10 Things To Tell You

This episode is for anyone who loves a teenager.  I'm the mom of a teenager and a preteen, and cultural norms and expectations have definitely shifted from my own childhood in the 80s & 90s. Sometimes I feel like I'm learning modern manners alongside my kids instead of teaching them from a place of authority.  My guest Brooke Romney believes that the only thing harder than parenting a modern teen is being a modern teen. In this episode, Brooke and I talk about a few of the rules that stuck out to me from her guide 52 Modern Manners for Today's Teens. This was a conversation I didn't even know I needed to have, and I loved it.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   Follow Brooke Romney on IG 52 Modern Manners for Today's Teens Volume 1 52 Modern Manners for Today's Teens Volume 2 52 Modern Manners for Kids     SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A few times a year, I like to let you listen in on the conversations we're having in the Secret Stuff patreon community. Each month we meet twice over zoom to talk about something culturally relevant (we call this Symposium) or to talk about books (a pretty traditional Book Club). This Secret Stuff meeting was a bit of a mashup of the two.  When it was announced that icon and legend Britney Spears was releasing a memoir this fall, I knew it would make a splash in the publishing industry and in the celebrity world. And it did. The Woman In Me sold over a million copies in it's first week of release and there were a few bombshell's from the singer's life, most notably about her relationship with Justin Timberlake.  But what is just as fascinating about the content of the book is the way she chose to tell it, and that she was able to tell it at all. After 13 years in a conservatorship held by father, where everything she did was tracked and controlled, Britney is finally free to share her side of the story. As usual, the Secret Stuff community had smart, thoughtful, and compassionate takes on the memoir itself and on Britney's place in music history and our pop culture lexicon. To join in on our next Symposium meeting, JOIN SECRET STUFF NOW You can always check out a FREE TRIAL OF SECRET STUFF to see if it's for you.   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: The Woman in Me by Britney Spears Tell Me Everything by Minka Kelly I’m Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy The Meaning of Mariah Carey by Mariah Carey Takeaways from Britney Spears's memoir (NYT)   SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month Uncommon Goods // Go to UncommonGoods.com/YOU for 15% off your order   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I love memoirs. I love hearing other people's stories in their own words. And, of course, I champion the idea to Share Your Stuff.  But what if the story you need to tell is really difficult? What if it's hard to do justice to the truth while also protecting (or not protecting) other people? My guest for this conversation is author Carmen Rita Wong and she is sharing her own 4 rules to doing this well.  Carmen Rita Wong's memoir is called Why Didn't You Tell Me? and is a book about secrets and identity.  Learn more about Carmen Rita Wong Follow Carmen Rita Wong   FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode is for anyone who has asked themselves why they're so invested in what is clearly outrageous, manipulative, and phony "reality" television shows.  I watch Real Housewives every weekday on my lunch break, and as I've gone through phases of watching with both fascination and disgust, I’ve asked myself: why do smart people love dumb tv? What is it that we’re drawn to? Why do we get so sucked into the drama? Is it aspirational or escapism or something darker or is it just not that deep?  And so I decided to explore that topic with the perfect guest: Matt Marr, cohost of the Reality Gays podcast. In this episode, Matt and I talk about our history of reality tv watching (starting with the Real World in the 90s), and we talk about how we think reality TV has changed culture, why we’re so invested in the lives of these reality TV personas, and so much more. We talked for over an hour and didn’t even scratch the surface of all that we could have discussed.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE We do have an extended cut version of this episode over on the Secret Stuff patreon page, where Matt and I talk about our shared Oklahoma roots and I'll also be releasing a personal episode over there this week about my time working in reality television in the early 2000s.  For all that bonus material, SIGN UP FOR SECRET STUFF HERE.  You can listen more of Matt on the Reality Gays podcast  Follow Matt Marr on social media   SPONSORS: Uncommon Goods // Go to UncommonGoods.com/YOU for 15% off your order   MENTIONED in this episode: Instagram Christopher Ryan Stamey - @christopherryanstamey  90 Day Fiancé on TLC  Real Housewives franchise on Bravo  RuPaul’s Drag Race on MTV  Passions Soap Opera on NBC  The Real World on MTV Duck Dynasty on A&E  Bittersweet by Susan Cain Indian Matchmaking on Netflix  Love is Blind on Netflix Married at First Sight on Lifetime  Pig Royalty on Amazon Prime Video  Nanny 911, now on Amazon Prime Video  Doggy Fizzle Televizzle on MTV  Crowned on FOX  America’s Next Top Model on UPN/The CW  Joe Millionaire on FOX The Swan on FOX  90 Day Fiancé: The Last Resort on TLC  The Golden Bachelor on ABC    If you liked this episode you may like: Ep 189: About the Hollywood Strikes and How They Affect You   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

10 Things To Tell You exists because Meg Tietz put a microphone in my hand nearly a decade ago when she launched the Sorta Awesome podcast and asked me to be a regular cohost. That invitation changed my life, along with the thousands of Sorta Awesome listeners who have been touched by Meg's words and wisdom for all these years.  Meg Tietz has long been a pioneer in the online space. She was one of the earliest mommy bloggers to build a large audience and one of the earliest independent podcasters in the girlfriend chat genre. I am lucky enough to have been friends with her since our childhood years in Oklahoma and have watched the way that she has shaped an entire corner of the internet.  Meg recently announced that she is bring the Sorta Awesome podcast to a close, and in our conversation here we reminisce about her online journey and talk about what it means to decide to end something that is going well, simply because you know it's time.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   Sorta Awesome episodes mentioned: Ep. 123: Intuition, Friendship, and The Future (from 12/1/2017) Ep. 26: The Truth About Anxiety, Part 1 (also known as the face shaving episode)( from 9/10/2015) Ep. 101: The Truth About Anxiety, Part 2 (from 5/19/2017) Ep. 54: Ten Friends Every Woman Needs (from 4/7/2016) Ep. 139: Resurrection: New Life on The Other Side of a Faith Shift (from 3/30/2018) Ep. 192: Heartbreak, Doubt, And Finding Faith Through The Storm (Rebekah speaks about miscarriage) (from 4/17/2019) Ep. 90: Exploring Hope and Healing for Postpartum Depression (from 2/24/2017) Ep. 56: Unpopular Opinions Ahead (A Group Show)! (from 4/21/2016) LISTEN TO THE FULL CATALOGUE of SORTA AWESOME     MENTIONED in this episode: Sorta Awesome cohost Kelly Gordon Sorta Awesome cohost Rebekah Hoffer Sorta Awesome Hangout (facebook group) Serial Podcast Voxer app   SPONSORS: Daily Harvest // Go to DailyHarvest.com/TellYou for up to $65 off your first box BetterHelp // Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The 11th annual #OneDayHH social media challenge will be Wednesday, November 8! This is the ONE DAY of the year we dedicate to documenting what our lives look like right now, hour by hour. In this short episode, I'm sharing more about what #OneDayHH is, what makes it so special, and why you should participate.  #OneDayHH takes place on Instagram, and you're welcome to share in stories, reels, the main feed, or whatever feels comfortable for you. The point is to share what "a day in the life" looks like for you in the Fall of 2023. You'll be so glad that you took one day to notice these details, because our lives never look the same from one year to the next.  GET GRAPHICS, SIGN UP FOR REMINDER EMAILS, and LEARN MORE HERE Follow me on Instagram @laura.tremaine to see my day! Can't wait to share my day and see yours on Wednesday, November 8, 2023.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode is for anyone walking through grief or for those wanting to support a loved one who is grieving.  The world is especially heavy right now. From global events and also from a season of what feels like unending loss and pain. In this episode, guest Christy Knutson joins us to share 10 things that will help us to keep in mind when we're grieving or anticipating loss.  Christy Knutson is the co-founder of NEAR, a website on a mission to improve the way we care and connect during times of serious illness or grief. CLICK HERE for the special resource for 10 Things To Tell You listeners Learn more about NEAR here Follow NEAR on IG   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: The 5 Stages of Grief as described by Elizbeth Kubler Ross Finding Meaning: The 6th Stage of Grief by David Kessler   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jamie Golden is back!  This week I'm welcoming one of my favorite people (and favorite guests) back to 10 Things To Tell You to talk about our shared obsession: skincare and makeup.  FOLLOW @JAMIEBGOLDEN ON IG On this episode, my fellow obsessive Jamie and I share our current (and all-time) favorite skincare and beauty products. No need to write everything down - links to everything we discuss will be in the show notes for you to bookmark and reference for the future.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE GET THE EXTENDED EPISODE ON SECRET STUFF   More about Jamie: The Popcast with Knox & Jamie Faith Adjacent podcast  Jamie's new substack B. Golden Episode 14: Skincare and Makeup Favorites with Jamie Golden (April 30, 2019) Episode 105: Needles, Lasers, and Fillers in Your Face (Jamie Golden RETURNS!) (Feb 23, 2021) Episode 51: Masterminds: How To Create and Structure A Business Peer Group (Feb 4, 2020) Episode 164: Are We Friends or Not? (March 7, 2023)   SPONSORS: Check out the What Came Next podcast with Amy B. Chesler Sign up for the SECRET POSTS email newsletter Learn more about #OneDayHH   *Affiliate links included here. Sephora's Beauty Event Sale starts October 27   Jamie's Beauty Obsessions: Paula’s Choice Skin Perfecting 2% BHA Liquid Exfoliant  Herbivore Phoenix Rosehip Anti-Aging Facial Oil  Charlotte Tilbury’s Magic Cream Moisturizer  Haus Labs by Lady Gaga Triclone Concealer Kosas Brow Pop Nano Feathering Eyebrow Pencil  Gucci Sun-Kissed Glow Bronzer  Crown Affair The Hair Towel   Laura's Beauty Obsessions: Dr. Gross Alpha Beta Peel pads  Living Libations Best Skin Ever Oil  Sunday Riley Power Couple  Cle de peu concealer  L'oreal Voluminous Curved Brush Mascara  Milk Makeup Lip and Cheek cream blush stick (in Rally)  Pat McGrath Trance Lipstick (in Full Panic)    FULL LIST OF EVERYTHING DISCUSSED CAN BE FOUND HERE   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Where a 40-something aunt (me) chats with her 20-something niece (Alex) about what we're reading, where we get our book recommendations, and how the algorithm affects both of these things.  I often find my 24-year-old niece reading on the couch in our shared home. Sometimes she's pulled something off my bookshelves, but more often she's in her own world of reading, influenced by her age, tastes, and, of course, TikTok.  In this episode, Alex and I talk about the differences in what her generation is reading (and why) and mine. Then we share the best books we've both read lately.  I loved talking with her officially on microphone because it reminded me that there is always so much to learn from other generations. (And because I always love to talk about reading.) FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Wattpad Chloe In Letters  Ep. 187 Book Bans: 5 Things A Librarian Wants You To Know Currently Reading Podcast  Series of Unfortunate Events series by Lemony Snicket  Harry Potter series by J.K. Rowling  Twilight series by Stephenie Meyer  The Glass Menagerie by Tennessee Williams  The Pearl by John Steinbeck  A Court of Thorns and Roses series by Sarah J. Maas  A Certain Hunger by Chelsea G. Summers  Bunny by Mona Awad  The Corrections by Jonathan Franzen  Less by Andrew Sean Greer  The Need by Helen Phillips  The Nothing Man by Catherine Ryan Howard  56 Days by Catherine Ryan Howard  Billy Summers by Stephen King    JOIN SECRET STUFF FOR MONTHLY READING ROUNDUPS   Alex's Best Books Lately: The Secret History by Donna Tartt  Cannery Row by John Steinbeck  Euphoria by Lily King  Pet Sematary by Stephen King    Laura's Best Books Lately: How To Stay Married: The Most Insane Love Story Ever Told by Harrison Scott Key Happiness Falls by Angie Kim  The Trap by Catherine Ryan Howard  The Great Work of Your Life by Steven Cope    SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month Lume // Go to LumePodcast.com and use code YOU for 40% off your starter pack   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode is for anyone who struggles with outside influences they can't shake.  I thought when I turned 40 that I had turned a corner in my personal developement, that the shift into caring less about other people's opinions would also mean that my inner critic would pipe down.  But here I am, a few years down the road, and the voices from my past live rent-free in my head and their chatter can affect my confidence and my choices.  In this episode, I'm talking about the five types of voices that rattle around in our heads and how we can identify them and turn down their volume.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   SPONSORS: HelloFresh // Go To HelloFresh.com/50YOU and use code 50YOU for 50% off plus free shipping   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.