Awesome Marriage Podcast

In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina wrap up our Top 10 Marriage Mistakes Series by talking about the #1 Marriage Mistake Dr. Kim sees in marriages which is a lack of respect. Do you feel slighted or torn down by your spouse? Do you feel like your dignity is often bruised by how your spouse treats you? Well, we pray this episode can lead you to have some real, honest conversations with your spouse and that it will be the first step towards change for your marriage. Maybe you are thinking - this isn't an issue for you. Don't tune out! A lack of respect is a big issue in many marriages and the most destructive part of this is that most people aren't aware they are being disrespectful. Most people aren't conscious of the fact that they are disrespecting their spouse. There are lots of subtle ways we often treat others with a lack of respect. So tune it to hear how you can grow in this area. Dr. Kim shares practical advice on how to better respect your spouse. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! SPONSORS Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code "awesomemarriage" for 15% off your order! RESOURCES Show your beautiful bride your love for her, by simply taking the time to lift her up in prayer with the 15 Daily Prayers To Pray For Your Wife resource. Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email or text here!

In this episode Dr. Kim has long time friend of the podcast, Debra Fileta, back on the show talking about Love In Every Season. Debra Fileta is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Dr. Kim and Debra discuss her latest book: Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship. Just as nature cycles through seasons, relationships rotate through stages that can either make or break your love life. Each season plays an important role in taking a relationship to the next level, and depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow or slowly die. So many of you loyal listeners are in a season of transition right now or adjusting to your new season. This is a great conversation and Debra gives us some interesting things to think about and practical advice on how to love well in each season. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Just as nature cycles through seasons so do relationships." - Debra Fileta "Relationships are like plants; if you give too little your relationships will die, but if you give too much your relationships will also die." - Debra Fileta "A lot of people mistake selflessness for passivity." - Debra Fileta "Conflict is the invitation to deeper connection." - Debra Fileta "Compatibility is about our ability to come together in the ways we are different." - Debra Fileta "Persevering through the hard times in marriage is part of God's plan for us and He walks with us through it." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Seasons weren't meant to be stayed in. They are meant to be passed through." - Debra Fileta "Whether or not we feel love we can plant the seeds of love in our marriage which will eventually bear fruit." - Debra Fileta "If I'm only responsible for me and I can't change my spouse, what can I allow God to do in my heart?" - Debra Fileta "When we start getting healthy on our own it automatically moves our relationship in a healthy direction." - Debra Fileta "If you feel stuck in a winter season of your marriage, I invited you to make an appointment with a licensed counselor who can help walk with you through that season and help you find the unhealthy roots that need to be snipped so new growth can happen in your life." - Debra Fileta "Sometimes we get so used to the familiar that we don't realize the familiar isn't healthy." - Debra Fileta "What you see in dating you will see in marriage." - Debra Fileta "Healthy singles makes healthy dating which makes healthy marriages." - Debra Fileta "You need to have people that love you and that love Jesus who are able to speak into your dating relationship and point out things they see in it that might not be healthy." - Debra Fileta "There's no shame in struggling in marriage, it's just about how we allow God to use the struggle for His glory and for our health." - Debra Fileta "How we love God really impacts how we love each other." - Debra Fileta SPONSORS Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code "awesomemarriage" for 15% off your order! RESOURCES Buy Love In Every Season here now! Check out Debra's older episodes: Parent's Responsibility In Dating Foundations of Healthy Dating & The Church's Role Choosing Marriage Check out more great insights by Debra on her podcast. Take time to pray daily for your husband and call upon the One who can create real change in his life with our brand new resource 15 Daily Prayers To Pray For Your Husband. This tool makes it easy to pray big prayers daily for your husband! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about the #2 Marriage Mistake Dr. Kim sees in marriages, which is not listening to your spouse. Hearing is not the same thing as listening. So what does it look like to listen to your spouse well? How can we become better listeners? Dr. Kim shares practical advice on how to avoid this marriage mistake. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "With all the distractions that are out there today, you really have to focus and be intentional about communicating with your spouse." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "It feels very lonely when our spouse is not listening to us." - Christina Dodson "I don't think you can have an awesome marriage without having awesome listening skills." - Christina Dodson "I don't think you can multitask and really be listening to someone." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Your spouse should always have a direct line of communication to get to you." - Christina Dodson "Your spouse feels loved and cared for when they know they are heard in your marriage." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "We can learn how to listen from God, God is the best listener." - Dr. Kim Kimberling SPONSORS Thank you to Harvest House Publishers for sponsoring this episode promoting Love In Every Season. Grab your copy of Love In Every Season today! RESOURCES Take time to pray daily for your husband and call upon the One who can create real change in his life with our brand new resource 15 Daily Prayers To Pray For Your Husband. This tool makes it easy to pray big prayers daily for your husband! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

As if parenting wasn't already hard enough, it just got that much harder with the coronavirus. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina share practical advice on how to parent through this journey and most importantly how to parent TOGETHER with your spouse through this journey. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Base what you tell your children about the coronavirus on their age and be mindful of any fears or anxieties they have." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "The most important thing you can do is to love God and to love your kids, cling to love when you don't know what else to do." - Christina Dodson RESOURCES Use our Coronavirus House Prayer Cards as a free tool to help you pray intentionally during this time. Grab all 3 of our Date Designs for free as our gift to you during this crisis we are in. Take time to pray daily for your husband and call upon the One who can create real change in his life with our brand new resource 15 Daily Prayers To Pray For Your Husband. This tool makes it easy to pray big prayers daily for your husband! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

We have been getting a lot of emails and messages from you all saying you are struggling with your marriage during this coronavirus time. So we wanted to take some time to address this topic head on. So if you are feeling stir crazy, anxious, or driving each other crazy we hope this conversation provides some hope and helpful tips on how to get through this time by working together and not turning against each other. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about how to support each other through COVID-19. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Now is the time to have extra empathy for your spouse." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "In this time of disruption and uncertainty, you might find yourself falling into bad conflict habits in your marriage." - Christina Dodson "We need to extend grace to our spouse as they are probably experiencing more stress than usual." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Use this time as an opportunity to grow your marriage; communicate well, pray together, do a Bible reading plan together." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Take advantage of the opportunity to support your spouse through this hard time." - Christina Dodson "It's ok to not be ok." - Christina Dodson "We've got to have a safe space in our spouse where we can share our honest thoughts and feelings about COVID-19." - Christina Dodson "Try to find ways to just laugh together, there is nothing better than being able to laugh together." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Try to eat right, sleep well, and exercise regularly." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Grief is anytime that life goes differently than you thought it would. It's ok to grieve during COVID-19." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Don't feel like you have to fix your spouse's problems, just be there to listen to them. That is an important part of working through grief." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "If you need some space, make sure you communicate that kindly to your spouse and take some time to be alone." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "We don't have a lot of clear answers right now but we can trust that God does." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "If your spouse has lost their job, make sure you check in on them emotionally but don't smother them." - Christina Dodson RESOURCES Snag our Coronavirus House Prayer Cards for free here! Grab all 3 of our Date Designs for free as our gift to you during this crisis we are in. Take time to pray daily for your husband and call upon the One who can create real change in his life with our brand new resource 15 Daily Prayers To Pray For Your Husband. This tool makes it easy to pray big prayers daily for your husband! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about the #3 marriage mistake Dr. Kim sees in marriages, which is little or no physical intimacy. Can you think of the last time you touched your spouse? How often do the two of you physically touch? How much of that touching means something and provokes intimacy? Do you feel more like roommates than lovers? Than this episode should prove useful to your marriage! If you aren't facing this issue now, it may come in the future. So we pray you glean some wisdom and encouragement from this episode. Dr. Kim gives some practical tips and insight into this issue that so many of us face in our marriage. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Physical intimacy is not always sexual." - Christina Dodson "God designed sex to not only help us procreate but also for enjoyment." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "You have to define what a 'normal' amount of times to have sex looks like for you in your marriage. I would encourage that you be intimate at least once a week." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Tender touch has to be non sexual sometimes for us ladies to feel loved." - Christina Dodson "Having non sexual touching in your marriage actually makes your sex life better." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "There is a spiritual aspect to sex that we have as Christians. Don't feel weird about connecting God to sex, He's the one who invented it; he's not a prude!" - Dr. Kim Kimberling "When you're single the Devil tries to keep you in the bed, when you're married the Devil tries to keep you out of the bed." - Christina Dodson "Having a good sex life in marriage is one way to affair-proof your marriage." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Your spouse does not define you, God does." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Most of the time it's the husband's initiating sex so I encourage wives to initiate sex every now and then, it will mean a lot to your husband." - Dr. Kim Kimberling SPONSORS Thank you to Harvest House Publishers for sponsoring this episode promoting Love In Every Season. Grab your copy of Love In Every Season today! RESOURCES Take time to pray daily for your husband and call upon the One who can create real change in his life with our brand new resource 15 Daily Prayers To Pray For Your Husband. This tool makes it easy to pray big prayers daily for your husband! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about the #4 marriage mistake Dr. Kim sees in marriages, which is always having to be right. You've heard Dr. Kim say it before - when you win a fight with your spouse - you lose! Because your marriage loses. And if your marriage loses; where's the win in that? Winning battles while losing the war is a marriage mistake far too many of us get trapped in when it comes to our marriages. Dr. Kim gives some great insight and direction into this issue. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Someone might want the momentary feeling of knowing they 'won' a fight in their marriage but long haul, no one is winning when one spouse has 'won.'" - Christina Dodson "Nobody wants to be around someone who thinks they're right all the time." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "When your spouse feels like they always have to be right it makes you feel inadequate and voiceless." - Christina Dodson "You should never feel like you are voiceless in your marriage." - Christina Dodson "If you have a hard time apologizing, then it's likely you have a hard time being wrong." - Christina Dodson "We need to be able to admit when we are wrong and to be able to tell our spouse when we are sorry." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "If you are not vulnerable with anyone else in the world, work on being vulnerable with your spouse." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "We aren't called to be right, we are called to be humble." - Christina Dodson SPONSORS Thank you to Harvest House Publishers for sponsoring this episode promoting Love In Every Season. Grab your copy of Love In Every Season today! RESOURCES Check out our Love Making Survey here to improve your physical intimacy! Take time to pray daily for your husband and call upon the One who can create real change in his life with our brand new resource 15 Daily Prayers To Pray For Your Husband. This tool makes it easy to pray big prayers daily for your husband! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

In this episode Dan & Mikayla Ockey join Dr. Kim to talk about how to handle this financial crisis we are in. Dan & Mikayla (Kay) are founders of Centsei online personal finance courses for couples. They are passionate about helping couples make wise decisions with their money, work together as a team as married couples, and work towards financial freedom. Today share some practical tips on how to navigate these weird financial times many of us are in due to the Coronavirus. Dan & Kay share some encouraging and helpful info in this episode. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "It's more essential to have an emergency fund that covers your family's expenses for six months than ever before." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Now is the time to get your personal finances in order and to have those financial conversations you've been meaning to have with your spouse." - Dan Ockey "Make sure you are on the same page financially before starting a budget with your spouse. If you are not it will be a point of contention." - Kay Ockey "When we have a shared vision of our financial goals as a couple we are more willing to make sacrifices or have understanding on why certain things need to be included in the budget." - Dan Ockey "A budget without a goal is just an empty plan." - Dan Ockey "When you agree on your financial goals as a couple, then your budget is the tool to help get you there." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Don't give up on your budget. Persevere until it becomes a habit." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Budgeting doesn't have to be difficult anymore." - Dan Ockey "Stick to your budget plan, don't make rash decisions based on fluctuating financial markets." - Dan Ockey "If you weren't prepared and intentional to take advantage of opportunities before this crisis, you're not prepared to take advantage of them now." - Dan Ockey "If you have a financial roadmap then you don't have to be afraid because you know where you are going and you know how you will get there." - Dan Ockey "Avoid the get-rich-quick schemes that are going to start popping up." - Dan Ockey RESOURCES Sign up for Dan & Kay's free weekly email here. Check out The Centsei Financial Courses now! For more great financial insights follow Dan & Kay on Instagram.

In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about the #5 marriage mistake Dr. Kim sees in marriages, which is not walking the talk. In marriage it's so important to do what you say you're going to do and to keep your promises to your spouse. In this episode Dr. Kim shares how to deal with a spouse that you can't trust to do what they say as well as gives practical advice on how to grow in keeping our promises. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "A lot of the biggest issues I see in marriages today develop from a lack of trust or trust having been broken." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "We are more in sync with each other and with God when we completely trust our spouse." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "You can't have an awesome marriage without trust." - Christina Dodson SPONSORS Thank you to Harvest House Publishers for sponsoring this episode promoting Love In Every Season. Grab your copy of Love In Every Season today! RESOURCES Take time to pray daily for your husband and call upon the One who can create real change in his life with our brand new resource 15 Daily Prayers To Pray For Your Husband. This tool makes it easy to pray big prayers daily for your husband! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about the #6 marriage mistake Dr. Kim sees in marriages; which is hurtful teasing. If it hurts your spouse, why are you doing it? They discuss the difference between playful teasing and hurtful teasing. They share how to deal with hurtful teasing in your marriage and Dr. Kim gives some practical tips to avoid hurts in our marriage. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "You don't get to be the judge of whether or not something is hurtful to your spouse, they do." - Christina Dodson "The right kind of playful teasing can connect you to your spouse." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "If you know your spouse is insecure about something you should not tease them about it." - Christina Dodson "We can't change our spouse, that is God's job." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Hurtful teasing can be something that gradually erodes a relationship." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "When you are making fun of your spouse all the time, they realize that they can't be themselves around you." - Christina Dodson SPONSORS Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code "awesomemarriage" for 15% off your order! Thank you to Harvest House Publishers for sponsoring this episode promoting Love In Every Season. Grab your copy of Love In Every Season today! RESOURCES Brighten your marriage with our new resource 30 Gems of Wisdom For Your Marriage. This digital resource is an 18 page PDF that gives you 30 nuggets of God's wisdom regarding your marriage. Get it today here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!