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Relationship expert Dr. Marie Murphy discusses the best approaches to a breakup - breadcrumbs vs bombshells. She covers topics such as handling breakups with empathy and respect, navigating breakups with care and clarity, embracing ordinary tragedies, and navigating breakups with kindness and clarity.

Dr. Marie Murphy, a psychologist, discusses how humans tend to stall making decisions under the guise of considering their options in infidelity situations. She explores why people have trouble deciding what they want and offers insights on how to become more decisive in decision-making.

Exploring the complexities of decision-making in relationships, debunking the notion of recklessness and emphasizing the importance of personal fulfillment. Challenging societal biases and encouraging introspection to make informed choices amid uncertainty.

Why does cheating on your fiancé present a particularly complex situation? Of course, not everybody puts marriage and monogamy together, but if you’re formally planning to marry someone and you’re engaging in some sexual or romantic behavior that your fiancé wouldn’t be happy to find out about, today’s episode is for you.   Discover the obvious and subtle reasons why cheating on your fiancé presents a stressful situation, how the pressure to get married can prevent you from making a decision you actually feel good about, and Dr. Marie Murphy is sharing her advice on how to decide what you really want out of your relationships.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/160

When you can break down your infidelity situation into individual worries, questions, hopes, decisions, and actions, you can start deciding what you want to do one piece at a time. However, when you’re in an agitated state, breaking your experience down becomes incredibly challenging.   Discover why you can’t eat the elephant that is your infidelity situation in one bite. Dr. Marie Murphy is showing you how to consider breaking your complicated infidelity situation down into manageable chunks and sharing how to start making decisions about your infidelity systematically, one step at a time.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/159

This week’s episode is all about learning how to forgive yourself when you fall short of your own expectations, and forgiving others when things don’t work out the way you’d hoped or expected. Forgiveness in this form is powerful, especially when negotiating an infidelity situation. However, there are some nuances you need to be clear about before you start forgiving yourself or anyone else in your life.   Dr. Marie Murphy is discussing why believing you should be forgiving can make you even more resentful, and showing you how to decide to forgive yourself or someone else for the best possible reasons or decide that forgiveness isn’t necessary.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/158

If you’re in the midst of an infidelity situation, there are plenty of opportunities for you to think of yourself as an asshole. Humans tend to be terrified of the idea that other people won’t like them, but they’re particularly terrified that the people they love might think they’re a total asshole. However, have you ever stopped and considered the possibility that you might be an asshole?   Dr. Marie Murphy is unpacking the idea that just because someone else thinks you’re an asshole, that doesn’t mean you are an asshole. She’s also discussing the problem of trying to actively avoid anyone taking issue with your behavior and how to start taking more responsibility by accepting that being an asshole at some point in your life is inevitable.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/157

This week, Marie is going in-depth on the things for which you and your affair partner need to take collective responsibility, and the things your affair partner has to take sole responsibility for themselves.   Discover the areas where you and your affair partner need to be on the same page. Learn about communication regarding what each party wants, and the significant issues that can arise from relying on rigid agreements in an affair relationship.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/156

In any relationship, affair or otherwise, there are things you and your partner can deal with together, and there are some things that you or your partner can only address as individuals. Today, you need to consider that the best thing you can do for yourself and your affair relationship is to begin to take responsibility for what’s happening on your side of the street.   Tune in this week for part one of a series all about nurturing and sustaining a long-term affair. Learn how to take responsibility for your own business in your affair relationship, and be amazed by what happens when you empower yourself to determine your desires and begin creating them, instead of merely wishing for things to be different or attempting to change the other person.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/155

It’s common for people to believe that they themselves don’t have the ultimate power to make decisions. Maybe they don’t think they have permission to choose, they shouldn’t want what they want, or they need to consider others before deciding. If this sounds familiar, it’s time to start being your own steward.   Are you assuming responsibility for what you're creating in your life and taking ownership of the decisions you've made? What does it even mean to do these things? Dr. Marie Murphy is breaking it all down this week, showing you why it's up to you how you live your life and how to consciously start being your own steward, even in areas of your life where there seem to be non-negotiable constraints.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/154