The EVRYMAN Podcast

“If boys do not learn to read by the third grade, their whole future is an upward battle.” This week’s guest is children’s author Robert Gould. Robert is lit up by getting our boys engaged in reading. As a boy he learned to link reading with love while sitting on his grandfather’s lap being read to. Recognizing the vitality and visual nature of young boys, he set out to create content that would engage young men, and to give them books they actually wanted to read.   In this episode:   Why Boys are not reading Why its crucial that men read to their sons Engaging boys with books they actually want to read The visual nature of young men Camouflage, toxic masculinity and political correctness The need for male teachers   https://greatbooksforboys.com/

“This journey of trying to figure out what it means to be a man in a home where your the man of the house. I’m the oldest male, and all of these responsibilities are put on my back, to help raise my sisters and brothers. At seven years old my uncle said “your the man of the house” and I’m like “I don’t want that job, can I go back to my big-wheel?” This week’s guest is Ashanti Branch. We became aware of Ashanti's powerful heart in the film The Mask You Live In. He was born and raised by a single mother in Oakland, California. After finding success as a civil engineer, he found a deeper calling as a teacher. He found the “fire” that was missing in his life and hoped to ignite a similar enthusiasm in his young students. He went on to create the Ever Forward Club, a mentoring initiative aimed to help underserved and at-risk young men of colour.   In this episode: The power of a good teacher Opening up to move forward Giving young men space to recognize their human emotions The damage done by archaic school design Knowing your own mask Why do we wait to teach fundamental human skills until shit hits the fan http://therepresentationproject.org/film/the-mask-you-live-in-film/ https://everforwardclub.org/

Imagining a future where women and men are able to slow down and reunite in mutual trust, love, and respect--this episode shares that underneath all of the cultural noise, men and women are missing each other. What if men and women stood arm in arm, far beyond the scope of being allies, to turn together toward the biggest problems at work, at home, and culture-wide?  Cherie works with leaders in tech and entertainment to help them create workplaces that solve the world's biggest problems. She does it by elevating their skills in mind and heart so they can become the leaders of the Imagination Age, tap limitless creativity and innovation and inspire a new way to work. She's worked with orgs such as Google, X, Genentech, Apple, Nike, and many more. Cherie and Dan / Evryman are collaborating on events and trainings together, bringing wisdom from men and women together for the betterment of all. You can find out more about Cherie's work at: http://cheriehealey.com

‘When I enter these spaces where we are doing mens work, I find that I’m usually the only man of color. And I’m usually the only openly gay man.’ On this week’s episode Dan sits down with Evryman team member Mike Sagun. Mike is the co-founder of The Unshakable Man, an organization focused on men’s total health & wellness: success, purpose, and fulfillment. Mike is also a queer man of color. Evryman stands for ‘Every-man’ yet we acknowledge the reality that more can be done to grow into a more diverse movement. Dan and Mike slow down, connect and feel into what it means to truly belong. In this episode: Reckoning with self-hatred Moving out of cultural bubbles Owning your truth The power of diverse perspectives Feeling safe enough to ask for what you need www.mikesagun.com IG: @mike.sagun www.unshakableman.me IG: @theunshakableman

“If you open up and actually be yourself, your not only going to be accepted and seen. It’s going to power you through all of the tough shit your going through. It’s going to power you towards the things you actually want and who you actually are.” On this week’s episode host Dan Doty leans into an old part of himself and plays a recording of a song he wrote about loneliness. We then jump into an interview with Evryman’s Owen Marcus to discuss how NOT to be lonely. I’ll give you a hint: it starts by taking a risk and being vulnerable. In this episode:   Can you be artistic and creative if you are full of connection Going it alone Connecting to your own experience The impact of vulnerability How to reach out and connect Braving the discomfort of being you True connection comes from being connected to yourself first   Link to: Brene Brown, On Being Podcast   http://bit.ly/2F3SS0f

“You can use philosophy to stop feeling but that’s a heavy burden.”  This week’s conversation is with Daniel Stillman, who actually designs conversations for a living. Daniel is brother to Matt Stillman, a long time friend of Dan's and a previous guest on the show. Daniel and Dan were united by chance at an Evryman Open Source retreat a year ago. Daniel is an independent design facilitator and coach, he works with teams and organizations to frame and sustain productive and collaborative conversations. He’s worked with clients of all shapes and sizes on product, service and organizational innovation. He hosts The Conversation Factory podcast and is the author of the upcoming book, “How Conversations Work” a handbook for change makers and innovators.   In this episode:   Having an open and connected conversation with fathers The endless masturbation of the mind Reading to learn vs reading to feel Recognizing the chapters of life The importance of every man having his own experience Conversation theory Slowing down to speed up To be frank or diplomatic? Showing up as a facilitator   http://theconversationfactory.com/ 

“Sometimes there is just shit you can’t talk about. Our bodies are literally trying to protect us. When you’ve had some traumatic experience and you don’t know how to talk about it, breathwork can move you through some heavy shit so you can feel lighter on the other side.” This week’s conversation is with Dr. Cory Ostroot, a Naturopath and founder of The Healing Couple. As a young boy Cory watched his  mother’s health decline dramatically. While being treated in the traditional health system her condition worsened. Cory became skeptical of the current health system and when a Naturopathic doctor returned his mother to health, he found a calling and pursued alternative medicine. Dr. Ostroot and his partner Jessica also lead breathwork courses with the intension of taking people deeper into themselves to find stillness, confidence and clarity.   In this episode: Using breathwork to heal The art of letting go Plant medicine Stem cell therapy 3 prescriptions for men: Have a practice, use an activated/B complex vitamin, do breathwork   https://www.thehealingcouple.com/ https://www.nourishmedicalcenter.com/providers-and-staff/dr-cory-ostroot

“Feel what you’re feeling. Feel it all the way. And speak from your experience.” On this episode Dan checks in with Aaron Blaine and the men who participated in the first Evryman Veteran’s Integration Expedition. The expedition was a coming together of Veterans and civilians in the wilds of Yellowstone National Park, with the goal of developing a true, deep and honest experience of one another.   In this episode:  Men from different walks of life coming together Creating openness while in conflict True leadership Speaking up for what you’re feeling in the moment From “holy shit, we are different,” to a true bond Traumatic brain injuries in the military and in sport Conflict as a doorway to connection   https://evryman.com/intro-expedition/

On this week’s episode we are asking the question: If you had to describe what it means to be a man in one word, what would it be? Our guest this week, Timothy Wenger is a Photographer/Blogger who created the digital project The Man Effect. Timothy travelled around asking men to sum up what it means to be a man in one word and documented the results.  “There is this desire and need in every man to have someone care about them and to give them input because every man is terrified by the things they are facing.”   In this conversation:   The limits of what our fathers can teach us The role of mentors in shaping men How true mentors show up Our fear of being explicit, direct and open in life and in relationships with men The challenge of the term Masculinity Macho-jerks, spineless-wimps and the ground in between   http://themaneffect.com/

“How old do you have to be before you give yourself permission to be who you fully are? Not who you’ve been told you are, but who you really are.” This week’s guest Herb Stevenson is an author, management consultant and executive coach with over twenty years of experience. Herb runs a twice monthly men's circle, plus a year long Natural Passages program. “Much of who men are is often closed-off at an early age. Natural Passages creates a safe container for each men's journey back to his full self.” In this conversation: The challenge of getting close to our fathers. “Most fathers want a relationship with their sons, but don’t know how the hell to do it.” Shifting parental relationships from Child-Adult to Adult-Adult by being direct and clear about what you want. How to answer the most important question: What do I really want? Gaining a sense of self through being in nature. Seeking a challenge? Try the father/son hand-holding challenge! http://www.linkedin.com/in/herb-stevenson-2043455 http://clevelandconsultinggroup.com http://natural-passages.com http://clevelandconsultinggroupgov.com