Real Men Feel with Andy Grant

In this unique clip show, host Andy Grant of Real Men Feel compiles powerful, honest answers from 17 previous guests to one pivotal question: 'What do you wish more men knew?' These responses shed light on the significant themes of love, vulnerability, self-worth, and emotional resilience. From emphasizing the importance of self-love and accountability to advocating for better sexual health and emotional expression, these insights reveal a common thread—strength and vulnerability are not opposites, but essential mates. This episode encourages men to be true to themselves and engage deeply with others.00:00 Introduction to Real Men Feel00:37 The Power of Vulnerability03:34 Embracing Emotional Resilience07:35 Redefining Masculinity14:18 The Importance of Sexual Health17:20 Conclusion and Community InvitationConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 383

From Silence to Strength: A Veteran's JourneyIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant interviews Louis Stockley Jr., an army veteran, father, coach, and founder of Before 22. Louis shares his story of serving 17 years in military and federal service, facing emotional shutdowns, and nearly losing his family to his video game addiction. He discusses the pressures of masculinity, how the military shaped him, and the harrowing experiences of transitioning to civilian life. Louis also talks about his turning point and the creation of Before 22, a movement to help veterans find purpose, brotherhood, and support before falling into severe mental health crises. Join Andy and Louis as they explore the importance of vulnerability, brotherhood, and service in reclaiming one's life and voice.00:00 Military Programming and Emotional Suppression00:40 Introduction to Real Men Feel and Guest Louis Stockley Jr.01:27 Louis Stockley's Military Background and Early Challenges03:13 Lessons in Masculinity and Military Discipline07:55 A Painful Lesson in Commitment10:17 Transitioning to Civilian Life18:28 Struggles with Trust and Isolation21:32 The Turning Point: Overcoming Video Game Addiction28:01 Discovering the Power of Fitness29:00 Helping a Friend in Need32:56 The Impact of Brotherhood35:32 Facing Personal Challenges38:10 Understanding Veterans' Struggles41:18 The Mission of Before 2247:33 Encouraging Vulnerability and Seeking Help52:33 Final Thoughts and ResourcesConnect with LouisLinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/lstockley/Louis on TikTok — https://www.tiktok.com/@vetcoachlouisBefore 22 — https://www.tiktok.com/@before22adayLouis on IG — https://www.instagram.com/vetcoachlouisBefore 22 — https://www.instagram.com/before22aday/Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 382

Breaking the Chains: Reframing TraumaIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant talks with Eugene Z. Bertrand, a master of social work candidate at Columbia University, advocate for trauma-informed mental healthcare, and first-time author. Eugene discusses his journey of turning pain into purpose by reframing trauma as resilience and the significance of vulnerability for healing. Topics include dismantling myths and stigma around domestic violence, betting on oneself, the intersection of trauma and mental health with incarceration, and the importance of representation and support systems. Eugene also shares about his impactful book 'Resilience: Breaking the Chains' and his role as a mitigation specialist in a federal public defender's office.00:00 Introduction and Myths Around Domestic Violence00:23 Meet Eugene Z. Bertrand01:21 Eugene's Journey and Impact of Real Men Feel02:03 Discussing the Man Box and Male Vulnerability04:35 Creativity as a Healing Tool06:01 Eugene's Book: Resilience Breaking the Chains12:06 Challenges and Opportunities in Mental Health for Black Men16:38 Mitigation Specialist Role and Rehabilitation23:08 Betting on Yourself and Personal Growth26:54 Final Thoughts and ConnectionConnect with EugeneEugene Z Bertrand — https://eugenezbertrand.com/LinkedIn — linkedin.com/in/eugene-bertrandResourcesResilience: Breaking the Chains by Eugene Z Bertrand — https://amzn.to/44oc8Sq200 Powerful Positive Affirmations and 6 Simple Tips to Put Them to Work by Andy Grant — https://amzn.to/4p2k8kdConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 381

Overcoming Addiction and Adversity: The Kelley Gulledge StoryIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant speaks with former professional baseball player Kelley Gulledge, who shares his powerful journey from battling crack cocaine addiction to achieving sobriety and overcoming multiple sclerosis. Kelley opens up about his struggles, the pivotal moments that led to his recovery, and the importance of faith, family, and perseverance. This inspirational conversation delves into the depths of addiction, the road to redemption, and the strength needed to rebuild one’s life.00:00 A Shocking Introduction00:32 Meet Kelley Gulledge01:28 Growing Up in a Baseball Family02:51 College Decision and Early Career04:11 The Dark Turn: Addiction Begins05:01 The Struggle with Crack Cocaine08:00 Hitting Rock Bottom12:07 The Road to Recovery15:16 Finding Sobriety and Purpose17:02 A Spiritual Awakening23:03 Returning to Baseball24:06 Struggles with Sobriety and Morality26:39 Finding Support and Love28:55 Health Scare and Diagnosis33:12 Adopting a New Lifestyle36:36 Career Transition and Giving Back41:37 Pride in Family and Faith47:27 Final Reflections and ConnectionConnect with KelleyLinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/kelley-gulledge-22845248/ResourcesThe Wahls Protocol: A Radical New Way to Treat All Chronic Autoimmune Conditions Using Paleo Principles, by Dr Terry Wahls — https://amzn.to/4a6sH93Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 380

Transformational Healing: A Journey Through TraumaIn this episode of 'Real Men Feel,' host Andy Grant engages in a profound conversation with Kerry Blaser, a mother, shaman, and author who has transformed her life from academic and corporate settings to profound healing work following her struggles with pain and trauma. Kerry shares her journey from a suicide attempt to embracing her psychic gifts and using them to heal herself and others. She discusses the critical role men, such as Andrew Tate and Justin Waller, have played in her personal growth and offers insights on how both men and women can navigate their wounds towards wisdom and self-love. Kerry emphasizes the importance of monogamy—the unique bond between specific men and women—and how staying true to one's emotions can lead to authentic, fulfilling relationships.00:00 Introduction to Real Men Feel00:32 Meet Kerry Blaser: A Journey of Healing01:31 Kerry's Turning Point: A Suicide Attempt02:49 Psychic Awakening in the Psych Ward05:17 Embracing Psychic Gifts and Healing09:05 The Power of Yoga and Medicine Journeys11:46 Healing Through Relationships15:24 Mirroring and Healing with Men17:28 Facing Fears and Attracting Unusual Relationships18:06 Emotional Pain and Growth19:03 Challenges with Men and Their Vulnerabilities20:25 Connections to Childhood and Trauma22:28 Healing and Self-Reflection23:12 The Role of Women in Society26:09 Monogamy and Enlightenment28:33 The Importance of Self-Love and Healthy Relationships32:37 The Need for a Healthy Nuclear Family36:47 Final Thoughts and ResourcesConnect with KerryWebsite — https://www.kerryblaser.comInstagram — https://www.instagram.com/kerryblaserofficialTiktok — https://www.tiktok.com/@kerryblaserofficialYouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@kerryblaserResourcesMy Inner Heroine by Kerry Blaser — https://amzn.to/44dqg0HConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel Website | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 379

Facing Imposter Syndrome and GriefIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes Alain Dumonceaux, founder of The Awakened Man, to discuss imposter syndrome and grief. Alain shares his personal journey of loss and self-discovery, including the death of his father-in-law and nearly losing his marriage. He explains how these experiences motivated him to create a supportive community for men to find purpose, power, and wholeness. Alain delves into the concept of awakening, the importance of brotherhood, and how men can move beyond feeling like a fraud to live with real courage. The conversation also explores the different ways men and women handle grief and the importance of acknowledging and addressing internal struggles.00:00 Introduction: The Void of External Validation00:20 Welcome to Real Men Feel00:38 Meet Alain Dumonceaux: Founder of The Awakened Man01:13 Alain's Personal Journey of Loss and Self-Discovery05:21 The Concept of Awakening06:52 The Inner World of Men: Success and Validation09:07 The Importance of Values and Beliefs18:51 Handling Grief and Loss26:57 The Role of Brotherhood and Community30:12 Conclusion: Embracing Purpose and ConnectionConnect with AlainWebsite — https://www.theawakenedman.net/Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/the.revolutionary.manFacebook — https://www.facebook.com/theawakenedman.netYouTube — https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCg8DCH78anx-r7KZEU8EclwResourcesThe Revolutionary Man Podcast — https://therevolutionarymanpodcast.buzzsprout.com/Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel Website | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 378

Overcoming Compulsive Sexual BehaviorIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant speaks with Craig Perra, a renowned expert on overcoming compulsive sexual behaviors, sex addiction, and porn addiction. Craig shares his personal journey from a high-powered attorney with severe addiction issues to becoming a co-founder of the Mindful Habit System, a transformative approach to managing compulsive behaviors. The discussion delves into the underlying causes of such behaviors, the detrimental role of shame, and the importance of leading all parts of oneself, including those aspects one may despise. Craig also emphasizes the necessity of purpose, emotional regulation, and healthy habits in overcoming addiction. Additionally, he sheds light on the unique challenges faced by high-profile individuals and the pervasive impact of easily accessible pornography in today's digital age.00:00 Introduction to the Cure for Sex and Porn Addiction00:32 Meet Craig Perra: Overcoming Addiction01:22 Craig's Personal Journey and Turning Point03:19 Building the Mindful Habit System08:10 The Role of Shame and Internal Family Systems11:52 Challenges with Traditional 12-Step Models14:22 Focusing on Habits Over Addiction16:15 Unique Challenges for High Achievers18:52 Impact of Technology on Compulsive Sexual Activity22:53 Addressing Deeper Needs and Self-Care24:38 Advice for Partners and Breaking the Cycle28:12 The Importance of Healthy Sexual Expression30:15 Final Thoughts and ResourcesConnect with CraigWebsite — https://www.mindfulhabithelp.com/TikTok —   https://www.tiktok.com/@the_mindful_habitInstagram — https://www.instagram.com/mindful_habit_coaching/LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/craigperra/YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/user/themindfulhabitResourcesSex Afflictions & Porn Addictions Podcast — https://pod.link/556373664The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg — https://amzn.to/47wkGaJConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel Website | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 377

Embracing Sexuality and Aging with Karen BigmanIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes Karen Bigman, the founder of Taboo to Truth. Together, they break down myths and stigmas surrounding sex and aging. Karen shares insights on how aging doesn't signify the end of desire and intimacy but can mark a new beginning. They discuss the differences in sexual changes for men and women as they age, the importance of communication in maintaining a healthy sex life, and the significance of emotional intimacy. The conversation also touches upon society's discomfort with discussing sex and the impact of traditional sex education. Karen encourages listeners to embrace new forms of intimacy and pleasure as they grow older, supporting her message with personal anecdotes and professional experiences.00:00 Introduction: Embracing Midlife Changes00:22 Welcome to Real Men Feel00:31 Meet Karen Bigman: Breaking Myths on Sex and Aging01:18 Karen's Journey: From Menopause to Sex Education02:36 Debunking Myths About Aging and Sexuality03:48 Society's Reluctance to Discuss Sex and Aging07:42 Men's Identity and Sexual Performance11:50 Navigating Intimacy and Emotional Connection13:11 Advice for Dating After Long Relationships14:38 Maintaining a Healthy Sex Life in Long-Term Relationships19:07 Exploring Sexuality and Kink in Midlife24:51 Karen's Personal Dating Experiences25:58 The Importance of Open Conversations About Sex27:18 Karen's Podcast and Final Thoughts30:09 Conclusion: Aging and New PossibilitiesConnect with KarenWebsite — https://www.taboototruth.com/TikTok —   https://www.tiktok.com/@taboototruthInstagram — https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthLinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenbigman/YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel Website | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 376

Healing the Father Wound: Kevin Palmieri's Journey to Self-WorthIn this powerful episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes Kevin Palmieri, founder and co-host of the Next Level University podcast. Kevin shares his transformative experience of meeting his father for the first time at age 27 and how it shaped his life. From dealing with imposter syndrome in his youth to overcoming rock bottom moments and contemplating suicide, Kevin's journey exemplifies resilience and personal growth. They delve into the profound impact of growing up without a father, redefining self-worth, and the importance of vulnerability for men. Whether you're grappling with your own father wound or seeking to build a life you're proud of, this conversation offers valuable insights and inspiration. Join the Authentic AF Community for more support and connection at realmenfeel.org/group.00:00 Meeting My Dad at 27: A Life-Changing Experience00:24 Introduction to Real Men Feel Podcast00:37 Kevin Palmieri's Journey: From Success to Contemplating Suicide01:29 Growing Up Without a Father: Kevin's Childhood Reflections04:14 The Impact of Masculinity and Self-Worth06:43 The Unexpected Facebook Message09:36 Meeting My Dad: The Emotional Encounter13:30 Reflecting on the Father Wound and Personal Growth16:33 Kevin's Rock Bottom: The Breaking Point17:37 Hitting Rock Bottom18:31 A Year on the Road19:14 Starting the Hyperconscious Podcast19:51 Struggling with Mental Health21:17 The Turning Point22:49 The Pain-Pleasure Pendulum24:21 Redefining Self-Worth27:21 Lessons from 2000 Episodes29:57 The Power of Vulnerability34:19 Connecting and Growing Connect with KevinWebsite — https://www.nextleveluniverse.com/Facebook —   https://www.facebook.com/kevin.palmieri.90/Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/neverquitkid/LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/kevin-palmieri-5b7736160/YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBo--QvPHbGOrO13C0XyybgConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel Website | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 375

Exploring Emotional Literacy and Attachment StylesIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant delves into the crucial topic of emotional literacy with guest Alexandra Velez, creator of Secure School. They discuss the importance of recognizing, naming, and navigating emotions as a foundation for emotional intelligence, and how these skills significantly impact personal and relational well-being. Alexandra provides insights into how early life experiences and societal norms shape emotional development, particularly for men. The conversation also touches on attachment styles, their origins, and how individuals can transform their attachment patterns to foster healthier relationships. Practical tools like the emotion wheel are suggested for better emotional management. Alexandra highlights the need for emotional education from an early age to prevent future relational and emotional challenges.00:00 Introduction to Real Men Feel00:40 Meet Alexandra Velez: Emotional Literacy Expert01:18 Understanding Emotional Literacy vs. Emotional Intelligence02:06 The Importance of Emotional Literacy in Daily Life04:46 Overcoming Emotional Illiteracy08:40 Practical Tools for Emotional Literacy12:24 Attachment Styles Explained17:57 The Role of Technology in Emotional Literacy19:45 The Vision for Emotional Literacy Education23:26 Challenges Men Face in Developing Emotional Literacy25:53 The Availability Awards: Recognizing Emotional Unavailability29:49 Final Thoughts and Where to Learn MoreConnect with AlexandraAlexandra Velez → ⁠http://www.mysecureera.com/⁠Love Pattern Report → https://www.mysecureera.com/lovepattern Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/alexandravelezofficial/YouTube → https://www.youtube.com/@AlexandraVelezOfficialResourcesThe Availability Awards by Alexandra Velez — https://amzn.to/4nUVqSgConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel Website | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 374