RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery

In today’s episode, Patrick interviews me (Kylene) and asks me questions about my experience as a betrayed partner.    Some things we discuss are:   What was discovery like for me How was I able to express my emotions What were things that Patrick did that were helpful or hurtful What do I wish all addicts knew Why vulnerable conversations are so important   And more…     We hope that this episode both resonates. My story isn’t your story, but I know there are many aspects that may feel similar.   One thing I share in this episode is how intensely long, difficult and painful this journey was for me. We can’t sugar coat that reality. But what we also hope to communicate, is that  through the healing process there can be something better on the other side. Whether a couple stays together or goes separate ways, healing offers us an opportunity to create a life we enjoy.    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In a world filled with sexual imagery, parents face the challenge of shielding their children from early exposure. They discuss practical strategies for age-appropriate conversations about sex and sexuality. Tips include using correct body terminology, fostering self-worth with positive affirmations, and maintaining open lines of communication. The hosts emphasize the importance of addressing one's own discomfort first and creating a safe environment for discussions. Regular check-ins and monitoring media exposure are crucial for navigating these sensitive topics.

This week we are discussing 4 myths (that we think keep people stuck) in the recovery community.  Patrick and I deeply believe in our mission to bring education and awareness around recovery because we know the freedom in your life that it can bring.    That being said, there are several beliefs in the recovery and faith communities that we see keeping people from reaching their full potential in life.    4 myths we discuss today: 1. Your suffering is holy 2. Anyone who wants to lead a recovery group should (even if they aren't in recovery) 3. Addiction is permanent  4. Women can't have autonomy in marriage   In contrast to the above, we believe in: 1. Personal responsibility and boundaries 2. Lead by example 3. Addiction is reversible and you can achieve full freedom from it 4. Men and women are equal in marriage some we both lead each other in different areas   Additional episodes you may like based on todays’ content:   Sobriety vs Recovery:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000684064277     Forgiveness: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000629370575   We hope this episode is encouraging and shines a light on the possibilities of true health.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In today’s episode, Kylene opens up about her personal healing journey—sharing some of her painful experiences with the church, moments of struggle in her faith, and how finding a safe and supportive community became a crucial part of her recovery. She also explores the importance of connection—connection to self, to others, and to God—and why cultivating these three areas is essential for betrayed partners on the path to healing.   Episodes/Topics mentioned in today's episode: Self worth vs Self confidence: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000708437532   Intrusive Thoughts:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000652006011   Kylene's story of divorce: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000643643605     If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

What drives successful recovery from porn addiction? Intrinsic motivation is crucial, along with a commitment to honesty, even when it's tough. Embracing discomfort and making sacrifices play vital roles in the journey. The long-term nature of recovery is emphasized, urging those affected to view it as a multi-year commitment. For those in relationships, owning the impact of one’s actions and fostering trust is essential for rebuilding. Each recovery is a layered process, tackling deep-rooted issues through honesty and empathy.

Modesty is a good thing right? But what if the messaging around modesty keeps individuals stuck and instead of protecting people, actually causes harm?   In today’s episode Kylene and Patrick discuss why they think that the pornography culture and modesty culture have the same end impact —> that is,  communicating that humans are objects.   We know this is a sticky topic and one that involves deeply rooted faith culture, personal conviction and more. We encourage you to listen to this episode with open hearts.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Today's guest is Kaija Dawn, a relationship coach specializing in sacred intimacy, nervous system regulation, and relationship energetics.    She shares her personal story and together she and Kylene discuss making difficult choices, learning to trust yourself through the process, and feeling vs intellectualizing decisions.    You can find Kaia on Instagram @iamkaijadawn and her podcast: The Woman Behind it All Listen to the episode where she interviewed Kylene here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/041-repair-boundaries-and-healing-after-betrayal-in/id1770275741?i=1000726891473   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

After discovery, a betrayed partner is left trying to make sense of a reality that suddenly feels upside down. Moments and symbols once filled with joy -like wedding photos, anniversaries, rings - can now feel heavy and confusing. In today’s episode, Kylene and Patrick share their personal approach to some of these difficult moments. They explore the emotions these events bring up from both perspectives, and reflect on the different choices other couples may make as they move through their own recovery journeys.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Kylene and Patrick delve into the unexpected challenges of early sobriety from sex addiction. They discuss common experiences like intrusive thoughts, nocturnal emissions, and a range of emotions that arise during recovery. With practical coping strategies in hand, they stress the importance of making conscious choices rather than succumbing to automatic behaviors. The conversation highlights the need for connection, offering tools like breathing exercises and journaling to better navigate stress and emotional turbulence.

Content Warning: Today's episode is discussing some of traumatic events that have happened in our society lately and that are all over the news leading to a heavier episode. Please be aware of where you are in your recovery if this episode is appropriate for you.   Things we discuss: The impact of national violence and how it impacts us individually  How societal change starts individually  The importance of connection and community for mental health, grieving and healing Our personal faith and how it impacts our views on how we love others Kylene's health scares and how they impact her view of the world and her life   While this episode is heavier than most, we hope it also helps you feel seen, encouraged, and loved.