Real Men Feel with Andy Grant

Surviving Abuse: Patrick Leary's Four-Year Legal Battle and Advocacy for Male VictimsIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant talks with Patrick Leary, a college professor, coach, and domestic violence survivor. Patrick shares his harrowing experience of enduring false charges, navigating the legal system, and rebuilding his life after years of abuse from his former partner. Throughout the conversation, Patrick discusses the systemic challenges men face when falsely accused, the emotional and financial toll it took on his life, and his journey toward healing and helping others in similar situations. Patrick emphasizes the importance of speaking out, seeking help, and the need for changes in the legal system to support male victims better.00:00 Introduction to Real Men Feel00:19 Meet Patrick Leary: A Survivor's Story00:44 The Legal Battle Begins01:42 Enduring Abuse and Seeking Help05:39 The Turning Point: Protecting the Children07:21 False Accusations and Arrests08:15 Navigating the Legal System12:26 The Struggle for Justice20:53 Life Impact and Continued Legal Challenges28:27 Life Under House Arrest30:28 Support System and Coping Mechanisms32:26 False Charges and Legal Battles35:19 Final Charge and Ongoing Harassment38:47 Reflections and Moving Forward46:17 Advice for Male Victims of Abuse55:58 Conclusion and ResourcesConnect with Patrick LearyLinkedIn -- https://www.linkedin.com/in/patrick-leary-ed-d-2857323/ResourcesAnn Silvers, The Abuse of Men by Women on Real Men Feel -- https://realmenfeel.org/2021/02/16/the-abuse-of-men-by-women/The Abuse of Men by Women, Ann Silvers -- https://amzn.to/41sHYeIConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Confused about where you are headed in life? Book a Clarity Call with Andy at https://theandygrant.com/talkInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantPersonal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/groupYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 344

Healing Through Grief: Jason Tuttle's Journey of Love and LossIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes guest Jason Tuttle, a former stay-at-home parent who shares his deeply personal journey of grief and healing after the loss of his special needs son, Zachary. Jason discusses the challenges he faced as a father caring for two children with significant medical issues, how their unexpected loss impacted his life, and the creation of 'Letters to Zachary' as a way to express his emotions and support others. The conversation touches on male grief, the importance of emotional expression, and the ways in which Jason has turned his pain into a legacy of love and understanding for others.00:00 Introduction to Real Men Feel00:20 Meet Jason Tuttle: A Father's Journey01:19 Becoming a Stay-at-Home Dad02:39 Challenges of Raising Special Needs Children07:30 Daily Life with Zachary20:20 The Unexpected Loss30:39 The Final Moments and Pronouncement31:11 Breaking the News to Family32:06 Processing the Immediate Aftermath33:06 Grieving and Seeking Information35:00 Returning Home and Family Support38:58 Men and Grief: A Personal Perspective43:38 The Birth of 'Letters to Zachary'48:25 Expanding the Grief Community53:35 Advice for Men Dealing with Loss58:44 Faith and Moving Forward01:00:20 Conclusion and ResourcesConnect with JasonLetters To Zachary -- https://letterstozachary.com/Instagram -- https://www.instagram.com/letterstozachary2022/Facebook -- https://www.facebook.com/134438966423994LinkedIn -- https://www.linkedin.com/in/jason-tuttle-4264112a7/TikTok -- https://www.tiktok.com/@letterstozachary2022ResourcesLetters to Zachary Coloring Book -- https://amzn.to/4iijmvUConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Confused about where you are headed in life? Book a Clarity Call with Andy at https://theandygrant.com/talkInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantPersonal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/groupYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 343

The Journey from Psychedelic Use to Self-Love: Seth Pearson's Insightful StoryIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant interviews Seth Pearson, a guide and healer in the lineage of King Salomon. Seth shares his evolving journey with psychedelics, initially using them for personal growth and deeper understanding, to eventually adopting the teachings of the Modern Mystery School for holistic inner peace and self-love. They discuss the pros and cons of psychedelic use, the impact on mental and emotional well-being, and the transformative power of ancient mystery school traditions. Despite Seth's positive past experiences, he no longer recommends psychedelics, advocating instead for alternative spiritual paths for lasting change and mental clarity.00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel00:19 Introducing Seth Pearson01:05 Seth's Journey with Psychedelics03:44 First Experiences with MDMA08:40 Exploring Other Substances15:35 Transition to the Modern Mystery School19:39 Understanding the Modern Mystery School27:30 Navigating Personal Transformation28:19 Concerns About Mainstream Psychedelics29:33 Holotropic Breathwork Experiences33:32 The Journey to Self-Love37:18 Coping with Loss and Substance Use41:06 Final Thoughts and ResourcesConnect with SethSeth Pearson -- https://www.loveamped.comInstagram -- https://www.instagram.com/loveampedseth/YouTube -- https://www.youtube.com/@loveampedsethResourcesLove Amped with Seth Pearson -- https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-amped-with-seth-pearson/id1407789727Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Ready to create your best year yet? Book a Clarity Call with Andy at https://theandygrant.com/talkInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantPersonal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/groupYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 342

Exploring Psychedelics: Healing, Integration, and Personal Growth with Matt ZemanIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant is joined by Matt Zeman, a bestselling author and expert in psychedelics, to discuss the transformative power of these substances. The conversation delves into Matt's journey into the world of psychedelics, their potential benefits for mental health, particularly for veterans, and the differentiation between tripping for fun and using psychedelics as a therapeutic tool. They also explore the importance of integration and community support in processing psychedelic experiences. Matt shares insights on various psychedelics, including magic mushrooms, ayahuasca, and more, along with his recommendations for safe and sacred use. The episode highlights the potential for psychedelics to act as catalysts for personal growth and healing while emphasizing the need for responsible use and proper support systems.00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel00:17 Introducing Matt Zeman01:14 Personal Psychedelic Experiences03:01 The Healing Power of Psychedelics13:50 Therapeutic and Spiritual Use of Psychedelics17:08 Legal and Decriminalization Aspects21:31 Integration and Community Support24:57 Understanding the Risks of Psychedelics25:50 Exploring Holotropic Breathwork26:08 Personal Healing Through Breathwork27:45 Comparing Breathwork and Psychedelics28:57 Guidance on Choosing Psychedelics or Breathwork30:33 Exciting Areas in Psychedelic Research33:23 Integrating Psychedelic Experiences39:50 Veteran Support and Psychedelics43:07 Final Thoughts and Contact InformationConnect with MattMatt Zemon -- https://mattzemon.com/LinkedIn -- https://www.linkedin.com/in/mattzemon/Instagram -- https://www.instagram.com/matt.zemon/Resources The Veteran's Guide to Psychedelics -- https://amzn.to/4k7vuS6All Matt's books -- https://amzn.to/3D4Q70CHeroic Hearts Project -- https://heroicheartsproject.org/Andy's book on Holotropic Breathwork -- https://amzn.to/4hKPhp1Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Ready to create your best year yet? Book a Clarity Call with Andy at https://theandygrant.com/talkInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantPersonal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/groupSupport this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/supportYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 341

Healing Masculinity and Femininity: A Conversation with Lux VivensIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant speaks with Lux Vivens, a healer, health chef, artist, and ritual master. They discuss Lux's views on modern masculinity and femininity, the societal pressures men face, and the misconceptions both genders have about each other. Lux shares insights on emotional intelligence, authenticity, and the importance of service. She also delves into her work with remothering and sensual alchemy, emphasizing the importance of understanding one's spiritual purpose and the healing power of unconditional love. They conclude by discussing how women can better support men, the joy found in service, and Lux's various charitable endeavors.00:00 Welcome Back to Real Men Feel00:37 Introducing Lux Vivens00:54 Lux's Views on Masculinity and Femininity02:02 The Illusion of Success05:51 The Importance of Authenticity07:21 Healing and Emotional Expression23:32 The Role of Service and Purpose31:17 Remothering and Healing41:43 Lux's Charity Work and ConclusionConnect with LuxLux Vivens -- https://holisticmagickian.com/Lux's Clothing Line -- https://www.holimagi.com/Instagram -- https://www.instagram.com/datmagickbish/ResourcesAustin Community Care -- https://www.austincommunitycare.com/Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Ready to create your best year yet? Book a Clarity Call with Andy at https://theandygrant.com/talkInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantPersonal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/groupSupport this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/supportYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 340

From Pastor to Porn Star: Navigating Faith, Stigma, and Performance Anxiety with Doc ChocolateIn this episode of 'Real Men Feel,' host Andy Grant welcomes Doc Chocolate, a former pastor turned porn star who is now a coach and content creator in the adult industry. Doc shares his unconventional journey, from his pastorship in his 20s to embracing the swinging lifestyle and entering the porn industry. The conversation delves deep into his struggles with reconciling his faith, overcoming stigma, and managing performance anxiety.Doc also discusses the intricacies of alternative lifestyles, such as cuckolding, and offers advice on living authentically without seeking societal approval. Additionally, he opens up about his battles with depression and the support systems that have helped him.This episode candidly explores the importance of living one's truth, the complexities of human emotion, and the importance of self-acceptance.00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel00:19 Introducing Doc Chocolate00:55 Doc's Journey from Pastor to Porn Star02:55 Reconciling Faith and Career04:14 Personal Relationships in the Adult Industry07:32 Understanding Cuckolding15:16 Dealing with Depression and Mental Health21:34 Challenges and Realities of Being a Porn Star24:19 Coaching and Advice for Men26:20 Final Thoughts and FarewellConnect with DocDoc Chocolate --http://docchocolatebbc.com/Instagram --https://www.instagram.com/docchocolatebbc/Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Ready to create your best year yet? Book a Clarity Call with Andy athttps://theandygrant.com/talkInstagram |@realmenfeelshow &@theandygrantPersonal Website |https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Podcast Website |http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!RMF Facebook Group |http://realmenfeel.org/groupSupport this podcast |https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/supportYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 339

The Journey to Emotional Healing with Patrick Doyle In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant interviews Patrick Doyle, a bestselling author and expert in emotional abuse recovery, addiction counseling, and spiritual leadership. Patrick shares his profound personal experiences with trauma, abuse, and addiction, which led him to help others on their paths to healing. The discussion touches on the dangers of avoiding pain, the impact of childhood trauma on emotional expression, the complexity of emotional abuse, and the importance of creating safe spaces for honesty and recovery. Patrick also shares his transformational journey, how he coped with an abusive upbringing, his unexpected path into counseling, and the profound insights that have shaped his life and work. 00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel 00:19 Meet Patrick Doyle: Expert in Emotional Abuse Recovery 01:33 Patrick's Traumatic Childhood 04:12 Turning Point: A Religious Experience 06:02 The Struggle with Addiction 09:37 The Power of Care and Overcoming Denial 20:56 Understanding Emotional Abuse 24:51 The Dangers of One-Size-Fits-All Advice 25:57 Impact of Childhood Trauma on Men 27:11 Addressing Core Lies for Healing 28:07 Recognizing and Documenting Abusive Patterns 32:01 The Importance of Safety in Healing 32:54 The Harm of Labeling in Psychological Counseling 34:41 Trust and Value in Relationships 37:03 Invisible Scars of Emotional Abuse 39:47 Gender Differences in Abuse Recovery 42:59 Resources and Support for Abuse Survivors 49:37 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Connect with Patrick Patrick Doyle -- https://www.patrickdoyle.life/ Facebook -- https://www.facebook.com/patrickdoyle.life Instagram -- https://www.instagram.com/patrickdoyle.life/ YouTube -- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNn5kNXoeuPPZLhuNpWLXIA Resources Death of a Thousand Cuts: The Impact of Emotional Abuse, Patrick Doyle -- https://amzn.to/4gnc5cE Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Ready to create your best year yet? Book a Clarity Call with Andy at https://theandygrant.com/talk Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Personal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related! RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/group Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 338

Embracing the True Meaning of Showing Up with Marcy Axelrod How Are You Showing Up? In this episode of Real Men Feel, Andy Grant hosts Marcy Axelrod, a best-selling author and TEDx speaker, who delves into the true essence of 'showing up.' Marcy explains that showing up isn't just about being present but a deeper existential experience influenced by our beliefs, thoughts, and attention systems. They discuss the three roles we habitually play—self, situational, and societal—and how truly showing up can change our lives and improve our performance. Marcy also shares insights from her latest book, 'How We Choose to Show Up.' She provides practical steps for individuals to truly show up, emphasizing the importance of care, noticing, and acceptance. 00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel 00:18 Introducing Marcy Axelrod 01:22 Understanding 'Showing Up' 03:12 The Two Attention Systems 04:43 Levels of Showing Up 09:40 Society's Impact on Showing Up 17:18 The Natural Progression of Showing Up 24:18 Marcy's Personal Journey 24:53 A Childhood Memory and Its Impact 25:48 The Journey into Psychology and Consulting 26:09 Practical Steps to Show Up in 2025 27:31 The Importance of Noticing and Gratitude 28:31 Belief Systems and Emotional Care 32:34 The Role of Society and Individual Responsibility 36:04 The Concept of Showing Up 38:58 Final Thoughts and Call to Action Connect with Marcy Marcy Axelrod -- http://www.choosetoshowup.com/ LinkedIn -- https://www.linkedin.com/in/marcy/ Instagram -- https://www.instagram.com/marcyaxelrod/ Resources How We Choose to Show Up: Nature's Playbook for Creating a Meaningful Life, Marcy Axelrod -- https://amzn.to/4jjkIrq Immoderate Greatness: Why Civilizations Fail, William Ophuls -- https://amzn.to/3PIVbu5 Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Ready to create your best year yet? Book a Clarity Call with Andy at https://theandygrant.com/talk Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Personal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related! RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/group Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 337

Balancing Sports, Academics, and Mental Health In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant interviews Walker Ferguson, a senior at Wake Forest University majoring in economics and minoring in communications. Walker is a former football player and co-founder of Ascend, a meditation and wellness app. They discuss Walker's experience balancing sports, academics, and entrepreneurship and how personal struggles led to the creation of the app. The conversation touches on the stigma around men asking for help, the importance of community, and the unique features of the Ascend app. Walker shares his journey of embracing discipline and consistency, the impact of mindfulness, and his vision for Ascend's growth. He also emphasizes the importance of reading, self-care, and maintaining spirituality. The episode concludes with Walker expressing his pride in positively impacting others' lives and looking forward to Ascend's future. 00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel 00:19 Introducing Walker Ferguson 00:33 Balancing Academics, Athletics, and Entrepreneurship 03:48 The Journey to Creating Ascend 04:31 The Importance of Community and Asking for Help 12:36 Features and Benefits of the Ascend App 18:41 Personal Growth and Reflections 26:59 Looking Forward: Goals and Aspirations 30:29 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Connect with Walker and Ascend Ascend -- https://ascendmeditations.app/ Walker on LinkedIn -- https://www.linkedin.com/in/wferguson17/ Ascend Instagram -- https://www.instagram.com/ascendapp.ai/ Ascend Facebook -- https://www.facebook.com/people/Ascend-Meditations/61558681012579/ Resources The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Steven R. Covey -- https://amzn.to/3C7mZFr Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Ready to create your best year yet? Book a Clarity Call with Andy at https://theandygrant.com/talk Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Personal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related! RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/group Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 336

Mastering Emotional Avoidance with Dr. Michelle Maidenberg In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes Dr. Michelle Maidenberg, a New York-based therapist and author of 'Ace Your Life: Unleash Your Best Self and Live the Life You Want.' They delve into a master class on emotional avoidance, discussing why people engage in it and how it can worsen emotional experiences. Dr. Maidenberg introduces her ACE methodology — Acceptance, Compassion, and Empowerment — to help individuals connect with their core values and lead fulfilling lives. She also offers insights into men's unique struggles with emotional expression and practical strategies for managing intense emotions. Additionally, they explore EMDR therapy and the importance of setting sustainable goals. 00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel 2025 00:20 Introducing Dr. Michelle Maidenberg 01:14 Understanding Emotional Avoidance 04:21 The Impact of Emotional Avoidance 07:15 Connecting with Core Values 16:31 Men and Emotional Avoidance 22:25 Introduction to Managing Negative Emotions 22:44 Understanding Stuckness and Core Values 23:54 The ACE Method: Acceptance, Compassion, and Empowerment 25:22 Sustainability of Change and New Year's Resolutions 29:18 Exploring EMDR and Healing Trauma 34:12 Personal Journey and Professional Insights 40:46 Final Thoughts and Resources Connect with Michelle Dr. Michelle Maidenberg -- http://www.michellemaidenberg.com/ LinkedIn -- https://www.linkedin.com/in/michellemaidenberg/ Instagram -- https://www.instagram.com/drmichellemaidenberg Facebook -- https://www.facebook.com/michellemaidenberg Resources ACE Your Life: Unleash Your Best Self and Live the Life You Want, Michelle Maidenberg -- https://amzn.to/3DIvffG Michelle's YouTube channel -- https://www.youtube.com/c/DrMichelleMaidenberg Psychology Today Blog -- https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/contributors/michelle-p-maidenberg-phd-mph-lcsw-r-cgp Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Ready to create your best year yet? Book a Clarity Call with Andy at https://theandygrant.com/talk Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Personal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related! RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/group Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 335