If you're feeling like dating is 'meh', this episode is for YOU!   Bela goes through seven different things you can do today to change up your dating results - and the changes are small (and VERY EASY)!!  If you need a dose of psychotic optimism, and some fresh outlooks on what to do with online dating, real life dating, new games to play, listen TODAY! Download this episode, share it on social, and sign up for our free newsletter by filling out any contact form on our site (www.smartdatingacademy.com).  Follow us on Instagram as well @smartdatingacademy! Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

Rebecca Feinglos had more trauma than the average 'bear.'  She lost her Mom to brain cancer as a young teen.  On the first day of COVID lockdown, she got a call that her father (her best friend on Earth) passed away unexpectedly.   As Rebecca began to recover from the shock, and entered the abyss of the COVID lockdown, she realized that her marriage needed to end.   She filed for divorce in 2021 as a 30 year old, and realized she had NEVER lived on her own (had never been without a 'man' in her life).   She decided to unplug her life for one year to GRIEVE.  Simply grieve, and whatever came with that.  She went on a coast to coast roadtrip, visited her Grandmother in England, and every single day she gave herself time to grieve her losses. She started a blog called "Grieve Leave" which has thousands of followers which documented her 'year of grieving' to help people going through all kinds of grief - death, divorce, loss of jobs, etc - because EVERY SINGLE ONE OF US is grieving something.   And, our culture prides resilience, but gives us zero strategies on how to grieve.   When her divorce finalized, she threw a party for 14 of the women who 'picked her up' off the ground, and they went to the Adele concert.  Rebecca wore a "divorce tiara" and they held up a sign to Adele that said, "Your album got me through my divorce."  Adele, being surprised by the sign (and having gone through divorce herself), made a beeline for Rebecca, hugged her (footage captured FOREVER!), and they cried together about how our friends are the most important things in our lives.  Listen to Rebecca tell her story, and one of her BEST tips to grieve a breakup/divorce that you can start TODAY.    About Rebecca Feinglos Rebecca Feinglos is a grieving educator and advocate. Rebecca founded the popular blog “Grieve Leave” (www.grieveleave.com), where she has been documenting her experience on a year-long grief sabbatical. Rebecca started “Grieve Leave” as a way to process her own grief and loss— she lost her mother in her teens, her father in 2020, and most recently her husband in a drawn-out divorce— but has since provided tangible learnings and resources, with a healthy dose of humor, creating an entire movement around taking intentional time to grieve. She shares her own grieving process daily and provides insightful commentary and advice with her audience of over 8K predominantly female millennials.   Prior to becoming a go-to resource for the grieving, Rebecca's career spanned state and local policy as well as education. She served as the chief policy and strategy advisor for the Division of Child Development and Early Education in the North Carolina Department of Health and Human Services and as the Early Childhood Policy Associate for the Chicago Mayor’s Office. Rebecca started her professional career in service as a bilingual kindergarten teacher in Fort Worth, Texas through Teach For America. She is a graduate of Duke University and earned her master’s degree in public policy from the University of Chicago. Rebecca is originally from Durham, North Carolina, where she currently resides with her two dogs. About Grieve Leave Grieve Leave is a movement that inspires grievers to intentionally take time to process the feelings that come with loss. In December 2021, Rebecca Feinglos quit her job to take a sabbatical year—to grieve. She called her journey “Grieve Leave,” and documented her thoughts on her blog and social media. Through sharing knowledge, advice and tangible resources, and creating a space for others to grieve, Rebecca has expanded Grieve Leave beyond her own personal journey and has grown into a community of thousands. Whether you’ve lost a pet or you’ve lost your parents, grief is not one-size-fits-all. Grieve Leave is a community built to support others in learning to grieve all of our losses. There’s no wrong way to grieve. Download this episode, share it on social, and sign up for our free newsletter by filling out any contact form on our site (www.smartdatingacademy.com).  Follow us on Instagram as well @smartdatingacademy! Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

This episode was SO much fun!   I interviewed Danielle who has created a life she LOVES at the age of 30.  She's a famed TV host, entrepreneur, podcaster, and a dear friend.  She has interviewed Taylor Swift, Michael B. Jordan, Helen Mirren -- and Larry King says that she 'has the ability to make people feel seen."  In this chat, Danielle shares with us: The way she got to know herself (it has to do with 800 questions....) What happened when she got her first dream job (hives might be involved, spoiler alert)! How to be WAY more interesting at dinner parties What dating tip I gave her that has talked her into getting back into the game (woo hoo me!!) The new product she has created to make conversations REAL I know you're going to get some good laughs and information from this podcast.  You'll be inspired by how Danielle has brought more love into her life with work, AND, how she is going to start dating!! And as always, if you're doing the same thing over and over again, if you don't know how to vet the dates, know you have a problem that needs solving, we can help you at Smart Dating Academy!   Download this episode, share it on social, and sign up for our free newsletter by filling out any contact form on our site (www.smartdatingacademy.com).  Follow us on Instagram as well @smartdatingacademy! Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

Listen to this amazing episode with Sadaf, a Smart Dating Academy client, and she tells her amazing story!   "I grew up in a very loving home. I would always watch my parents and see how in love they are with one another. I always wanted to experience a love like theirs. I wanted to find a man who would love me as much as my dad loves my mom. I always thought I would get married by the age of 25 and have my first child at 27.  I had a list in my head for a perfect guy in mind. He would be tall, handsome, funny, family oriented, kind, generous, love to travel and adventurous. When it came time for me to start dating, I was not very successful, my timeline came and went. I got asked out a lot and went on many dates, but I was not able to make a connection with any of them. As I approached 30, the guys who came in my life were all narcissists, controlling or not looking to settle down. I wasted years dating guys who were not right for me and caused me lots of heartache. My friends and family would always tell me that I am a great catch, and I would find the right person when the time is right, I always wondered when my time would come? At some point even my parents’ friends tried to set me up on dates. They always liked me to link up with their sons since they knew me and my family, but it would never work out.  When I was 31 and after yet another failed relationship, I was very upset one day wanted to find some funny videos on YouTube. I came across a video of Steve Harvey show segment with Bela as a guest on the show. I immediately started researching her and learned about SDA. I reached out and started working with Bela and Ilene.  I soon realized I need to change my whole approach and ways when it comes to dating and finding my perfect match. I flew to Chicago and met Bela in person during the photo shoot. She and everyone on her team were so gracious to me and gave me the confidence and tools that I have been lacking.  They helped me build my profile, how much time I should spend on the app, screen out red flags and most importantly not to lose hope, because I tried online dating on my own before and I was not successful.  In December 2021, I messaged a man who I thought would be a great match for me. I read over his profile with Ilene and analyzed it several times 😊 He was exactly what I was looking for. I realized he is very family oriented and adventures. Luckily, he messaged me back and we went on our first date. What I liked about him on our first date, other than the fact that he was very handsome, funny, and charming is that he asked lots of questions and truly tried to get to know me. We had the best time during dinner and the rest is history… we kept on going on dates and spending more time with one another, went on vacations together and on out 1 year anniversary he asked me to marry him… of course I said YES!!! Now we live together, and life could not be any better. My fiancé is the sweetest, kindest, most gentle man I have ever met. He loves me for who I am. He is my biggest supports and cheerleader in life. He helped me to be a better person. He makes me feel loved in a way that no one ever has. We are getting married on October 28th 2023.  He comes from a very loving family. They are very close to one another and made me feel welcome. We grew together as a couple and continue to do so. If you want to be the next Sadaf, change something!!  Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

This episode is FILLED with gems with our guest, Divorced Women's Empowerment Coach & Healer Wendy Sterling.  Wendy's story, chronicled in her new book, Divorce Sucks Now What, is a gripping example of taking your own life and OWNING it.   Your divorce didn't happen to you, it happened FOR you.   In this episode, you will hear: 1) How Wendy found out that her husband was cheating  2) What was the moment that she knew it was OVER? 3) Why did she put up with abusive treatment, and how did she 'get her voice' back? 4) What was her contribution to the marriage's demise, and what was on 'her side of the street?" 5) What did the Smart Dating Academy "Online Dating Love Lab" teach her? 6) How did she start dating again? 7) How did she meet her husband? You'll hear so many gifts in this episode, and you'll learn to use your own voice, and take responsibility for YOUR OWN life and happiness.   If you'd like to buy Wendy's book, click here to buy:  https://bit.ly/3FqSd8P Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

In this episode, Bela talks with Spiritual Medium Erika Gabriel about opening yourself up to love!   This episode will blow your mind because you will learn: 1) Erika's BEST trick for lowering anxiety immediately  2) How to Know if you're operating from fear or intuition 3) What the KEY to manifesting your mate is (it's not what you think!) 4) What are the "False Agreements" we make with ourselves? 5) What are the 3 things that block people from love?? If you like our conversation, GIVE THIS A RATING!  It's the BEST way to give back :).  And, if you want more Erika, we will do an IG LIve on Wednesday 3/15 where she will answer YOUR questions!    If you'd like to check out Erika's site or new course, click here:  https://smerikagabriel.thinkific.com/courses/the-way-1 Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

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Bela will share an amazing set of sentences that she learned serendipitously from Dan Harris that will bring you more joy, ease, and reduce anxiety.   It has changed her world in the last week, and everyone she has shared it with has LOVED it.  Today, she's giving it all to us in this jewel of a mini episode.  Be ready for things to change for you in a very loving way.    Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela