Real Men Feel with Andy Grant

Overcoming Compulsive Sexual BehaviorIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant speaks with Craig Perra, a renowned expert on overcoming compulsive sexual behaviors, sex addiction, and porn addiction. Craig shares his personal journey from a high-powered attorney with severe addiction issues to becoming a co-founder of the Mindful Habit System, a transformative approach to managing compulsive behaviors. The discussion delves into the underlying causes of such behaviors, the detrimental role of shame, and the importance of leading all parts of oneself, including those aspects one may despise. Craig also emphasizes the necessity of purpose, emotional regulation, and healthy habits in overcoming addiction. Additionally, he sheds light on the unique challenges faced by high-profile individuals and the pervasive impact of easily accessible pornography in today's digital age.00:00 Introduction to the Cure for Sex and Porn Addiction00:32 Meet Craig Perra: Overcoming Addiction01:22 Craig's Personal Journey and Turning Point03:19 Building the Mindful Habit System08:10 The Role of Shame and Internal Family Systems11:52 Challenges with Traditional 12-Step Models14:22 Focusing on Habits Over Addiction16:15 Unique Challenges for High Achievers18:52 Impact of Technology on Compulsive Sexual Activity22:53 Addressing Deeper Needs and Self-Care24:38 Advice for Partners and Breaking the Cycle28:12 The Importance of Healthy Sexual Expression30:15 Final Thoughts and ResourcesConnect with CraigWebsite — https://www.mindfulhabithelp.com/TikTok —   https://www.tiktok.com/@the_mindful_habitInstagram — https://www.instagram.com/mindful_habit_coaching/LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/craigperra/YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/user/themindfulhabitResourcesSex Afflictions & Porn Addictions Podcast — https://pod.link/556373664The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg — https://amzn.to/47wkGaJConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel Website | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 377

Embracing Sexuality and Aging with Karen BigmanIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes Karen Bigman, the founder of Taboo to Truth. Together, they break down myths and stigmas surrounding sex and aging. Karen shares insights on how aging doesn't signify the end of desire and intimacy but can mark a new beginning. They discuss the differences in sexual changes for men and women as they age, the importance of communication in maintaining a healthy sex life, and the significance of emotional intimacy. The conversation also touches upon society's discomfort with discussing sex and the impact of traditional sex education. Karen encourages listeners to embrace new forms of intimacy and pleasure as they grow older, supporting her message with personal anecdotes and professional experiences.00:00 Introduction: Embracing Midlife Changes00:22 Welcome to Real Men Feel00:31 Meet Karen Bigman: Breaking Myths on Sex and Aging01:18 Karen's Journey: From Menopause to Sex Education02:36 Debunking Myths About Aging and Sexuality03:48 Society's Reluctance to Discuss Sex and Aging07:42 Men's Identity and Sexual Performance11:50 Navigating Intimacy and Emotional Connection13:11 Advice for Dating After Long Relationships14:38 Maintaining a Healthy Sex Life in Long-Term Relationships19:07 Exploring Sexuality and Kink in Midlife24:51 Karen's Personal Dating Experiences25:58 The Importance of Open Conversations About Sex27:18 Karen's Podcast and Final Thoughts30:09 Conclusion: Aging and New PossibilitiesConnect with KarenWebsite — https://www.taboototruth.com/TikTok —   https://www.tiktok.com/@taboototruthInstagram — https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthLinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenbigman/YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel Website | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 376

Healing the Father Wound: Kevin Palmieri's Journey to Self-WorthIn this powerful episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes Kevin Palmieri, founder and co-host of the Next Level University podcast. Kevin shares his transformative experience of meeting his father for the first time at age 27 and how it shaped his life. From dealing with imposter syndrome in his youth to overcoming rock bottom moments and contemplating suicide, Kevin's journey exemplifies resilience and personal growth. They delve into the profound impact of growing up without a father, redefining self-worth, and the importance of vulnerability for men. Whether you're grappling with your own father wound or seeking to build a life you're proud of, this conversation offers valuable insights and inspiration. Join the Authentic AF Community for more support and connection at realmenfeel.org/group.00:00 Meeting My Dad at 27: A Life-Changing Experience00:24 Introduction to Real Men Feel Podcast00:37 Kevin Palmieri's Journey: From Success to Contemplating Suicide01:29 Growing Up Without a Father: Kevin's Childhood Reflections04:14 The Impact of Masculinity and Self-Worth06:43 The Unexpected Facebook Message09:36 Meeting My Dad: The Emotional Encounter13:30 Reflecting on the Father Wound and Personal Growth16:33 Kevin's Rock Bottom: The Breaking Point17:37 Hitting Rock Bottom18:31 A Year on the Road19:14 Starting the Hyperconscious Podcast19:51 Struggling with Mental Health21:17 The Turning Point22:49 The Pain-Pleasure Pendulum24:21 Redefining Self-Worth27:21 Lessons from 2000 Episodes29:57 The Power of Vulnerability34:19 Connecting and Growing Connect with KevinWebsite — https://www.nextleveluniverse.com/Facebook —   https://www.facebook.com/kevin.palmieri.90/Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/neverquitkid/LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/kevin-palmieri-5b7736160/YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBo--QvPHbGOrO13C0XyybgConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel Website | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 375

Exploring Emotional Literacy and Attachment StylesIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant delves into the crucial topic of emotional literacy with guest Alexandra Velez, creator of Secure School. They discuss the importance of recognizing, naming, and navigating emotions as a foundation for emotional intelligence, and how these skills significantly impact personal and relational well-being. Alexandra provides insights into how early life experiences and societal norms shape emotional development, particularly for men. The conversation also touches on attachment styles, their origins, and how individuals can transform their attachment patterns to foster healthier relationships. Practical tools like the emotion wheel are suggested for better emotional management. Alexandra highlights the need for emotional education from an early age to prevent future relational and emotional challenges.00:00 Introduction to Real Men Feel00:40 Meet Alexandra Velez: Emotional Literacy Expert01:18 Understanding Emotional Literacy vs. Emotional Intelligence02:06 The Importance of Emotional Literacy in Daily Life04:46 Overcoming Emotional Illiteracy08:40 Practical Tools for Emotional Literacy12:24 Attachment Styles Explained17:57 The Role of Technology in Emotional Literacy19:45 The Vision for Emotional Literacy Education23:26 Challenges Men Face in Developing Emotional Literacy25:53 The Availability Awards: Recognizing Emotional Unavailability29:49 Final Thoughts and Where to Learn MoreConnect with AlexandraAlexandra Velez → ⁠http://www.mysecureera.com/⁠Love Pattern Report → https://www.mysecureera.com/lovepattern Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/alexandravelezofficial/YouTube → https://www.youtube.com/@AlexandraVelezOfficialResourcesThe Availability Awards by Alexandra Velez — https://amzn.to/4nUVqSgConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel Website | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 374

Overcoming Trauma and Embracing VulnerabilityIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant engages in a heartfelt conversation with Aaron Gambel, an impact-driven life coach and men's group facilitator. Aaron shares his personal journey through a pivotal moment that led him to prioritize his mental health and ultimately pursue a mission to lower male suicide rates. Drawing on his experiences with divorce and emotional healing, Aaron offers insightful commentary on rewriting one's story, facing trauma, and the importance of creating safe spaces for men to express their emotions. Together, they explore the deepest challenges men face and the transformative potential of vulnerability and connection in men's groups.00:00 Understanding the Subconscious Mind00:20 Introduction to Real Men Feel01:04 Aaron Gambel's Turning Point03:40 The Dark Night of the Soul05:06 Mental Health College Experience08:51 Rewriting Your Story22:17 The Importance of Men's Groups35:21 Steps to Emotional Awareness37:51 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsConnect with AaronAaron Gambel — https://www.aarongambel.com/Tiktok —   https://www.tiktok.com/@aarongambelInstagram — https://www.instagram.com/aaronmgambel/ResourcesAdult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson — https://amzn.to/3KT6VLmThe Body Keeps The Score by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. — https://amzn.to/3KStzn9Still Here: How to Succeed In Life After Failing at Suicide by Andy Grant — https://amzn.to/4mSvk17From the Core by John Wineland — https://amzn.to/433os9ZConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel Website | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 373

Unpacking NarcissismReal Men Feel host Andy Grant converses with Sterlin Mosley, a therapist, professor, and author specializing in relationships, attachment, and personality dynamics. The discussion delves into the complexities of narcissism, exploring what it truly means, how it manifests in both men and women, and its impact on relationships. Sterlin shares valuable insights on recognizing narcissistic traits, managing relationships with narcissists, and addressing one's own narcissistic tendencies. Listeners are invited to join the Authentic AF community for further discussions on masculinity, emotions, and healing.00:00 Introduction to Real Men Feel01:13 Understanding Narcissism with Sterlin Mosley02:59 Types and Traits of Narcissism10:41 Narcissism in Men vs. Women15:05 Can Narcissists Change?18:27 Recognizing Narcissistic Relationships28:31 Cultural and Developmental Influences on Narcissism30:48 Sterlin Mosley's New Book and Final ThoughtsConnect with SterlinSterlin Mosley — https://sterlinmosley.comSubstack — https://sterlinmosley.substack.com/Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/sterlinmosley/LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/sterlinmosley/ResourcesCenter of the Universe: Transforming the 27 Types of Narcissism from the Inside Out — https://amzn.to/483i1HpThe Narcissist in You and Everyone Else: Recognizing the 27 Types of Narcissism — https://amzn.to/3KfxBWGConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel Website | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 372

Self-Care is SelflessIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant is joined by Coach Brian Parana, a health coach, husband, father of four, and former owner of a CrossFit gym. Brian emphasizes that the most selfless thing a man can do for his loved ones is to take better care of himself. Throughout their discussion, Brian shares his journey into fitness, insights on balancing self-care with family responsibilities, and the importance of community and accountability. The episode examines the challenges men face in prioritizing their health and offers practical advice for overcoming these obstacles. Listeners are also introduced to Brian's 'Call to Rise,' a 100-day transformation program designed to help men reclaim their energy and leadership.00:00 Introduction: The Importance of Self-Care00:30 Welcome to Real Men Feel00:36 Meet Coach Brian Parana01:32 Brian's Journey into Fitness03:23 Balancing Health and Relationships04:53 The Selflessness of Self-Care05:38 Reframing Mindsets for Better Health07:49 Success Stories: Transforming Lives10:17 Common Excuses and Overcoming Them14:42 The Call to Rise Program16:20 Building a Brotherhood Through Fitness22:40 Balancing Family, Work, and Health26:49 The Importance of Self-Leadership27:54 Final Thoughts and FarewellConnect with BrianThe Call To Rise — https://thecalltorise.com/Instagram — https://instagram.com/coachbrianparanaFacebook — https://www.facebook.com/coachbrianparana/LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachbrianparana/Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel Website | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 371

From Boyhood to True ManhoodReal Men Feel host Andy Grant engages in an insightful conversation with Alessandro Frosali, a men's coach and host of the S-T-F-U-A-L podcast. Alessandro shares his transformational journey from hitting rock bottom in his marriage to reclaiming integrated manhood. The discussion explores the crucial differences between boyhood and manhood behaviors, the significance of rites of passage, and the importance of elder wisdom in modern life. Alessandro also highlights practical tools for self-discovery and the value of emotional control, responsibility, and authentic connections in personal growth and relationships.00:00 Boys Ruling The World00:26 Meet Alessandro Frosali: A Journey of Transformation01:23 The Turning Point: What Does It Mean to Be a Man?05:34 Boy Behavior vs. Man Behavior14:51 The Importance of Rites of Passage20:35 Creating Love and Unity: The Mission Behind the Podcast22:11 Tools for Self-Discovery and Growth27:03 Final Thoughts and Closing RemarksConnect with AlessandroInstagram — https://www.instagram.com/alessandro_frosali/Alessandro Frosali — https://alessandrofrosali.com/YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@alessandrofrosaliResourcesThe Making of Men: Raising boys to be happy, healthy and successful by Arne Rubenstin — https://amzn.to/41SYUffThe Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron — https://amzn.to/4pk53eBConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel Website | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 370

Transforming Firefighter WellnessReal Men Feel host Andy Grant converses with Robbie Nebergall, a veteran firefighter and founder of the Reclaim fitness program. Robbie discusses the physical and mental toll that the firefighting profession can take, breaking down the stigma surrounding mental health, and how his program aims to transform the health and well-being of firefighters. He addresses the cultural resistance to change within the fire service and underscores the importance of community, emotional resilience, and continuous fitness standards. Robbie also shares personal anecdotes that inspired his mission to improve firefighter wellness and outlines his vision for a healthy, sustainable career in firefighting.00:00 Introduction to the Warrior Mindset00:21 Meet Robbie Nebergall: Firefighter and Fitness Coach01:16 The Realities of Firefighting: Mental and Physical Toll05:16 Changing the Fire Service Culture17:13 Reclaim: A Program for Firefighters20:40 Redefining the Warrior Mindset23:20 Challenges and Future of Fire Service31:15 Conclusion and Contact InformationConnect with RobbieInstagram — https://www.instagram.com/robbienebsSKool Community — https://www.skool.com/reclaim-your-life-3729/aboutYouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@ReclaimFitnessGroupConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel Website | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 369

Dawud Wallace, a speaker, entrepreneur, and author of 'When a Brother Needs a Friend Too,' champions emotional wellness, particularly among Black men. He shares his transformative journey from caregiving for his sick mother to understanding that true strength lies in vulnerability. They tackle the restrictive 'man box' and discuss how emotional isolation impacts Black men deeply. Dawud highlights the need for safe spaces and accountability in male friendships, advocating for honest conversations about feelings and prioritizing mental health.