Relationship Coaching School Podcast

Does having children ruin your marriage? The stats are against most of you who get married and choose children. But why is this, and what can you and your spouse do about it? Find out this and so much more as Jayson & Ellen use their own story as another example of what’s possible during the hardest of times. SHOWNOTES A powerful definition of a mature person. [2:20] The gloomy article on parenting that got Ellen and Jayson fired up. [6:15] The negative view of marriage. [7:50] How women are impacted after having a baby. [9:20] The defining moment that Ellen remembers, but Jayson blocked out. [11:30] The biggest factor that will impact your overall happiness in life [17:30] What Ellen said to Jayson that hit him in the gut like a truck and woke him up big time. [21:45] Ellen shares what Jayson does consistently that helps her show up more fully in their marriage and their family. [24:45] An important perspective that can help you deliver your truth more effectively. [28:00]

Do you have any friends in your life that lovingly challenge you? If not, you’re missing out on big growth that could help your primary partnership. SHOWNOTES Why loneliness can literally kill you. [2:30] The trap of only relying on your partner for support. [7:02] How you can speed up the learning in your relationship. [9:45] A great way to kill your sex life with your partner. [11:00] When it might be a good time to get new friends. [12:30] The first person who told Jayson he was full of shit (and why he loved it) [15:45] How to skillfully use judgment to help your friends [17:30] How to show up more powerfully when visiting your family. [20:55] Jayson’s invitation. [27:10]

In this episode, I bring on my better half, my wife to rock it out with me. We had fun exploring the early stages of our relationship and what had us “choose” each other. There are some funny and not so funny shares in this one. I’m grateful Ellen is joining us here and here’s to more to come from the two of us.   SHOWNOTES How did Jayson and Ellen first meet? [9:07] What you must learn about your partner before you decide to spend your life together. [14:30] What had Ellen ask Jayson out? [15:05] Shitty advice Jayson got from a therapist and an astrologer. [18:45] How did Jayson overcome his “grass is always greener” pattern? [24:40] One of Jayson’s best accomplishments of his life. [28:00] The simple yet powerful distinction that Ellen did that allowed Jayson to choose to commit. [30:15] How do you know if your partner is “The One”? [33:45] A huge thing that must happen before you should even consider marriage. [35:00] Jayson’s challenge to the listener, both for those in a relationship and single. [43:15]

In this episode, a listener asks about making your partner wrong and how to deal with them when you have very differing values. It’s a common challenge that some couples “wake up” to after being together a few years. And, it’s super tricky if you have kids and need to find common ground. SHOWNOTES The difference between making a partner wrong to avoid intimacy and doing it because of different values? [1:37] How to parent when your parenting values are different? [3:40] What you must learn about your partner before you decide to spend your life together. [5:10]

In this short episode, I cover why men are so locked up relationally and 3 steps to help a guy transform this so that, you both can have a great relationship.  SHOWNOTES What is at the core of men’s challenges in modern day. [3:20] Some of the big pain points for men in relationships. [4:45] What is the “boy code”? [5:15] How Jayson struggled in relationships. [6:30] Do men really know how to listen? [8:15] Why shouldn’t believe when your man says he’s just “in a bad mood.” [12:00] The missing step after getting good feedback. [15:05] Jayson’s challenge to the men. [17:40]

In this episode I talk with Layla Martin, a zany and wise, sex teacher who will remind you of your brilliance in the bedroom. From handjobs to female self-pleasure practices, this one is full of powerful sex practices for a couple ready to deepen their sex life.  SHOWNOTES What happened in Layla’s childhood that started her path to helping people improve their sex lives? [5:30] Layla shares the biggest struggle and opportunity she sees in couples regarding sexuality. [10:40] What do women and men each struggle the most with sexually? [12:00] A simple exercise a woman can do to improve her sexual experience?  [20:10] A simple three-part exercise to do after sex that will deepen your sexual connection [26:15] What to do when a woman has a stronger sex drive than her partner. [32:35] How to respond when a guy loses his erection? [33:15] Should a woman have sex even if she’s not wanting to? [34:05] Layla explains one practice to transform a woman’s orgasms and sex life. [36:40] Layla’s take on threesomes and polyamory. [37:15]

In this episode I give you 3 steps toward a more peaceful relationship. And, when I talk about peace in a relationship, it isn’t the BS fantasy most people think of. Check it out. SHOWNOTES Why everyone is dumb in some area of our lives. [4:00] How can we just “all get a long”?  [5:01] Your two choices when uncomfortable stuff comes up? [10:24] The number one reason people get a divorce [13:37] Powerful 3-step process to resolve dumb fights [16:00]

In this episode I talk with Alison Armstrong about some major differences between men and women and how to use them to your advantage in your relationship. While I get that the labels of masculine and feminine or man/woman can be incredibly narrow, they are very effective for teaching basic relationship principles. Notice how Alison does this with some age old “labels” to help you see where you naturally  orient and where your partner does. Also, notice when and where you feel you are at your “best” in your relationship. Check it! SHOWNOTES What caused Alison to become hungry to learn about men? [5:30] Why do woman throw their husbands under the bus? [9:50] The metaphor that helps explain why men and women see each other so differently. [12:05] What one factor determines when a man or woman will act at his or her best. [16:30] The best time to talk about a challenge in your relationship. [17:45] How being more accurate about time can help women connect better with their man. [24:05] The ideal perspective to thrive in changing life circumstances. [26:15] The missing piece that women don’t get about a partner who is on his purpose. [32:45] What is a “no-blow” date. [35:00]

In this episode I answer listeners’ questions on long-distance relationships, how to win him back, entitlement and sex, blended families, divorce, and much more. It’s a shorty but a goodie. SHOWNOTES What does an over-supportive relationship look like? [2:30] What does it mean when a man says he “needs a break” from the relationship? [4:15] How to win back a guy? [6:14] What’s the best way to break through your triggers? [7:43] How to make a 2nd or 3rd marriage work out? [9:07] What to do when your partner only feels criticized? [11:33] How to deal with a man who feels sexually entitled? [13:20] What is the viability of long-distance relationships? [15:28] Jayson’s one-question challenge to listeners [18:17]

In this juicy episode I talk with Alex Allman about men, orgasms and sex. Giving her an orgasm isn’t what you think. Alex helps us get more honest and more present with our sex lives and how crucial it is to have other men in your life to bust your balls when you need it. While this episode is for the men, if you are a woman, I know you’ll appreciate how our guest is trying to help the men dance with you in the bedroom. SHOWNOTES How Alex’s childhood impacted his view of masculinity [5:50] The two types of change [11:10] Why being beautiful and successful early on makes change harder [12:45] What happened when Alex was 39 that forever woke him up. [17:55] Why only loving your partner for their positive traits will make you disappointed. [23:30] The most important thing for a man to get that is so simple yet so complicated. [32:15] How the “doting husband” can be sexually repulsive. [34:15] What to do when you have erection troubles in the bedroom. [43:00]