Real Men Feel with Andy Grant

Overcoming Sexual Performance AnxietyIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant discusses the often taboo topic of erectile dysfunction, sexual performance anxiety, and the fear of being broken with guest Shay Doran. Shay, a coach who helps men overcome these issues, shares his personal journey and insights on why ED is rarely just about the body but more about mindset. They discuss the societal pressures and beliefs that contribute to performance anxiety, the impact on relationships, and the importance of seeking help. Shay also explores the harmful cycle of quick fixes and the cultural differences in perceptions of masculinity and sexual performance. The episode emphasizes that these challenges are normal and that men aren't alone in their struggles.00:00 The Influence of Porn on Sex Education00:36 Introduction to Real Men Feel and Today's Topic00:52 Meet Shay Doran: Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety01:43 Shay's Personal Journey with Performance Anxiety04:24 The Root Causes of Performance Anxiety06:31 The Performative Mindset and Its Impact07:17 Distinguishing Between Medical and Mindset Issues10:06 The Trap of Quick Fixes and Marketing Scams13:10 The Importance of Seeking Help and Guidance17:37 The Relational Impact of Erectile Dysfunction20:31 Addressing the Elephant in the Room21:11 Non-Judgmental Support and Communication22:10 Working with Men on Performance Issues23:19 Unique Challenges for Gay and Bi Men25:43 Decoupling Masculine Identity from Sexual Performance28:26 Common Aha Moments in Therapy30:30 Cultural Differences in Masculinity and Performance Anxiety32:01 Normalizing Sexual Performance Fluctuations34:10 Impact of Porn on Sexual Performance34:56 Connecting with Shay Doran36:14 Beyond Sexual Performance: Living Authentically38:28 Final Thoughts and ResourcesConnect with ShayShay Doran — https://shay-doran.comYouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@shay-doranConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 386

Navigating Grief with Gratitude: A Conversation with Steve GamlinIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes Steve Gamlin, known as the Motivational Firewood Guy. Steve shares his journey of grief and gratitude after losing his wife, Tina, in December 2024. The conversation delves deep into the process of living and creating with a broken heart, the power of visualization, and the impact of everyday kindness. Steve also discusses the importance of authentic expression and being honest about where you are in life. This heartfelt discussion is both uplifting and profoundly human, providing insights into how to find strength and purpose amid profound loss.00:00 Introduction and Personal Tragedy00:41 Meet Steve Gamlin: The Motivational Firewood Guy01:46 The Origin of Motivational Firewood03:50 Understanding Visualization and Vision Boards08:15 The Power of Everyday Kindness14:02 Navigating Grief and Sharing the Journey19:09 Personal Journey Through Grief20:49 Rebuilding and Moving Forward21:26 The Importance of Lived Experience23:26 Honoring Tina Through Vision Boards27:03 Daily Habits and Positivity33:29 Future Relationships and Self-Discovery35:32 Final Thoughts and ConnectionConnect with SteveSteve Gamlin — http://SteveGamlinSpeaker.comFacebook — https://www.facebook.com/SteveGamlinLinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/stevegamlin/Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 385

Breaking Down Barriers with the LezBroIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant talks with Aastha Lal, a lesbian coach who is transforming men's relationships by providing a safe, non-competitive, and non-judgmental space for growth. Aastha shares her journey in creating the LezBro, a coaching practice where men can explore vulnerability, emotional honesty, and mindfulness. They discuss common challenges men face, such as reactivity and the need for connection, and highlight practical solutions through mindfulness and meditation. Aastha's unique approach bridges the divide in how men approach emotional openness and mental well-being, creating a ripple effect that benefits their relationships and communities. Join Andy and Aastha as they dive deep into the importance of emotional safety and the unexpected benefits of having a lesbian coach for straight men.00:00 Introduction: The Starvation for Connection00:29 Meet the Guest: Aastha Lahl, The LezBro Coach01:17 The Birth of LezBro: A Safe Space for Men03:00 Common Reactions and Client Experiences04:46 The Importance of Vulnerability and Mindfulness09:43 Challenges Men Face: Emotions and Reactivity12:38 Mindfulness in Practice: Real-Life Applications17:12 Connection in Relationships: Single vs. Married Men19:18 Outdated Masculinity and Emotional Expression27:35 Practical Steps for Men: Starting the Journey31:29 Conclusion: Final Thoughts and ResourcesConnect with AasthaTheLezBro — https://www.thelezbro.com/Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/the.lezbro/Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 384

In this unique clip show, host Andy Grant of Real Men Feel compiles powerful, honest answers from 17 previous guests to one pivotal question: 'What do you wish more men knew?' These responses shed light on the significant themes of love, vulnerability, self-worth, and emotional resilience. From emphasizing the importance of self-love and accountability to advocating for better sexual health and emotional expression, these insights reveal a common thread—strength and vulnerability are not opposites, but essential mates. This episode encourages men to be true to themselves and engage deeply with others.00:00 Introduction to Real Men Feel00:37 The Power of Vulnerability03:34 Embracing Emotional Resilience07:35 Redefining Masculinity14:18 The Importance of Sexual Health17:20 Conclusion and Community InvitationConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 383

From Silence to Strength: A Veteran's JourneyIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant interviews Louis Stockley Jr., an army veteran, father, coach, and founder of Before 22. Louis shares his story of serving 17 years in military and federal service, facing emotional shutdowns, and nearly losing his family to his video game addiction. He discusses the pressures of masculinity, how the military shaped him, and the harrowing experiences of transitioning to civilian life. Louis also talks about his turning point and the creation of Before 22, a movement to help veterans find purpose, brotherhood, and support before falling into severe mental health crises. Join Andy and Louis as they explore the importance of vulnerability, brotherhood, and service in reclaiming one's life and voice.00:00 Military Programming and Emotional Suppression00:40 Introduction to Real Men Feel and Guest Louis Stockley Jr.01:27 Louis Stockley's Military Background and Early Challenges03:13 Lessons in Masculinity and Military Discipline07:55 A Painful Lesson in Commitment10:17 Transitioning to Civilian Life18:28 Struggles with Trust and Isolation21:32 The Turning Point: Overcoming Video Game Addiction28:01 Discovering the Power of Fitness29:00 Helping a Friend in Need32:56 The Impact of Brotherhood35:32 Facing Personal Challenges38:10 Understanding Veterans' Struggles41:18 The Mission of Before 2247:33 Encouraging Vulnerability and Seeking Help52:33 Final Thoughts and ResourcesConnect with LouisLinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/lstockley/Louis on TikTok — https://www.tiktok.com/@vetcoachlouisBefore 22 — https://www.tiktok.com/@before22adayLouis on IG — https://www.instagram.com/vetcoachlouisBefore 22 — https://www.instagram.com/before22aday/Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 382

Breaking the Chains: Reframing TraumaIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant talks with Eugene Z. Bertrand, a master of social work candidate at Columbia University, advocate for trauma-informed mental healthcare, and first-time author. Eugene discusses his journey of turning pain into purpose by reframing trauma as resilience and the significance of vulnerability for healing. Topics include dismantling myths and stigma around domestic violence, betting on oneself, the intersection of trauma and mental health with incarceration, and the importance of representation and support systems. Eugene also shares about his impactful book 'Resilience: Breaking the Chains' and his role as a mitigation specialist in a federal public defender's office.00:00 Introduction and Myths Around Domestic Violence00:23 Meet Eugene Z. Bertrand01:21 Eugene's Journey and Impact of Real Men Feel02:03 Discussing the Man Box and Male Vulnerability04:35 Creativity as a Healing Tool06:01 Eugene's Book: Resilience Breaking the Chains12:06 Challenges and Opportunities in Mental Health for Black Men16:38 Mitigation Specialist Role and Rehabilitation23:08 Betting on Yourself and Personal Growth26:54 Final Thoughts and ConnectionConnect with EugeneEugene Z Bertrand — https://eugenezbertrand.com/LinkedIn — linkedin.com/in/eugene-bertrandResourcesResilience: Breaking the Chains by Eugene Z Bertrand — https://amzn.to/44oc8Sq200 Powerful Positive Affirmations and 6 Simple Tips to Put Them to Work by Andy Grant — https://amzn.to/4p2k8kdConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 381

Overcoming Addiction and Adversity: The Kelley Gulledge StoryIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant speaks with former professional baseball player Kelley Gulledge, who shares his powerful journey from battling crack cocaine addiction to achieving sobriety and overcoming multiple sclerosis. Kelley opens up about his struggles, the pivotal moments that led to his recovery, and the importance of faith, family, and perseverance. This inspirational conversation delves into the depths of addiction, the road to redemption, and the strength needed to rebuild one’s life.00:00 A Shocking Introduction00:32 Meet Kelley Gulledge01:28 Growing Up in a Baseball Family02:51 College Decision and Early Career04:11 The Dark Turn: Addiction Begins05:01 The Struggle with Crack Cocaine08:00 Hitting Rock Bottom12:07 The Road to Recovery15:16 Finding Sobriety and Purpose17:02 A Spiritual Awakening23:03 Returning to Baseball24:06 Struggles with Sobriety and Morality26:39 Finding Support and Love28:55 Health Scare and Diagnosis33:12 Adopting a New Lifestyle36:36 Career Transition and Giving Back41:37 Pride in Family and Faith47:27 Final Reflections and ConnectionConnect with KelleyLinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/kelley-gulledge-22845248/ResourcesThe Wahls Protocol: A Radical New Way to Treat All Chronic Autoimmune Conditions Using Paleo Principles, by Dr Terry Wahls — https://amzn.to/4a6sH93Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 380

Transformational Healing: A Journey Through TraumaIn this episode of 'Real Men Feel,' host Andy Grant engages in a profound conversation with Kerry Blaser, a mother, shaman, and author who has transformed her life from academic and corporate settings to profound healing work following her struggles with pain and trauma. Kerry shares her journey from a suicide attempt to embracing her psychic gifts and using them to heal herself and others. She discusses the critical role men, such as Andrew Tate and Justin Waller, have played in her personal growth and offers insights on how both men and women can navigate their wounds towards wisdom and self-love. Kerry emphasizes the importance of monogamy—the unique bond between specific men and women—and how staying true to one's emotions can lead to authentic, fulfilling relationships.00:00 Introduction to Real Men Feel00:32 Meet Kerry Blaser: A Journey of Healing01:31 Kerry's Turning Point: A Suicide Attempt02:49 Psychic Awakening in the Psych Ward05:17 Embracing Psychic Gifts and Healing09:05 The Power of Yoga and Medicine Journeys11:46 Healing Through Relationships15:24 Mirroring and Healing with Men17:28 Facing Fears and Attracting Unusual Relationships18:06 Emotional Pain and Growth19:03 Challenges with Men and Their Vulnerabilities20:25 Connections to Childhood and Trauma22:28 Healing and Self-Reflection23:12 The Role of Women in Society26:09 Monogamy and Enlightenment28:33 The Importance of Self-Love and Healthy Relationships32:37 The Need for a Healthy Nuclear Family36:47 Final Thoughts and ResourcesConnect with KerryWebsite — https://www.kerryblaser.comInstagram — https://www.instagram.com/kerryblaserofficialTiktok — https://www.tiktok.com/@kerryblaserofficialYouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@kerryblaserResourcesMy Inner Heroine by Kerry Blaser — https://amzn.to/44dqg0HConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel Website | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 379

Facing Imposter Syndrome and GriefIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes Alain Dumonceaux, founder of The Awakened Man, to discuss imposter syndrome and grief. Alain shares his personal journey of loss and self-discovery, including the death of his father-in-law and nearly losing his marriage. He explains how these experiences motivated him to create a supportive community for men to find purpose, power, and wholeness. Alain delves into the concept of awakening, the importance of brotherhood, and how men can move beyond feeling like a fraud to live with real courage. The conversation also explores the different ways men and women handle grief and the importance of acknowledging and addressing internal struggles.00:00 Introduction: The Void of External Validation00:20 Welcome to Real Men Feel00:38 Meet Alain Dumonceaux: Founder of The Awakened Man01:13 Alain's Personal Journey of Loss and Self-Discovery05:21 The Concept of Awakening06:52 The Inner World of Men: Success and Validation09:07 The Importance of Values and Beliefs18:51 Handling Grief and Loss26:57 The Role of Brotherhood and Community30:12 Conclusion: Embracing Purpose and ConnectionConnect with AlainWebsite — https://www.theawakenedman.net/Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/the.revolutionary.manFacebook — https://www.facebook.com/theawakenedman.netYouTube — https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCg8DCH78anx-r7KZEU8EclwResourcesThe Revolutionary Man Podcast — https://therevolutionarymanpodcast.buzzsprout.com/Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel Website | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 378

Overcoming Compulsive Sexual BehaviorIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant speaks with Craig Perra, a renowned expert on overcoming compulsive sexual behaviors, sex addiction, and porn addiction. Craig shares his personal journey from a high-powered attorney with severe addiction issues to becoming a co-founder of the Mindful Habit System, a transformative approach to managing compulsive behaviors. The discussion delves into the underlying causes of such behaviors, the detrimental role of shame, and the importance of leading all parts of oneself, including those aspects one may despise. Craig also emphasizes the necessity of purpose, emotional regulation, and healthy habits in overcoming addiction. Additionally, he sheds light on the unique challenges faced by high-profile individuals and the pervasive impact of easily accessible pornography in today's digital age.00:00 Introduction to the Cure for Sex and Porn Addiction00:32 Meet Craig Perra: Overcoming Addiction01:22 Craig's Personal Journey and Turning Point03:19 Building the Mindful Habit System08:10 The Role of Shame and Internal Family Systems11:52 Challenges with Traditional 12-Step Models14:22 Focusing on Habits Over Addiction16:15 Unique Challenges for High Achievers18:52 Impact of Technology on Compulsive Sexual Activity22:53 Addressing Deeper Needs and Self-Care24:38 Advice for Partners and Breaking the Cycle28:12 The Importance of Healthy Sexual Expression30:15 Final Thoughts and ResourcesConnect with CraigWebsite — https://www.mindfulhabithelp.com/TikTok —   https://www.tiktok.com/@the_mindful_habitInstagram — https://www.instagram.com/mindful_habit_coaching/LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/craigperra/YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/user/themindfulhabitResourcesSex Afflictions & Porn Addictions Podcast — https://pod.link/556373664The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg — https://amzn.to/47wkGaJConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel Website | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 377