Have you ever experienced "the ick"?It's that sudden, visceral feeling of being put off by someone you're dating. Maybe it's their hat, a hobby or even the way they laugh.Stories of the ick are prolific online, but it leaves us with a question - what causes it? To separate red flags from disgust, we get into the psychology of the ick - why you might feel icky, if it should be a deal breaker, and what it says about your own attachment style.If you want to hear more about dating and psychology, check out our episode The false promise of love languages.

In this captivating discussion, former NASA astronaut Katie Coleman shares her six-month experience aboard the International Space Station, emphasizing the mental health challenges of long missions. Al Holland, a NASA psychologist, reveals the rigorous selection process and the importance of teamwork and communication. They delve into the psychological toll of isolation during a Mars mission and explore innovative solutions for managing stress. Both guests highlight humanity's relentless spirit of exploration and the emotional resilience required to journey to Mars.

Join us for a live episode of All in the Mind at Podfest in Adelaide this March. You can enter to win tickets here.Many of us have felt self loathing at some point in our lives — maybe when you've failed at an important task at work, or lost an important relationship.But some people hate themselves all the time — their inner monologue is a constant drumbeat of self-criticism and self-loathing. Where does this kind of all-encompassing self-hate come from? And is there a way to unlearn it?We speak to psychiatrist Dr Blaise Aguirre, author of I Hate Myself: Overcome Self-Loathing and Realize Why You're Wrong About You. This episode discusses the topic of suicide - please take care while listening.If you're looking for something to listen to next, check out our episode Can we trust our memories?Resources:Lifeline Australia1800RESPECT

Dr. Billy Garvey, a developmental pediatrician from Melbourne, specializes in children's behavioral issues and is also the author of "10 Things I Wish You Knew About Your Child's Mental Health." He discusses why kids often get labeled as 'bad' and dives into the complexities of attachment and emotional difficulties. Dr. Garvey emphasizes the importance of secure relationships and effective parent-child communication. He also shares strategies for fostering emotional resilience and supporting caregivers in understanding their children's mental health challenges.

Merle Bombardieri, a licensed clinical social worker and decision coach with extensive experience, delves into the complexities of the baby decision. She explores societal pressures and emotional challenges that couples face, especially in light of modern issues like climate change. Merle introduces a 'chair dialogue' exercise to help individuals reconcile conflicting desires about parenthood. The conversation also touches on the rising acceptance of child-free living and the increasing trend of one-child families, urging listeners to trust their instincts.

Harry Jordan, who experienced his first psychotic episode at 18, shares his shocking journey from mental health stability to a crisis that altered his life and relationships. Ellie Brown, a senior research fellow, discusses how such episodes often strike young people and the critical importance of recognizing warning signs. They delve into the profound disconnection from reality during psychosis, the challenges of treatment, and the emotional toll on families. Ultimately, they emphasize the power of timely intervention and compassionate support in the recovery process.

Kurt Gray, a professor at the University of North Carolina and author of "Outraged," dives into the psychology of moral outrage. He examines why topics like abortion and gun control ignite intense feelings, exploring our instinct to prevent harm. Gray discusses the role of storytelling in political dialogues, emphasizing how personal narratives can bridge divides. He offers insights on transforming heated debates into understanding through mutual respect, ultimately suggesting that recognizing our shared humanity can lead to more productive conversations.

Lucas Dixon, a researcher and teacher at the University of Queensland Business School, dives into the enticing yet controversial world of manifesting. He explores the rise of practices like vision boards and affirmations, weighing their potential benefits against the risks of unrealistic thinking. Dixon highlights the importance of balancing aspiration with actionable steps, introducing the WOOP method for more practical goal-setting. He also delves into the fine line between positive thinking and harmful expectations, promoting a healthy skepticism in the pursuit of personal success.

Joel Pearson, a cognitive neuroscientist at the University of New South Wales, discusses the psychological effects of artificial intelligence. He highlights how AI could redefine human relationships, including the emotional implications of AI companions like chatbots. The conversation touches on the mental health challenges posed by deepfakes and their potential to distort identity, particularly among youth. Pearson encourages collaboration between tech and cognitive science to ethically navigate these changes, emphasizing the importance of self-reflection in an AI-driven world.

Ethan Cross, a University of Michigan psychology professor and author of "Chatter," explores the fascinating world of our inner voice. He delves into the origins of our internal dialogue, shaped by cultural and parental influences. Cross discusses how our inner voice can be a double-edged sword, aiding self-reflection while also fueling negative emotions. He emphasizes the importance of reframing anxiety as a potential driver for growth and examines how different cultural contexts shape our self-talk. Techniques like prayer and meditation are suggested to manage mental chatter.