The New Man

If you want more out of life then what’s really getting in the way? Why do we have such a hard time making a commitment? And what’s so wrong with trying to live happily ever after? Today, my wife Alyson and I explore the deep-seated fears that keep us stuck, the ways we operate from a prey mentality, and Alyson’s embarrassing bathroom experience. In this interview: “Why won’t a man commit?” There’s no such thing a commitment-phobe Competing commitments (Robert Kegan and Lisa Lahey) What keeps us from having alignment with our values? When we believe that there are monsters under our bed Plus: The danger of “set it and forget it” Identifying our prey mentality The shadow to personal growth and self-help We’re forgetting how powerful we are And: Why seeking “easy street” is a trap Exoneration with Phil Stutz and Barry Michels Fragile egos and the “need” to prove our self worth Alyson’s body sounds You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/

Do you want to make a change but believe you need the perfect plan before you take action? Does your work or salary or title determine your value as a man? And how do we know when it’s time to make a big change? Today, my wife, Alyson and I pick up where we left off in the episode entitled A Bold Way to Start a Relationship. We explore how I went from feeling very confident to very lost; how I spent years dicking around while waiting for the perfect plan; and how I finally pulled my head out of my ass and got back on track. In this interview: Stepping out of our comfort zone Being a small fish in a big pond When our work determines our self worth Dealing with uncertainty and self-doubt Waiting for the perfect time and the perfect plan Plus: Stuck in excuses Trying to predict the future Refusing the call to adventure Moving from “pre-f**k it” to “post-f**k it” Getting out of the bleachers and into the game You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com//

Do you face your challenges alone or do other men have your back? How does our desire for a plan or vision become a trap? And what’s the key to making a commitment in relationships? Alyson and I continue where we left off in the episode entitled, Should You Settle or Blow Up Your Life? Today we talk about making bold moves, the value of a men’s group, and how I almost killed our relationship by acting like a nice guy. In this interview: Outgrowing a split lifestyle Starting Tripp’s first men’s group The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida A bold way to start a relationship Plus: Moving from discomfort into aliveness When trying not to screw it up starts to screw it up Wanting the truth vs comfort Making a smart commitment Waiting for the perfect plan is a trap You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com//

Have you ever suffered from “imposter syndrome”? Are you okay with simply chasing money or do you want your work to be meaningful, too? And how often do you tell yourself, “I will figure this out”? Today, The Middle Finger Project author Ash Ambirge is here to discuss how she went from growing up in a trailer park to middle class success to sleeping in a K-Mart parking lot with only $26 to her name to eventually making seven figures. In this interview: Growing up in a trailer park Being mentally tough Being willing to rock the boat Striving for middle class Why becoming “normal” was so disappointing Plus: Dealing with imposter syndrome The feeling of “I don’t know what I’m supposed to do next.” Doing work you’re proud of Wanting our work to align with our values Feeling guilty for wanting more out of life And: Ash’s “sleeping in a K-Mart parking lot” story “I will figure it out.” The key to being “Unf*ckwithable” The trouble of not having your own money Learning how to provide value You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com//

Do you feel guilty for wanting more out of life? Is it possible to outgrow your current profession or relationship? And would you have to blow up everything you care about in order to make a big change? Today my wife Alyson and I pick up where we left off in the previous episode entitled, The Emotionally Constipated Control Freak. In this conversation we explore taking responsibility for what we want, the seduction of settling, and the one question that kicked me in the gut. In this interview: Living a split life “Stop being a spoiled brat.” Focusing on problems vs solutions Feeling guilty for wanting more out of life Plus: Have you outgrown your life? The Drama Triangle - Victim, Persecutor, Rescuer Shifting from bitching to focusing on what you want Are you defensive or curious? The fear of being broke and alone And: “Do you feel like you’re settling?” The myth: “I have to blow up my life in order to make a change.” Are you being lulled to sleep? Waiting for the perfect, safe plan The phone call that changed Tripp’s life Interviews and videos discussed: David Emerald interview Drama Triangle video You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com//

How important is it for you to be in control? Do you ever feel like your life is out of alignment with your values? And what does it take to forgive someone who has hurt you deeply? Today my wife, Alyson Lanier gets curious about the emotionally constipated guy I used to be back in my early 20’s. We talk about why I went to therapy, why I hated the idea of personal growth, and how my life looked amazing from the outside but was a fragmented mess on the inside. In this interview: Does Alyson have a fart fetish? Being a control freak Trying to outrun my emotional world Being afraid of women Navigating an emotional minefield Plus: Why I went to therapy Dealing with loss Considering suicide The difference between relief and peace of mind “The peace I was deeply wanting was on the other side of that thing I was avoiding.” And: Ken Wilber’s The Marriage of Sense and Soul Being out of alignment with inner values “They’re going to think I’m weird.” Playing it safe professionally “Is this it? What now? Why can’t I just be happy here?” You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com//

Lebron James spends $1 million dollars per year on his health. What do you spend to ensure that your body doesn’t hold you back? Functional Medicine Health Consultant Jon Mitchell is here to challenge the dogmatic, cookie cutter approaches so that you can dial in the unique protocol that works best for your body. In this interview: Why so many are settling for aches, pains, and low energy Why regular docs aren’t always the best resource Why chasing your problem with supplements isn’t sustainable Why cookie cutter diets don’t work for everyone Erectile dysfunction as it relates to your health Plus: Are you a liability to yourself, performance, and quality of life? Why health is the vehicle for having the life you want Peace of mind knowing that your body is on track Playing the amateur or choosing to turn pro Cutting through the noise of online experts and gurus and diets You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com//

Tripp Lanier discusses facing our fears of failure and criticism. Here are a few brief lessons learned from legendary Rush drummer, Neil Peart about living life on your own terms. Crush procrastination and mental resistance. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, entrepreneurs, and influencers. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com//resistance

As someone who makes a living coaching others to accomplish goals, Tripp discusses how our goals can become a trap. Plus: Glorifying busy-ness, how our mindless pursuit “more” is lazy, and why our need to prove that we’re not a failure is making us weak. In this interview: The trap of proving we’re not a failure Why protecting, pleasing, and proving kills our peace of mind Glorifying busy-ness Trying to carry 6 gallons in a 5 gallon bucket Plus: The shadow side of goals Having a great life that’s unfulfilling The difference between comfort and peace Using your emotions as information Crush procrastination and mental resistance. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, entrepreneurs, and influencers. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com//resistance

After coaching successful men for over 15 years, Tripp boils down what kills our freedom, aliveness, and peace of mind. Does success really mean we’re stronger? How can we get off the hamster wheel of “more, more, more”? And what would it mean to define success and strength on your own terms? Crush procrastination and mental resistance. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, entrepreneurs, and influencers. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com//resistance