The 11th annual #OneDayHH social media challenge will be Wednesday, November 8! This is the ONE DAY of the year we dedicate to documenting what our lives look like right now, hour by hour. In this short episode, I'm sharing more about what #OneDayHH is, what makes it so special, and why you should participate.  #OneDayHH takes place on Instagram, and you're welcome to share in stories, reels, the main feed, or whatever feels comfortable for you. The point is to share what "a day in the life" looks like for you in the Fall of 2023. You'll be so glad that you took one day to notice these details, because our lives never look the same from one year to the next.  GET GRAPHICS, SIGN UP FOR REMINDER EMAILS, and LEARN MORE HERE Follow me on Instagram @laura.tremaine to see my day! Can't wait to share my day and see yours on Wednesday, November 8, 2023.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for anyone walking through grief or for those wanting to support a loved one who is grieving.  The world is especially heavy right now. From global events and also from a season of what feels like unending loss and pain. In this episode, guest Christy Knutson joins us to share 10 things that will help us to keep in mind when we're grieving or anticipating loss.  Christy Knutson is the co-founder of NEAR, a website on a mission to improve the way we care and connect during times of serious illness or grief. CLICK HERE for the special resource for 10 Things To Tell You listeners Learn more about NEAR here Follow NEAR on IG   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: The 5 Stages of Grief as described by Elizbeth Kubler Ross Finding Meaning: The 6th Stage of Grief by David Kessler   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jamie Golden is back!  This week I'm welcoming one of my favorite people (and favorite guests) back to 10 Things To Tell You to talk about our shared obsession: skincare and makeup.  FOLLOW @JAMIEBGOLDEN ON IG On this episode, my fellow obsessive Jamie and I share our current (and all-time) favorite skincare and beauty products. No need to write everything down - links to everything we discuss will be in the show notes for you to bookmark and reference for the future.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE GET THE EXTENDED EPISODE ON SECRET STUFF   More about Jamie: The Popcast with Knox & Jamie Faith Adjacent podcast  Jamie's new substack B. Golden Episode 14: Skincare and Makeup Favorites with Jamie Golden (April 30, 2019) Episode 105: Needles, Lasers, and Fillers in Your Face (Jamie Golden RETURNS!) (Feb 23, 2021) Episode 51: Masterminds: How To Create and Structure A Business Peer Group (Feb 4, 2020) Episode 164: Are We Friends or Not? (March 7, 2023)   SPONSORS: Check out the What Came Next podcast with Amy B. Chesler Sign up for the SECRET POSTS email newsletter Learn more about #OneDayHH   *Affiliate links included here. Sephora's Beauty Event Sale starts October 27   Jamie's Beauty Obsessions: Paula’s Choice Skin Perfecting 2% BHA Liquid Exfoliant  Herbivore Phoenix Rosehip Anti-Aging Facial Oil  Charlotte Tilbury’s Magic Cream Moisturizer  Haus Labs by Lady Gaga Triclone Concealer Kosas Brow Pop Nano Feathering Eyebrow Pencil  Gucci Sun-Kissed Glow Bronzer  Crown Affair The Hair Towel   Laura's Beauty Obsessions: Dr. Gross Alpha Beta Peel pads  Living Libations Best Skin Ever Oil  Sunday Riley Power Couple  Cle de peu concealer  L'oreal Voluminous Curved Brush Mascara  Milk Makeup Lip and Cheek cream blush stick (in Rally)  Pat McGrath Trance Lipstick (in Full Panic)    FULL LIST OF EVERYTHING DISCUSSED CAN BE FOUND HERE   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Where a 40-something aunt (me) chats with her 20-something niece (Alex) about what we're reading, where we get our book recommendations, and how the algorithm affects both of these things.  I often find my 24-year-old niece reading on the couch in our shared home. Sometimes she's pulled something off my bookshelves, but more often she's in her own world of reading, influenced by her age, tastes, and, of course, TikTok.  In this episode, Alex and I talk about the differences in what her generation is reading (and why) and mine. Then we share the best books we've both read lately.  I loved talking with her officially on microphone because it reminded me that there is always so much to learn from other generations. (And because I always love to talk about reading.) FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Wattpad Chloe In Letters  Ep. 187 Book Bans: 5 Things A Librarian Wants You To Know Currently Reading Podcast  Series of Unfortunate Events series by Lemony Snicket  Harry Potter series by J.K. Rowling  Twilight series by Stephenie Meyer  The Glass Menagerie by Tennessee Williams  The Pearl by John Steinbeck  A Court of Thorns and Roses series by Sarah J. Maas  A Certain Hunger by Chelsea G. Summers  Bunny by Mona Awad  The Corrections by Jonathan Franzen  Less by Andrew Sean Greer  The Need by Helen Phillips  The Nothing Man by Catherine Ryan Howard  56 Days by Catherine Ryan Howard  Billy Summers by Stephen King    JOIN SECRET STUFF FOR MONTHLY READING ROUNDUPS   Alex's Best Books Lately: The Secret History by Donna Tartt  Cannery Row by John Steinbeck  Euphoria by Lily King  Pet Sematary by Stephen King    Laura's Best Books Lately: How To Stay Married: The Most Insane Love Story Ever Told by Harrison Scott Key Happiness Falls by Angie Kim  The Trap by Catherine Ryan Howard  The Great Work of Your Life by Steven Cope    SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month Lume // Go to LumePodcast.com and use code YOU for 40% off your starter pack   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for anyone who struggles with outside influences they can't shake.  I thought when I turned 40 that I had turned a corner in my personal developement, that the shift into caring less about other people's opinions would also mean that my inner critic would pipe down.  But here I am, a few years down the road, and the voices from my past live rent-free in my head and their chatter can affect my confidence and my choices.  In this episode, I'm talking about the five types of voices that rattle around in our heads and how we can identify them and turn down their volume.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   SPONSORS: HelloFresh // Go To HelloFresh.com/50YOU and use code 50YOU for 50% off plus free shipping   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for anyone who cares about tv and movies.  I have 10 things to tell you about the historic Hollywood strikes of 2023. The Writers Guild of America and the Screen Actors Guild have been fighting for wage increases, protection against artificial intelligence, and more. Think it doesn't affect you? Think again! Here are the 10 Things I talk through in this episode: What are the basics of the strike? What is the history here? What exactly do Hollywood writers do? How do they get paid? So why are they striking?  (And what does striking mean? Can they not work at all?) What does mandatory staffing mean? What is the AI threat? Some notable things that happened during this strike.  What was finally negotiated?  How does this all affect the viewer? I want this show to be about connection, conversation, and sharing our stuff. The Hollywood strikes are something our family cares about, so I'm sharing it here with you.  If this episode teaches you something, please share it on social media or with a friend.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Secret Stuff Episode with Jill Killington Smartest Person in the Room: Hollywood Series Deadline Hollywood Fran Drescher speech   SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for moms who are drowning in this season. After years of rarely talking about parenthood on this show, this topic suddenly continues to find me. I'm not sure if this because of my kids' ages (11 & 13) or just the season I'm in, but motherhood is something I want to talk about more now than I did when the kids were young.  My guest today is Dr. Morgan Cutlip, a highly sought after relationship expert, who has helped hundreds of thousands of people worldwide learn how to form and maintain healthy relationships. Dr. Morgan has been a featured relationship expert with Good Morning America, Teen Vogue, and The New York Times. Her new book, Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself, is out now. Dr. Morgan and I talk about motherhood as an identity and the mental load of parenting that so often falls more heavily on women. We also discuss how that affects our mood, our partnerships and sex drive. I even share a real life example of this dynamic happening in my home right now. If you've been carrying the mental load in your family, I hope this conversation resonates with you and that you'll know you're not alone.  LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. MORGAN CUTLIP HERE FOLLOW DR. MORGAN CUTLIP ON IG HERE BUY LOVE YOUR KIDS WITHOUT LOSING YOURSELF    FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Come As You Are by Emily Nagowski Dr. Cutlip's free guide to talking to your partner about mental load     SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The episode is for anyone looking for an insider perspective on the rise of book bans in America. My life’s greatest passion is reading. Books are my lifeblood. And so you will not be surprised that I have been greatly alarmed by the rise of book bans in America in the last few years. The idea of banning books is so archaic to me, so outdated, so harmful, it’s as if we have learned NOTHING from history. My guest is writer and librarian Emily Jones. As a former teacher and current librarian in Arkansas, Emily shares her perspective on the fear and concern around certain books that are available in these public spaces.  FOLLOW EMILY on IG FOLLOW EMILY on TIKTOK SIGN UP FOR THE 7-DAY FREE TRIAL of SECRET STUFF FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: The Origin of the Species by Charles Darwin Leaves of Grass by Walt Whitman The Handmaid’s Tale by Margaret Atwood How To Be An AntiRacist by Ibram X. Kendi It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex and Sexual Health by Robie Harris This Book is Gay by Juno Dawson Thirteen Reasons Why by Jay Asher The Hate U Give by Angie Thomas The Bluest Eye by Toni Morrison Starring Sally J. Freedman as Herself by Judy Blume The Big Bath House by Kyo Maclear  Episode 183: 5 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Was Learning To Cook (with Bri McKoy) Episode 181: Favorite Things (Right Now) Summer 2023    SPONSORS: Lume // Go to LumePodcast.com and use code YOU for 40% off your starter pack Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for anyone who has (or wants) a Soul Sister.  In my book about friendship THE LIFE COUNCIL: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I write about my freshman college roommate and longtime LA roommate Lindsay Lawler. In the book, and in my life, Lindsay occupies the seat on my my life council that I call the SOUL SISTER. And in this conversation you’re going to see why. We have been connected spiritually and logistically and our lives have been intertwined since we were 18 years old. In this episode, Lindsay and I talk about living in the dorms together, living in the Hollywood hills together, the ways we (accidentally) broke one another's hearts, and the ways we light each other up. Our bond and this conversation is a special one.   But the BIG reason I wanted to share this Secret Tapes conversation with Lindsay with you right now is that Lindsay is a singer and songwriter based in nashville and her latest album comes out this week! It’s called Peaches Holyoke and the first single Trying To Get Back To Texas is available on all streaming platforms now.  This is Lindsay’s first full length album in 8 years, it features 13 tracks, and you might also hear that new single Trying To Get Back To Texas spinning on OUTLAW COUNTRY on Sirius XM Channel 62.  I love Lindsay, I love her music, and after listening to this excerpt of our Secret Tapes conversation about our deep friendship for over 25 years, i think you will love her too.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Ep 28: Motherhood Through Adoption with Lindsay Lawler Ep 164: Are We Friends Or Not? (A Secret Tapes Conversation with Business Besties Kendra Adachi, Jamie Golden, and Bri McKoy) Ep 176: The Mentor (A Secret Tapes Conversation with Cyndi Finkle)    SPONSORS: HelloFresh // Go to HelloFresh.com/50YOU for 50% off plus 15% off the next two months   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for anyone interested in how the podcast sausage gets made. We're doing something a little different in this episode. I'm analyzing the results of this summer's podcast listener survey, where more than 1,000 people gave their feedback on 10 Things To Tell You. Listeners shared their favorite (and least favorite) episodes of the show, and suggested topics and guests for the future.  I wanted to talk these results through with you because I value your feedback and want to involve you in the bigger picture of what we're creating here. I love making 10 Things To Tell You for you, and I also want to continue to make it helpful and entertaining.  I'm also sharing some of my personal thoughts on the state of the podcasting industry right now, and as a listener, you're part of that industry. So I'm giving a little peek behind the curtain of what's happening from the creator side, based on my own experience and from conversations with many of my podcast friends.    FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Sorta Awesome podcast Smartest Person in the Room podcast Are you a chili cooker or a pizza orderer? Who do you see in the picture? 10 Ways To Feel Better Pay Attention To What You Skip Intentions, Affirmations, and Vision Boards, Oh My! Sign up to get weekly episode emails JOIN SECRET STUFF   SPONSOR: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices