RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery

Today, Kylene walks through what steps can help us navigate triggers and calm ruminating thoughts after betrayal. She discusses:   1. Why safety is the foundation that has to be laid first  and what that looks and feels like 2. How subconscious processing is what really moves the needle when we have sticky triggers 3. The importance of identifying core wounds to really resolve the root of the recurring thoughts   Previous episodes mentioned: 5 practical ways to create safety after discovering your spouse is a porn or sx addictvt: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000715418229 Intrusive Thoughts and Recovery - Calming you mind with less work: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000652006011 If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune  

In today's episode, Carly and Kylene are discussing things to consider when navigating betrayal, reconciliation, divorce and children. We understand that this is a complex conversation and this episode is not saying there is one right or wrong answer - rather, we are sharing some thoughts and perspectives that we hope may be helpful.   They discuss Carly's personal experience and thoughts around her parents divorce, the importance of bringing children into age appropriate communication, and why honesty is so important.   You can learn more about Carly and her work here: https://www.carlyinfocus.com   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune  

In today’s episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss what ingredients are involved in a healthy marriage. These include:    Liking each other as friends  Emotional support for each other Playing on the same team Being willing to apologize and take responsibility for your own behavior Freedom and safety in every aspect of the relationship   After betrayal and through addiction recovery, couples have a real opportunity to start from scratch, taking anything that was healthy and good before, and rooting out anything that’s unhealthy while they create something brand new together.    Today, Kylene ad Patrick discuss how these pillars helped them in their relationship and why they believe they are foundational for health in any relationship.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In today's episode Kylene and Patrick walk through 5 practical and actionable steps to consider after discovery. What actually helps create stability when you're just beginning your recovery journey?   Here are 5 steps to consider: Sleeping in separate spaces to give yourself the opportunity to reset and recover Setting boundaries around communication Getting connected to practitioners specializing in addiction and betrayal Making sure the basic modes of addiction are shut down/blocked Create a plan - work with your practitioner and spouse to create a plan that works for you If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune       --   To your health, Kylene Terhune Betrayal Recovery Coach Host of RecoverU podcast FDN-P, Master NLP life coach, Master QTT practitioner   Are you a betrayed partner? Join my free FB group RecoverU here

This week Kylene and Patrick discuss 3 mindsets that will set you up for success in recovery and how those impact the betrayed partner and the addict in their journeys.   I am more than my circumstances Healing is possible for everyone, but requires change and change is uncomfortable  There is something better that is available to me     If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In today’s episode, Jackie Newman shares about the journal/workbook she co-authored called Unapologetically You.    Unapologetically You is your personal companion on a transformative journey towards inner peace, emotional healing, and self-awareness. This journal offers a collection of guided prompts, exercises, and reflective spaces to help you reconnect with your true self, heal old wounds, and embrace the fullness of who you are.   This journal is a reminder that healing is not a destination, but a beautiful, ongoing process. Step into the best version of yourself and begin your journey of healing today.   Today we walk through the 5 sections of the journal including:   Safety Connection to Self Grounding and Self-Care Journaling Inspiration     And share how the journal helps betrayed partners feel more grounded and move forward on their healing journey       Conference:https://csbdhopeforhealing.org   Jackies website: https://www.ampersandintegrative.com   Barnes and Noble book link: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/unapologetically-you-jackie-newman/1147552402?ean=9798317694548 Lulu: https://www.lulu.com/shop/jackie-newman-and-grounding-grace-co/unapologetically-you/paperback/product-q6dk69y.html?srsltid=AfmBOoqyShlvGtOuXn_ULA7SWh7iWJ_yVMOpVkjLX3sznvolFCNU8Zw0&page=1&pageSize=4   Previous episode with Jackie Newman: Prepping for disclosure: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000634888047  

Today’s episode is a speech that Kylene was asked to present about overcoming adversity. She shares some of her own story as well as 3 keys she notices helps her and others move through painful experiences: Value, Clarity and Courage —> Knowing who you are, getting clarity on the future, and having courage to take steps towards it.   She shares these 5 truths: You are not responsible for the behavior, reactions or thinking of others.  You are responsible for your own behavior - show up with integrity every day - if you can go to bed at the end of the day and say - I did my best - that’s all you can do Mistakes are ok  when we take responsibility for them  You are more than your experiences  - in other words, negative things that happen in our lives do not have to become our identity  You are worthy and valuable just as you are - because you exist - and you don’t have to accomplish anything for that statement to be true.   Episode on self confidence vs self worth: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000708437532   Episode with future you meditation: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000611570008   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In todays episode, Patrick shares his thoughts on 3 important principles for a sex addict to remember in recovery: It takes time - don’t expect your betrayed partner to recover from discovery quickly. There are many factors that play into their ability to heal and everyone’s relationship and trauma level is different. Healing and relational reconciliation is a lifelong commitment. Demonstrate consistency so you can create safety for your partner. Be proactive. Make sure your motivation comes internally - your spouse shouldn’t have to push you to move through your own recovery.      If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Sometimes divorce isn’t just admissible, it’s beneficial. When a relationship hinders one or both parties from moving forward in health, divorce may be the best choice.   Kylene and Patrick know that there are many reasons that a couple may struggle with this decision including faith based guilt, internalized people pleasing, financial reasons, children etc… This is an nuanced conversation, and one that a single episode certainly will not cover in its entirety.    We are not here to tell you what to do. Instead, we are sharing some situations where divorce may be the healthiest option (outside of abusive situations which we do not focus on in this episode).   We hope this episode takes the pressure off, lets you take a deep breath and know that if you are heading down the path of divorce, there is nothing wrong with you. A relationship takes TWO people fully committed to work.    If you are listening to this episode and struggling with this decision we are sending you so much love.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

This discussion dives into the vital importance of establishing new habits and self-discipline for lasting recovery. It reveals how understanding brain responses can transform the healing process. The conversation highlights the emotional hurdles of addiction and the need for intentional practices like journaling. Listeners learn how to break down big recovery goals into manageable tasks. The episode also emphasizes the role of community support and accountability in fostering personal growth and integrity on the path to healing.