journey offers valuable insights on personal growth and making a positive difference in the world. Tune in to discover how embracing brokenness can lead to authentic connection and community.Chapters:00:00:00 Tackling Self-Doubt: The Journey to Self-Validation00:03:09 Facing Inner Demons: The Quest for Wholeness Amidst Childhood Wounds00:06:37 Beyond Job Titles: Eric's Escape from Professional Stereotypes00:10:10 Emotional Scars: Navigating the Aftershocks of Rejection00:15:12 A Deep Dive: From Heartache to Self-Rediscovery00:19:20 Shaped by Feminine Influence: Valuing Affirmation and Self-Acknowledgment00:23:21 The Weight of Perpetual Competition: Escaping the Scoreboard of LifeLinks And Resources:Hatch Coaching Facebook LinkedIn Play for the Person Next to You: A Guide to Leadership The Perfect Real Estate Agent BlueprintHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Aug 22, 2023 • 41min
Pursuing Your Dreams while Keeping Your Responsibilities with Ben Gibson
Ben Gibson explores the intersection of physical pursuits and fatherhood. He shares his own experiences and struggles in balancing his ambition and responsibility as a dad. Ben emphasizes the importance of doing cool shit and integrating passions into family life. He highlights the need to communicate with partners, create comprehensive plans, and adapt to challenges. Ben Gibson ultimately aims to inspire and empower fathers to live fulfilling lives while being present for their families.Chapters:00:00:00 Unpacking Modern Masculinity and Fatherhood with Ben Gibson00:01:10 The Adventure Sports Dad: Walking the Line of Ambition & Parenting00:03:30 The Multi-Faceted Man: Fatherhood, Marriage, and Being a Provider00:04:55 Juggling Work, Passion Projects, and Family Time00:06:42 Chasing Physical Goals: Reframing Masculine Ambition00:09:18 Mountain Escapes: Finding Deeper Connections and Fulfillment00:10:35 Honoring Past Generations While Carving New Paths00:12:43 Today's Man: Striking a Balance between Duty and Passion00:14:49 Rekindling the Spirit: The Need for Adventurous Pursuits00:19:42 Entrepreneur Dad: Weighing Risks and Rewards00:21:36 Fatherhood & Adventure: Keeping the Spark Alive00:24:13 Real Talk: Evaluating Priorities and Taking Time for Self-Reflection00:27:13 The Pitfalls of Overlooking Important Conversations00:30:00 Parenthood Vs. Career: Striking the Right Balance00:32:04 Crafting the Narrative of the "Athlete Dad"00:35:05 Navigating Ambition and Finding True Fulfillment00:36:18 Celebrating the Transformative Role of Present FathersLinks And Resources:Ben's LinkedInThe Athlete Dad Ben's Instagram The Athlete Dad Instagram Hector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Aug 15, 2023 • 34min
Overcoming Addiction and Alchemizing Struggles with Jesse Harless
Jesse Harless, an expert in addiction and trauma, shares his personal journey and insights into the world of addiction recovery. He discusses the challenges faced by entrepreneurs and the importance of marketing one's business in the face of adversity. Jesse also sheds light on the male mental health crisis and its connection to addiction. He emphasizes the role of self-love and community in the recovery process and highlights the potential benefits of integrating plant medicine into addiction recovery. Jesse offers thought-provoking perspectives on addiction and provides valuable insights for listeners seeking guidance in their own recovery journeys.Chapters:00:00:00 Introduction: Jesse Harless's Expertise in Addiction & Trauma00:04:49 Challenges Men Face: Overcoming People Pleasing00:10:04 From Survival to Heartfelt Connection: Changing Mindsets00:11:42 Compassion's Crucial Role in Supporting the Struggling00:17:11 Reaching a Pivotal Moment: Recognizing the Need for Help00:19:03 The Crossroads: Long-term Recovery & Psychedelic Medicines00:20:55 Recovery’s Path: Laying the Groundwork for Deep Integration00:23:34 Welcoming Life's Twists in the Recovery Journey00:26:27 Diving Deeper: Questioning Personal Beliefs & Integration00:30:27 Navigating Powerful Experiences & Holistic Growth in RecoveryLinks And Resources:Jesse HarlessLinkedInEntrepreneurs in Recovery PodcastEntrepreneurs in Recovery Podcast YouTube Schedule a One-on-One with JesseIf Not You, Then Who? by Jesse Harless Smash Your Comfort Zone with Cold Showers by Jesse HarlessHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Aug 8, 2023 • 34min
A Not-So-Crazy Way to Save Your Health, Finances and Relationships with Dom the Hypnotist
Dom the Hypnotist explores the power of hypnotism and self-hypnosis for personal growth. He discusses the challenges of company growth and remote leadership, his brief stint at Google Maps, and overcoming failure and embracing change. Dom also shares the success and controversy surrounding sleep hypnosis for business owners and salespeople, as well as the power of affirmations and overcoming subconscious blocks. He emphasizes the importance of open-mindedness in finding a partner and provides an overview of a membership program with hypnotherapy services. Dom's unexpected journey into hypnosis is discussed, along with his accelerated goals of transitioning to full-time hypnotherapy in just three months. Chapters:00:00:00 Meet Dom: Unleashing the Power of Hypnotism for Personal Development00:01:22 Hypnotism Unveiled: Harnessing Unconventional Tools for Self-improvement00:03:45 Redefining Masculinity: A New Age Approach00:09:36 Dom's Unexpected Odyssey: The Hypnosis Journey00:12:01 Triumph Through Hypnosis: Dom's Unexpected Success00:14:58 Blindsided: Surprising Discoveries in the NFL00:19:59 Epiphany: Client's Awakening to the Power of Language Transformations00:22:18 Breaking Barriers: Overcoming Subconscious Limitations00:27:24 The Hunt for an Equal Partner: The Significance of Avoiding Distortion00:32:00 Spiritual Transformation: From Skeptic to Healer in HypnotherapyLinks And Resources:YouTubeDom the Hypnotist on LinkedinDom the Hypnotist Apple AppDom the Hypnotist Google AppHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Aug 4, 2023 • 40min
4 Timeless Archetypes of Masculinity and Exploring Ancient Wisdom with Philip Folsom
Philip Folsom, a leadership and culture consultant, shares insights on navigating the hero's journey to find freedom and meaning. He discusses the challenges men face in a shifting cultural landscape and the importance of embracing traditional masculine archetypes. Philip emphasizes the need for men to take ownership of their lives, overcome self-sabotage, and break free from the limitations imposed by societal expectations. Through self-awareness, resiliency, and initiation processes, men can step into their full potential and live lives of purpose and significance.Chapters:00:00:00 Diving into Timeless Archetypes of Masculinity: An Introduction to Philip Folsom00:02:33 Navigating Leadership: Unpacking Contemporary Challenges in Various Roles00:03:44 Transitioning Challenges: From Structured Environments to the Unknown00:07:00 Power of Unity: Community, Shared Values and the Formation of Purposeful Men's Groups00:10:04 Building the Brotherhood: Four Stages of Establishing a Supportive Culture00:11:33 Honor vs Pride: An Exploration of Differing Cultural Perspectives00:14:10 Silent Suffering: Addressing the Critical State of Men's Mental Health00:17:07 Holistic Approach: Connecting Health, Relationships, and Life Goals00:19:57 The Hero's Weight: Embracing Responsibility and Personal Accountability00:25:35 Breaking Ancestral Chains: The Hero's Redemption Journey towards Freedom00:26:54 Consciousness and Awareness: Key Ingredients for Finding Personal Freedom and Meaning00:32:47 Masculinity through Ages: Its Evolution and Influence in Ancient and Contemporary Narratives00:35:28 The Role of Boundaries: Discussing Absence of Fatherhood Initiation in Modern CultureLinks And Resources:King of the Four Houses My Wolf TribePhilip Folsom on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Aug 1, 2023 • 39min
Embracing Responsibility and Healthy Masculinity with Ted Rensaw
Ted Rensaw discusses the challenges he is currently facing in understanding what it means to be a "real man" and in promoting the importance of fathers in today's society. He explores the misconceptions around masculinity and the cultural stereotypes that hinder the progression of healthy masculinity. Ted also emphasizes the need for men to have strong connections with other men for support, growth, and the sharing of experiences.Chapters:00:00:00 Introduction: The Journey Towards Better Understanding of Masculinity00:04:16 Examining Society's Binary View of 'Alpha' and 'Beta' Males00:06:49 The Role of Community Support in the Alpha Male Paradigm00:09:36 Debunking Myths: Alpha Males and Parenthood00:11:53 Finding the Right Resources and Support for Fathers00:13:57 The Absence of Positive Portrayals of Fatherhood in Media00:18:24 Wrestling with Feelings: The Complex Emotions Tied to Fatherly Affection00:21:43 Navigating Relationship Changes Amid Women's Empowerment00:23:50 The Shifting Grounds of Financial Stability and Family Roles00:26:13 Insights on Relationship Dynamics and Perceptions of Military Service00:28:56 The Lifeline of Social Networks: A Key to Survival00:32:41 The Significance of Male Relationships, Particularly for Fathers00:33:57 The Magic of Male Solidarity through Shared Fatherhood Experiences00:37:01 Rethinking Fatherhood: A Plea for Redefined MasculinityLinks And Resources:Mindful Teaching PracticesTed Rensaw on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Jul 28, 2023 • 31min
Leadership, Authenticity, and the Balance of Masculinity with Alan Heymann
Alan Heymann, an executive and leadership coach, about the evolving nature of masculinity and the challenges that men face in today's world. Alan discusses his book, "The Soup Book," which offers 52 analogies for leadership and personal development. He emphasizes the importance of questioning traditional gender roles and expectations and finding a balance between personal well-being and fulfilling responsibilities as a man, whether it be as a husband, father, or leader.Chapters:00:00:00 Deciphering Contemporary Masculinity: Insights and Challenges00:02:54 Masculinity in Flux: Rebalancing Traditional Roles00:05:42 Striving for Balance: Seeking Aid During Trying Times00:08:35 Rethinking Gender: Challenging Stereotypes and Redefining Masculinity00:11:49 Leadership Dynamics: Striking a Balance between Authority and Empathy00:13:45 Unmasking Relationship Perspectives: A Deep Dive into Ingrained Beliefs00:15:20 The Potency of Analogies: Enhancing Coaching Dialogues00:17:32 Progressing Leadership Styles: Transitioning from Authoritative Structures00:20:20 Valuing Individual Contributions: Defying Pre-set Societal Norms00:25:26 Handling Life's Complexities: A Guide to Navigate through Slippery Situations00:27:55 Bite-sized Wisdom: A Comprehensive, User-friendly Collection for Personal GrowthLinks And Resources:Alan Heymann on LinkedIn Peaceful DirectionHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Jul 21, 2023 • 50min
Parenting Real Talk: The Best & Hardest Parts of Being a Dad [Modern Man Podcast]
We dive deep into the heart of modern masculinity, exploring the intricate balance of personal growth and parenting. We share our experiences as husbands, fathers, and professionals, navigating the complexities of mental health, setting healthy boundaries, and the profound impact of our actions on future generations. We're not just talking about the surface-level stuff here; we're peeling back the layers to reveal the raw, authentic challenges and triumphs of being a man in today's world. It's a journey of self-discovery, a call to action, and a testament to the power of open dialogue. Chapters:00:00:00 - Kickoff of our deep dive into modern masculinity00:04:09 - Meet our guest: A man juggling roles as a family man, podcaster, and servant00:07:03 - The balancing act: Navigating parenting and professional life00:10:31 - The power of intentional wishing and the importance of self-care00:14:23 - Looking beyond titles: Finding personal validation beyond material success00:18:44 - From selfishness to selflessness: The journey of becoming a responsible father00:21:03 - The art of giving: Exploring generosity with expectations00:25:57 - The pitfalls of seeking validation and how to navigate them00:27:49 - A second chance at life: Living vicariously through your children00:32:26 - Parenting as a spiritual investment: Shaping future generations00:34:40 - Shifting gears: Priorities, long-term vision, and the journey of self-discovery00:38:29 - Navigating the social media age: The need for real connection and purpose00:40:24 - Embracing intentionality: Finding fulfillment in life and parenting00:42:17 - The balancing act revisited: Juggling parenthood and personal dreams00:44:29 - Amplifying the conversation: Promoting meaningful discussions on modern masculinity00:45:50 - The transformative experience of fatherhood00:47:00 - The quest for true fulfillment and purpose in lifeLinks And Resources:The Modern ManTed Phaeton on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!