

Your Secret Is Safe With Me
Dr. Marie Murphy
Dr. Marie Murphy talks about infidelity and other challenging relationship situations from a non-judgmental perspective. She shares practical tools and advice from her own coaching practice to help you make changes in your love life, and interviews professionals with complementary expertise, such as family law attorneys, mediators, non-violent communication specialists, and more. In addition, Marie discusses the social and historical context of romantic relationships to provide perspective on our taken-for-granted assumptions about how relationships are supposed to be. To learn more, visit mariemurphyphd.com.
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Aug 10, 2023 • 56min
153. Your Questions Answered (Part 5)
How can you remain friends after an intimate affair? Why do people cheat in the first place? How might the presence of children factor into your decision-making about leaving your relationship for your affair partner? Are you worried about the financial damage of leaving your marriage for your affair partner? Dr. Marie Murphy is answering these questions and more on today’s show. Discover how to deal with other people’s opinions about your infidelity or your new relationship, how to navigate family dynamics after an infidelity-induced divorce, and how to unpack all of the factors that make decisions about your relationship even more difficult. Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/153

Aug 3, 2023 • 38min
152. Seeing Your Ex-Affair Partner in Social Settings
Dr. Marie Murphy is doing something new this week. She is explicitly calling someone out for their perspective on an infidelity-related topic in an otherwise generally entertaining newspaper column. In this case, it was an opinion about what to do if you see your ex-affair partner out in a social setting. Learn about the importance of dropping judgment when it comes to making decisions around your infidelity, as well as how to deal with the worry that you’ll lose it when you see your former affair partner. Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/152

Jul 27, 2023 • 41min
151. Your Questions Answered (Part 4)
Can you keep a long-term affair going alongside your marriage? What has to happen for this situation to work out? Do cheaters always get found out? What do you do when you decide you don’t want to cheat anymore, but you can’t seem to stop? These are just some of the questions addressed in today’s show. Discover why it’s possible to continue a long-term affair without ever getting caught. Learn how to deal with your physical desire to cheat being opposed to a decision you’ve made to stop cheating, how to have an open conversation with your partner about what you really want, along with some other useful relationship and intimacy insights you may never have considered. Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/151

Jul 20, 2023 • 40min
150. Your Questions Answered (Part 3)
If you're concerned about justifying your decision to end the relationship, being honest without being cruel, the honesty of your affair partner, or feeling trapped in conflicting emotions, this episode is for you. Discover the truth about providing compelling reasons for the choices you make. Dr. Marie Murphy is addressing questions from both sides of an infidelity situation, highlighting the problem with solely focusing on the positive aspects of a situation, and sharing how to make decisions that are genuinely right for you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/150

Jul 13, 2023 • 29min
149. Your Questions Answered (Part 2)
If you find yourself in a situation where you feel you've made mistakes in your relationship and desire to end it but worry about how others will react to your decisions, if you have concerns or doubts about your sexuality as you age, or if you're struggling with the consequences of infidelity, Marie has you covered this week. Discover how to deal with wanting to leave your relationship, why you don’t owe anyone a justification for your decisions, and how to deal with other people’s reactions. Dr. Marie Murphy is helping you get clear on what you really want for your future, and showing you how to make decisions you feel good about so you can live your life without regret. Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/149

Jul 6, 2023 • 35min
148. Your Questions Answered (Part 1)
Whether you're struggling with your thoughts and expectations of your partner, avoiding looking at your thoughts about your situation, or grappling with other people's judgments about your infidelity, Marie has you covered. Dr. Marie Murphy is discussing everything you need to know about your thoughts and feelings, what you need to consider when it comes to other people's thoughts and feelings, how it's possible to have a caring relationship with an ex-spouse, and diving into the nuances of all these topics. Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/148

Jun 29, 2023 • 30min
147. You Can’t Shame Yourself into Changing
There is an idea floating around in the cultural fog that if you tell yourself you're doing something wrong or that doing a particular thing makes you a bad person, you'll be able to change. If you're applying this kind of logic to yourself in your infidelity situation with the hopes that it will help you make a decision or change your behavior, this episode is for you. Discover why you can't shame yourself into changing. Dr. Marie Murphy is showing you how to get clear on the thoughts that have shaped your moral view of your infidelity, why your thoughts about you being a bad person because of your infidelity aren't objective truths, and how to start viewing your infidelity in a more helpful light instead. Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/147

Jun 22, 2023 • 36min
146. Loving Your Decisions
One of the biggest themes Dr. Marie Murphy's clients struggle with when they come to her for help is making decisions. If you currently believe that there are right and wrong decisions regarding your infidelity situation, this episode is for you. You have the option of lovingly committing to decisions you have made or loving decisions before you make them. Dr. Marie Murphy is showing you some strategies for making decisions that take into account what you really want, and guide you on how to love your decisions about your infidelity situation. Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/146

Jun 15, 2023 • 32min
145. Don’t Wait to Get Caught
Some people keep their infidelity situations going because they don't know what they want. They think being in this state of not knowing offers them some protection, as they haven't made the difficult decision yet. However, whether you know what you want or not, getting caught would probably be extremely unpleasant. Discover why Dr. Marie Murphy believes that while you might never get caught cheating, you probably shouldn't wait until you do before you start making decisions about what you really want from your relationships and deal with those decisions in the least stressful way possible. Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/145

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Jun 8, 2023 • 33min
144. Your One Wild and Precious Life
Dr. Marie Murphy, an expert in spiritual exploration, delves into understanding infidelity as a window to comprehend one's wild and precious life. She provides tips on viewing decisions from a spiritual perspective, encouraging listeners to embrace authenticity, joy, and self-discovery amidst challenges.