Relationship Coaching School Podcast

Finally about the real research that backs up the mission of The Relationship School®. Not only are teens NOT being educated about romantic relationships, but 70% of teens and young adults are WANTING more help and guidance around their love relationships. This is outstanding news because it's been a major void. In this episode, I speak with lead researcher Richard Weissbourd about his 5-year study with over 3000 teens and young adults on romantic relationships. If you are a parent, or want to be one, this is a must listen. SHOWNOTES How love evolves over the course of a relationship (and why that’s a good thing) [9:00] Why relationships aren’t being taught in school [14:00] The truth about teen hookup culture [20:00] Learning to talk about relationships and sex with our kids [23:00] Why it’s important to challenge misconceptions about romantic love [25:00]

QUESTION My husband’s parents have told me in the past (to them it’s funny) about how harsh they were with him as a baby and as a young child. This might explain why when our newborn has meltdowns he sometimes gets frustrated to the point of telling her to 'shut up' and at times handling her a little rougher than I feel comfortable with. I understand where my husband is coming from, given his past, but I refuse to allow my daughter to grow up with that kind of treatment or to allow her to be his experiment as he learns how to manage his hurt and frustration.  How can I approach my husband with concerns about how he treats our child? - Christina in South Florida SHOWNOTES When your partner crosses the ‘safety’ line with your child [1:00] The tricky game of setting boundaries in parenting [3:00] If your partner is unwilling to change their parenting style [5:00] What to do when you’ve reached your emotional limit with persistent tantrums [6:00]

This episode is for the male entrepreneur, a guy who is likely to have a hard time in romantic relationships. If you are dating or married to an entrepreneur, this podcast will help you. My guest Jordan Gray covers some of the main reasons why high-achieving male entrepreneurs struggle to find the same success in partnership as they might find in their businesses. From sexual dysfunction to relationships ending, Jordan will challenge you to take a few simple steps to earn your way into a great intimate partnership and it's not about accomplishing more. You'll have to think differently on this one... SHOWNOTES Jordan’s story [10:00] The connection between sensitivity and self-awareness 21:00] Can too much ‘self-reflection’ time cause depression and anxiety? [16:00] The hidden reason we use the excuse that ‘there are no good men left’ [18:00] ‘Maximizing’ vs ‘Satisficing’ in relationship (and which one is better) [20:00] How success-driven guys can develop sexual dysfunctions… and what to do about it [21:00] Can you work 70 hours/week and still have a good relationship? [22:00] How performance and achievement mindsets can block intimacy [24:00] Overcoming limiting beliefs that kill your connection [28:00] What to do if you’re feeling neglected by a busy, career-driven man [33:00] How to get a super-busy man to unplug, reconnect and spend time together [34:00] Why our libido is the first thing to shut down when we’re stressed [39:00]

How do we not burn out our partner with our problems? Is it okay to have them be the only support system for us? What is a better set up? In this episode you'll hear some feedback on why it's important to c0-support each other and not just have it be one way. Erica's question: Can you speak about dealing with a partner’s emotions during high stress and emotional times so that we can be both fulfilled? Erica's question [2:00] How to help your partner in a way that works for you [5:00] When you should be seeking support outside of the relationship [5:00] How to avoid burning your partner out with your problems [6:00] What you can do to take the pressure off the relationship in high-stress times [7:00]  

Are you aware how your past negative experiences are shaping your current relationship reality? Well, they are and until you deal with those, it will be harder to get what you claim you want. In this episode my guest Mark Groves takes us on a deeper exploration about how negative beliefs can block your relationship potential. And some of those negative beliefs might be buried below your awareness. I'm so grateful for Mark's gifts here and I think you'll get a lot out of this episode. Especially if you like working  your inner psychology. SHOWNOTES How Mark got to being a "Human Connection Specialist" [7:00] How do you know if they're 'The One'? [12:30] A quick tip for when you need to make a difficult decision [18:00] Finding the underlying core beliefs that keep you stuck in unconscious patterns [20:00] How we sell ourselves out for security and safety [21:00] Why people get married when they don't really want to [24:00] The power of subconscious narratives [25:00] Redefining marriage to suit your relationship [28:00] The difference between choosing marriage out of fear vs love [31:00] How you can re-frame your internal narrative to dis-identify from negative thought patterns [42:00] A powerful exercise to take ownership and responsibility for your life [44:00] How Mark handles relationship challenges [50:00]

QUESTION from our listener Jeff: How can a couple grow together and be truly happy if one of the parties has some underlying personal issues? I dive into this question and offer Jeff some basic feedback that all of us need to hear about "issues." If you think your partner has issues, this is going to help both of you, a lot! SHOWNOTES Whose 'issues' you need to beware of [3:00] Do you have to be happy with yourself before you get into a relationship? [5:00] The two decisions you need to make to deal with dysfunctional behaviour [8:00] How to avoid weaponizing self-help tools [10:00]

Feeling insecure in relationships is par for the course. So, wouldn't it make sense to learn how to increase your confidence in a relationship? If you expect yourself to be "good" at relationship, your partner will show you over time where you are insecure and weak. So, listen to this episode as I interview 5 graduates of The Relationship School® and notice how they turned their confidence issues around. SHOWNOTES  When insecurity leads to blaming your partner [2:00] Why confidence needs to be earned [4:00] Meet the Relationship School® coaches [6:00] How confidence can change as you work on yourself [11:00] Learning the skills to deal with fear in conflict instead of hiding out [12:00] Owning sensitivity and vulnerability [13:00] What sharing impact in relationship can do for you [14:00] Knowing where you stand so you can build connection with others [21:00]

If your partner gets angry and it triggers you, listen to this one. There are a couple of basic things you can do to support each other. QUESTION From Kristen in Philadelphia: Just want to thank you for everything you’ve done with the podcast - it’s had a tremendous impact on my life. I wanted to ask you a question about healthy expressions of frustration and conflict. I have a partnership with someone I really love and sometimes, in conflict when he’s extremely frustrated, he tends to pound a pillow or grunt or do some physical manifestation of his frustration. He tends to be more of a fighter - I’m more like freeze/flight. I have a history of physical and sexual abuse. I’ve done a lot of work with it, with EMDR and stuff like that, but still, when he does that in conflict, I find it super triggering, I get really afraid. I talked to him about that and asked him if he could refrain from doing it around me and he was responsive, but I’m wondering if that’s healthy and something I should adapt to and allow for or if it is fair or reasonable for me to not want him to do it? Any of your thoughts would be super helpful, thanks! What is a healthy expression of anger? [3:00] A powerful technique for handling things when you're triggered [7:00] How to deal with root-cause of anger long-term [8:00]

If you want to know how to overcome erectile dysfunction, you'll need a complete reframe on this entire issue. I offer my own personal experience and how I used my shame to get hard again, as well as some exact steps you can take to get in the driver's seat of this issue and overcome it. I sprinkle in some humor to help take the edge off. This is for the men, but also will help you women out there who are with, or have been with, a man struggling with ED. SHOWNOTES Why some men take viagra [7:00] Understanding what ‘soft’ means [11:00] The system that governs your erections [13:00} The three ways our mind can cockblock us [17:00] How to learn from your body [24:00] How to slow down and enjoy your sex life more [28:00] Your action step [32:00]

Why do some people get taken advantage of, taken for granted and walked all over in their relationships?  In this episode I talk about one crucial step for getting the respect, appreciation, and value that you deserve in all your relationships. SHOWNOTES The person who is responsible for your relationship [1:00] Who you need respect from the most [2:00] When you tolerate people treating you poorly… [4:00] Your action step [5:00]