Hey everyone! Welcome to today’s episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today’s episode, I’m going to talk about self-care and self-love, and how they’re related. I’ll also be getting into how to practice conscious self-care and self-love, the different areas of self-care, and what it looks like when we do and don’t practice self-care.   Let’s delve in!   In this Episode You’ll Learn: [03:03] What is self-love? [04:00] What is self-care? [05:01] What it looks like when we practice self-care. [05:30] What it looks like when we don’t practice self-care. [10:54] Physical self-care. [13:20] Psychological self-care. [15:20] Emotional self-care. [16:58] Spiritual/Soul/Bigger Picture self-care. [18:21] Workplace/Professional self-care. [19:57] Practicing more conscious self-care.   Quotes: “Loving ourselves through the process of owning our story is the bravest thing we will ever do.” [03:41] “Expressing oneself is an essential form of self-care.” [04:43] “Sometimes, the biggest form of self-care that we can give ourselves is to cross something off of our to-do list.” [06:41] “Self-care is a practice.” [19:52]   Connect with Rachel Wright Website:            https://rachelwrightnyc.com Instagram:          @thewright_rachel Twitter:              @thewrightrachel   Resources Mentioned   WIN A FREE INTIMACY AFTER DARK DECK!   Get 30% OFF the NEW After Dark Deck! Use Promo Code: Rachel   Get your Zumio Discount!   Call to Action Please if you love this episode, and know someone else who is a passionate soul on a mission just like you share it with your friends and others. To help this podcast grow please leave an iTunes review and don’t forget to subscribe.

***Content / Trigger Warning, in this episode we discuss sensitive topics that may not be suitable for all audiences. Topics like sexual abuse, and physical abuse, including child sexual molestation. This may be an episode to skip, or use headphones for, if you have others around you that may not be prepared to listen.***   Kaycie helps individuals and families work through personal struggles, relationship issues, and communication breakdowns so they can live authentically and enjoy deeper, more meaningful connections with themselves and others. She provides heart-centered, humanistic psychotherapy that is grounded in theory and science. Kaycie values seeing every client as the expert of their experience and takes great pride in providing tailored-to-you therapy that opens up our stories to new possibilities. She specializes in working with individuals with trauma and couples of all kinds. In her spare time, she loves getting outside, volunteering, and seeing live music.   Hey everyone! Welcome to today’s episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today’s episode, I’m joined by Kaycie Crossley, Associate Marriage and Family Therapist. We are going to talk about Kaycie’s journey through her own sexual trauma, the truth about the nature of sexual abuse, and the reassurance that trauma is not destiny. Kaycie also talks about the importance of consent, how to start the process of re-owning your sexuality and pleasure, and the misunderstandings around kink.   Let’s delve in!   In this Episode You’ll Learn: [02:21] Why this episode is special. [07:29] Why this topic is important to Kaycie. [08:24] How it shows up in therapy. [09:13] The thing about risky behaviour. [10:39] Defining childhood sexual abuse. [11:07] “Was [insert] sexual abuse?” [12:34] What’s the first step to re-owning sexuality and pleasure? [15:50] Why it’s so common for people to put it on themselves. [20:30] Kaycie’s journey to reclaiming her sexuality and pleasure. [23:33] The truth about kink. [25:23] Kaycie’s loudspeaker moment. [26:55] Rewiring neurological pathways.   Quotes: “There’s no shame in having sex with multiple partners. There’s no shame in indulging in any kind of sexual behaviour that feels good to you.” [09:34] “It’s really highly advisable that you do this in therapy just because of how triggering this can be.” [12:52] “It’s really we learn to accept that we are never the reason for the sexual abuse.” [14:01] “Working through this and redefining our sexuality is one way that we can go back in time and take care of our child self in the ways that we were never cared for.” [17:23] “Consent is such a big part of it.” [23:07] “It was never your fault.” [25:48] “Any physiological responses you had during sexual abuse was not consent.” [25:54] “We are harmed in relationships and through relationships, we heal.” [26:33] “You can have a healthy and wonderful, and enjoyable sexual experience if you want one. It’s out there waiting for you.” [27:50]   Connect with Kaycie Crossley Website:            kayciecrossley.com Instagram:          @kayciecrossleytherapy LinkedIn:            Kaycie Crossley   Connect with Rachel Wright Website:            https://rachelwrightnyc.com Instagram:          @thewright_rachel Twitter:              @thewrightrachel   WIN A FREE INTIMACY AFTER DARK DECK!   Get 30% OFF the NEW After Dark Deck! Use Promo Code: Rachel   Get your Zumio Discount!   Call to Action Please if you love this episode, and know someone else who is a passionate soul on a mission just like you share it with your friends and others. To help this podcast grow please leave an iTunes review and don’t forget to subscribe.

Hey everyone! Welcome to today’s episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today’s episode, I’ll be talking about the plague of Comparisonitis and understanding the phases of typical relationships. I’ll also get into our brain chemistry and how it changes throughout the phases, navigating each phase, and finding solace and learning from relationships that end.   Let’s delve in!   In this Episode You’ll Learn: [02:26] Why we compare ourselves to others. [08:39] The typical relationship escalator. [09:50] The honeymoon phase. [11:20] The brain chemistry during the honeymoon phase. [14:49] The “back to reality” phase. [19:22] The decision-making phase. [22:22] No more Comparisonitis. [22:58] The settling down phase. [24:22] Brain chemistry in the settling down phase. [26:22] Feeling the ebb and flow of the sexual relationship. [26:52] There is more to a relationship than these stages.   Quotes: “When we understand the natural phases of a typical romantic/sexual relationship, we will compare less.” [02:57] “The honeymoon phase is super common and normal. Soak it up.” [10:43] “Try not to make any big decisions during the honeymoon phase.” [10:54] “During the ‘back to reality’ phase is often when a lot of these ‘issues’ tend to start popping up.” [15:52] “This [back to reality] stage really sets the foundation in so many ways for the rest of your relationship.” [17:09] “Please believe people when they show you who they are.” [17:28] “It is more of a success to leave a relationship that is not for you than to stay in one that you don’t want to be in.” [17:41] “Often, in this [decision-making] phase, you are figuring out if your lifestyles in the big picture are compatible.” [20:55] “I truly hope that you do not settle for being happy enough.” [21:30] “If something is not serving you, if it’s harming you, you don’t have to be in it.” [22:13] “This [settling down] phase feels very privileged.” [23:25] “The reality of long-term sexual/romantic relationships that have a sexual component is that the sexual relationship is going to ebb and flow.” [25:18] “When you have an empty cup, it is so hard to pour out.” [26:47]   Connect with Rachel Wright Website:            https://rachelwrightnyc.com Instagram:          @thewright_rachel Twitter:              @thewrightrachel   WIN A FREE INTIMACY AFTER DARK DECK!   Get 30% OFF the NEW After Dark Deck! Use Promo Code: Rachel   Get your Zumio Discount!   Call to Action Please if you love this episode, and know someone else who is a passionate soul on a mission just like you share it with your friends and others. To help this podcast grow please leave an iTunes review and don’t forget to subscribe.

Cory Bush is a sex-positive doula and relationship coach, based in Brooklyn, NY. Cory believes that sex positivity is crucial to living a fulfilling life as it serves as an intersectional framework that seeks to combat shame and fear a that keeps people from being who they’ve always wanted to be.   Hey everyone! Welcome to today’s episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today’s episode, I’m joined by Cory Bush, sex-positive doula and relationship coach. We are going to talk about finding our community, warning signs to look out for at events, and some of the biggest faux pas that people make when cultivating community. Cory also talks about the importance of conflict resolution, online communities, and why community itself is vital to our existence.   Let’s delve in!   In this Episode You’ll Learn: [03:52] Before Cory started. [11:34] Relationships require repetition. [18:37] Where do we start? [23:04] Warning signs at events. [32:01] The biggest faux pas in cultivating community. [42:40] Cory’s words of wisdom.   Quotes: “Everyone doesn’t need to like you.” [15:50] “Your gut and your intuition is powerful.” [25:35] “Focus less on trying to pretend that you know the right things to do, and focus more on learning and being open to people teaching you a new way of handling things.” [39:15] “Community is literally everything.” [45:38]   Connect with Cory Bush Website:            https://www.corybushdoula.com Instagram:          @thecorybush Patreon:             @askasub   Connect with Rachel Wright Website:            https://rachelwrightnyc.com Instagram:          @thewright_rachel Twitter:              @thewrightrachel   Resources Mentioned Pod Mapping. FetLife. Bloom. Remodeled Love on Patreon.   WIN A FREE INTIMACY AFTER DARK DECK!   Get 30% OFF the NEW After Dark Deck! Use Promo Code: Rachel   Get your Zumio Discount!   Call to Action Please if you love this episode, and know someone else who is a passionate soul on a mission just like you share it with your friends and others. To help this podcast grow please leave an iTunes review and don’t forget to subscribe.

Hey everyone! Welcome to today’s episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today’s episode, I’m joined by my primary partners, Kyle, Ashley, and Yair. We are going to talk about how we met, how this all started, and where we see it going. We also talk about our experiences dating during the pandemic, experiencing the motions and emotions, and our family structure, and we have important messages that we want everyone to know.   Let’s delve in!   In this Episode You’ll Learn: [04:24] Yair’s perspective. [10:13] Ashley’s perspective. [18:50] Kyle’s perspective. [23:00] The early days. [24:14] Distanced dating. [32:37] Getting physical for the first time. [40:18] Experiencing jealousy. [44:29] Getting through insecurities. [55:20] What makes it all worth it? [62:36] Our structure and where we’re going. [69:11] What do we want everyone to know about our relationship.   Quotes: “Jealousy pulls on your insecurities.” [44:46] “The more times you work through something, the easier it is to go through the next time, but it’s still going to be a next time and it’s still going to be challenging.” [53:38] “Every single dynamic gets to be what it is, and celebrated for what it is.” [61:32] “We want our legal structure to reflect what our emotions and our day-to-day lives look like.” [65:03] “It’s not all orgies all the time. Everyone knows orgies are for Thursdays.” [69:43] “We’re not that different.” [73:37]   Connect with Rachel Wright Website:            https://rachelwrightnyc.com Instagram:          @thewright_rachel Twitter:              @thewrightrachel   WIN A FREE INTIMACY AFTER DARK DECK!   Get 30% OFF the NEW After Dark Deck! Use Promo Code: Rachel   Get your Zumio Discount!   Call to Action Please if you love this episode, and know someone else who is a passionate soul on a mission just like you share it with your friends and others. To help this podcast grow please leave an iTunes review and don’t forget to subscribe.

Nikole Mitchell is a life coach who's gone viral as the Pastor-turned-Stripper. Nikole has dedicated herself to living a life of power, pleasure, and profit, and helps others do the same. Having gone from food stamps to seven figures, Nikole helps her clients and course students make bank doing what they love. Having been interviewed and published in over 25 countries and with 250,000 organic followers on Instagram, Nikole is becoming the go-to expert for learning how to make money by being your truest self. For her expertise, Nikole has been featured on Jimmy Kimmel, ABC, CBS, FOX, SiriusXM, and iHeartRadio.   Hey everyone! Welcome to today’s episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today’s episode, I’m joined by Nikole Mitchell, life coach gone viral as the Pastor-turned-Stripper. We are going to talk about some of the misconceptions about sex work, creating a positive environment around sex work, and how to get involved. Nikole also talks about her journey from Pastor to Stripper, talking to her kids about her work, and she gives some words of wisdom.   Let’s delve in!   In this Episode You’ll Learn: [05:32] Defining sex work. [06:08] What’s under the umbrella of sex work. [06:54] Pastor-turned-Stripper. [12:42] The biggest misconceptions. [14:05] Why people are uncomfortable with this topic. [16:23] The privilege of online sex work. [17:37] Talking to her kids about her work. [21:23] Advice to parents to talk about sex work. [26:00] Why people hire sex workers. [32:38] How to start the process. [37:37] How to be better clients. [40:26] Funny stories from Nikole’s work. [42:19] Nikole’s words of wisdom.   Quotes: “[Sex work] is the exchange of money for goods and services that are sexual related.” [05:50] “Kids do kids things. Adults do adult things.” [19:21] “90% of my one-on-one calls with my fans are just to talk.” [28:08] “It’s amazing once we become curious, the things we become aware of.” [35:24] “If you can’t honor someone’s boundaries, then don’t be in their space.‘ [38:28] “The greatest act of revolution is to trust yourself” [43:00] “Don’t wait to get to the end of your life wishing you had tried it. Try it. You’ll be okay.” [43:40]   Connect with Nikole Mitchell Website:            nikolemitchell.com Instagram:          @mitchellnikole Facebook:          @nikole.s.mitchell Twitter:              @mitchellnikole YouTube:           Nikole Mitchell OnlyFans:          @nikolemitchell   Connect with Rachel Wright Website:            https://rachelwrightnyc.com Instagram:          @thewright_rachel Twitter:              @thewrightrachel   WIN A FREE INTIMACY AFTER DARK DECK!   Get 30% OFF the NEW After Dark Deck! Use Promo Code: Rachel   Get your Zumio Discount!   Call to Action Please if you love this episode, and know someone else who is a passionate soul on a mission just like you share it with your friends and others. To help this podcast grow please leave an iTunes review and don’t forget to subscribe.

Hey everyone! Welcome to today’s episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today’s episode, I am going to be talking about my journey with depression, jumping between various treatments, and the moment I found relief. I’ll also be getting into the process of doing ketamine treatments, how they saved my life, and how it’s going today.   Let’s delve in!   In this Episode You’ll Learn: [06:37] The depression diagnosis. [13:27] Switching from Lexapro to Effexor. [15:53] And then Covid hit. [18:50] Getting on to Remeron. [21:14] The next wave of depression. [24:21] Starting ketamine treatments. [29:02] The first infusion. [31:56] Feeling like myself again.   Quotes: “It was so scary to be stuck in a brain that was telling me lies.” [25:57] “The healthier I get mentally, the more I realized that the feeling of surrendering is really positive.” [27:16] “Not one things is a silver bullet.” [32:06]   Connect with Rachel Wright Website:            https://rachelwrightnyc.com Instagram:          @thewright_rachel Twitter:              @thewrightrachel   WIN A FREE INTIMACY AFTER DARK DECK!   Get 30% OFF the NEW After Dark Deck! Use Promo Code: Rachel   Get your Zumio Discount!   Call to Action Please if you love this episode, and know someone else who is a passionate soul on a mission just like you share it with your friends and others. To help this podcast grow please leave an iTunes review and don’t forget to subscribe.

James Rose (they/she) is a genderfluid actor, educator, & content artist based in New York City. James holds degrees from NYU in Music Theatre and Child & Adolescent Mental Health Studies, and their work on stage and screen ranges from “The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel” to leading roles in regional theaters across the country. They are currently starring as Hedwig in Hedwig and the Angry Inch at Cardinal Stage - one of the first openly non-binary performers in history to take on this role. They co-starred in the indie film “Adelphe”, which premiered at the prestigious Cannes Film Festival this year. In response to the pervasive diet culture and body shaming of the entertainment industry, they also became a fat liberation-aligned personal trainer and trauma-informed Yoga teacher, specializing in accessible fitness that allows for all people make peace with movement and their bodies. They have taught in prisons, harm reduction shelters, domestic violence shelters, senior centers, gyms, and studios across the country. James also serves as a Diversity, Equity, & Inclusion consultant for regional theaters, corporations, and the National Eating Disorder Association. They write about gender, queerness, trauma survivorship, mental health, their feelings, and their exes on Instagram & TikTok, where they reach an audience of over 350,000 people. James values transparency, authenticity, and hopes their corner of the internet can be a place where we learn to love ourselves as fiercely as possible.   Hey everyone! Welcome to today’s episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today’s episode, I am joined by James Rose, genderfluid actor, educator, and content artist. We talk about gender, sexuality, sex, and identity. James also talks about their lived experience with oppression, their coming out story, and using pronouns, and James gives three action steps for how you could support and get involved with trans communities.   Let’s delve in!   In this Episode You’ll Learn: [03:33] Hedwig and the Angry Inch. [06:55] Differentiating between sexuality and gender. [07:42] The difference between gender and sex. [09:21] Non-binary in gender. [11:35] Is non-binary considered trans? [13:31] James’s experience with oppression. [26:50] Legislation against bodily autonomy. [29:47] James’s coming out story. [39:22] Let’s talk about pronouns. [47:26] James’s three action steps.   Quotes:  “Gender is based off of social factors, sex is based of of biological factors, both of them are human constructs that exist on non-binary spectrums.” [08:51] “Regardless of where you are in the world, you absolutely interact with trans people. You just may not know it.” [16:07] “When you do not have bodily autonomy, your mental health tanks.” [23:13] “Gender discovery feels like being a welder and not having an instruction manual.” [36:52] “Your pronouns are simply the way that you are to be referred to, respectfully, in space.” [40:03]   Connect with James Website:            www.jamesissmiling.com Instagram:          @jamesissmiling TikTok:              @jamesissmiling Twitter:              @jamesissmiling   Connect with Rachel Wright Website:            https://rachelwrightnyc.com Instagram:          @thewright_rachel Twitter:              @thewrightrachel   WIN A FREE INTIMACY AFTER DARK DECK!   Get 30% OFF the NEW After Dark Deck! Use Promo Code: Rachel   Get your Zumio Discount!   Call to Action Please if you love this episode, and know someone else who is a passionate soul on a mission just like you share it with your friends and others. To help this podcast grow please leave an iTunes review and don’t forget to subscribe.

Hey everyone! Welcome to today’s episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today’s episode, I will be talking about the concept of a container, creating containers, and I’ll be reading some of my clients thoughts about the use of containers in their lives. I’ll also get into how, when, where, and why you should be creating containers.   Let’s delve in!   In this Episode You’ll Learn: [02:15] Finding answers. [05:57] Creating a container separate from the rest of life. [09:17] Setting the intention for a container. [11:39] The safe space. [13:38] Consent. [17:04] How to create containers in your life. [17:52] Your action item.   Quotes:  “When we create a container for ourselves, we can then not have it spill over into the other parts of our lives.” [08:16] “You get to create the agreements inside this container.” [14:47]   Connect with Rachel Wright Website:            https://rachelwrightnyc.com Instagram:          @thewright_rachel Twitter:              @thewrightrachel   WIN A FREE INTIMACY AFTER DARK DECK!   Get 30% OFF the NEW After Dark Deck! Use Promo Code: Rachel   Get your Zumio Discount!   Call to Action Please if you love this episode, and know someone else who is a passionate soul on a mission just like you share it with your friends and others. To help this podcast grow please leave an iTunes review and don’t forget to subscribe.

Julia is a registered clinical counsellor, speaker, researcher, and she is overall passionate about helping others balance their lives and work through issues surrounding anxiety, depression, self-doubt, communication, relationships, and more.   Hey everyone! Welcome to today’s episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today’s episode, I am joined by Julia Kristina, therapeutic coach, counsellor, speaker, and researcher. We talk about identifying, managing, and communicating emotions. Julia also talks about the importance of the communication request, shared meaning in relationships, and and get Julia’s words of wisdom around emotions.   Let’s delve in!   In this Episode You’ll Learn: [04:02] A bit about Julia. [05:56] Identifying. [11:30] Changing the language around “I feel like” statements. [17:58] The complex side of identifying. [23:10] Shared meaning in relationships. [30:01] Managing emotions. [31:46] Communicating emotions. [37:10] The communication request. [41:07] Julia’s words of wisdom.   Quotes:  “Emotional intelligence is the number one human skill we need, but we don’t learn it.” [07:36] “Pay attention to what’s happening in your body and then imagine that experience as a colour.” [16:19] “Managing our emotions is getting in charge of our thoughts.” [30:10] “Stop before you speak. Take a moment, take a beat, take a breath, take a bath. Whatever it is you need to do.” [41:15]   Connect with Julia Website:            https://juliakristina.com LinkedIn:            Julia Kristina Facebook:          Julia Counsellor Twitter:              @juliacounsellor YouTube:           Julia Kristina Counsellor   Connect with Rachel Wright Website:            https://rachelwrightnyc.com Instagram:          @thewright_rachel Twitter:              @thewrightrachel   WIN A FREE INTIMACY AFTER DARK DECK!   Get 30% OFF the NEW After Dark Deck! Use Promo Code: Rachel   Get your Zumio Discount!   Call to Action Please if you love this episode, and know someone else who is a passionate soul on a mission just like you share it with your friends and others. To help this podcast grow please leave an iTunes review and don’t forget to subscribe