Life's Dirty Little Secrets Podcast | Breaking Silence Around the Secrets We All Carry

In today’s revealing episode, we welcome Dr. Amy Beddows, a leading expert with a Ph.D. focused on victim-blaming within the context of sexual violence. Providing a compelling exploration of this societal phenomenon, Dr. Beddows dissects the multifaceted layers of victim guilt and its profound implications on survivors.Venturing deep into the grim reality where predators often escape accountability, our guest exposes the strenuous challenges victims face from systemic inefficiencies. From the understaffed support agencies to the emotional strain on police, barristers, and counselors, the episode unveils the heartbreaking burden on those seeking justice.Join us as Dr. Beddows also addresses how victim-blaming maintains patriarchal structures, obstructing societal progress and diverting essential funding from victim services.Together, we confront the distressing impact of cognitive dissonance and emotional distress among victims and acknowledge the unspoken consequences of burnout and cynicism among professionals. Shedding light on the intricate web of sexism, racism, and ableism that exacerbates victim-blaming, this episode stands as a call to action for empathy and systemic reform. The Societal Impact of Victim Blaming Victim Blaming Across Various Situations Dr. Amy Beddows' Research Insights Agency and Support Service Challenges Service Provider Challenges and Burnout The Role of Compassion and Human ConnectionLearn more about this episode:https://www.lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast.com/episodes/secret-26-victim-blame-with-amy-beddowsSubscribe to Life's Dirty Little Secrets YouTube Channel!Struggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

In this episode of Life's Dirty Little Secrets, we delve into the multifaceted concept of "Sisu" with our esteemed guest, Dr. Elisabet Lahti, the founder of Sisu Lab and an educator devoutly studying this Finnish philosophy. Dr. Lahti unravels the threads of extraordinary determination encapsulated in Sisu, a reserve of power each of us harbors for life's most challenging moments.Embarking on a journey through the psyche, this discussion explores the engaging intersection between Sisu and human progress, analyzing how one's action mindset and courage can transform perceived impossibilities into stepping stones for personal growth. Dr. Lahti constructs a compelling narrative around Sisu as an embodied somatic fortitude, distinguishing it from cognitive traits like passion or resilience.However, this episode isn't just about the strengths of Sisu. Dr. Lahti candidly discusses its potential dark side—when determination morphs into stubbornness or when excess grit leads to burnout, revealing the fine line between fortitude and fragility. Introduction to Dr. Elisabet Lahti and the Concept of Sisu The Core Elements of Sisu Sisu in the Face of Adversity and Personal Challenges Sisu and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Commitment and Courage in Sisu The Balance of Determination and GentlenessSHOW NOTES: https://www.lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast.com/episodes/Secret-25-Gentle-Power-with-Dr-Elisabet-LahtiSubscribe to Life's Dirty Little Secrets YouTube Channel!Struggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

In this episode, we welcome the insightful Katie Palmer, a renowned educational consultant and parenting coach, who dives deep into the controversial and emotional topic of parental favoritism. Katie invites listeners to explore the reluctant admittance of having a 'favorite child' and the potential psychological impact this taboo subject can have on family dynamics.This episode peels back the layers on the challenging issue of fair versus equal treatment and the intricacies of parenting. Discover how balancing different needs does not invariably equate to equitable treatment and why understanding this distinction is fundamental in nurturing well-rounded individuals.Listeners will find themselves deeply engrossed in personal anecdotes and expert insights that shine a light on the internal struggles parents face when connecting with their offspring. Especially poignant is the examination of shared values, teenage rebellion, and the constant negotiation of needs and values within the family structure.Highlights: Insights on reluctance in admitting favoritism among children The Emotional Challenges of Parenting and Fairness The Favorite Child: Parental Perspectives and Dilemmas Balancing Values, Needs, and Relationship Dynamics Fairness vs. Equality: Understanding the DistinctionSHOW NOTES: https://www.lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast.com/episodes/Secret-24-The-Favorite-Child-with-Katie-PalmerSubscribe to Life's Dirty Little Secrets YouTube Channel!Resources Mentioned in this episode:A study on the notion of a “favorite child” from Purdue UniversityAn article on parent favoritism from The Institute for FStruggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

In this enlightening Life's Dirty Little Secrets episode hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry delve deep with the Buddhist philosopher, Stephen Batchelor on navigating ethical dilemmas in a world bound by societal norms. In this episode, Stephen challenges listeners to find courage and clarity in uncertainty, and to embrace radical self-acceptance as a means to thoughtful, compassionate living.Touching on the need for like-minded communities amid the decline of traditional institutions, this episode encourages individuals to consciously forge new support systems. Stephen's call for a personal approach to spirituality and ethics resonates throughout the discussion, advocating for a non-binary grasp of morality.Tune in to explore the balance between individual beliefs and societal pressures, and how meditation groups can anchor us in a turbulent sea of systemic issues. "Good and Evil with Stephen Batchelor" is a must-hear for those wrestling with life's complex ethical questions.Highlights: The Nature of Ethical Choices Personal Values vs. Societal Pressures Inner Values and Intuition Stress, Binary Thinking, and Language Self-Acceptance and GrowthTimestamps:[00:00] Striking similarities in inner struggles, liberating experience.[05:07] Overwhelmed by thoughts, emotions, habits, regrets, grudges. Ethical uncertainty.[06:35] Striving for best intentions often leads astray.[12:58] Ethics is about becoming the best version of oneself.[14:25] Ethics is about shaping and forming oneself.[18:29] Tradition must adapt to the changing world.[23:45] Ethics and imagination crucial for societal change.[26:02] Encouraging tough questions, creativity, and ethical change.[28:20] Marvel at the mysterious complexity of human society.[33:07] Influential counterculture can inspire real societal change.[36:22] Challenging binary thinking for ethical understanding.[41:35] Language reinforces binary habits, rooted in evolution.[43:58] Radical self-acceptance is vital in ethical traininStruggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

Join hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry, alongside esteemed guest Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona (affectionately known as Dr. Z), as they delve deep into the intricate maze of perfectionism. Together, they unravel the complexities that drive our relentless pursuit of flawlessness and the hidden costs it entails.Dr. Z opens the discussion by dissecting the motivations behind perfectionistic tendencies, from a profound care for one's work to the haunting fear of failure and the rigid adherence to internalized rules. As she shares fascinating insights from her clinical experience, you'll learn about the crucial need to examine these often subconscious guidelines that forge our actions and shape our lives.The hosts also reflect on societal pressures and the intricate balance of caring for others while nurturing self-compassion. They converse about the paradox of promoting self-care when society often glorifies self-sacrifice, and Emma candidly shares her own journey toward understanding that self-kindness manifests in various, sometimes unexpected, forms.Dr. Z advocates for a balanced approach to high achievement by laying bare a comical yet relatable anecdote about her quest for the perfect TV - a metaphorical invitation for listeners to contemplate when to aim for the stars and when 'good enough' truly suffices.Highlights: Understanding Perfectionism The Concept of the "Maximizer" Self-Compassion and Self-Care Social and Interpersonal Perfectionism Radical Acceptance and Personal ValuesTimestamps:[00:00] Fear of failure and rigid rules controlling behavior.[05:18] Understanding client's struggles, mind's protective patterns.[10:21] Dismissing standards invalidates and fosters fear.[12:53] Caring about values & flexibility in actions.[15:58] Approach tasks with fear or expansion.[18:52] Reflect on motivations driving urges and choices.[22:49] Teenager's stress due to late-night studying.[26:09] Helping people with self-compassion and growth.[28:46] Prioritizing health, limitations, and persStruggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

In this episode of "Life's Dirty Little Secrets," hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry invite Kristen Campbell, a clinical psychosexual therapist, to delve deep into the secrets of our sexual selves. From exploring the emotional neglect in previous generations to the importance of personal responsibility for pleasure, this episode promises to challenge deeply ingrained societal messages around sexuality and provide valuable insights.Kristen touches on the lack of investment in sexual development as people grow, leading to anxiety and feelings of inadequacy in partnered experiences. She emphasizes the importance of personal responsibility for pleasure and the need to learn about sexual experiences on one's own to reduce pressure. Together with Emma and Chris, she advocates for cultivating healthy sexual practices from childhood through adulthood, while addressing the taboo and societal beliefs surrounding sexual development.Join the hosts and guest as they discuss the impact of mismatched libido in couples, the need for open conversations about sexual desires, and the importance of giving oneself permission to explore and discover what truly brings pleasureHighlights: Importance of Personal Responsibility in Sexual Development Parental Guidance and Children's Sexual Development Cultivating a Healthy Masturbation Practice Effort in Sexual Relationships Talking with Children about Bodies and PleasureResources:Family Planning Queensland - Traffic Light Resource - Sexual BehaviorsSecret #8: The Taboo of Sex with Kristen CampbellAbout Kristen CampbellVisit Kristen’s website: http://www.kristencampbell.com.au/aboutI have been working as a Social Worker for 15 Struggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

In this episode, we delve into the controversial notion of "normal." Renowned psychologist, Dr. Steven C. Hayes, challenges the traditional understanding of normalcy, and exposes its historical ties to eugenics and the distortion by scientists for over a century.Dr. Hayes advocates for a shift from standardized, one-size-fits-all treatment plans, instead, highlighting the importance of individual differences and the need for personalized approaches in therapy and medicine.Join us as we explore the implications of embracing individual diversity and the potential for AI tools to tailor treatments based on individual choices. This thought-provoking discussion sheds light on the complexities of mental health and the importance of valuing individual voices in a world obsessed with the concept of "normal."Highlights: Dr. Steve Hayes' Critique of Statistical Models and Emphasis on Individual Differences The Concept of "Normal" and Its Historical Context Embracing Common Humanity and the Myth of "Normal" Versus "Broken" Individuals Personalization in Mental Health and Behavioral Health Use of Technology and Data for Personalized PsychologyAbout Dr. Steven C. HayesCheck out Dr. Hayes Youtube ChannelJoin Psychflex - Get first 30 days for freeVisit Institute For Better healthFollow Dr. Hayes on LinkedinVisit Dr. Hayes website and get his free newsletterDr. Steven C. Hayes is an Emeritus Professor of Psychology at the University of Nevada, Reno and President of the Institute for Better Health, a nearly 50-year old charitable organization dedicated to better mental and behavioral health. He is also the author of 48 books and over 700 scientific articles, originator of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Relational Frame Theory, and co-founder of Process-Based Therapy and of PsychFlex.Struggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

For season 2 of "Life's Dirty Little Secrets" podcast, hosts Chris McCurry and Emma Waddington express the importance of embracing our fallibility in a society that often rewards pretending to be perfect.They give a sneak peek of the exciting conversations lined up for the upcoming season, featuring guests and topics such as Steve Hayes (myth of normalcy), Kristen Campbell (our sexual selves), Elisabeth Lahti (the Finnish concept of sisu), Dr. Zurita (the downsides of perfectionism), and Stephen Batchelor (the duality of good and evil) and more.Don't miss out on this insightful and engaging podcast that delves into the depths of human existence by exploring life's dirty little secrets with honesty and compassion. Follow, rate, and review the podcast on your preferred platform to help spread the word and reach new listeners.Follow us on Facebook @lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast and on Instagram @lifesdirtylittlesecretsReach out and let us know you are listening and what you would like to hear on the show - email:lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast@gmail.com ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

In the season 1 finale of Life's Dirty Little Secrets, hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry explore the profound complexities of embracing change and fostering personal growth. Through candid and introspective discussions, they delve into the challenges of self-doubt, imposter syndrome, and the transformative power of second-order change.Drawing from their experiences and insights gained throughout the past year of podcasting, Emma and Chris reflect on the invaluable lessons learned and express gratitude for the privilege of witnessing the genuine human experiences shared on their show. They also offer a glimpse into the forthcoming Season 2, tantalizing listeners with the promise of deeper exploration and engaging discourse.Tune in as Emma and Chris guide listeners through the intricacies of life's less-discussed nuances, inspiring introspection and a renewed appreciation for the journey of self-discovery.Highlights: Importance of Conversations and Understanding in Relationships The Role of Wonder and Curiosity in Adulthood Cultural Emphasis on Productivity and Recognition Letting Go of Control and Focusing on Efforts Body Image, Self-Esteem, and Burnout Reflections on the Podcast's Past Year Embracing Discomfort for GrowthFollow us on Facebook @lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast and on Instagram @lifesdirtylittlesecretsReach out and let us know you are listening and what you would like to hear on the show - email:lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast@gmail.comStruggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

In this episode of "Life's Dirty Little Secrets," join hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry as they dive into the world of adolescence, exploring its challenges, growth opportunities, and the curious minds that define it. Joined by special guest Louise Hayes, a clinical psychologist and author, they discuss why adults struggle with adolescents, the importance of embracing mistakes and taking risks, and the power of curiosity and creativity. They also touch on Louise's volunteer work with the Pearl Trust, a charity helping children in Nepal. Get ready to embrace your inner adolescent and discover the secrets to navigating life's messy moments on this thought-provoking episode.Highlights: Adolescence and the Importance of Discovery and Risk-Taking Nurturing a Sense of Wonder and Openness as Adults Adult Struggles with Adolescents Louise Hayes' Work and Involvement with Pearl Trust Reflecting on Growing Up and Remembering What It's Like to Be a Kid Challenges of Parenting and Respecting Adolescents' AutonomyAbout Dr. Louise HayesVisit Dr. Hayes’ websiteDr Louise Hayes is a clinical psychologist, author, international speaker, and educator. She is a Fellow and Past President of the Association for Contextual Behavioural Science. Louise currently holds a position as Adjunct Senior Research Fellow at La Trobe University, where she collaborates on projects using contextual behavioural science. She is a peer-reviewed Acceptance and Commitment Therapy/Training (ACT) trainer engaged in training professionals worldwide. Together with Joseph Ciarrochi, she developed DNA-v, a leading acceptance and commitment therapy model that has sparked international studies. In 2022 she released a new book for helping adults thrive in the face of change – What Makes You Stronger. She is the co-author of two best-selling books for young people – Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life for Teenagers; and Your Life Your Way. She is also the co-author of the practitioner book, The Thriving Adolescent. Louise is an active cliniStruggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)