Weight Loss Winformation

You’ve likely been hearing and seeing a lot on podcasts and on social media about eating healthy over the holidays and protecting yourself from all of the high-carb, high-sugar foods that are … well, everywhere! That is all good stuff and I hope you listen to and read as much as possible about staying on track over the holidays! What about protection for your emotions? Many people are emotional eaters and we know that a lot of emotions get dredged up over the holidays. We come face to face with people who have hurt us. We go to homes that may hold amazingly wonderful or maybe dread-filled memories. Let’s talk about how to protect yourself emotionally during this holiday season … and prevent emotions from leading to unhealthy eating! Here we go!Resources: Dr. Stapleton's Four-Part Protection Plan:Part 1Part 2Part 3Part 4Please subscribe to the show and rate it on Apple Podcasts, download free information at www.conniestapletonphd.com, and follow me on Twitter (@cstapletonphd), Instagram (@cstapletonphd), YouTube, LinkedIn, and on Facebook.

A post-op patient recently told me she has started counting the number of self-sabotaging behaviors she recognizes herself engaging in every day. She was shocked and horrified at the many ways she was sabotaging her own weight loss success. Examples of her self-sabotaging behaviors included hiding food in her closet and eating it before she went to bed at night, telling her spouse she was going to the gym but instead going to get fast food and sitting in the parking lot eating by herself, and emotionally beating herself up by calling herself abusive names after engaging in those behaviors. How about you? Do you engage in behaviors that lead you away from your long-term weight and healthy lifestyle goals? Listen in and learn about the reasons people engage in self-sabotage and get some hints on how to extinguish these unhealthy behaviors. Let’s get started!What Weight Loss Self-Sabotage Looks LikeStop Tripping Yourself on Your Weight Loss JourneyA Weight-Loss Expert Explains Why We Sabotage Our Goals (and How to Stop)Why do I self sabotage my weight lossSelf-SabotagePlease subscribe to the show and rate it on Apple Podcasts, download free information at www.conniestapletonphd.com, and follow me on Twitter (@cstapletonphd), Instagram (@cstapletonphd), YouTube, LinkedIn, and on Facebook.

“I’m not mad!” she shouts as she throws her backpack and slams the door while leaving you shaking your head. Passive aggressive behavior… when words and non-verbal communication don’t match. Sadly, we’re all probably fairly competent when it comes to this sort of communication. How does passive-aggressive behavior interfere with the weight loss process? To begin with, there’s a lot of emotional eating associated with saying things we don’t really mean and then acting them out in a way that displays how we really feel. We also damage relationships with passive-aggressive behavior and risk destroying receiving much-needed support in our health journey. Listen in and learn more!Be sure to go to www.bariaftercare.com and sign up so you can hear the second part of BariAftercare’s Communication Styles and Your Weight. Now, let’s get started!Resources:7 tell-tale signs of passive-aggressive behavior, plus how to respond and address it in yourselfPassive-Aggressive Behavior9 Phrases That Make You Sound Like a Passive Aggressive JerkThe worst passive-aggressive phrases, according to Americans17 EXAMPLES OF PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR4 Strategies for Dealing with Passive-Aggressive PeoplePlease subscribe to the show and rate it on Apple Podcasts, download free information at www.conniestapletonphd.com, and follow me on Twitter (@cstapletonphd), Instagram (@cstapletonphd), YouTube, LinkedIn, and on Facebook.

Oh, boy! Today you’re gonna learn a few ugly things about my communication skills in my young adult life.  Fortunately, with the help of others and quite a bit of effort, I have learned much healthier skills over the years that I now utilize… at least most of the time. Spoiler alert – I’m talking about being an aggressive communicator which is no good if your goal is to be the best, overall, healthiest you possible! When it comes to losing weight and maintaining weight loss, being an aggressive communicator is not going to be of service to you! Aggressive communicators stir up a lot of conflict within themselves and with others. This often turns into engaging in emotional eating. AND… check this out… aggressive communication toward self, which is otherwise known as negative self-talk, is a form of self-abuse. And that, of course, leads one right back to emotional eating. There’s a lot to get through today, so let’s get started!Be sure to go to www.bariaftercare.com and sign up so you can hear the second part of BariAftercare’s Communication Styles and Your Weight. Now, let’s get started!Four Types of Communication StylesAggressive Communication: How to Deal With Relationship AggressionWeight Loss: How to Stop Negative Self-TalkWeight Loss: How to Stop Negative Self-TalkOvercoming Negative Self-TalkWeight Loss: How to Stop Negative Self-TalkPlease subscribe to the show and rate it on Apple Podcasts, download free information at www.conniestapletonphd.com, and follow me on Twitter (@cstapletonphd), Instagram (@cstapletonphd), YouTube, LinkedIn, and on Facebook.

I’ve asked these questions before and I’m going to ask them again right now: Do you feel like a doormat in any of your relationships? Do you feel resentful of others because you give in to requests for the sake of not upsetting others, to be included in the group, to be liked, or because you learned from others to always be the one who does all of the things? Are you the person who refrains from saying what you think because you don’t want to stir up any conflict? Do you go along just to go along? Do you blow your stack from time to time because you have kept so much emotion inside and can no longer stand it? Do you engage in emotional eating related to any of the above? This episode is to help you recognize if you are a passive communicator and if you are, I want to help you learn some skills to move from being a passive communicator to an assertive communicator, who respectfully, kindly, and without conflict, shares your honest thoughts, needs, wants and opinions. Let’s jump right it! Be sure to go to www.bariaftercare.com and sign up so you can hear the second part of BariAftercare’s Communication Styles and Your Weight. Now, let’s get started!Resources:From Aggressive To AssertiveDo You Have A Passive Communication Style?What Is A Passive Communication Style?Please subscribe to the show and rate it on Apple Podcasts, download free information at www.conniestapletonphd.com, and follow me on Twitter (@cstapletonphd), Instagram (@cstapletonphd), YouTube, LinkedIn, and on Facebook.

Active listening is yet another healthy, assertive communication skill. But it is way more than that in terms of your bariatric journey. Actively listening - to yourself and how you communicate with yourself - can actually prevent you from being stuck in a vicious cycle of unhealthy emotional eating. Learning to listen to, and change negative self-talk into healthy, compassionate self-talk will also help you maintain a healthy weight. Active listening is also critical in the health of relationships with other people. Having solid, trusting relationships with others is essential! You want and need positive support throughout your weight loss journey and active listeners have healthier relationships. Listen in and learn more!Be sure to go to www.bariaftercare.com and sign up so you can hear the second part of BariAftercare’s Communication Styles and Your Weight. Now, let’s get started!Resources:Active Listening: The Art of Empathic ConversationListen to your body while eating to lose weight: Here’s howDeveloping Listening SkillsPlease subscribe to the show and rate it on Apple Podcasts, download free information at www.conniestapletonphd.com, and follow me on Twitter (@cstapletonphd), Instagram (@cstapletonphd), YouTube, LinkedIn, and on Facebook.

The therapist my husband and I saw for several years when we started our journeys toward living an overall healthy lifestyle said to us over and over and over, “You always have the right to share your thoughts, your feelings and your observations.” It took us some time to learn to do so in a healthy way. For a long while, we found a way to somehow point the finger at one another, engage in unhealthy “you” statements instead of the much wiser “I” statements, and continue to engage in anything but healthy, assertive communication. Fortunately, for us, and for you, learning healthy communication skills will improve all of your relationships – most especially, the relationship you have with yourself! As your relationship with yourself improves, so will your relationship with food. And that means living at a healthier weight for the rest of your life! Listen in and learn more!Be sure to go to www.bariaftercare.com and sign up so you can hear the second part of BariAftercare’s Communication Styles and Your Weight. Now, let’s get started!Resources:Ten Better Ways to Say “I Think”Observation Versus Judgement: Do You Know the Difference?Difference Between Observation and ConclusionObservation vs. Evaluation: A Coaching Power Tool By Wendy SaddPlease subscribe to the show and rate it on Apple Podcasts, download free information at www.conniestapletonphd.com, and follow me on Twitter (@cstapletonphd), Instagram (@cstapletonphd), YouTube, LinkedIn, and on Facebook.

Dean Anderson, Behavior Psychology Expert, asked this question in an online article in 2006: “Would you believe me if I told you that knowing the answer to one simple question could improve your chances for weight loss success by up to 100%? Well, it’s true. Here’s the question:Which of the following is the single most important factor in long-term weight loss success?A. Calorie CountingB. Regular ExerciseC. Starting your sentences with the pronoun "I"D. Both a and bThe correct answer to this question is: C—starting your sentences with the pronoun "I".”I found this to be a very interesting way to start today’s podcast! You’ll have to listen in to learn the reason Mr. Anderson said this! Listen in… and work toward becoming your healthiest self in all areas of life!Be sure to go to www.bariaftercare.com and sign up so you can hear the second part of BariAftercare’s Communication Styles and Your Weight. Now, let’s get started!Resources:Put the “I” Back in Your VocabularyHow to use “I-Statements” – Changing Your Words Will Change Your RelationshipCommunication: “You” V/S “I” StatementsPlease subscribe to the show and rate it on Apple Podcasts, download free information at www.conniestapletonphd.com, and follow me on Twitter (@cstapletonphd), Instagram (@cstapletonphd), YouTube, LinkedIn, and on Facebook.

Being an assertive communicator, which will help you in your weight loss journey, is the ultimate communication goal – at least for people who want to be their healthiest adult selves! It would be great if everyone would learn to communicate in a healthy, direct, respectful manner! And for YOU… if you learn and practice and get really good at communicating in an assertive way, your weight loss journey will be easier and you will be more likely to get to, and maintain a healthier weight. From MY perspective as a psychologist, in addition to helping you lose and maintain weight, using assertive communication is a great way to increase self-esteem and improve every relationship in your life! Today we’re doing a deep dive into this golden ticket for a better life! Listen in and get to work practicing your healthy assertive communication skills!Be sure to go to www.bariaftercare.com and sign up so you can hear the second part of BariAftercare’s Communication Styles and Your Weight. Now, let’s get started!Sources: https://positivepsychology.com/assertive-communication/#characteristicsPlease subscribe to the show and rate it on Apple Podcasts, download free information at www.conniestapletonphd.com, and follow me on Twitter (@cstapletonphd), Instagram (@cstapletonphd), YouTube, LinkedIn, and on Facebook.

Assertive? Passive? Aggressive? Or maybe Passive-Aggressive? Four different ways to communicate with others… and I suppose with yourself, as well! Do you know what communication style you most often utilize? And… can you guess which form of communication is the most effective? How about the style used least frequently? Oh… and, what do these communication styles have to do with your weight journey? So many questions! Listen to today’s episode to learn the answer to all of these questions. Then make a conscious effort to increase your use of the communication style you’ll learn is the most effective and how this will help you manage your weight and be the best version of your awesome self!Be sure to go to www.bariaftercare.com and sign up so you can hear the second part of BariAftercare’s Communication Styles and Your Weight. Now, let’s get started!Sources:Communication Styles QuizQuiz: What Is Your Relationship Communication Style?Please subscribe to the show and rate it on Apple Podcasts, download free information at www.conniestapletonphd.com, and follow me on Twitter (@cstapletonphd), Instagram (@cstapletonphd), YouTube, LinkedIn, and on Facebook.