Awesome Marriage Podcast

In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about the #4 marriage mistake Dr. Kim sees in marriages, which is always having to be right.   You’ve heard Dr. Kim say it before - when you win a fight with your spouse - you lose! Because your marriage loses. And if your marriage loses; where’s the win in that?   Winning battles while losing the war is a marriage mistake far too many of us get trapped in when it comes to our marriages. Dr. Kim gives some great insight and direction into this issue.    We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.    Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox!    *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “Someone might want the momentary feeling of knowing they ‘won’ a fight in their marriage but long haul, no one is winning when one spouse has ‘won.’” - Christina Dodson “Nobody wants to be around someone who thinks they’re right all the time.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “When your spouse feels like they always have to be right it makes you feel inadequate and voiceless.” - Christina Dodson “You should never feel like you are voiceless in your marriage.” - Christina Dodson “If you have a hard time apologizing, then it’s likely you have a hard time being wrong.” - Christina Dodson “We need to be able to admit when we are wrong and to be able to tell our spouse when we are sorry.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “If you are not vulnerable with anyone else in the world, work on being vulnerable with your spouse.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “We aren’t called to be right, we are called to be humble.” - Christina Dodson   SPONSORS   Thank you to Harvest House Publishers for sponsoring this episode promoting Love In Every Season. Grab your copy of Love In Every Season today!    RESOURCES Check out our Love Making Survey here to improve your physical intimacy! Take time to pray daily for your husband and call upon the One who can create real change in his life with our brand new resource 15 Daily Prayers To Pray For Your Husband. This tool makes it easy to pray big prayers daily for your husband! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! 

In this episode Dan & Mikayla Ockey join Dr. Kim to talk about how to handle this financial crisis we are in. Dan & Mikayla (Kay) are founders of Centsei online personal finance courses for couples. They are passionate about helping couples make wise decisions with their money, work together as a team as married couples, and work towards financial freedom.    Today share some practical tips on how to navigate these weird financial times many of us are in due to the Coronavirus. Dan & Kay share some encouraging and helpful info in this episode.  We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox!  *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!  NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “It’s more essential to have an emergency fund that covers your family's expenses for six months than ever before.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “Now is the time to get your personal finances in order and to have those financial conversations you’ve been meaning to have with your spouse.” - Dan Ockey “Make sure you are on the same page financially before starting a budget with your spouse. If you are not it will be a point of contention.” - Kay Ockey “When we have a shared vision of our financial goals as a couple we are more willing to make sacrifices or have understanding on why certain things need to be included in the budget.” - Dan Ockey “A budget without a goal is just an empty plan.” - Dan Ockey “When you agree on your financial goals as a couple, then your budget is the tool to help get you there.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “Don’t give up on your budget. Persevere until it becomes a habit.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “Budgeting doesn’t have to be difficult anymore.” - Dan Ockey “Stick to your budget plan, don’t make rash decisions based on fluctuating financial markets.” - Dan Ockey “If you weren’t prepared and intentional to take advantage of opportunities before this crisis, you’re not prepared to take advantage of them now.” - Dan Ockey “If you have a financial roadmap then you don’t have to be afraid because you know where you are going and you know how you will get there.” - Dan Ockey “Avoid the get-rich-quick schemes that are going to start popping up.” - Dan Ockey RESOURCES Sign up for Dan & Kay's free weekly email here.  Check out The Centsei Financial Courses now! For more great financial insights follow Dan & Kay on Instagram.

In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about the #5 marriage mistake Dr. Kim sees in marriages, which is not walking the talk.   In marriage it’s so important to do what you say you’re going to do and to keep your promises to your spouse. In this episode Dr. Kim shares how to deal with a spouse that you can’t trust to do what they say as well as gives practical advice on how to grow in keeping our promises.    We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.    Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox!    *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “A lot of the biggest issues I see in marriages today develop from a lack of trust or trust having been broken.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “We are more in sync with each other and with God when we completely trust our spouse.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “You can’t have an awesome marriage without trust.” - Christina Dodson   SPONSORS   Thank you to Harvest House Publishers for sponsoring this episode promoting Love In Every Season. Grab your copy of Love In Every Season today!    RESOURCES Take time to pray daily for your husband and call upon the One who can create real change in his life with our brand new resource 15 Daily Prayers To Pray For Your Husband. This tool makes it easy to pray big prayers daily for your husband! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!   

In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about the #6 marriage mistake Dr. Kim sees in marriages; which is hurtful teasing. If it hurts your spouse, why are you doing it?    They discuss the difference between playful teasing and hurtful teasing. They share how to deal with hurtful teasing in your marriage and Dr. Kim gives some practical tips to avoid hurts in our marriage.    We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.  Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox!  *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “You don’t get to be the judge of whether or not something is hurtful to your spouse, they do.” - Christina Dodson “The right kind of playful teasing can connect you to your spouse.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “If you know your spouse is insecure about something you should not tease them about it.” - Christina Dodson “We can’t change our spouse, that is God’s job.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “Hurtful teasing can be something that gradually erodes a relationship.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “When you are making fun of your spouse all the time, they realize that they can’t be themselves around you.” - Christina Dodson SPONSORS Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code “awesomemarriage” for 15% off your order!    Thank you to Harvest House Publishers for sponsoring this episode promoting Love In Every Season. Grab your copy of Love In Every Season today!      RESOURCES Brighten your marriage with our new resource 30 Gems of Wisdom For Your Marriage. This digital resource is an 18 page PDF that gives you 30 nuggets of God’s wisdom regarding your marriage. Get it today here!  Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! 

In this episode Dr. Kim has two friends of his share their story. Zach and Leanna join Dr. Kim to share about their first year of marriage. Leanna works at Life.Church as a Social Media Specialist and is also a very talented freelance graphic designer. Leanna has recently become our main graphic designer at Awesome Marriage and it’s been such a blessing to have her talents on the team. She designs all of our monthly digital resources.    Zach is a Marketing Coordinator.    This couple had a unique first year of marriage with a lot of lows. They share their story and how God has used the hard things to edify them and strengthen their marriage.     We pray their story encourages you!    Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox!    *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “It’s normal to freak out in a terrible situation, but I let my fear rob me of a lot of joy.” - Leanna Romoser “I knew when we were walking through those hard times that God has more in store for us, He does not want us to be miserable.” - Leanna Romoser “I know that God is on the side of marriages and I had to make a decision to surrender my marriage to Him and allow God to use our pain for His purpose.” - Leanna Romoser “We started to receive true healing when we stopped turning away from each other and started turning towards each other. “ - Leanna Romoser “The walls of anger and resentment that I had built up were hindering me from being the person that I wanted to be.” - Zach Romoser “It wasn’t until I learned how to truly forgive that I was able to grow spiritually and as a husband.” - Zach Romoser “You can’t speak defeat and expect victory.” - Zach Romoser “If you’re struggling in your marriage, share that with at least one person who you trust.” - Leanna Romoser “After going through all that we went through it feels like our marriage has a passion and a purpose.” - Leanna Romoser   SPONSORS Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code “awesomemarriage” for 15% off your order!  RESOURCES Brighten your marriage with our new resource 30 Gems of Wisdom For Your Marriage. This digital resource is an 18 page PDF that gives you 30 nuggets of God’s wisdom regarding your marriage. Get it today here!  Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! 

In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about the # 7 Marriage Mistake Dr. Kim sees in marriages. Which is dishonesty. You may not think you are one to be dishonest and lie, but chances are you are less honest than you think you are. Dishonesty is never good for your marriage. In this episode Dr. Kim shares red flags to pay attention to and practical ways to grow in truthfulness and openness in your marriage.  We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.  Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox!  *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “Sometimes we lie in what we say and sometimes we lie in what we don’t say.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “The more you get comfortable lying to your spouse about small things the easier it will get to lie to your spouse about big things.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “Lies build distance whereas truth builds closeness.” - Christina Dodson SPONSORS Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code “awesomemarriage” for 15% off your order!  RESOURCES Check out the Weekly Marriage Check Up Guide Christina mentions in this episode. Use it to work on your marriage each week! Brighten your marriage with our new resource 30 Gems of Wisdom For Your Marriage. This digital resource is an 18 page PDF that gives you 30 nuggets of God’s wisdom regarding your marriage. Get it today here!  Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! 

Right now we are in our Top 10 Marriage Mistakes series. Over the years Dr. Kim has seen some central mistakes couples make that hurt their marriage. In this series we are breaking down the top ten marriage mistakes he sees.  In this episode we share Marriage Mistake #8 which is nasty habits: anything that just plain annoys you that your spouse does.   Can you think 1 (or 10!) things that annoys you about your spouse or that your spouse does that bugs you? I bet you can! Well Dr. Kim & Christina talk all about that in this episode and most importantly, they share how to healthily DEAL with those annoying habits.    We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.   Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox!  *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!  NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “Small things, with the wrong perspective, can take up big space in our hearts.” - Christina Dodson “Work together on the things you can change about each other.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “If you’re annoyed by your spouse’s habit, ask God to make it clear whether it’s worth saying something to your spouse about it or if it’s something you can look past to see the good in your spouse.” - Christina Dodson “Do not try to manipulate your spouse out of their annoying habit, that’s not going to solve the problem.” - Christina Dodson “Be careful to confront your spouse’s problem and not confront your spouse.” - Christina Dodson   SPONSORS Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code “awesomemarriage” for 15% off your order!  RESOURCES Brighten your marriage with our new resource 30 Gems of Wisdom For Your Marriage. This digital resource is an 18 page PDF that gives you 30 nuggets of God’s wisdom regarding your marriage. Get it today here!  Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!   

Dr. Kim has been married for 50 years and has been a Marriage Counselor for over 40 years. Over the years he has seen some central mistakes couples make that hurt their marriage. In this series we will be breaking down the top ten marriage mistakes he sees.  In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina discuss Marriage Mistake #9: Being Selfish or Greedy.  We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.   Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox!    *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “It’s really hard to live with someone who wants things to go their way all the time.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “Every couple at some point is prone to greed and selfishness because we’re sinners.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “Selfishness is the root of a lot of other sins that cause issues in marriages.” - Christina Dodson “You will not have a good marriage if it is a self-centered marriage.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “If you want your marriage to be what you dreamed it would be when you said ‘I do,’ you can’t let greediness or selfishness take over.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “The more selfish you are, the less you realize it.” - Christina Dodson “Don’t fight selfishness with selfishness.” - Christina Dodson “Ask your spouse, ‘How are you perceiving me?’ and be prepared to listen and receive what your spouse says.” - Christina Dodson “There’s value in having a time each week to ask your spouse how they feel like you are treating them, and if there is anything you can be working on as a husband or wife to make your marriage better.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “The long term gain from being selfless is worth far more than any short term gains from being selfish.” - Christina Dodson “Commit to praying for your spouse everyday for 30 days as a way to learn to be selfless in your marriage.” - Christina Dodson SPONSORS   Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code “awesomemarriage” for 15% off your order!    RESOURCES Brighten your marriage with our new resource 30 Gems of Wisdom For Your Marriage. This digital resource is an 18 page PDF that gives you 30 nuggets of God’s wisdom regarding your marriage. Get it today here!  Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! 

Today we are kicking off a new series on the podcast: Top 10 Marriage Mistakes. As most of you know, Dr. Kim has been married for 50 years and has been a Marriage Counselor for over 40 years. Over the years he has seen some central mistakes couples make that hurt their marriage. We will be breaking down the top ten.  Today is Marriage Mistake #10. Which is Temper Tantrums: Not Fighting Fair. Not fighting fair plays out in a lot of different ways. You may think you fight fair, but after listening to this it might give you some insight you didn’t have before about healthy conflict resolution.    We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.   Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox!    *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “I saw a quote on Facebook that said ‘Placing blame in marriage is like saying your side of the ship is sinking;’ we’re supposed to be one in marriage and placing blame on your spouse is not you operating as one.” - Christina Dodson “You can be prone to fighting unfairly in your marriage if you saw your parents do that; we forget that our parent’s marriages are our first textbooks on marriage.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “Anytime a situation becomes ‘win/lose’ in your marriage, your marriage is losing.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “When you’re fighting unfairly it puts your marriage on pause; you can’t move forward to connect and grow closer to each other like you should be.” - Christina Dodson “If you can only think of negative things about your spouse that should be a huge red flag.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “What we are saying about our spouse in our heads matters so much.” - Christina Dodson “If you’re unable to get out of the habit of fighting unfairly, going to see a counselor who can give you goals and accountability is hugely beneficial.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “Getting a divorce is a lot more expensive than seeing a marriage counselor.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “Decide with your spouse what is unhealthy about how you fight and make boundaries that you both will agree to keep.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “Standard boundaries that a couple should have in fighting is no yelling, cussing, or insults.” - Christina Dodson “If something is important to your spouse, make it important to you.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “If you don’t forgive someone it hurts you more than them.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling   SPONSORS   Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code “awesomemarriage” for 15% off your order!    RESOURCES Brighten your marriage with our new resource 30 Gems of Wisdom For Your Marriage. This digital resource is an 18 page PDF that gives you 30 nuggets of God’s wisdom regarding your marriage. Get it today here!  Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!   

Today on the podcast we are celebrating! Because it’s episode number 400 and honestly we can’t believe it!   Everyone on the podcast team is so honored that you loyal listeners tune in each week. This podcast isn’t just work to us - it’s a true joy. We love hearing the stories from you about how these conversations start real and honest conversations between you and your spouse.    That’s always been the hope of this podcast, that it wouldn’t end here but that this would just be a conversation starter in your marriage and that it would spark conversation and invoke action that would make your marriage awesome.    We love journeying along with each of you! THANK YOU for listening!    In this episode we are doing an “ask us anything” episode. We polled your questions and we are answering them here! Silly, serious, personal, or about marriage - we are answering it here!    We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.  Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox!    *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “To me, our podcast is not sparkly, it’s just two people who are processing about their marriage and sharing what they’ve learned.” - Christina Dodson “That is Dr. Kim’s favorite verse, he loves to talk about being naked and unashamed.” - Christina Dodson “I’ve never had a counseling client who was serious about it and went into counseling with an open mind regret going to counseling.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “You will want your inlaws around your kids more if your relationship with your inlaws is good.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “If you set a boundary, make sure you are willing to follow through with the consequences.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling   SPONSORS   Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code “AWESOMEMARRIAGE” to receive 20% off your entire order.  RESOURCES: In this episode we talk about mother in law issues. Here are a few other podcasts you may find helpful if that’s an issue for you: What Do I Owe My In-Laws Ep 331 Dealing With A Monster In Law Ep 332 Ask Dr. Kim: Should my spouse handle all drama with their parents and extended family? Ep 101 My loyalty should be with my family of origin because they raised me Ep 77 Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!