

Savage Lovecast
Dan Savage
Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex and relationship questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, record your question and send it to Q@Savage.Love, or call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savage.love and get yourself a subscription.
Episodes
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Feb 3, 2026 • 56min
Savage Love Episode 1004
A messy cohabitation fight over anxious little dogs and whether pets block moving in together. A deep dive into situational same-sex encounters at British boarding schools, driven by a vivid personal account. Medical talk about anal sex risks for someone with an enlarged spleen and safe alternatives. A newcomer wonders if on-screen gay sex mirrors real-life timing and preparation.

Jan 30, 2026 • 21min
After Action Report #14
A couple recounts finding a concierge service that arranges bespoke gangbangs while traveling. They explain why the fantasy appealed to them and how they vetted and selected participants. The story follows the scene’s setup, the flow of action, and practical details like cost, aftercare, and logistics.

Jan 27, 2026 • 52min
Savage Love Episode 1003
A messy poly love triangle complicated by one indifferent cat. A romance between an 81-year-old widow and her younger gardener and the moral fallout. A comedian faces frank questions about sex and identity. A divorced woman experiments with anonymous hookups and friends debate the ethics of invented personas.

Jan 23, 2026 • 17min
After Action Report #13
Louis, a self-proclaimed cuddle-slut, shares his adventurous night at the Liquid Love event. He reveals the unique consent rules and the exciting atmosphere of tactile exploration. Enjoying sensual touch and connection, he recounts the intimate experiences that unfolded, including rolling together while blindfolded. The story takes a twist with showering and exchanging numbers, leading to a friends-with-benefits situation. Plus, listeners get tips on similar gatherings and how to dive into the world of sensation play.

Jan 20, 2026 • 45min
Savage Lovecast Episode 1002
How do you politely tell someone to address their dental hygiene? Dive into the complexities of a relationship where one partner craves attention only for themselves. Explore the intriguing sexual history of the Middle Ages with a medieval historian, revealing that kink has ancient roots. Also, tackle the tricky feelings around receiving a sexy thong from another man. With practical advice on intimacy and open relationships, this conversation blends humor and honesty in navigating modern love.

Jan 16, 2026 • 18min
After Action Report #12
Jennie shares her revealing journey to a new sex club, highlighting unexpected experiences and lessons learned. A seemingly innocent foot massage spirals into an unconsented biting incident, leaving her with bruises and a stark reminder about the importance of clear boundaries. The discussion explores consent and the social pressures that can influence decisions in intimate settings. Both Jennie and the host emphasize the need to advocate for oneself and communicate effectively, especially in the realm of public play.

Jan 15, 2026 • 1h 6min
Lovecast Extra: Sex and...Television?
Claire Perlman, a certified sex therapist and social media personality known as SexClarified, joins the conversation to delve into the steamy Canadian series, Heated Rivalry. They explore the emotional depth of the show's characters, particularly Scott and Kip, and tackle the complexities of bi identity against the backdrop of the narrative. Claire and Dan analyze the show's portrayal of sexuality, viewers' criticisms, and how their discussions reflect broader themes in male relationships and fantasies, making the topic both engaging and enlightening.

Jan 13, 2026 • 60min
Savage Lovecast Episode 1001
This lively discussion kicks off with a humorous take on transitioning from ass to pussy. A critical topic arises around circumcision and how to approach sensitive family conversations. Dan chats with journalist Ellen Huet about her investigative work on a controversial sex cult focused on female pleasure. The complexities of introducing polyamorous friends and navigating ethical porn for younger audiences also spark insightful dialogue. Expect a mix of laughter, valuable advice, and some candid reflections on modern relationships!

Jan 13, 2026 • 15min
After Action Report #11
A couple attends a Viking-themed kink party and shares their sizzling experiences. They dive into fire play, discussing its sensations and safety techniques. Communication and intimacy flourish as they explore ethical non-monogamy together. Christine humorously recounts a nipple hair joke amidst the night’s excitement. The event promotes adventurous outings to reignite passion, while also emphasizing the importance of consent and partner safety. Reflecting on the magic of their night, they celebrate the thrill they found together.

Jan 6, 2026 • 59min
Savage Lovecast Episode 1000
Celebrating a milestone, the hosts dive into rapid-fire questions, exploring quirky topics like the origins of 'pegging' and why men's farts seem stinkier. Guest experts provide relationship wisdom, addressing issues from drooling during sex to navigating racial taboos. They tackle complex discussions about monogamy, crushes, and spicing up so-called vanilla marriages. The lively banter offers insights into the evolving landscape of sexuality while keeping it entertaining with humor and empathy.


