Weight Loss Winformation

What did you expect? There’s a question we throw around quite often. Too often, what we expect something to be like does not exactly match the reality of the situation. Maybe you expected your last vacation to be trouble-free… that rarely happens! Perhaps you expected the new job to be the dream job… but it turned out that the new office had all of the drama of the previous office. If you’ve had bariatric surgery, is the outcome what you expected? Is life after surgery … after weight loss what you thought it would be like? If you’re in the process of preparing to have a surgical bariatric procedure, what are your expectations? Listen in and hear some sound advice regarding expectations and the realities associated with bariatric surgery. It helps to have some direct, “fair and firm” information to help you establish realistic expectations of what bariatric procedures do and what they do NOT do as well as realistic outcomes based on scientific findings. Let’s get started with today’s episode… one you don’t want to miss!Be sure to go to www.bariaftercare.com and sign up so you can hear the second part of BariAftercare’s Expectations and Your Weight. Now, let’s get started!Sources:Setting realistic expectations for weight lossWeight loss: 6 strategies for successManaging ExpectationsPlease subscribe to the show and rate it on Apple Podcasts, download free information at www.conniestapletonphd.com, and follow me on Twitter (@cstapletonphd), Instagram (@cstapletonphd), YouTube, LinkedIn, and on Facebook.

If, as we have talked about during the past few podcast episodes, you want to set healthy boundaries and stop neglecting yourself due to unhealthy people-pleasing behaviors, you need to commit to learning and using assertiveness skills! Not to worry, being assertive is not the same thing as being aggressive, rude or nasty. Being assertive is stating what you want and need in a healthy and direct way. Being your best self means learning to adult in a health way. Healthy adulting includes learning to overcome your fears of taking healthy risks. Being willing to learn about and practice assertive communication will increase your self-esteem and that, in turn, will result in your treating yourself in healthier ways. Healthy treatment of self translates to maintaining a healthy weight and enjoying a healthier quality of life. If you are unwilling to learn assertive communication skills, you are jeopardizing your relationships with others and with yourself. AND, if choose not to learn assertive communication skills, you are jeopardizing a healthy lifestyle designed to get you to, and keep you, at a healthy weight. You don’t wanna do that so listen in! Now let’s get started! Be sure to recommend BariAftercare to your friends and go to www.bariaftercare.com and sign up so you can hear the second part of BariAftercare’s People Pleasing and its Effects on Your Weight! Now, let’s get started! Resources:Assertive CommunicationBeing assertive: Reduce stress, communicate betterPlease subscribe to the show and rate it on Apple Podcasts, download free information at www.conniestapletonphd.com, and follow me on Twitter (@cstapletonphd), Instagram (@cstapletonphd), YouTube, LinkedIn, and on Facebook.

Are you a people pleaser? Well… if you have trouble saying “no,” feel responsible for other people’s feelings, avoid conflict at all costs, apologize a lot, and feel like you never have time for yourself (especially if you’re busy doing so much for so many others)… then it could be that you are, indeed, a people pleaser! There’s nothing wrong with wanting to help others… unless you are so busy doing for so many others that you neglect to take care of yourself. If you say you’re “too busy” or “don’t have time” to meal prep, exercise, take ten minutes to do absolutely nothing, or grab yourself a protein drink in the morning on the way to work, you are probably people-pleasing your way through life at your own expense. This will result in not following through with what you need to do to lose weight or maintain weight. Listen to today’s episode and learn more about how excessive people-pleasing behavior can sabotage your weight loss goals.Be sure to recommend BariAftercare to your friends and go to www.bariaftercare.com and sign up so you can hear the second part of BariAftercare’s People Pleasing and its Effects on Your Weight! Now, let’s get started!Resources:Are you ‘too nice’? Why people pleasing is making you overweight.How Do You Lose Weight When You Are a People Pleaser?Nice Girls Finish Fat- Is your People-Pleasing Keeping You Unhealthy and Overweight?From Parent-Pleasing to People-Pleasing (Part 3 of 3)How to Stop People-Pleasing (and Still Be Nice)Please subscribe to the show and rate it on Apple Podcasts, download free information at www.conniestapletonphd.com, and follow me on Twitter (@cstapletonphd), Instagram (@cstapletonphd), YouTube, LinkedIn, and on Facebook.

Boundaries are the ways we teach other people to treat us… I think that’s from Dr. Phil, actually. In our journey of weight loss, setting boundaries for ourselves establishes guardrails to keep us safe. When we set boundaries for ourselves or with other people, we are engaging in healthy acts of self-care. Too many people struggle to set boundaries, as most people were never taught what boundaries are, much less how to establish them. Low self-esteem also prevents people from setting boundaries or to say “no” when it comes time to protecting their time, space or possessions. It’s important to learn about healthy boundaries in order to lose weight and maintain a healthy weight. Boundaries keep us protected and keep us on track toward our goals. Listen in and learn more about how developing boundaries for yourself and with others will help you reach and maintain your goals of living a healthy lifestyle!Be sure to go to www.bariaftercare.com and sign up so you can hear the second part of BariAftercare’s Boundaries and Your Weight: Healthy Self-Care! Now, let’s get started!Sources:How to Set Boundaries: 5 Ways to Draw the Line PolitelyDo you Struggle to Follow your Weight Loss Boundaries?Boundaries: Why are they important?Setting boundaries around food and eating is important. Here’s how to do it.Forget diets and food rules. Try this weight loss tip instead.Please subscribe to the show and rate it on Apple Podcasts, download free information at www.conniestapletonphd.com, and follow me on Twitter (@cstapletonphd), Instagram (@cstapletonphd), YouTube, LinkedIn, and on Facebook.

What makes asking for help so difficult? Not surprisingly, fear is the top reason given for not asking for help. Fear of what, you ask? Fear of imposing upon others. Fear of appearing too needy. Fear of looking or sounding incompetent, unintelligent, or incapable. Fear of exposing the fact that we are not perfect and we don’t, in fact, have it all together. And, let’s not forget the dreaded fear of rejection. Hmmm. When all those fears are listed out that way… well, it’s not so surprising that people may be hesitant to ask for help. Add to that the myriad of ways persons who suffer from obesity have experienced rejection from strangers, from family members and from friends … and the thought of asking anyone for help is daunting, at best! Listen in to learn the reasons why asking for help is actually a positive experience for both the person who does the asking and for the person providing the assistance! And be sure to listen for the reasons asking for help can assist you in maintaining weight loss. Be sure to go to www.bariaftercare.com and sign up so you can hear the second part of BariAftercare’s Asking for Help: A great act of self-care! Now, let’s get started!Sources:5 Things to Remember When You're Embarrassed to Ask for Help4 Tips to Effectively Ask for Help—and Get a YesWhat Makes It So Hard to Ask for Help?A social psychologist explains why we should ask for help more oftenThe Art of Asking: Why is it So Hard to Ask for Help?Please subscribe to the show and rate it on Apple Podcasts, download free information at www.conniestapletonphd.com, and follow me on Twitter (@cstapletonphd), Instagram (@cstapletonphd), YouTube, LinkedIn, and on Facebook.

Self-care simply means doing things for yourself that improve your physical, social, emotional/psychological health. In other words, engaging in self-care means you focus on your own needs with as much effort as you put into caring for so many others! Engaging in self-care results in increased energy, less stress, and lower risk of illness. When it comes to weight loss and weight maintenance, self-care is essential! All of the healthy behaviors required to lose weight and stay at a healthy weight are forms of self-care. For too many bariatric patients, the majority of their time and energy is given to the care of others… resulting in neglect of self. In this episode, you’ll hear about the importance of self-care and some of the reasons so many people neglect caring for themselves. Ultimately, a lack of self-care suggests a lack of healthy self-esteem and interferes with losing weight and keeping it off.Sources:Caring for Your Mental Health5 Self-Care Strategies That Can Help You Lose Weight What Self-Care Is — and What It Isn’t5 Self-Care Practices for Every Area of Your LifeWhat Is Self-Care and Why Is It So Important for Your Health? Self-Care: Is it Necessary or SelfishPlease subscribe to the show and rate it on Apple Podcasts, download free information at www.conniestapletonphd.com, and follow me on Twitter (@cstapletonphd), Instagram (@cstapletonphd), YouTube, LinkedIn, and on Facebook.

Like most people I talk to who are preparing for bariatric surgery, Claude Viens, after many times of gaining and lose the same pounds, realized he knew what he was supposed to do to lose weight – and to keep it off.  The problem he faced was taking the action and continuing to take those actions over time. He eventually came to terms with the fact that there is no easy fix. Keeping weight off is an everyday commitment of changing your thinking and your behavior. Claude asked himself a lot of questions about why he wanted to lose weight and the bottom line, he said, was, “I wanted to put an end to all of the physical and psychological aches and pains that come with being overweight.” He was sick and tired of being sick and tired. He made a decision to think of himself as the person he wanted to become rather than the man who failed to keep weight off.  He focused on making small changes so he could have “wins” every day that would become healthy habits. When he messed up, he moved on. He concluded by saying, “When you are determined enough, you will find a way. If you are not committed, that’s when you start making excuses.” His “unconclusion” as he called it, was this, “I used my brain to find and learn the information I needed to make the best moves. I learned how to control my thoughts and emotions. I learned how to handle stress and how to cope with interfering events in my life. I taught myself to be persistent and patient. I used my body to get into motion. None of these actions were hard to do or very time consuming, but being consistent in doing them got me into a routine that I still maintain today.” He did. Many others have, as well. And you can, too!Source: The most powerful weight loss device ever made: The human brain. Claude Viens. Please subscribe to the show and rate it on Apple Podcasts, download free information at www.conniestapletonphd.com, and follow me on Twitter (@cstapletonphd), Instagram (@cstapletonphd), YouTube, LinkedIn, and on Facebook.

In this episode, I begin a two-part series presenting some highlights from Claude Viens book. Claude makes it clear to the reader that he is not a professional in any sense when it comes to weight loss. He is a man who struggled with weight loss and regain for many years… until he figured out some very insightful thoughts and practices that allowed him to get rid of his excess weight and keep it off. The book is an easy read and is sure to speak to the heart of anyone who has struggled with the yo-yo ups and downs with weight. He talks about foods like potato chips, when you are trying to refrain from eating them, can be torturous. He blamed anybody and anything for his weight struggles until one day he “discovered that the best way to stop getting so upset at other people is to stop expecting them to fix my problems.” He also realized that more than wanting to lose weight, what he really wanted was to find a way to eat whatever he wanted whenever he wanted and have a healthy, fit body at the same time. That’s when he figured out that he needed to change his thinking. He needed to use his brain to deal with reality He need to come up with ways to find and use motivation to stay engaged in making changes in his thinking and his behavior. That’s when he lost the weight … and he’s been maintaining a healthy weight. Listen in! You’re sure to hear a lot of yourself in his words.Also, please invite anyone you know who has had bariatric surgery, or who is planning to have bariatric surgery, to listen to the BariAftercare podcast. And for more information on the entire BariAftercare program at www.bariaftercare.com. Viens, Claude. The most powerful weight loss device ever made: The human brain. Claude Viens. Kindle Edition.  Please subscribe to the show and rate it on Apple Podcasts, download free information at www.conniestapletonphd.com, and follow me on Twitter (@cstapletonphd), Instagram (@cstapletonphd), YouTube, LinkedIn, and on Facebook.

When a person has a chronic disease like obesity or addiction, everyone in their world is in some way affected. Family members, in particular, are impacted by the presence of a chronic disease suffered by one of its members. In the case of obesity or addiction, family members worry. They are scared about the health of their loved one. They worry about the emotional ups and downs that accompany periods of triumph over the disease followed by episodes of distress, emotion, anger and despair when there is weight regain or relapse. Family members are called upon to carry additional responsibilities if the person suffering from the disease is unwilling or unable to fulfill obligations or participate in social or recreational activities with the family. All family members, to include the person suffering from the disease, experience an array of emotions to include anger, sadness, frustration, compassion and concern about the disease and how it is affecting family relationships. Listen in to learn more about how chronic disease is affecting your family. Also, please invite anyone you know who has had bariatric surgery, or who is planning to have bariatric surgery, to listen to the BariAftercare podcast. And for more information on the entire BariAftercare program at www.bariaftercare.com. Please subscribe to the show and rate it on Apple Podcasts, download free information at www.conniestapletonphd.com, and follow me on Twitter (@cstapletonphd), Instagram (@cstapletonphd), YouTube, LinkedIn, and on Facebook.

Joy had bariatric surgery 14 years ago and lost weight as expected following surgery. Prior to surgery, Joy rarely consumed alcohol and did not knowingly engage in any other addictive behaviors or consume other addictive substances. More than a year passed before she took a sip of alcohol. Her first post-surgery drink was four ounces of wine. She was almost instantly dizzy and intoxicated. The next night she again drank a glass of wine. She did the same the following night. Within a year, her alcohol consumption was affecting her relationship with family members and she was told by the human resources department at her job that she was to seek treatment for her alcoholism or lose her job. Listen to the interview with Joy and learn about transfer addiction following bariatric surgery.Also, please invite anyone you know who has had bariatric surgery, or who is planning to have bariatric surgery, to listen to the BariAftercare podcast. And for more information on the entire BariAftercare program at www.bariaftercare.com. Please subscribe to the show and rate it on Apple Podcasts, download free information at www.conniestapletonphd.com, and follow me on Twitter (@cstapletonphd), Instagram (@cstapletonphd), YouTube, LinkedIn, and on Facebook.