

Your Secret Is Safe With Me
Dr. Marie Murphy
Dr. Marie Murphy talks about infidelity and other challenging relationship situations from a non-judgmental perspective. She shares practical tools and advice from her own coaching practice to help you make changes in your love life, and interviews professionals with complementary expertise, such as family law attorneys, mediators, non-violent communication specialists, and more. In addition, Marie discusses the social and historical context of romantic relationships to provide perspective on our taken-for-granted assumptions about how relationships are supposed to be. To learn more, visit mariemurphyphd.com.
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Nov 25, 2021 • 25min
64. Infidelity and the Holidays, Part Two: Being the Other Person
Is your current infidelity situation what do you want this holiday season? How do you find significance and clarity in what you want? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, the meanings we assign to the holidays will determine our experience this season. How you think you should feel determines your behavior — and your behavior will impact the results you see in life. When you can master your thoughts and have a clear understanding of what you believe to be true, you have the power to take action. In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy discusses decluttering your mind to master your thoughts. Listen in as Dr. Murphy talks about assigning meaning to your experience during the holidays, how analyzing your partner’s actions creates clutter, and eliminating “should” from your thoughts this holiday season. Stay tuned!

Nov 18, 2021 • 28min
63. Infidelity and the Holidays, Part One
Are you feeling pressure and guilt about your infidelity situation with the upcoming holidays? How do you find a sense of relief from the thoughts clouding your mind? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, the key to clearing your mind is understanding the meaning you assign to your circumstances. We are constantly giving meaning to our lives, but it is essential to separate the facts from our stories. Dr. Murphy suggests forming the habit of examining your thoughts and beliefs in more neutral terms, so you can feel less pressure and guilt and start thinking more clearly about your situation. In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy talks about understanding the meaning you create in your life. Listen in as Dr. Murphy discusses how your thoughts generate feelings about your circumstances, the importance of distinguishing fact from fiction, and her tips for preparing for the upcoming holiday season. Stay tuned!

Nov 11, 2021 • 26min
62. Making Difficult Decisions
Does making a decision about your infidelity situation seem like an unfathomable problem? How can you make the best choice for yourself in the present moment? Understandably, many people do not want to face the consequences of their difficult choices. They tend to identify the uncomfortable emotions that come with these decisions as unfavorable — but Dr. Marie Murphy asks: what if these feelings aren’t inherently negative? If you can recognize the inevitable discomfort of these emotions, you can make decisions that better align with your desires and priorities. In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy discusses how to deal with the difficult decisions in front of you. Listen in as Dr. Murphy talks about recognizing your present discomfort, honoring and cultivating your personal growth, and efficiently moving in the direction of your desires. Stay tuned.

Nov 4, 2021 • 26min
61. Sex, Unhappiness, and Compromises in Marriage
Exploring dissatisfaction in marriage, Dr. Marie Murphy discusses the importance of identifying what is crucial in a relationship. She emphasizes reframing beliefs to achieve greater happiness and making compromises that align with personal values.

Oct 28, 2021 • 21min
60. Dealing with Other People's Feelings
How are other people’s feelings impacting your emotions and choices? What would happen if you started taking responsibility for your own feelings? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, it’s possible to take responsibility for your actions and feelings — without needing to feel responsible for other people’s emotions. The path to peace is discovering the power of your own thoughts and learning to let go of other people’s emotions. As Dr. Murphy says, no one can determine your feelings for you. It’s up to you to manage your own thoughts — and your own discomfort. Join Dr. Marie Murphy in this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me as she discusses how to deal with other people’s feelings. Listen in as Dr. Murphy explains what actually causes feelings, how to stop adverse opinions from having power over you, and some misconceptions about managing other people’s emotions. Stay tuned!

Oct 21, 2021 • 26min
59. Is the Grass Always Greener?
Dr. Marie Murphy, a relationship expert, sheds light on the often unspoken challenges of marriage. She discusses how societal pressures shape our understanding of marital commitments and explores the misconceptions around entering marriage. With a focus on emotional clarity, she emphasizes the necessity of self-awareness in navigating feelings of unhappiness and the dilemmas of divorce. Dr. Murphy encourages listeners to get clear on their desires and make informed choices that align with their true needs.

Oct 14, 2021 • 27min
58. Financial Fears, Divorce, and Infidelity
When you imagine the worst-case scenario about a change in your finances, you may be ignoring the critical question: do you want to continue a romantic partnership with your spouse? Many people struggle to make a change to their infidelity situation because of financial concerns. So, how can you start alleviating your fears about money? Dr. Marie Murphy suggests taking the fears head-on, investigating your true feelings surrounding financial change, and asking yourself: is the money worth your unhappiness? Once you get clear on your values and what is most important to you, you can make the most empowering choice for your situation. In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy discusses the common fears surrounding divorce and financial change. Listen in as Dr. Murphy shares her advice for placing value in more than just your finances, overcoming the discomfort of monetary instability, and freeing yourself from financial concerns.

Oct 7, 2021 • 39min
57. Re-Engaging in a Relationship After an Affair
Are you considering re-engaging in a relationship after an affair but unsure where to start? Whether you want to reorient yourself with a partner after a period of disconnection, or you just want to be on neutral ground before deciding to leave, Dr. Marie Murphy is here to guide you through the process. The first step is asking yourself if you truly want to re-engage with your partner. If so, Dr. Murphy’s strategies can help you manage unintentional thoughts, rekindle desire, and work toward the future you envision. In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy dives deep into the methods of re-engaging with your partner. She discusses why it may be beneficial to reconnect with a partner, how to manage thoughts and cultivate a more conscious desire, and the importance of investing in your relationship to transform the dynamic. You don’t want to miss this episode!

Sep 30, 2021 • 24min
56. Cutting off Contact With Your Affair Partner
Are you trying to make changes to your infidelity situation, but are having difficulty dealing with the contradictions of your thoughts and desires? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, the decisions surrounding infidelity may seem complicated — especially if you have strong feelings for your affair partner. But, if you don’t have a clear reason for ending or staying in your relationship, you will never have a clear answer. Luckily, there are some techniques to help you identify the desires and motivations behind your choices. As Dr. Murphy says, once you recognize the value behind your decision, you can take a positive step forward. In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy discusses how to get clear on your decisions about ending your affair. Listen in as Dr. Murphy talks about recognizing your genuine thoughts about changing your relationship, the importance of understanding the value of your decisions, and how to avoid the impulse to act on your desires in order to achieve a meaningful outcome.

Sep 23, 2021 • 21min
55. Contemplating Leaving Your Marriage
Contemplating leaving a marriage can feel like an overwhelming dilemma. Dr. Marie Murphy emphasizes that simply wondering about divorce doesn’t mean it's the only choice. She explores the tangled emotions involved, including fears about children and finances. The importance of acknowledging dissatisfaction and not ignoring personal happiness takes center stage. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their feelings and navigate their concerns to find a resolution that suits them.