The Tamsen Show

Sleep is one of the most common complaints in perimenopause and menopause. It’s also one of the most important. When you’re not sleeping, everything else suffers: your mood, your energy, your memory, your health. In this episode, Tamsen sits down with leading clinical psychologist and sleep expert Dr. Shelby Harris, author of ‘The Women’s Guide to Overcoming Insomnia: Get a Good Night’s Sleep Without Relying on Medication,’ to break down what’s really going on with women’s sleep in midlife and what to do about it. In this episode, they uncover: -The hormonal and neurological shifts that quietly disrupt sleep -How to tell the difference between insomnia, sleep apnea, and restless leg syndrome -Why melatonin and magnesium aren’t always the answer -What CBT-I is and why it’s the most effective treatment for insomnia -What it actually takes to retrain your body to rest If you’re lying awake at night and exhausted during the day, this conversation will give you real answers and a plan to finally get the sleep you need. Loving The Tamsen Show podcast? If you have a moment, your review could be the reason another woman finally hears the thing she’s been needing. Watch full episodes HERE Download the FREE Menopause Sleep Toolkit Get Tamsen’s new book, How To Menopause: Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life and Feel Even Better Than Before Follow The Tamsen Show on Instagram Follow Tamsen on Instagram Follow Tamsen on TikTok Want more from Dr. Shelby Harris? Visit her website Follow her on Instagram Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You’re told it’s all in your head. That you’re too young. That it’s just stress. But what if the real reason you feel off is something no one’s talking about?  This week, Tamsen sits down with Dr. Corinne Menn, a board-certified OB-GYN and breast cancer survivor, for a conversation about early menopause, hormone therapy, and why women who need answers the most are often dismissed the fastest. As someone who’s personally gone through menopause three times (medically, chemically, and surgically) Dr. Menn knows firsthand what women are up against when it comes to their health. And she’s on a mission to challenge the medical gaslighting so many women face when they hit midlife and don’t feel like themselves anymore. In this episode, they uncover: -The difference between perimenopause, premature menopause, and early menopause -Why 1 in 8 women lose ovarian function early and what that means for long-term health -How autoimmune disease, endometriosis, cancer treatment, and hysterectomy can trigger early menopause -What your doctor probably isn’t telling you about hormone therapy even if you’ve had breast cancer -The truth about castration in women and why that term matters -How Dr. Menn’s own story is helping other women feel seen and heard Loving The Tamsen Show podcast? If you have a moment, your review could be the reason another woman finally hears the thing she’s been needing. Watch full episodes HERE Get Tamsen’s new book, How To Menopause: Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life and Feel Even Better Than Before Follow The Tamsen Show on Instagram Follow Tamsen on Instagram Follow Tamsen on TikTok Want more from Dr. Corinne Menn? Visit her website Follow her on Instagram Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Most women in menopause are never told the full story about testosterone. We’re told it’s a male hormone or that it’s just about sex, if it’s mentioned at all. But the truth is, testosterone plays a major role in women’s health during perimenopause and menopause. And for many women, it’s the missing piece of hormone therapy. In this episode, Tamsen sits down with Dr. Kelly Casperson, a leading urologist and one of the top experts prescribing testosterone to women every day, to cut through the confusion. If you’ve been told no, if you’re not feeling like yourself, or if you’re just trying to figure out what is going on with your hormones, this conversation is for you. In this episode they uncover: - Why testosterone matters for women in menopause and why it’s not just about libido - The most common myths about hormones and what doctors are still getting wrong - How to know if you’re a candidate for testosterone and what testing actually works - What to say if your doctor shuts you down - How testosterone affects energy, mood, sex, and identity in midlife - What women in other countries already have access to and what’s coming next. Loving The Tamsen Show podcast? If you have a moment, your review could be the reason another woman finally hears the thing she’s been needing. Watch full video episodes HERE Get Tamsen’s new book, How To Menopause: Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life and Feel Even Better Than Before. Follow The Tamsen Show on Instagram Follow Tamsen on Instagram Follow Tamsen on TikTok Want more from Dr. Kelly Casperson? Follow her on Instagram. Pre-order Dr. Kelly Casperson’s new book, The Menopause Moment here. Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Lindsay Gibson, a clinical psychologist with over 30 years of experience, shares how emotionally immature parents shape their adult children's lives. They dissect four parenting styles—emotional, driven, passive, and rejecting—that impact self-worth and relationships. The discussion highlights the loneliness many feel in midlife, even among loved ones, and explores coping mechanisms like 'healing fantasies.' Listeners gain insights into setting boundaries, reclaiming authenticity, and navigating the complexities of their parental relationships.

Urinary leakage. Painful sex. That pressure you can’t explain. If you've been told these are just “normal” parts of getting older or having kids, this episode will open your eyes. Tamsen sits down with board-certified pelvic floor physical therapist Dr. Sara Reardon (known online as The Vagina Whisperer) to get honest about the symptoms women are still suffering through in silence. From perimenopause to postpartum, Dr. Reardon shares how pelvic floor dysfunction shows up, why it's more common than you think, and what you can actually do about it. No shame, no confusion. Just real answers for women who are ready to feel strong in their bodies again. In this episode, they cover: – What the pelvic floor actually is and how it supports your core health  – How perimenopause and hormonal shifts impact bladder control and sexual function  – Why pelvic pain, leakage, and pressure are common but not normal  – What pelvic floor therapy looks like and how to know if you need it  – The truth about Kegels and why they’re not always the answer  – How posture, stress, and childbirth affect your pelvic health at every age  – When to ask for help and how to find the right pelvic floor specialist Loving The Tamsen Show podcast? If you have a moment, your review could be the reason another woman finally hears the thing she’s been needing. Watch full video episodes HERE Want more from Dr. Sara Reardon? Get her book Floored: A Woman's Guide to Pelvic Health Visit her website Get Tamsen’s new book, How To Menopause: Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life and Feel Even Better Than Before Follow The Tamsen Show on Instagram Follow Tamsen on Instagram Follow Tamsen on TikTok Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You’ve heard the headlines. Ozempic, Wegovy, GLP-1s. But what is actually happening inside your body when you take them? In this episode, Tamsen sits back down with Triple Board-Certified Endocrinologist and Belly Fat Expert Dr. Rocio Salas-Whalen to get real, science-backed answers. They break down how these medications work, why muscle loss is a real risk, and how hormone therapy plays a role in your overall metabolic health. This conversation goes beyond quick fixes and tackles what sustainable, medically informed weight loss really looks like. It’s about body composition, long-term health, and understanding the emotional impact of a changing body. This episode will cover: -How GLP-1 medications like Ozempic and Wegovy work in the gut, brain, and pancreas -The connection between GLP-1s, visceral fat, and insulin resistance -Why you may be losing muscle instead of fat if not monitored properly -What "Ozempic butt" really means and how to prevent it -The truth about hair loss, protein intake, and rapid weight loss -When to combine GLP-1s with hormone therapy and how to approach it safely -Why weight loss isn't just physical and the emotional impact many women aren't prepared for Dr. Rocio is the founder of New York Endocrinology and a leading voice in obesity medicine. Her upcoming book, Weightless: A Doctor's Guide to GLP-1 Medications, Sustainable Weight Loss, and the Health You Deserve will cover everything she shares in her practice and more. Loving The Tamsen Show podcast? If you have a moment, your review could be the reason another woman finally hears the thing she’s been needing. ⁠Watch full video episodes on YouTube⁠ Get Tamsen’s new book, ⁠How To Menopause: Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life and Feel Even Better Than Before ⁠ ⁠Follow The Tamsen Show on Instagram⁠ ⁠Follow Tamsen on Instagram⁠ ⁠Follow Tamsen on TikTok⁠ ⁠Want more from Dr. Rocio Salas-Whalen? Visit here website⁠ ⁠For the latest updates on her upcoming book, follow her on social media.⁠ If you loved this episode, you're going to love our ⁠hour long episode about Hormone Therapy with leading OBGYN Dr. Sharon Malone. ⁠ Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You’re eating healthy. You’re working out. You’ve cut sugar, carbs, and wine. But the belly fat is still there and no one is giving you answers. This episode connects all the dots. Dr. Rocio Salas-Whalen, a triple board-certified endocrinologist, joins Tamsen to explain exactly what’s happening inside your body during midlife and what you can finally do to feel better in it. Hormones. Insulin. Thyroid. Stress. Sleep. It’s all part of the story, and Dr. Rocio gives women the real talk they’re not getting in most doctors’ offices. This is the episode that clears the confusion and gives you the clarity you’ve been craving. What they talk about: -Why fat accumulates around the belly in perimenopause and how to reverse it -The exact lab markers to request to check for insulin resistance and early prediabetes -How to know if your thyroid is working against you, even with “normal” results -What visceral fat is, why it's so dangerous, and the proven ways to reduce it -How stress, poor sleep, and cortisol spikes make weight loss nearly impossible and how to fix it -What to eat (and when) to balance blood sugar and reduce inflammation -How to advocate for better care if your doctor won’t dig deeper Loving The Tamsen Show podcast? If you have a moment, your review could be the reason another woman finally hears the thing she’s been needing. Watch full video episodes on YouTube Get Tamsen’s new book, How To Menopause: Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life and Feel Even Better Than Before Follow The Tamsen Show on Instagram Follow Tamsen on Instagram Follow Tamsen on TikTok Want more from Dr. Rocio Salas-Whalen? Visit here website For the latest updates on her upcoming book, follow her on social media. If you loved this episode, you're going to love our hour long episode about Hormone Therapy with leading OBGYN Dr. Sharon Malone. Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Are you the one who always says yes? Who fixes, accommodates, anticipates, and quietly resents it later? In this week’s episode, Tamsen sits down with psychotherapist and bestselling author Terri Cole to talk about the hidden habits of high -functioning codependents, especially in midlife, during perimenopause, or after a major life shift. In this episode, you'll learn: - What high-functioning codependency actually looks like and why most women don’t recognize it -How menopause can be a wake-up call for self-abandonment -Why so many women feel emotionally drained in midlife and what to do about it -How to unpack the patterns we learn in childhood that shape how we caretake and over-function -The scripts and boundary tools to help you say no, protect your energy, and finally consider yourself This is a must-listen for anyone who feels like they’re doing it all, but losing themselves in theprocess. Watch the full video episode here Get Tamsen's new book, How To Menopause: Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life and Feel Even Better Than Before. 💖 Follow The Tamsen Show on Instagram Follow Tamsen on Instagram Follow Tamsen on TikTok Find more about Terri Cole and her work on her website Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you’ve ever wondered why certain relationships feel so hard or why you’ve spent a lifetime craving a kind of love you can’t quite name, this special Mother’s Day edition will give you language for what you’ve lived. Tamsen sits down with licensed professional counselor and bestselling author Kelly McDaniel to talk about Mother Hunger, a term she coined to describe the deep, often hidden longing many women carry from not getting the love, protection, or guidance they needed as daughters. They talk about: - Why so many women struggle with emotional eating, self-worth, and romantic patterns—and how it ties back to early attachment - What “mother hunger” really means, and why most women don’t recognize it until midlife - How your earliest experiences shape your relationships, your body image, and your ability to trust - The emotional cost of caring for a mother who couldn’t care for you - What it means to crave love that feels safe, steady, and nourishing - How to begin healing, even if your mother is gone, unavailable, or unwilling - Why midlife is often the moment women finally face the grief they’ve been carrying for decades - How unresolved mother hunger can show up in love, sex, food, and friendships and what to do about it - Whether forgiveness is necessary in order to move on and what to do if an apology never comes This episode is for every woman who has ever said “I’m fine” when she wasn’t and is finally ready to tell herself the truth. Watch the Full Episode Here: https://www.youtube.com/@TamsenFadalTV Get my new book, How To Menopause, Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life and Feel Even Better Than Before 💖 http://www.howtomenopause.com  Follow The Tamsen Show:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetamsenshow/ Follow Tamsen Fadal: Website: https://www.tamsenfadal.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tamsenfadal Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tamsenfadal You can find Kelly Here: https://kellymcdanieltherapy.com/ Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you've ever questioned your reality, blamed your hormones, or been told you’re “too sensitive,” this conversation will change how you see everything. Tamsen sits down with world-renowned psychologist and narcissism expert Dr. Ramani Durvasula, author of the New York Times bestseller It’s Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People, to decode the emotional warfare so many women face in toxic relationships, especially in midlife. They talk about: How narcissists twist your words and make you question your memory-The subtle ways they use your hormones and emotions against you-Why smart, self-aware women stay in toxic relationships longer than they should-The early red flags that feel easy to dismiss but matter most-What love bombing actually looks like (and why it works so well)-Why midlife often becomes the breaking point for women in these dynamics-How to rebuild your confidence and sense of reality after emotional abuse This episode is a wake-up call and a roadmap to help you stop second-guessing yourself and start trusting what you know. Watch the Full Episode Here: https://www.youtube.com/@TamsenFadalTV Get my new book, How To Menopause, Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life and Feel Even Better Than Before 💖 http://www.howtomenopause.com  Follow The Tamsen Show:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetamsenshow/ Follow Tamsen Fadal: FREE resourcesWebsite: https://www.tamsenfadal.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tamsenfadal Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tamsenfadal You can find Dr Ramani here:  https://doctor-ramani.com/ Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices