Amy Keller Laird is the founder of Mental, the first mental health lifestyle platform for women. Previously, she was the Global Editor-in-Chief of Women’s Health and Beauty Director of Allure. Amy is a thought leader in wellness, mental health, and beauty, having appeared as an expert on Today, Good Morning America, The Doctors, and Entertainment Tonight. She has OCD, and has been named a Friend of NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) for her journalistic work in mental health. In our conversation, Amy shares 10 Things she wants you to know about mental health in this moment, including tools that can help you and thoughts on destigmatizing the way women talk about living with mental health struggles.  Learn more about Amy Keller Laird  Check out the MENTAL website   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Calm Strips Fired over zoom: what to do next 6 Reasons you might want to reconsider ADHD Is it ADHD? Or bipolar? Could it be both? How to find your best weighted blanket Poet Brianna Pastor Use Astrology to boost your mental health   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As we near the 200th episode of 10 Things To Tell You, we're using this summer to pull a few episodes out of the archives from the first year of the show.  This episode and this concept is brought to you by an old boyfriend, who (I think?) made up this analogy and it contributed to the end of our relationship and also has stayed with me as a major life question and metaphor. FILL OUT THE PODCAST LISTENER SURVEY NOW!   MENTIONED in this episode: Netflix docuseries REMASTERED: Devil and the Crossroads   SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

June is my birthday month, and every year I create a personal episode for the occasion. This year, instead of waxing nostaligic or sharing what I've learned in the last year, I'm taking us on a journey.  Of metaphors.  I'm sharing four metaphors that feel especially apt for life right now: One Point (clap clap) At A Time There are years where you wander and years when you're on the road Accelerate through the turn You are not lost   I hope you take something from this episode that helps you on your path.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Ep 174: 3 Things I've Learned While Working with a Business Coach  Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston JOIN SECRET STUFF for an exclusive invite to the Secret Stuff Summit     SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Instead of waiting for the end of the year to talk about our favorite books, my real life book club members Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith and I decided we should have a mid-year meeting to discuss some of the great things we've read in this first half of 2023.  We talk about the best novels, memoirs, personal growth, and general nonfiction books that stand out, and even share some of the personal things going on in our lives that have affected our reading habits lately.  We also unintentionally talk a lot about Hollywood in this episode - where the three of us all live and work - discussing the writer's strike and multiple celebrity memoirs.  JOIN SECRET STUFF NOW FOR BONUS CONTENT Of course, we talked for hours. And there was still more we had to say. Check out the Secret Stuff bonus episode for even more book talk, including the books that haven't worked for us this year.    FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   LAURA’S FAVORITES: We All Want Impossible Things by Catherine Newman The Perfectionist’s Guide To Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler Spare by Prince Harry Beloved by Toni Morrison I Have Some Questions for You by Rebecca Makkai  Romantic Comedy by Curtis Sittenfeld   STEPHANIE’S FAVORITES: Maame by Jessica George Burn It Down by Maureen Ryan Pineapple Street by Jenny Jackson   YASMIN’S FAVORITES: Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing by Matthew Perry The Shards by Bret Easton Ellis  Everybody Knows by Jordan Harper You Could Make This Place Beautiful by Maggie Smith   OTHER BOOKS MENTIONED in this episode: Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close by Jonathan Safran Foer The Tender Bar by J.R. Moehringer (Prince Harry’s ghost writer) I’m Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy Educated by Tara Westover The Glass Castle by Jeannette Walls Americanah by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie Demon Copperhead by Barbara Kingsolver The Great Believers by Rebecca Makkai  Tomorrow and Tomorrow and Tomorrow by Gabrielle Zevin  Tales from the Boom Boom Room by Susan Antilla  Glamarama by Bret Easton Ellis Less Than Zero by Bret Easton Ellis Prep by Curtis Sittenfeld American Wife by Curtis Sittenfeld You Think It, I’ll Say It by Curtis Sittenfeld Into Thin Air by Jon Krakauer  Hello Beautiful by Ann Napolitano    SPONSORS: Lume // Go to LumeDeodorant.com and use code YOU for 40% off your starter pack HelloFresh // Go to HelloFresh.com/YOU16 and use code YOU16 for 16 free meals and free shipping Betterhelp // Go to BetterHelp.com and use code YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am coming off of an intense season where the work-life balance scale was tipped firmly in the work direction. I know the ebb and flow of this equation and I have come to understand that sometimes imbalance is exactly what is needed while tending to something important. But none of us want to feel out of balance for long. This is why I loved chatting with my guest Tina Wells, author of the new book The Elevation Approach. Tina has had an entrepreneurial journey like no other and in the book she redefines this idea of work-life balance by introducing the concept of work life harmony. In this conversation we talk about the difference between balance and harmony as it relates to our very full lives. She shares her elevation approach, the routines and rituals that have helped her as she works towards harmony, and how this can affect your relationships on this journey. Tina Wells is a business strategist, advisor, author, and the founder of RLVNT Media. Tina is also the author of 16 books, including the best-selling tween fiction series Mackenzie Blue and its 2020 award-winning spinoff series, The Zee Files. Her new book, The Elevation Approach, is out now. Learn more about Tina Wells Follow Tina Wells on Instagram Find her Elevation line at Target   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Elizabeth Passarella and I have a lot in common: we're both authors, and mothers, and both moved from small, southern cultures to big cities to become writers. I spent my twenties working in reality tv while she spent the same time period as an editor at the top beauty magazines.  And then, having never met but with many mutal friends and chasing similar literary dreams, we released both of our books just weeks away from one another - first in 2021 and then this spring of 2023. On such familiar paths but on opposite coasts, it felt like the most natural thing in the world to finally record a conversation together.  Elizabeth Passarella is a contributing editor for Southern Living and former editor at Real Simple and Vogue. She has spent more than 20 years writing about food, travel, home design, and parenting in a variety of magazines. She is the author of two books, Good Apple: Tales of an Southern Evangelical in New York and her latest It Was an Ugly Couch Anyway: and Other Thoughts On Moving Forward. She grew up in Memphis, Tennessee, and currently lives in New York City with her husband and three children. Elizabeth and I talk about her experience  moving from the south to New York City, what happened when she bought an apartment in her building that belonged to a hoarder, and the ways she is able to write so honestly about her family. I truly enjoy Elizabeth and her writing and I know you will love this conversation too. Learn more about Elizabeth Passarella Follow Elizabeth on Instagram   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   SPONSORS: Zocdoc // Go to Zocdoc.com/YOU to download the Zocdoc app for free   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you have a signature style? Do you want to have one? I have a few signature styles, things that I feel good in, looks that I'm known for, a style of expressing on the outside how I feel on the inside: bold lipstick, head scarves, and sweatshirts. These things anchor my favorite outfits.  JOIN SECRET STUFF FOR THE JUNE STYLE SYMPOSIUM In this episode, I'm taking away some of the myths of signature styles. They don't have to be forever choices. They don't have to be considered classic. They don't even have to be flattering. (Yes, really!)  Then I share three steps for finding your own signature style. (Hint: you start in your own closet.) FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Ep 42: Have you lost your style? (a conversation with Amber Haines) Ep 134: 10 Tips to Wardrobe Confidence (with Alison Lumbatis) Ep 123: How to feel pretty when you don’t  The Life Council Secret Tapes   SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU to get 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When I sat down to write The Mentor chapter of The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I thought I was going to reveal that The Mentor was the seat that has remained empty on my own life council.  But as I wrote, I realized that I have had mentors along the way, women who have lit the path the ahead of me and shown me who I wanted to be. Chief among those is my friend Cyndi Finkle - a woman who so greatly influenced me when I moved to Los Angeles that I can trace so many of my decisions to her and her example. GET THE SECRET TAPES NOW When Cyndi and I sat down to record this conversation for the Secret Tapes series, we had barely seen each other in nearly ten years, even though we live within miles of one another. It was a chance for me to tell her how much she meant to me during the most important year of my life, and to hear her side of what it felt like to take a 22-year-old sorority girl fresh out of Oklahoma under her wing. This conversation is part of my SECRET TAPE series - 10 episodes of conversations with some of the people I write about in The Life Council. The Secret Tapes were created as a preorder bonus for those who purchased The Life Council ahead of its release date, but I am opening the series back up for a limited time for those who only discovered The Life Council after it was published. GET THE SECRET TAPES NOW When you sign up for The Secret Tapes, it will put you on my email list called The Secret Posts. You can unsubscribe at any time.    FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE     SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The third annual STEPHEN KING SUMMER starts June 1!  This year we're reading two books and watching two movies together.  We'll kick off STEPHEN KING SUMMER with a movie watchalong of The Shining on Sunday, June 4 and throughout June & July we'll be reading THE STAND.  Later in the summer we'll do a movie watchalong of The Dead Zone, and in August we'll be reading King's nonfiction work ON WRITING: A memoir of the craft.  JOIN STEPHEN KING SUMMER NOW Stephen King Summer is part of my Secret Stuff Patreon membership community that offers special programs a few times a year like this one. Secret Stuff is $7/month and Stephen King Summer runs June - August. Your total would be $21 (charged monthly). When you join Secret Stuff to participate in Stephen King Summer, you also get all the other Secret Stuff goodies like personal episodes, general reading roundups, and more.  All of the Stephen King Summer meetings will take place over zoom, and the book club discussions will be recorded and turned into podcast episodes so you can listen on the go if you can't make it LIVE.  CLICK HERE for more FAQs about STEPHEN KING SUMMER Nervous to dive in to Stephen King? Things are always less scary when we do them together! Listen to EP 121: Stephen King Starter Kit for more info on why I love this author and why I want you to read him Buy STEPHEN KING SUMMER merch HERE Hope to see you this summer for the third annual STEPHEN KING SUMMER!   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Over the last few months of talking about the many layers to adult friendship as I promote my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I've received so many questions about friendship conflict and how to navigate it with grace or end a friendship with love.  I've answered these questions to the best of my ability with my own life experience, but I also know when it's time to call in a certified expert. Danielle Bayard Jackson is a female friendship coach and educator who speaks nationally about the science of women’s platonic connections. Her coaching business, Friend Forward, is dedicated to teaching women how to create and maintain better female friendships. In this episode, Danielle gives us actual scripts for how to start those hard conversations with friends. I hung onto every word.  We all have friendship conflict sometimes and get tongue-tied or scared when we need to say the hard thing. These tips and thoughts from Danielle will give you concrete take aways for your next ackward yet necessary conversation.  Learn more about Danielle Follow Danielle on IG Listen to the Friend Forward podcast   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Laura's episode of the Friend Forward podcast Secret Stuff patreon (with bonus content from this conversation)   SPONSORS: Hello Fresh // Go to HelloFresh.com/YOU16 and use code YOU16 for 16 free meals plus free shipping Lume // Go to LumeDeodorant.com and use promo code YOU to save 40% off a starter pack   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices