Life's Dirty Little Secrets Podcast | Breaking Silence Around the Secrets We All Carry

In this episode of "Life's Dirty Little Secrets," hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry delve into the complexities and challenges of promoting autonomy in children. They are joined by special guest Emily Edlund, a clinical psychologist, academic, and author, who shares her experiences and insights on the topic. The conversation covers the importance of maintaining a trusting relationship during adolescence, the dangers of using the phone as a weapon in parenting, and the need for ongoing conversations about technology use. They discuss strategies for autonomy-supportive parenting, including empathy, problem-solving, and allowing independenceHighlights: The positive impact of allowing child autonomy and self-determination Challenges and pitfalls of excessive control in parenting Ongoing conversations about technology use and trends Common anxieties and challenges in letting go of control Different parenting styles and concerns for successAbout Dr. Emily EdlynnCheck our Dr. Edlynn’s websiteFollow  @DrEmilyEdlynn on Instagram:Read Dr. Edlynn’s SubstackEmily Edlynn is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in pediatric health psychology who works in private practice with children, teens, and adults. She has a BA in English from Smith College, a PhD in clinical psychology from Loyola University Chicago, and completed postgraduate training at Stanford and Children’s Hospital Orange County. Emily spent almost ten years working in children’s hospitals before pivoting to private practice, which allowed her to start a writing career. Emily has written her blog, The Art and Science of Mom, since 2017 and a parenting advice column for Parents.com since 2019. Emily’s writing has also appeared in the Washington Post, Scary Mommy, Good Housekeeping, Motherly, and more. She recently joined the Psychologists Off the Clock podcast as a co-host and is the author of a new book, Autonomy-Supportive Struggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

In this episode of "Life's Dirty Little Secrets," hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry dive deep into the topic of burnout with special guest, Dr. Debbie Sorensen. Burnout is a widespread issue in today's society, especially in chronically stressful roles such as the workplace, parenting, and caregiving. Dr. Sorensen sheds light on the importance of reconnecting with our values to combat burnout and regain vitality in our lives. Join us as we explore the misconceptions surrounding burnout, its impact on various professions, and the need for systemic changes to address this prevalent issue. Don't miss this eye-opening conversation about reclaiming purpose, finding relief, and nurturing our well-being in the face of burnout.Highlights: Understanding Burnout and its Causes Reconnecting with Values Burnout in the Healthcare Industry Coping Strategies for Stress Support and Relief from Burnout Detachment and Disengagement as Coping MechanismsAbout Dr. Debbie SorensenVisit Dr. Sorensen’s websiteFollow Dr. Sorensen on TwitterCheck out @drdebbiesorensen Instagram accountI am a clinical psychologist with a private therapy practice in Denver, Colorado. I specialize in providing individual Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) for adults. My approach centers on helping my clients live a meaningful life, engage in effective behavior patterns, and have a healthy relationship with their thoughts and emotions.I am a co-author of the book ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and a co-founder and co-host the popular psychology podcast Psychologists Off The Clock. On the podcast, we interview experts in the field of psychology and discuss ideas that can help people thrive.I have a Ph.D.Struggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

In this episode of Life’s Dirty Little Secrets,, we dive into the topic of motivation and how it can influence our ability to meet deadlines and make positive changes in our lives. Our guest, Michelle Drapkin, shares her personal struggles with motivation and explores various strategies she has tried to improve her time management skills. We also discuss the importance of autonomy and acceptance in motivating others, as well as the principles of motivational interviewing. Tune in to gain insights and practical tips for finding your own motivation and helping others find theirs.Highlights: Exploring Motivation and Challenges Promoting Autonomy and Understanding Others Motivational Interviewing and Empowerment Core Concepts of Motivational Interviewing Addressing Anxiety and Developing MindfulnessMore about Dr. Michelle DrapkinVisit Dr. Drapkin’s websitePurchase The Motivational Interviewing Path to Personal Change: The Essential Workbook for Creating the Life You WantFollow Dr. Drapkin on LinkedinDr. Michelle Drapkin is the founder and director of the CBT Center. She is a board-certified clinical psychologist, licensed in New Jersey, New York, and Pennsylvania and part of the Psychological Interjurisdictional Compact (PSYPACT), which enables her to see patients virtually in almost 30 other states. Dr. Drapkin specializes in individuals (both late adolescents and adults), couples, and families. She strongly believes in developing the most effective treatment plan for each individual’s needs.Dr. Drapkin has held a variety of roles across different industries, including healthcare at Johnson & Johnson and academia as faculty at the University of Pennsylvania. She consults in the behavior science and health technologyStruggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

In this episode, join us as our guest, Jonathan Shippey, unpacks the secret of Happily Ever After. We explore the limerence phase and how couples can sustain it for up to two years without progressing. Unveiling the importance of building trust, we discuss how conflict can deepen knowledge and strengthen relationships. We also challenge the notion of "happily ever after" and explore the power of small adjustments in the present moment. Tune in as we reveal the secrets to a happy relationship and navigate the ups and downs of love together.Highlights: Understanding the phases of love in relationships The role of conflict in building trust Personal anecdotes and experiences with relationship challenges Embracing the concept of "small things often" Challenging the idea of "happily ever after" Validating emotions and understanding in relationshipsMore About Jonathan ShippeyVisit Healing Bridge’s website: https://healingbridgetherapy.com/Follow Jonathan on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JonathanShippeyLMFTJonathan Shippey has been a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice since 1999 and has served clients in the Louisville, Kentucky area since completion of his Master of Arts in Marriage & Family Therapy from Louisville Presbyterian Seminary in 1997. Jonathan also holds a Masters degree in music composition from Southern Seminary, as well as a Bachelors degree in biology from Furman University in Greenville, South Carolina.Jonathan is a Clinical Fellow with the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy and is a Certified Gottman Couples Therapist and Workshop Leader, having been personally trained by Drs. John and Julie Gottman at their Seattle Relationship Institute. He regularly leads the “Art and Science of Love” weekend workshop for couples and the Level 1, 2,  3 Gottman Method trainings for clinicians. JonathStruggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

In this episode we dive into the fascinating topic of imposter syndrome and psychological flexibility with guest expert, Dr. Jill Stoddard. Join us as we explore the discomfort of imposter syndrome and how being open and willing can lead to positive changes in our lives. Jill shares her unique therapy methods, involving mindful willingness experiences and exploring emotions, to help clients overcome imposter syndrome and embrace their true potential. We also discuss the societal and cultural factors that contribute to imposter syndrome and the importance of aligning our values with being bold and brave. Don't miss this insightful and empowering conversation on conquering imposter syndrome and living the life we truly desire.Highlights: Psychological Flexibility and Embracing Discomfort Overcoming the Imposter Phenomenon Therapy Sessions and Methods Factors contributing to Imposter Syndrome Imposter Thoughts and their Significance Promoting Psychological FlexibilityAbout Dr. Jill StoddardVisit Dr. Stoddard’s websiteFollow @jillastoddard on InstagramConnect with Dr. Stoddard on LinkedInJill Stoddard is passionate about sharing science-backed ideas from psychology to help people thrive. She is a psychologist, writer, TEDx speaker, award-winning teacher, peer-reviewed ACT trainer, and co-host of the popular Psychologists Off the Clock podcast. Dr. Stoddard is the author of three books: The Big Book of ACT Metaphors: A Practitioner’s Guide to Experiential Exercises and Metaphors in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy; Be Mighty: A Woman’s Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stress Using Mindfulness and Acceptance; and Imposter No More: Overcome Self-doubt and Imposterism to Cultivate a Successful Career. Her Struggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

Many working parents feel that they aren’t doing a good enough job in any of the roles they fill. Instead of trying to get rid of parental guilt, in this real play, Dr. Diana Hill works with me to get more psychologically flexible with it. Diana will demonstrate each of the core processes of ACT and then debrief the role play and explore which interventions had the biggest impact.Highlights: A demonstration of each of the core psychological flexibility processes How to develop more flexible awareness when experiencing guilt How to practice acceptance with parental guilt An exercise to increase self-compassion Perspective Taking to get out of your guilt story A metaphor to help defuse your thoughts The link between guilt and your values How parental guilt can be your mindfulness bell Two psychologists debrief of an ACT real playMore about Dr. Diana HillDiana Hill, PhD is a clinical psychologist, international trainer and sought-out speaker on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and compassion. Host of the podcast Your Life in Process and co-author of ACT Daily Journal, Diana works with organizations, high-achievers, and health professionals who are committed to becoming psychologically flexible so that they can move from striving to thriving at work, home, and around the globe. Diana blogs for Psychology Today, is a guest teacher at InsightLA, Blue Spirit Costa Rica, PESI, Praxis Continuing Education and Insight Timer Meditation. A specialist in Acceptance and Commitment Training, Diana guides high achievers, leaders, and organizations to develop psychological flexibility so that they can take wise action toward more fulfilling and meaningful lives.Diana practices what she preaches in her daily life as a mom of two, bee guardian, and yoga practitioner.Follow us on Facebook Struggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

In this episode we are joined by special guest, Ana Waddington. Ana, a healthcare professional with first-hand experience in the violence reduction field, shares her insights on the challenges faced by those in the healthcare system and the toll it takes on their well-being. From the lack of debriefing opportunities to the housing crisis impacting patient care, Ana sheds light on the daily struggles healthcare workers face. The conversation also explores how moral injury extends beyond just healthcare professionals, affecting teachers and other helping professions. Listeners will gain a deeper understanding of the interconnectedness of trauma, burnout, and compassion fatigue, as well as the importance of addressing moral injury to provide proper support and resources for those on the frontlines. Don't miss this enlightening episode as we uncover the hidden costs of caring deeply in an often overwhelming system.Highlights: Debriefing and Psychological Support in Healthcare Moral Injury in Healthcare Coping with Trauma and Burnout Understanding Moral Injury Challenges in Healthcare Systems Finding Joy and Addressing BurnoutMore About Ana Waddington:Follow Ana on Twitter: @alwaddingtonAna Waddington is a registered paediatric nurse with extensive experience in frontline emergency care, both in paediatrics and in adults. She is particularly passionate about adolescent care. She has worked in the emergency department of Europe's largest trauma centre. During the pandemic, Ana was seconded part time as the first paediatric nurse to work for the physicians response unit. She then proceeded to work as a trauma coordinator supporting patients through their trauma journey. She spent a year working as a critical care outreach nurse, stabilising the most sickest patients in the hospital. She is now pursuing her dream of working with the most vulnerable by being seconded to help set up a rough sleeper outreach team in Camden. Throughout her time as a nurse, she set upStruggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

In this episode we are joined by special guest, Ana Waddington. Ana, a healthcare professional with first-hand experience in the violence reduction field, shares her insights on the challenges faced by those in the healthcare system and the toll it takes on their well-being. From the lack of debriefing opportunities to the housing crisis impacting patient care, Ana sheds light on the daily struggles healthcare workers face. The conversation also explores how moral injury extends beyond just healthcare professionals, affecting teachers and other helping professions. Listeners will gain a deeper understanding of the interconnectedness of trauma, burnout, and compassion fatigue, as well as the importance of addressing moral injury to provide proper support and resources for those on the frontlines. Don't miss this enlightening episode as we uncover the hidden costs of caring deeply in an often overwhelming system.Highlights: Debriefing and Psychological Support in Healthcare Moral Injury in Healthcare Coping with Trauma and Burnout Understanding Moral Injury Challenges in Healthcare Systems Finding Joy and Addressing BurnoutMore About Ana Waddington:Follow Ana on Twitter: @alwaddingtonAna Waddington is a registered paediatric nurse with extensive experience in frontline emergency care, both in paediatrics and in adults. She is particularly passionate about adolescent care. She has worked in the emergency department of Europe's largest trauma centre. During the pandemic, Ana was seconded part time as the first paediatric nurse to work for the physicians response unit. She then proceeded to work as a trauma coordinator supporting patients through their trauma journey. She spent a year working as a critical care outreach nurse, stabilising the most sickest patients in the hospital. She is now pursuing her dream of working with the most vulnerable by being seconded to help set up a rough sleeper outreach team in Camden. Throughout her time as a nurse, she set upStruggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

In this episode, we dive into the theme of subtraction with special guest, Leidy Klotz. Leidy discusses the difficulty of changing beliefs when confronted with conflicting evidence, sharing intriguing insights from a psychology study involving a doomsday cult. The conversation also explores the power of analogies in reshaping our mental models and understanding.Tune in to this thought-provoking episode as we reveal the power of subtraction in changing beliefs, decluttering our lives, and seeking simplicity amidst the chaos.Highlights: Difficulty of changing beliefs when faced with conflicting evidence Importance of analogies in changing beliefs Reflection on loss aversion and the importance of considering meaning and desired outcome before subtracting The role of biology and the desire to acquire things for survival The association of mental health with feeling overwhelmed and struggling with unhelpful thoughts and behaviors Tendency to add more tasks or responsibilities in times of stress instead of simplifying Cognitive load and the influence on relying on heuristicsAbout Leidy KlotzLeidy Klotz studies the science of design, which, he reminds us, is something we all do every day. His research has appeared in both Nature and Science and his debut popular science book, Subtract, is among the most influential published in 2021 and is already on all-time reading lists for both design and behavioral science.A professor at the University of Virginia, Leidy has authored more than 80 original research articles and secured more than $10 million dollars in competitive funding to support his and others’ work in this area. Recognized nationally as a professor who inspires, Leidy has taught thousands of students, including 21 Ph.D. advisees, whose designing and teaching shapes the world. Leidy's scholarship benefits from diversity and inclusion as more than three quarters of his advisees are from groups underrepresented in their respective fields.Follow us on Facebook Struggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

Discover the shocking truth about self-esteem that challenges everything you thought you knew. Enter a world where comparisons and evaluations are replaced with self-acceptance and compassion. Brace yourself for an unexpected twist that will leave you questioning the very foundation of your beliefs. Are you ready to embark on a journey of personal growth and well-being? Get ready to unlock the secret to true fulfillment, as we unravel the mysteries of self-esteem...Highlights: Research Findings on Self-Esteem The Downside of Boosting Self-Esteem The Fragility of Self-Esteem The Importance of Flexible Self-Esteem Changing Self-Esteem Over Time Threats to Self-Esteem in Different Contexts The Role of Self-Doubt in Growth and LearningMore about Joe Oliver:Joe is a Consultant Clinical Psychologist and director for Contextual Consulting, an ACT based consultancy in the UK, offering training, coaching and therapy.Joe is joint-director for the University College London Cognitive Behavioural Therapy in Psychosis Post Graduate Diploma, whilst also holding a post within the NHS. He is a peer reviewed ACBS ACT trainer and regularly trains professionals both nationally and internationally. Joe is co-editor of the textbook, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Mindfulness for Psychosis and co-author of the ACT self-help book, ACTivate Your Life.Visit Joe’s website: http://actforpsychosis.com/joe-oliverFollow us on Facebook @lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast and on Instagram @lifesdirtylittlesecretsReach out and let us know you are listening and what you would like to hear on the show - email:lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast@gmail.comStruggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)