
Modern Masculinity
"Modern Masculinity" is a podcast that explores the real-life challenges that men face today. Whether it's balancing work and family, figuring out how to be a good husband or father, or just trying to make sense of the world - this show is for guys looking for practical, down-to-earth advice and guidance. The podcast discusses the struggles and triumphs of modern manhood and features interviews with men (and women) who can share their methods and mindsets to maneuver the world as a modern man.
Latest episodes

Oct 24, 2023 • 37min
Emotions: Grief and Why So Many Men Struggle with It ft Matt Gilhooly
Matt Gilhooly dives deep into the intricate world of emotions, challenging societal norms and stereotypes. From the silent struggles of emotional conditioning to the powerful indicators that our feelings provide, he explores the journey of resilience, authenticity, and self-awareness. Discover the transformative power of embracing vulnerability, the lessons hidden in life's unexpected twists, and the profound impact of genuine emotional expression. Join us for a heartfelt conversation that promises to resonate, inspire, and enlighten.Chapters:00:00:00 The Journey to Authentic Connection: Unveiling Shared Human Experiences00:03:06 Redefining Strength: Vulnerability as the New Masculine Norm00:04:11 Navigating Emotions: Beyond the Drive to 'Fix' Everything00:06:27 Parenting with Presence: The Role of Self-awareness00:08:36 Healing Past Wounds: Rising Above Complacency and Seeking Growth00:12:14 Emotional Liberation: Expressing Feelings in an Age of Suppression00:14:05 The Beauty of Sorrow: Rethinking Negative Emotion Narratives00:16:28 Emotions as Compasses: Guiding without Dominating our Actions00:18:21 Embracing the Tough Days: The Power of Vulnerable Conversations00:23:01 Unmasking Suppressed Emotions: Addressing Deep-seated Fears and Societal Conditioning00:27:43 Shattering Taboos: Advocating for Mental Health and Personal Evolution00:29:30 Reflective Journeys: Mining Wisdom from Life's Twists and Turns00:31:33 Rising Above Adversity: The Path to Overcoming Personal Barriers00:33:29 Fear as a Catalyst: A Transformational Academic Journey00:35:02 Rewriting Norms: Celebrating Authenticity and Valuing DiversityLinks And Resources:The Life Shift Podcast LinkedInWebsite The Life Shift PatreonHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Oct 17, 2023 • 38min
Relationships: Modern Dating and Why Single Men Are Struggling with Nixalina Watson
Nixalina Watson dives deep into the emotional complexities of modern relationships. From the healing journey post-breakup to the misconceptions surrounding the allure of wealth in partnerships. Drawing from personal experiences and observations, Nix challenges societal stereotypes, emphasizing the importance of emotional safety, loyalty, and genuine connection. This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the intricate dance of modern love and seeking a balanced, fulfilling relationship.Chapters:00:00:00 Unraveling the Nuances of Modern Relationships00:03:03 Modern Love's Trials: Confronting Betrayal and Navigating Relationship Obstacles00:06:04 Bouncing Back: Pathways to Healing Post Relationship Struggles00:08:09 Healing Journey: Dispelling the Myth of "Moving On" Timelines00:09:21 From Pain to Purpose: The Dual Edges of Heartbreak Recovery00:11:51 Dating Dynamics: Overcoming Intimidation and Taking the Lead00:17:10 Stepping Back into Dating: Navigating Uncharted Waters after Long-Term Commitment00:19:55 Digital Age Dilemmas: How Social Media Amplifies Dating Anxieties00:24:15 From Dependency to Empowerment: Fostering Healthier Relationship Mindsets00:27:11 Healing Unchained: Overcoming Emotional Baggage and Judgments00:30:38 Reframing Rejection: Unlocking Authentic Connections in the Dating Scene00:33:22 Rethinking "Mr. Nice": Dissecting the Nice Guy Mythos00:35:55 Dating Mastery: Sidestepping Pitfalls and Elevating Intimacy SkillsLinks And Resources:WebsiteCan’t Keep My Mouth Shut PodcastInstagramTwitterTikTok YouTube ThreadsHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Oct 10, 2023 • 32min
How to Transform Your Identity and Shed Old Programming with Oliver Wolf
Oliver Wolf, an entrepreneur and father, delves into the intricate dance between embracing challenges and navigating the rhythms of life and business. They dig through his personal journey from a comfortable childhood to consciously choosing a path that welcomes pressure as a catalyst for growth. Oliver shares insights into managing the dissonance between work and parenting, adopting a philosophy that views obstacles as opportunities, and evolving from seeking guidance to becoming his own guide. Oliver Wolf beautifully intertwines the themes of personal development, stoicism, and the seasonality of life’s various roles, offering listeners a reflective exploration of finding one’s beat in the drum of life.Chapters:00:00:00 Introduction: Embarking on Oliver Wolf's Personal and Entrepreneurial Journey00:03:10 The Modern Man's Struggle: Balancing Family, Work, and Inner Desires00:07:33 Pressure Points: Thriving in Business, Relationships, and Fatherhood Amid Challenges00:08:49 Rediscovering Passion: The Healing and Rejuvenating Power of Sports00:12:41 Embracing Challenges: How Overcoming Obstacles Shaped Oliver's Personal Growth00:15:07 A New Dawn: Moving Past Trauma and Finding Purpose00:17:16 Identity and Transformation: Crafting a New Narrative for the Future00:19:35 Delving into Inner Strength: The Role of Archetypes in Personal Development00:22:28 The Wolf's Journey: Symbolism, Spirituality, and Self-Discovery00:26:33 Moments of Enlightenment: Encounters with Spirit Animals and their Impact00:28:30 A Fresh Approach to Sales: Prioritizing Integrity Over Aggressive TacticsLinks And Resources:Beyond the PeakConscious SalesOliver Wolf on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Oct 3, 2023 • 32min
Why Many Men are Delusional and How to Face Reality with Brent Perkins
We are diving deep into the intricacies of purpose, truth, and self-discovery. Brent Perkins, shares his profound insights on the subjective nature of truth, the importance of rituals, and the struggle of balancing family and business. They explore the transformative journey of writing a book and the challenges and excitements it brings. This episode is a rich tapestry of reflections on life’s struggles, the roles we play, and the continuous quest for presence and surrender. It’s a compelling exploration that invites listeners to reflect on their own truths and experiences.Chapters:00:00:00 - Nurturing Wellness: The Significance of Hydration in Maintaining Balance00:02:25 - Journey into Self: Brent Perkins and the Exploration of Contemporary Masculinity00:05:36 - Discovering Passion: The Path to Realizing One’s Unique Potential in Life00:08:53 - Beyond Blame: Understanding Personal Accountability and Cultivating Self-Awareness00:13:53 - Perception and Reality: Dissecting Self-Delusion and the Fluidity of Truth00:16:21 - Freedom to Explore: Embracing Authenticity and Releasing Societal Constraints00:18:36 - Embracing Conscious Decisions: The Transformational Power of Altered Perspectives00:21:48 - Breath as a Catalyst: The Impact of Mindful Breathing on Daily Well-being00:25:17 - The Role of Well-being: Understanding the Emotional Impact of Proper Hydration00:28:27 - Lessons in Resilience: Learning and Growing from Life’s Challenges00:30:06 - Introducing “Bold 1 80”: Brent Perkins' Initiative for Holistic Growth and Self-DiscoveryLinks And Resources:3xBoldBrent Perkins on LinkedIn Hector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Sep 26, 2023 • 35min
Why Rites of Passage Might Be the Missing Link for Modern Men with Steven Arms
We dive deep into the transformative journey of rites of passage, exploring their profound impact on the transition from boyhood to manhood. Steven Arms, shares his personal experiences and insights, shedding light on the significance of these rituals in affirming identity and fostering growth and responsibility. They discuss the essence of manhood, the roles and responsibilities it entails, and the ways in which rites of passage can shape one’s path to adulthood. This is such a compelling exploration of the intricate tapestry of manhood, offering profound reflections and revelations that resonate with anyone seeking to understand the true essence of becoming a man.Chapters:00:00:00 - Journey into Manhood: Unpacking Modern Masculinity and its Challenges00:03:42 - A Man’s Dilemma: Balancing Responsibilities and Priorities in Today's World00:06:34 - Rituals and Well-being: The Role of Rites of Passage in Men's Mental Health00:10:37 - Shaping Tomorrow's Men: Crafting Meaningful Rites of Passage for Modern Youth00:15:57 - Bonding over Simplicity: How Fishing Can Serve as a Catalyst for Connection00:18:35 - Age and Acceptance: Reflections on Embracing Masculinity at Any Stage of Life00:23:11 - Breaking the Mold: Overcoming Stereotypes and Redefining Age on the Journey to Manhood00:27:21 - Defining a Good Man: Insights into the Exclusive Journey of Unlocking True Masculinity00:31:38 - Transformative Bonds: Experiencing Unconditional Love and FaithLinks And Resources:Milestone to Manhood by David Arms and Steven ArmsSteven Arms on InstagramHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Sep 19, 2023 • 32min
Becoming the Modern Alpha Male with with Ali Tag
We dive deep into the intricate balance between strength and vulnerability in modern men. From the cultural confines of Hispanic machismo to the biological realities of testosterone decline, Ali Tag sheds light on the silent struggles many men face. Through candid conversations, we explore the importance of consistent messaging, the need for emotional outlets, and the evolving definitions of male strength. Ali Tag challenges societal norms and invites listeners to redefine masculinity in today's world.Chapters:00:00:00 - Redefining Masculinity: Navigating Modern Challenges00:05:34 - Social Media Mirage: Dispelling the "Perfect Life" Myth00:07:45 - Vulnerability as Strength: Deconstructing Male Stereotypes00:13:01 - Modern Dating Dilemmas: Impact of Societal Expectations on Relationships00:16:12 - Seeking Authentic Connections: Embracing Genuine Self in Partnerships00:17:56 - Uncharted Territories: Tapping into the Untapped Potential of Men00:23:24 - Cultural Echoes: Evolution of Strength Through the Ages00:26:46 - Addressing the Unspoken: Male Mental Health in Focus00:29:11 - Pursuing Mental Wellness: The Challenges of Finding True Support TodayLinks And Resources:Ali Tag on InstagramSynapse InternationalHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Sep 12, 2023 • 40min
The Modern Man’s Man with Lawrence Dunning
Lawrence Dunning dives deep into his personal journey, exploring the intricate balance between masculinity, fatherhood, and personal growth. From the discipline of martial arts to the challenges of partnerships, Lawrence shares candid insights on navigating life's highs and lows. Drawing from his experiences as a professional fighter and a dedicated parent, he offers a unique perspective on resilience, ambition, and the ever-evolving definition of success. Dive in for an intimate reflection on life, legacy, and the lessons that shape us.Chapters:00:00:00 - The Evolving Definition of Masculinity and Embracing Change00:03:18 - Fatherhood Insights: Valuing Time and Staying Present00:05:17 - Savoring Life's Moments: The Art of Daily Joy00:07:05 - Triumphs and Trials: A Personal Journey from Struggle to Success00:10:47 - Legacy and Lessons: Transferring Generational Wisdom00:14:22 - Martial Arts: Seeking Mentorship and Growth00:16:20 - The Dual Life: Balancing Martial Discipline with Parenting00:17:45 - Modern Fatherhood: Ensuring Safety in a Dynamic World00:21:44 - Walking the Tightrope: Parenting, Pushbacks, and Pursuits of Joy00:22:54 - Letting Go of Norms: Celebrating Individuality in our Children00:26:28 - Beyond Fighting: The Deeper Teachings of Martial Arts00:27:07 - The Martial Way: Cultivating Grit, Discipline, and Team Spirit00:33:05 - The Relationship Playbook: Valuing Partnership and Teamwork00:35:11 - Unfiltered Reality: The True Dynamics of RelationshipsLinks And Resources:Lawrence Dunning on LinkedIn Enter the Lionheart PodcastHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Sep 5, 2023 • 39min
Igniting your Inner King with Michael Diamond and Russell Reynolds
Michael Diamond and Russell Reynolds discuss personal growth, navigating challenges, heart-guided actions, societal trends, the impact of words and actions, the essence of manhood, and the strength in male unity. They emphasize the importance of authenticity, inner healing, and balancing strength and vulnerability. A must-listen for a deeper understanding of self and relationships.

Aug 29, 2023 • 29min
Embracing Brokenness: Erik Hatch's Path to Connection and Community
Join Hector as he delves into the inspiring and challenging world of modern masculinity with real estate expert turned advocate, Eric Hatch. Eric shares his mission to save children facing unimaginable hardships and explores the power of self-validation. From overcoming insecurities to finding purpose, Eric's journey offers valuable insights on personal growth and making a positive difference in the world. Tune in to discover how embracing brokenness can lead to authentic connection and community.Chapters:00:00:00 Tackling Self-Doubt: The Journey to Self-Validation00:03:09 Facing Inner Demons: The Quest for Wholeness Amidst Childhood Wounds00:06:37 Beyond Job Titles: Eric's Escape from Professional Stereotypes00:10:10 Emotional Scars: Navigating the Aftershocks of Rejection00:15:12 A Deep Dive: From Heartache to Self-Rediscovery00:19:20 Shaped by Feminine Influence: Valuing Affirmation and Self-Acknowledgment00:23:21 The Weight of Perpetual Competition: Escaping the Scoreboard of LifeLinks And Resources:Hatch Coaching Facebook LinkedIn Play for the Person Next to You: A Guide to Leadership The Perfect Real Estate Agent BlueprintHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Aug 22, 2023 • 41min
Pursuing Your Dreams while Keeping Your Responsibilities with Ben Gibson
Ben Gibson explores the intersection of physical pursuits and fatherhood. He shares his own experiences and struggles in balancing his ambition and responsibility as a dad. Ben emphasizes the importance of doing cool shit and integrating passions into family life. He highlights the need to communicate with partners, create comprehensive plans, and adapt to challenges. Ben Gibson ultimately aims to inspire and empower fathers to live fulfilling lives while being present for their families.Chapters:00:00:00 Unpacking Modern Masculinity and Fatherhood with Ben Gibson00:01:10 The Adventure Sports Dad: Walking the Line of Ambition & Parenting00:03:30 The Multi-Faceted Man: Fatherhood, Marriage, and Being a Provider00:04:55 Juggling Work, Passion Projects, and Family Time00:06:42 Chasing Physical Goals: Reframing Masculine Ambition00:09:18 Mountain Escapes: Finding Deeper Connections and Fulfillment00:10:35 Honoring Past Generations While Carving New Paths00:12:43 Today's Man: Striking a Balance between Duty and Passion00:14:49 Rekindling the Spirit: The Need for Adventurous Pursuits00:19:42 Entrepreneur Dad: Weighing Risks and Rewards00:21:36 Fatherhood & Adventure: Keeping the Spark Alive00:24:13 Real Talk: Evaluating Priorities and Taking Time for Self-Reflection00:27:13 The Pitfalls of Overlooking Important Conversations00:30:00 Parenthood Vs. Career: Striking the Right Balance00:32:04 Crafting the Narrative of the "Athlete Dad"00:35:05 Navigating Ambition and Finding True Fulfillment00:36:18 Celebrating the Transformative Role of Present FathersLinks And Resources:Ben's LinkedInThe Athlete Dad Ben's Instagram The Athlete Dad Instagram Hector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!