

Savage Lovecast
Dan Savage
Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex and relationship questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, record your question and send it to Q@Savage.Love, or call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savage.love and get yourself a subscription.
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Oct 3, 2023 • 48min
Savage Lovecast Episode 884
Topics discussed in this podcast include a man exploring feminine clothing, a gay transman seeking aftercare, Doxy-PEP for STI prevention, poppers safety, offering encouragement to a friend's child experiencing gender identity exploration, and various relationship dynamics including parenting, BDSM aftercare, expressing love, and open relationships.

Sep 26, 2023 • 43min
Savage Lovecast Episode 883
Topics discussed in this episode include learning dirty talk, navigating post-breakup slutting, the controversial film 'Calligula', dealing with Thanksgiving in-laws, and setting boundaries at family events. The hosts also address forgiveness in open relationships, dating during the pandemic, addiction recovery, body image, and family issues.

Sep 19, 2023 • 46min
Savage Lovecast Episode 882
Topics discussed in this podcast include safe food items for ass play, overcoming anti-fat bias in dating, the impact of alcohol on sex and relationships, and the importance of communication in polyamorous relationships. The guest shares insights on sobriety and navigating sex and dating without alcohol.

Sep 12, 2023 • 54min
Savage Lovecast Episode 881
A woman is enjoying a new friends-with-benefits relationship. She booked them an airBnB, but he had to cancel because his mother had a stroke. Now she feels insecure about him. Should she keep reaching out to try to make the tryst happen? Or wait and give him space? Is he lying about his mother? A sub, masochist woman is into intense head-trips with her dom online-only play partner. He went too far into violent story-telling until she had to end the session. He responded kindly and appropriately with after-care. But now she wonders if he’s a genuinely bad person. On the Magnum, Dan chats with culture & lifestyle writer Darshita Goyal about the Facebook group phenomenon “Are we dating the same guy?” Is this an empowering whisper network for women? Or an on-ramp to cyber-bullying? A woman and her boyfriend are in an open relationship where they are each allowed to have sex with other people, but sleepovers are verboten. He got together with a hottie and she ended up sleeping at his house because he didn’t have the heart to wake her up and send her packing. He violated their rules, but are the rules too harsh? Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance intimacy, sexual pleasure, daily wellbeing, and relief from discomfort. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ForiaWellness.com/SavageThis episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get 20% off ALL mattress orders and 2 free pillows at HelixSleep.com/SAVAGE, and use the offer code Savage.

Sep 5, 2023 • 52min
Savage Lovecast Episode 880
The podcast explores topics such as aromanticism, relationship OCD, polyamory, and navigating boundaries. It also discusses the concept of labels in relationships and the complexities of starting an inclusive book club. The speaker addresses the importance of communication, respect, and trust in relationships.

Aug 29, 2023 • 53min
Savage Lovecast Episode 879
A transman navigating a hostile work environment and dealing with a potentially closeted coworker. A straight man's dependence on anal sex and finding a willing partner. Sex therapist Claire Perelman discussing infidelity, threeways, and pooping in the shower. The dilemma of dick pics and consent. Chapters on polyamory, creepy coworkers, the power of the mind in sex, protecting an underage step sister, getting over past relationships, and submitting questions for the next episode.

Aug 22, 2023 • 56min
Savage Lovecast Episode 878
Topics discussed: open relationship with son, awkward marriage proposal, reconsidering trigger warnings, ex getting married, exploring a new DS relationship model, the harm of free use, consent in marital intimacy, navigating commitment issues, interfaith interactions, atheism and prayer, communication in open relationships, Q&A and announcements.

Aug 15, 2023 • 57min
Savage Lovecast Episode 877
A woman hooked up with a seemingly nice guy. She asked him to wear a condom, and he said he did. But after he left, she couldn’t find evidence of the condom- no wrapper, nothing. Did he stealth her? Should she call him and ask? Ureaplasma: What’s this fresh new STI? Dan is stumped, so he brings on Dr. Ina Park, his go-to expert on sexually transmitted diseases. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Shallelujah the twitch streamer with a sexy, sexy voice. They talk about parlaying a great voice (and mic) into a career, pleasing the pup community and coming out as bi in the gamer world. And, what’s the matter with this damn cock ring?! When he was younger, it fit him like a glove. Now it’s too loose. Can steel cock rings stretch, or does Occam’s razor point to a different conclusion? Q@Savage.Love. 206-302-2064Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance intimacy, sexual pleasure, daily wellbeing, and relief from discomfort. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ForiaWellness.com/SavageThis episode is brought to you by Dipsea: an app full of hundreds of short, sexy audio stories designed by women for women. Get an extended 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/savage. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.

Aug 8, 2023 • 53min
Savage Lovecast Episode 876
Oh Lordy, hear the tale of the twisted teen! He’s been sneaking into neighbors’ houses and stealing their sex toys, including some from elderly women. How dangerous is this kid? Should someone call the cops? How can his long-suffering mother correct him and end this behavior?What do you do when you’re disgusted by your girlfriend squirting? What do you do when you’re repulsed by your boyfriend coming in your mouth? Two separate calls, one conundrum. On the Magnum, Dan and Atlantic writer Faith Hill confront the misconception that rebound relationships are inferior or doomed. Hill brings up research showing that rebounds can help people heal from break ups and often blossom into long term relationships themselves. A TOTAL NERD (with a girlfriend) has built himself a makeshift sex robot. Using a fleshlight, VR goggles and maybe paperclips, the caller wonders if jacking it into this bride of Frankenstein is an act of infidelity. Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064This episode is brought to you by the Meridian Trimmer, the very best tool to trim your body hair. Go to MeridianGrooming.com and use the code SAVAGE for an exclusive 15% off. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get $20% off ALL mattress orders at HelixSleep.com/SAVAGE.This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $80 off your first month, go to Talkspace.com and use the offer code Savage.

Aug 1, 2023 • 54min
Savage Lovecast Episode 875
“Goodbye son, I’m off to Kink Camp!” A gay caller’s dad got divorced, came out as poly, and won’t shut up about it. He introduces the caller to all the girlfriends and brags about his various exploits. Our poor caller doesn’t want to hear the various details. How can he set some reasonable boundaries with his horndog dad? A woman’s spiritual leader is a Buddhist who leads meditation and holds counseling sessions. He’s 20 years her senior, and she thinks he’s kind of hot. He sent her some photos of a burlesque event that he went to including a stripper on a pole. The caller is conflicted. She knows this was inappropriate, but she kind wants to sleep with him anyway. On the Magnum, Dan enlists a pro to help with some tricky questions. A three-way goes horribly wrong, when the man of the trio busts out humiliating insults to his partner without warning or consent. A woman has to clean up the estate of her departed father, only to find his porn collection. Dan brings on couples and sex therapist Leslie Sherman to wade into the morass. And, a new father of TRIPLETS is horrified when the little buggers grab at his nipples. He normally enjoys nipple stimulation, but now it’s freaking him right out. Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064This episode is brought to you by the Meridian Trimmer, the very best tool to trim your body hair. Go to MeridianGrooming.com and use the code SAVAGE for an exclusive 15% off. Get a 4-week trial, free postage, and a digital scale at https://www.stamps.com/savage. Thanks to Stamps.com for sponsoring the show!