The New Man

Erik Everhard, author of Unleash Your Sexual Superpowers has been in the porn industry for over 20 years. He’s had sex with over 4,000 women. Today we discuss what it was like to have such a unique career, how he ended up feeling lost, and how he found his way again after learning how to help others. You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/ This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way.

Do you get pissed off when someone says something that goes against your values? Do you believe that negotiation is all about winning and getting the best of the other guy? And is calling someone out the best way to make positive change? Kwame Christian is the Director of the American Negotiation Institute which means he knows a thing or two about resolving conflicts and finding solutions. Today he’s going to share some basic tips that will help us navigate challenges online, at home, at work, and in our neighborhood. In this interview: How to approach difficult conversations “We’re always negotiating.” Why most conversations are doomed to fail The 3 main goals of any negotiation Why negotiations are 90% ego or emotionally driven Plus: Calling out vs calling in Why “calling out” typically backfires Virtue signaling and performing instead of persuading What to do if you’re actually trying to inspire change What’s the number one goal of power? You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/ This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way.

Does it seem scary to talk about race? How is racial tension similar to an uncomfortable Thanksgiving dinner? And what if the thing that would make a difference is much closer than we could imagine? Recently I learned a valuable lesson: that I could actually talk to my black friends about their experiences instead of making assumptions and relying on the media or some idealogical group to tell me what to say, think, or do. Having these individual conversations has been revelatory for many reasons — one of which was realizing again how much simply being curious and paying attention could have a huge impact. I learned that it was safe to ask questions and to simply listen. That I wouldn’t be attacked because I was white or if I didn’t get it politically correct. One of the conversations that cracked my world open was with my friend, Mark Palmer. He’s an author and corporate leadership consultant, and even though we’ve known each other for many years, I’ve never asked him about his experience as a black man because it didn’t feel comfortable or safe. I’m glad that I finally did. After that first conversation I asked him if he would be willing to record another one where we could explore this topic a bit further. I didn’t know what to expect, but I’m glad we managed to share so many laughs along the way. Enjoy. In this interview: Is it safe to talk about race? The media being a funhouse mirror version of reality The importance of psychological safety The importance of humanizing race instead of making it about groups The fear of “not getting it right” Plus: The difference between anger and aggression “Anger can’t be the only voice in the room.” When trying to “fix” something gets in the way Why listening is a superpower Why it’s okay to faceplant You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/ This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way.

Have you ever wanted something so badly that you screwed it up? Why do our efforts to “get it right” usually end up with us getting it wrong? And how does fear block our ability to be more energized, creative, and bold? Today, we’re going to hear another excerpt from This Book Will Make You Dangerous. In this excerpt you’ll hear how I found myself in a cinematic coffee shop shootout and why I almost blew up my marriage before it ever got off the ground. If you’re interested in the book you can learn more by visiting DangerousBookstore.com. In this episode: How our fear of screwing things up tends to screw things up. What kills our ability to be bold, playful, and creative How I survived a direct hit from a soy vegan latte with 3% dick sprinkles How my wife, Alyson saved our future marriage by humiliating me You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/ This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way.

Have you ever felt that you’re waiting to do what you really want to do in life? How could the fact that we’re going to die, help us live more fully? And what are the two key elements needed for us to step fully into our power? Today, I want to share another excerpt from This Book Will Make You Dangerous. First, you’ll go through a short exercise designed to help us create more alignment with what we truly want. And second we’ll discuss how giving away our power keeps us playing small. If you’re interested in the book you can learn more by visiting DangerousBookstore.com. In this episode: Are you aligned? How to use your mortality to stop playing small Why be dead now? Tolerating the small stuff, scarcity, productivity issues 45 year old boys The (2) key elements required to step into our power You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/ This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way.

Do you ever play it safe when it comes to money or sex? Do you take risks or only go for what appears to be a “sure thing?” And how can we make sure we don’t get stuck in a prey mentality? Today we’re going to listen in on a recent call I had with a coaching client. His work and sex life were feeling flat, so we explored some ways he could get out of his own way, stop playing it safe, and find that mojo again. In this interview: Feeling uninspired in our work and sex life Why playing it safe can kill our careers and relationships Trying to avoid being the “weird” guy The pressure of trying to “get it right” Are you aligned with what you want in life? Plus: Being a knuckle dragging romantic What keeps us in a prey mentality Nice guy syndrome What if it was okay to face-plant from time to time? How can post-it notes change your relationship? You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/ This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way.

What does it mean to be dangerous? How can we ensure we don’t become grumpy, soft, and fragile old men? And could what you’re about to hear be the worst, most disgusting way to open a book? Today, I want to share an excerpt from This Book Will Make You Dangerous. This is the introduction where we take a very unconventional look at expectations and clarify why I throw most success how-to books in the trash. Learn more by visiting DangerousBookstore.com. In this interview: What happened when I went to the butt doctor Why I throw most success how-to books in the trash Is the pursuit of success making us weak? How expectations kill our peace of mind Are we playing a game we can’t win? The trap of seeking comfort and safety once and for all You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/ This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way.

With so much uncertainty right now, how do you deal with the uncomfortable feelings that arise? What if it actually all came crashing down? What could possibly exist on the other side of your worst nightmare? Our brains are constantly scanning for threats — most of which never come true, but this constant worrying can kill the enjoyment of our short time to be alive. Today I’m sharing a recent group coaching call where, instead of running away from these scary feelings we chose to do something else instead. In this interview: Clarifying what’s at stake Getting hijacked by our fear Phil Stutz “Only the dead survive.” Tapping into a power we rarely recognize Learning to watch the theater in our minds Plus: How to pivot out of our fear Why trying to run away from fear creates more suffering What happens when we relax our need to control everything? The power of brotherhood How to Change Your Mind by Michael Pollan You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/ This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way.

Do we have to depend on fear for motivation? Can we learn how to put scarcity and pressure into perspective? And how can we learn to forge our own path instead of following the herd? Today, my wife Alyson and I discuss how fear can serve us — or work against us. On many levels we’re being challenged. For many this challenge is simply a matter of being uncomfortable or bored. Others are experiencing great uncertainty with regards to their professions and financial well-being. And then there are those who are being confronted by mortality itself. We can get caught up in the collective freak out or we can use this period as a wake up call. It’s a time to zoom out and reflect. The men I’m coaching all around the world are seeing this challenging time as an opportunity. It’s an opportunity for us to assess our lives and how we’re choosing to live them. Are our professions and relationships and lifestyle choices aligned with our deepest values? Or does today’s challenge help us see that it’s time to course correct? Instead of sleepwalking through life or settling for whatever gets slopped on to our plate, we can use this opportunity to tap into our deep desire. Instead of waiting for the perfect plan or the perfect time or the perfect opportunity, we can shift gears, take smart action, and create alignment with what truly matters today. No more waiting. No more excuses. Most men won’t do this. They’ll dismiss this opportunity. They’ll let fear get the best of them. They’ll refuse responsibility. But that doesn’t mean we have to live like most men. Today’s conversation was recorded before the Covid-19 virus became the major focus here in the US. Regardless, the core ideas of this discussion still apply when it comes to how we confront fear, scarcity, and pressure in our day-to-day lives. In this interview: Creating from fear, scarcity, and pressure Rat-racing and magical finish lines Why fear glorifies hustling How fear serves us and how it makes us weak We don’t have to freak ourselves out in order to be successful Nothing to prove Plus: Depriving ourselves now in order to get what we want later Get out of dumb goals and create smart goals Why a pain in the ass is valuable information Why perfectionism is a defense Why fixating on ourselves kills peace of mind and meaning You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/ This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way.

Do you think more success and status are the keys to lasting fulfillment? What happens when our achievements leave us feeling empty? And what does it mean to be dangerous? Today, my wife, Alyson and I explore a life beyond constant comfort and how most men are stuck in a trap — striving to play a game they can’t win. In this interview: Alyson recovers from her bathroom noises Getting over ourselves can be painful A threat to our self image feels like a threat to our lives What it means to be responsible for your life Tolerating bullshit vs saying “no” Plus: Settling because “this is just the way it is” Blaming others and playing the victim Do victims enjoy feeling powerless? Why someone with a victim mentality isn’t coachable The addiction to sadness and suffering And: When success leaves us feeling empty “What’s wrong with me? I thought I’d feel fulfilled.” What would feel expansive? What do I want more than being comfortable all the time? Developing a guidance system based on what you value most You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/