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Discover transformative ideas that can shift your luck and mindset! Explore how personal growth springs from adversity and the importance of embracing life's cringe moments. Dive into the joy of action and the freedom of possibility without overthinking every decision. Learn 11 key phrases that reshape your views on luck and encourage you to embrace uncertainty, all while fostering a sense of community and aligned creativity. Get ready to open your mind and heart to a vibrant journey!

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit thetwelfthhouse.substack.comThe doors are open to The North Node until July 6th.Welcome to my gorgeous group of secret Jason Bournes minus the murder (probably!)No, it’s not because you look like Matt Damon (that’s a compliment).It’s because you’re walking around using your valuable knowledge and skills in casual conversations, solving problems for people, giving advice that others would pay consultants thousands for... but you’ve completely forgotten that these abilities are extraordinary (and monetizable, but we’ll get there later)Quick poll: How many of you have ever said 'Oh that? That's just common sense' while someone frantically took notes? Or maybe, “Oh, that’s easy, I’m happy to do that for you. I could do that in my sleep, I can’t charge you!”If yes, you’re in the right spot.And, you’re probably someone who has a LOT of confusion about what to spend your one wild and precious life doing … because you enjoy a LOT of things.Maybe you’re secretly hoping that one day your alarm clock will go off, and you’ll rise out of bed knowing exactly what it is you want to do when you grow up.Or that some mysterious billionaire will message you on LinkedIn with a job offer that allows you to work from home 3-days a week doing [insert something you love doing here] for a cool $500k salary a year.I mean, me too. But while we’re waiting for that golden LinkedIn notification, we might as well save ourselves and start getting paid to do the things we enjoy and are good at.Here’s my perspective:Your career isn't a destination — it's a living, breathing, ever-changing organism. We're not looking for THE answer, but understanding the dynamic assemblage of experiences, skills, and gifts that make up your unique expertise.My goal for this sessionYou'll leave knowing you have expertise. Slay.You’ll have a good high-level map to start figuring out your packaging / pricing / format to bring your offer or business or project into the world.… and while I’m confident you can figure that all out on your own through study and experimentation, The North Node helps you get there faster with less wasted resources.

Discover the excitement of diving into creative projects while grappling with the tension between perfectionism and spontaneity. Learn how to align your personal values with your artistic ventures for greater fulfillment. Explore practical tools for setting clear goals and optimizing your decision-making. Emphasize the importance of audience feedback and iteration in the creative process. Join a supportive community dedicated to helping you turn your genius ideas into reality, one rewarding step at a time.

The discussion kicks off with a passionate critique of U.S. immigration policies and their impact on families. It dives into the shared human experience of navigating life's challenges, emphasizing resilience and community support. The speakers tackle the identity crisis many young adults face, encouraging self-discovery and curiosity. Practical tools like a burnout recovery protocol and a subconscious audit are introduced for personal growth. The importance of astrology and journaling in understanding one's identity adds a creative twist to the conversation.

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit thetwelfthhouse.substack.com📚 Resources and Links:* 📩 Connect with host ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Michelle Pellizzon-Lipsitz⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠team Holisticism⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠* Sign up for the North Node waitlist here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠* Inquire about 1:1 work with Michelle here* Holisticism Resources 4 u:* Ruthless Clarity — an 8-week email course designed to help you achieve crystal-clear certainty about your goals, desires, and energy allocation* How to Begin: A Project Planning Class — a 90-m on-demand class that teaches you exactly how to sketch a effervescent project plan that'll fill you with glee and inspiration and instantly banish procrastination and overwhelm, so your brilliant ideas can finally come to life.* The Subconscious Audit — an 11-day diagnostic framework that helps you identify what's holding you back and making you *feel* blocked. Because you're never actually blocked* The New Age Playbook for Spellbinding, Can’t-Stop-Reading Copy — a 35-page downloadable workbook to take your writing from blah to bingeableEllo! Thanks for bearing with me as this week’s episode comes out a day later than usual — I’m halfway through in an intensive 20-day Feldenkrais Method in-person training in Ann Arbor and admittedly I’m a little, “what day is it? who am I? where do the bounds of my body end and begin? what is consciousness, even?” on top of having long days and a not-so-quiet shared Airbnb with my partner and 2.5 year old :) Real quick, reminder that I’m teaching a free class called: 🔮 HOW TO POSITION YOURSELF AS THE EXPERT YOU ALREADY ARE AND GET PAID TO BE YOURSELF (EVEN IF YOUR EXPERTISE IS "INVISIBLE" TO YOU)! 📅 June 25th at 2p ET 💻 Live + interactive on Zoom 👉 CLICK HERE TO SAVE YOUR SPOTIn this workshop, I'll walk you through:* The 3 types of invisible expertise everyone has, no matter how old or young or experienced or educated or witchy or talented you are or aren’t* A live "expertise archaeology" exercise where we dig through your psychological rubble to find buried treasure (metaphorically speaking — although if you wanna wear your best Indiana Jones cosplay garb I’m not gonna stop you)* The #1 money story keeping spiritual people broke (hint: it's not just "money is the root of all evil," though that's definitely in the top 5)* A simple framework for testing if your knowledge is monetizable without sacrificing your firstborn to the algorithm gods or becoming one of those people who DMs strangers about "passive income opportunities"* How to decide what to monetize, and what to keep for yourself 😇 and how your expertise plays into that choice either way!It’s going to be fun! Lemme hype you up!!!!! You can register for the class here. Today’s episode begins to wind down our Failure Tolerance series, and in it I’m answering a few key questions that came up from our subscribers around: * How to continue to push yourself and your failure tolerance as things begin to get easier

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit thetwelfthhouse.substack.com📚 Resources and Links:* 📩 Connect with host ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Michelle Pellizzon-Lipsitz⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠team Holisticism⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠* Sign up for the North Node waitlist here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠* Inquire about 1:1 work with Michelle here* Holisticism Resources 4 u:* Ruthless Clarity — an 8-week email course designed to help you a…

This podcast dives into the humorous yet poignant journey of personal transformation. The host hilariously recounts an eyebrow bleaching experiment that reflects the importance of failure tolerance. Themes of resilience and the interplay of success and failure are explored through Emerson's ideas on compensation. Proactive engagement and aligning actions with values are emphasized as crucial for embracing new opportunities. Finally, listeners are invited to reflect on balancing material and spiritual growth for true self-discovery.

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit thetwelfthhouse.substack.com📚 Resources and Links:* 📩 Connect with host ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Michelle Pellizzon-Lipsitz⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠team Holisticism⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠* Sign up for the North Node waitlist here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠* Inquire about 1:1 work with Michelle here* Holisticism Resources 4 u:* Ruthless Clarity — an 8-week email course designed to help you achieve crystal-clear certainty about your goals, desires, and energy allocation* How to Begin: A Project Planning Class — a 90-m on-demand class that teaches you exactly how to sketch a effervescent project plan that'll fill you with glee and inspiration and instantly banish procrastination and overwhelm, so your brilliant ideas can finally come to life.* The Subconscious Audit — an 11-day diagnostic framework that helps you identify what's holding you back and making you *feel* blocked. Because you're never actually blocked* The New Age Playbook for Spellbinding, Can’t-Stop-Reading Copy — a 35-page downloadable workbook to take your writing from blah to bingeableThis week we're diving deep into failure tolerance and going beyond the basic entrepreneurial "learn to handle rejection in sales!" version (though yes yes yes, obviously, send the scary email, make the ask, stop passive-aggressively hoping someone will discover your genius on Instagram). We're talking about practicing increasing failure tolerance from a more creative, esoteric perspective. And why-oh-why would we want to do that? Well, increasing your failure tolerance is a type of nervous system practice. It's not about becoming fearless or turning into some kind of risk-taking maniac. It's about expanding your capacity to hold discomfort, which literally makes you stickier to the things you want.When you can handle the sensation of uncertainty, rejection, looking foolish, or being misunderstood, you stop unconsciously sabotaging yourself. You stop repelling opportunities because you're afraid of what might happen if you actually get what you want.Because here's the thing: If you say you want to have $100k in your bank account, but your nervous system can't handle seeing $10k in your portfolio without completely freaking out, guess what you're going to unconsciously do everything in your power to avoid? Exactly.This is somatic work disguised as creative practice. Every time you stretch your tolerance for the uncomfortable, you're teaching your nervous system that these sensations aren't actually life-threatening. That you can survive looking stupid. That failure isn't death — it's just information, it's just a turn, it's just another step in the ongoing experiment of being human.With that, I wanted to give you some practical ways to flex your failure tolerance in ways that extend beyond traditional business. So, let’s get to it!

📚 Resources and Links:* 📩 Connect with host ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Michelle Pellizzon-Lipsitz⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠team Holisticism⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠* Sign up for the North Node waitlist here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠* Inquire about 1:1 work with Michelle here* Holisticism Resources 4 u: * Ruthless Clarity — an 8-week email course designed to help you achieve crystal-clear certainty about your goals, desires, and energy allocation* How to Begin: A Project Planning Class — a 90-m on-demand class that teaches you exactly how to sketch a effervescent project plan that'll fill you with glee and inspiration and instantly banish procrastination and overwhelm, so your brilliant ideas can finally come to life.* The Subconscious Audit — an 11-day diagnostic framework that helps you identify what's holding you back and making you *feel* blocked. Because you're never actually blocked* The New Age Playbook for Spellbinding, Can’t-Stop-Reading Copy — a 35-page downloadable workbook to take your writing from blah to bingeableIn this episode of The Twelfth House, I'm diving into the somatic elements of failure tolerance — what it is, why it matters, and how increasing your capacity to withstand discomfort can make you wildly more magnetic. (You can read about the whole failure tolerance series here) When we're confronted with potential failure or rejection, most of us go into full-on panic mode. Our bodies literally think we're about to D-I-E. This leads to failure aversion, which might be keeping you stuck in a life that feels... fine, but not particularly exciting.What is failure tolerance?Failure tolerance is simply the capacity to withstand and recover from perceived rejection or failure. It's not about eliminating fear (which honestly feels impossible for my scaredy-cat self) — it's about sitting with the discomfort of "this might not work" and surviving it.When we look at failure tolerance, we can identify three different states that you might find yourself in:* The Bravery Myth State: When you think failure tolerance means faking courage until you feel it. This approach might work for some people, but for many of us (hi!), it creates even MORE anxiety and nervous system dysregulation.* The Hyper-Safety State: When you've designed your entire life around avoiding failure. You stick to familiar routines, places, people, and work. Everything is safe, streamlined, and... a little bit boring. It’s also easy to fall into this relationship with failure tolerance when you’ve been designing for stability in your life. * The Magnetic State: When you can acknowledge your fears while expanding your capacity to withstand discomfort. You don't need to be brave — you just need to be able to survive the feeling of potential failure.Signs your failure tolerance needs attention:* You feel "fine" but not excited about your life or business* You find yourself feeling mysteriously “stuck” or “blocked” — you know I don’t believe you’re ever blocked, but you know what I’m saying — even though things seem to be running perfectly well in your life otherwise * Your offerings haven't changed in ages because "they work" (but do they really work?) * You find yourself ordering the same food, going to the same places, hanging with the same people, in excess * You dismiss ideas as "impossible" before even exploring them* You catch yourself thinking "I can't ask for that" more than "I wonder if I could get that"The nervous system of it all When we face potential failure, our nervous system kicks into sympathetic mode (fight/flight/freeze). In this state:* Your attention narrows (literally — your vision constricts)* Your body gets rigid* Your cortisol and adrenaline spike* Your creativity, adaptability, and fine motor learning shut down completely. Boo! Hiss! But in parasympathetic mode:* Your prefrontal cortex activates, boosting learning and planning* Your movements become more fluid and flexible* Your brain forms new connections more easily* Your creativity and intuition flowSee the problem? When we're failure-averse, we're physiologically cutting ourselves off from the very creativity we need to evolve. It's like trying to brainstorm innovative ideas while a tiger is chasing you. NOT HAPPENING.The Fettuccine Alfredo TestHere's my absurdly specific but clarifying example. You're at Ruby's Diner. What you really want is fettuccine Alfredo with peas.If you're failure-averse, your thought process is: "They don't have that here. I guess I'll order something I don't really want."If you're failure-tolerant, you might:* Ask if they can make it anyway?* Suggest going to a different restaurant?* See if you can order it for delivery while everyone else eats Ruby's?* Propose meeting at home later with everyone's preferred food?The failure-averse person never considers these options because they've decided only the menu in front of them exists. (This extends WAY beyond pasta, promise.)Practical ways to increase your failure tolerance:* Move sloooooowly. When you feel that fear response kicking in, pause. Notice the physical sensations. "My shoulders are up to my ears. My stomach is dropping. My toes are clenched."* Name your thoughts. "I'm having the thought that I'll be rejected." Not "I'll be rejected," but "I'm having the thought that I'll be rejected." This creates a tiny but crucial space between you and the fear.* Stay with the discomfort a bit longer. Your body believes you'll die if this feeling continues. By staying with it for 30 seconds, a minute, two minutes, you're showing your nervous system: "See? Still alive."* Expand your awareness. Release your shoulders and jaw. Take a breath. Let your peripheral vision open up. This signals to your body that you're not in immediate danger.Remember: Your failure tolerance will fluctuate. It's not a linear progression from "scaredy cat" to "fearless warrior." (Thank god, because I'd fail that test immediately.) Some days you'll feel braver than others based on your overall sense of safety, health, and what else is happening in your life.The most fascinating paradox? Many of us are most failure-tolerant when we hit an energetic void, because we literally have less to lose. As we become more successful, we often become MORE failure-averse. We have more to protect. More to lose. The stakes feel higher.The magnetism superpowerWhen you increase your failure tolerance, you energy becomes contagious and uber attractive. Not because you're fearless, but because you're willing to exist alongside your fear without being totally controlled by it. People who are highly failure-tolerant have that quality where everyone turns when they enter a room. Not because they're loud or conventionally charismatic, but because there's a gravitational pull to their energy. They're so purely themselves that you can't help but be drawn in.Think about it: what's more magnetic than someone who can handle hearing "no" without crumbling? Who can ask for what they really want? Who can explore possibilities that others dismiss as impossible?Your homework (if you choose to accept it):* Notice one place where you're being failure-averse today* Practice the "slow down" technique when you feel that fear rising* Ask for ONE thing you've been avoiding asking for (start small!)* Track your physical responses to potential rejectionAnd if you want to dive deeper into failure tolerance, join us in The North Node, our private membership community, where we've been running the Failure Tolerance Challenge for four years with WILD results. Members have launched businesses, created products, written books, gone on life-changing dates — all by increasing their capacity to withstand the discomfort of potential failure.Want more? Check out our paid subscriber episode where KP and I share our "found objects" for failure tolerance — all the inspirations that sparked this series. We even talk about our own failure tolerance journeys and how we've personally used these techniques.Oh, and tell me in the comments: What's your relationship with failure tolerance? On a scale from 1 to 10 — 1 being most failure averse, 10 being most failure tolerant — where do you land? Liked this?You’ll love Holisticism and our podcast The Twelfth House.Want to learn more about intuitive business and creator-ship?Sign up for the North Node waitlist here.Into my persnickety personality and strategic perspective?Inquire about 1:1 advising with me here. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thetwelfthhouse.substack.com/subscribe

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit thetwelfthhouse.substack.comWe’re celebrating a subscriber milestone at The Twelfth House and want to say THANK YOU SO MUCH to all of you gorgeous people for supporting this publication. We’ll randomly select five Twelfth House+ subscribers who open this email to enjoy your choice of either a 30-m 1:1 Matrix of Destiny reading or a 30-m 1:1 Intuitive Business Strategy session. Just by opening this email you’re entered to win :) Found ObjectsWelcome to Found Objects, where we give you a behind-the-scenes look at what we’re thinking about, reading, making, and what's floating around in the hivemind and changing how we see the world. These are the building blocks — some directly, some indirectly — that contribute to what we’re focusing on for the next six weeks.This is the second post in a six-week series on Failure Tolerance as a Magnetic Practice. If you want access to the full curriculum for this series, subscribe to The Twelfth House.