Your Secret Is Safe With Me

I believe that “difficulty” is not an absolute truth or fact but rather a matter of our thinking. In this episode, I discuss the many ways we can think differently about difficult situations. I revisit my concept of the “think, feel, act” cycle and explore how you can reshift your thinking around the idea of difficulty.   When we don’t deal with the root of the problem, we usually prolong our troubles. And to not prolong our troubles, we simply need to start facing them. Tune in for some tough coaching that's coming from a loving place and learn that the best way we can show ourselves that we can do hard things is to do hard things.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/173

Learn how to navigate the pain of missing your affair partner post-separation and find validation in your emotions. Explore the three main stages of dealing with an affair ending and honor your sense of loss. Discover the beauty in your messy moments and embrace the lessons within your heavy feelings.

Often, our infidelity situations come with extreme highs and lows. In this episode, I talk about that emotional rollercoaster and how the extreme ups and downs can feel like a really big deal. I discuss different situations where these ups and downs can occur and how handling this rollercoaster is totally doable.   You get to decide how you want to ride the rollercoaster, how long you want to stay on, and when you want to get off. Tune in to learn some simple mental shifts that can help you feel in control, sane, and okay in your infidelity situation.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/171

Holidays or not, there’s never a perfect time to break up with someone. You may have been planning to break up with your partner, but then Thanksgiving rolled around, now Christmas, and then it's New Year's…I get it, and it's okay to choose to wait. But how will you go through with your choice when the holidays are all said and done?   In this episode, I discuss how to make the most of breaking up with someone post-holiday. I teach you how to take initiative and make a clear decision, all while making the best of your choice and situation. Tune in to learn how to create a plan of action, prepare for the questions that come with a post-holiday break up, and deal with the inevitable uncomfortability.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/170

As the holidays approach, navigating family dynamics with a former affair partner can be tricky. Tips are shared on managing acceptance and fostering positive interactions during gatherings. The focus is on open communication and personal happiness, despite potential judgments. There's a reminder that not every relationship needs to be the center of attention, allowing for a more joyful celebration. Prepare for various responses and learn to play the long game in integrating your new partner into family traditions.

In this episode, I share a lengthy list of questions that you can answer to help find the gifts within your infidelity situation. It would be silly to act like you’re not getting something positive out of it, so why not acknowledge what that something is?    Answer these questions honestly, don't hold back, and don’t judge your responses. Realize that being honest with yourself is a prerequisite for living the life you want. Regardless of the situation, your infidelity may be the catalyst for your growth, and that’s something to always be thankful for. Tune in this week, and give yourself the chance to find your gifts.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/168

Breakups are an amazing opportunity to start over. You can be feeling sad, hurt, and angry, while also stepping into a new chapter of your life.   In this episode, I discuss how you can grow forward while still processing a breakup from the past. I talk about reframing the story of your breakup, how to foster new connections with yourself and others, and how to start actively cultivating joy. Choosing to begin a new chapter is a profound act of self-love. Listen in to learn how to start over after a breakup, and why you are so worth doing so.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/167

If someone you love breaks up with you, it may hurt like hell.  If a relationship that you hoped would continue comes to an end, you may be hurt, devastated, and possibly very pissed off.     And that’s totally fair and totally reasonable.  Sometimes the only possible response to being broken up with is to feel profoundly awful for a while.   In this week’s episode of “Your Secret is Safe with Me,” I talk about why it can feel like you’re dying when a relationship you’ve cherished comes to an end, and what to do if you feel that way.  In this episode I make two things clear: your pain is totally legitimate… and there are different ways of dealing with your pain.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/166

It’s reasonable to have hopes, wishes, and desires in any relationship. However, trying to coerce, cajole, or threaten your partner into getting what you want is never the solution. Whether you feel pulled to issue your infidelity partner an ultimatum, or find yourself on the receiving end of one, this episode covers both sides of the coin.   Join me this week to hear what you must recognize if you are thinking about issuing an ultimatum and how to navigate receiving an ultimatum in your affair relationship. I’m highlighting three main reasons people issue ultimatums, the subtle but key difference between ultimatums and boundaries, and why boundaries are the secret to feeling empowered, regardless of the actions your partner takes.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/165

Are you worried about cheating on your affair partner? Is that even possible? This is a real dilemma that my clients bring up, so if you can relate, you are definitely not alone.   What counts as cheating in this scenario can vary from person to person. However, there are three super common situations that my clients bring up, and I'm diving into all three this week. Tune in to explore how you may have gotten into this situation and what to do next.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/164