Savage Lovecast

A married gay man reflects on the aftermath of his sexless relationship and how he is being portrayed as the bad guy. Advice is given on explaining a Prince Albert piercing to a young son. Dr. Ina Park discusses home remedies for herpes and other STI-related questions. The challenges of introverts marrying extroverts are explored.

Topics include dealing with advances from a drunk friend, navigating complex relationships and boundaries, supporting partners through trauma and abuse, forgiving infidelity in a non-monogamous relationship, and discussing reasons for divorce. Also covers the impact of politics on relationships, handling contact from a former bully, and ways to engage with the podcast.

When telling a hook-up that you don't want to continue seeing them, how much detail should you give? A woman enjoyed the sex with her quickie guy, but he was too insecure and needy for her tastes. Should she tell him this in the exit interview? A lesbian was terribly bullied in school by three mean girls. She moved to Europe, came out and got her life together. One of the mean girls has been messaging her and flirting, asking her out for drinks for when she visits. So, to put it bluntly, should the caller fuck the shit out of her bully over Thanksgiving? On the Magnum: Are you the parent of a horny teen? Or a soon-to-be horny teen? Talking to them about sex can be daunting. Dan brings on Dr. Debby Herbenick, author of "Yes Your Kid: What Parents Need to Know About Teens and Sex." They talk about access to porn, social media, and when your three-year-old wanks at daycare. A woman and her best friend went to a party and used some undisclosed substances. The friend then told the caller she was in love with her and that they should get married someday. The caller is intrigued, but she's already married! Was the friend serious? Should she risk her marriage? Was her friend rolling on Molly and would have declared her love to a toaster?  Declare your love to us. Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Helix is offering 25% off all mattress orders AND A FREE BEDROOM BUNDLE for our listeners in honor of Cyber Monday! The bundle includes 2 free pillows as well as a set of sheets and a mattress protector. Go to Helix Sleep.com/SAVAGE and use code HELIXPARTNER25.This episode is brought to you by Dipsea: an app full of hundreds of short, sexy audio stories designed by women for women. Get an extended 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/savage. 

Topics in this podcast include a pansexual woman's mystery of contracting gonorrhea, the strange behaviors of a married man during sex, advice on dealing with difficult family members, the importance of comprehensive screening for gonorrhea, navigating painful surprises in long-term relationships, the significance of sexual positioning shapes, addressing minor adjustments in relationships, the conflicts over future desires of having children, and exploring alternative options for starting a family.

In this entertaining podcast, topics include dealing with a crush on a friend of your own sister, preparing for anal sex, hosting a successful sex party, navigating uncomfortable political conversations in the workplace, and overcoming homophobia and transphobia through relationships.

Guest Julie, a writer and actress of musical theater, joins the host to geek out about the show 'Schmigadoon!' They also discuss the impact of tongue-ties on oral sex, a woman crying during sex, and the use of pronouns for drag queens. Plus, a man wonders if self-stimulation with a dildo makes him gay.

Guest Connor Clary from the Five Star Review podcast joins Dan to discuss sexting boundaries and petty fights. Dan also gives advice on deep-throating and anal enjoyment.

Is there a homo bro code? A man hooked up with his casual boyfriend’s roommate. Then the boyfriend moved away and they broke up peacefully. Now the caller is worried about resuming his hook-ups with the roommate for fear his ex’s friends will find out and revolt. Does this happen in gayland?A woman is willing to indulge in hot-wifing to please her husband. She met a new guy, but finds she gets so worked up and horny that it eats up all the headspace in her already busy life. How can she learn to chill out and sleep with another dude already?On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Alicia Roth Weigel, intersex rights activist and author of “Inverse Cowgirl.” They talk about what it means to be intersex, how there may be many more intersex people in the population than we assumed, and how humans are on a gender/sexuality spectrum. Don’t miss this one. A queer woman and her girlfriend have been together for 15 years and they raise a child together. Their relationship has always been open, but the caller’s partner only dated men…until now. She has fallen in love with another woman who lives far away. This creates a logistical burden, as she has to leave the caller alone with the kid when she goes to visit, not to mention the emotional threat this new woman brings. The caller does not want a new lover to be a part of her kid's upbringing. The partner does. Oy vey!Q@Savage.Love      206-302-2064Find Alicia Roth Weigel on Instagram at xoxy_alicia.

A masochistic woman is happily paired with her sadist. They both love it when he bites her. But lately, she’s become more sensitive, maybe because she stopped taking hormonal birth control. In the past few sessions, she had to use her safe word and he’s beginning to sulk. How can they get back to the rough love bites they both crave?33 eggs: That’s how many of a woman’s eggs are sitting in a test tube somewhere, awaiting fertilization. She is in her mid 30s, and is about to marry her 42 year-old boyfriend. Neither of them particularly want kids, but they might someday. How can she tell if she’ll ever want children? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with French philosopher and author Manon Garcia about her new book “The Joy of Consent: A Philosophy of Sex.” A gay man in his 40s isn’t very close to his 18 year-old nephew. But now that the boy has come out, the caller wonders if he should reach out with some avuncular advice about PrEP, monkeypox and other adult subject he’ll need to know as a gay man. Q@Savage.Love          206-302-2064This episode is brought to you by Dipsea: an app full of hundreds of short, sexy audio stories designed by women for women. Get an extended 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/savage. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.This episode is brought to you by the Meridian Trimmer, the very best tool to trim your body hair. Go to MeridianGrooming.com and use the code SAVAGE for an exclusive 15% off. 

Bryan Safi, Magnum guest this week, talks with Dan about dick slapping, humorlessness among young gay men, and the misconception that being a dom makes you a misogynist, white supremacist. A caller seeks advice on whether to tell his dad, who is deeply closeted, that he knows he's gay. Another caller shares the story of being ghosted by her boyfriend without explanation. The podcast also explores topics such as navigating relationships with a parent with dementia and dealing with disappointment in dating.