Relationship Coaching School Podcast

Feeling insecure in relationships is par for the course. So, wouldn't it make sense to learn how to increase your confidence in a relationship? If you expect yourself to be "good" at relationship, your partner will show you over time where you are insecure and weak. So, listen to this episode as I interview 5 graduates of The Relationship School® and notice how they turned their confidence issues around. SHOWNOTES  When insecurity leads to blaming your partner [2:00] Why confidence needs to be earned [4:00] Meet the Relationship School® coaches [6:00] How confidence can change as you work on yourself [11:00] Learning the skills to deal with fear in conflict instead of hiding out [12:00] Owning sensitivity and vulnerability [13:00] What sharing impact in relationship can do for you [14:00] Knowing where you stand so you can build connection with others [21:00]

If your partner gets angry and it triggers you, listen to this one. There are a couple of basic things you can do to support each other. QUESTION From Kristen in Philadelphia: Just want to thank you for everything you’ve done with the podcast - it’s had a tremendous impact on my life. I wanted to ask you a question about healthy expressions of frustration and conflict. I have a partnership with someone I really love and sometimes, in conflict when he’s extremely frustrated, he tends to pound a pillow or grunt or do some physical manifestation of his frustration. He tends to be more of a fighter - I’m more like freeze/flight. I have a history of physical and sexual abuse. I’ve done a lot of work with it, with EMDR and stuff like that, but still, when he does that in conflict, I find it super triggering, I get really afraid. I talked to him about that and asked him if he could refrain from doing it around me and he was responsive, but I’m wondering if that’s healthy and something I should adapt to and allow for or if it is fair or reasonable for me to not want him to do it? Any of your thoughts would be super helpful, thanks! What is a healthy expression of anger? [3:00] A powerful technique for handling things when you're triggered [7:00] How to deal with root-cause of anger long-term [8:00]

If you want to know how to overcome erectile dysfunction, you'll need a complete reframe on this entire issue. I offer my own personal experience and how I used my shame to get hard again, as well as some exact steps you can take to get in the driver's seat of this issue and overcome it. I sprinkle in some humor to help take the edge off. This is for the men, but also will help you women out there who are with, or have been with, a man struggling with ED. SHOWNOTES Why some men take viagra [7:00] Understanding what ‘soft’ means [11:00] The system that governs your erections [13:00} The three ways our mind can cockblock us [17:00] How to learn from your body [24:00] How to slow down and enjoy your sex life more [28:00] Your action step [32:00]

Why do some people get taken advantage of, taken for granted and walked all over in their relationships?  In this episode I talk about one crucial step for getting the respect, appreciation, and value that you deserve in all your relationships. SHOWNOTES The person who is responsible for your relationship [1:00] Who you need respect from the most [2:00] When you tolerate people treating you poorly… [4:00] Your action step [5:00]  

Dating advice on a relationship podcast? Yes, enough people said they wanted that, so we're experimenting with our first dating episode. Evan Marc Katz brings some amazingly simple and practical advice to the online dating scene. There are loads of great tips here to turn dumb luck into a skill. Singles will benefit, but there's some practical relationship advice in here as well. How to have higher quality first dates [13:00] The ‘2, 2, 2’ rule for better connection through online dating [15:00] The power in being passive [23:00] Gender roles in modern dating [24:00] Why you don't want a 50/50 relationship [26:00] Balancing chemistry and compatibility [29:00] The difference between 'Compromising' and 'Settling' [33:00] Fighting vs problem-solving in relationship [36:00] What if you're dating someone who's not into personal growth? [48:00] Why 'Just be yourself' is bad advice [46:00] Why you should be 'Slow to hire, quick to fire' [50:00]

What are the pros and cons of looking at marriage as forever? And how can you personally engage in one of the biggest commitments of your life without falling into someone else's programming, but also without hedging your bets and thinking you always have an out? Find out in this week's episode. Question from Heather - Hawaii  "Can you please clarify on why we shouldn’t be striving to stay in a marriage forever? Backstory: I just finished listening to your latest episode about the point of marriage and it really triggered me. Here is why…you do all these amazing podcasts talking about long term relationship and how to make it better and grow not only as an individual but as a couple.. why wouldn’t you want that for the rest of your life? What is the point of trying to sustain a long term relationship when your goal is 10 years or maybe 20 and then you reevaluate… It seems to me that means giving up. Why wouldn’t you strive for forever or 50 years?  If you have a partner that is willing to grow and change with you the entire time why wouldn’t that be your goal. Why would you ever put into the universe otherwise. Why would we work so hard at having a great long term relationship only to have in the back of our minds this isn’t forever. That seems like a bit of a fear of commitment still because in your mind you already have an out. To me that would be a great challenge to sustain a great relationship for 50 years. It would be work yes for sure but well worth it. I am not talking about staying just to say you made it that far I am of course talking about being truly fulfilled for that entire time and always growing to be your best selves." SHOWNOTES Should we be all-in forever? [1:00] When moving on is a good thing [7:00] How being overzealous about your commitments can backfire [8:00] The difference between being ‘all-in’ and being locked-in [11:00]

How do you deal with an emotional woman? Guys are going to want to listen to this. My guest Terry Real shares a ton of insight here in his 2nd interview with SCP including the 3 phases of marriage and the five habits that hurt your relationship. Listen in for more! SHOWNOTES: The three phases of marriage [8:00] The five habits that hurt your relationship [12:00] Why we pick partners who trigger us [14:00] The two main issues all couples have [18:00] The difference between obligatory and voluntary nurturing (the difference can make or break a marriage) [24:00] How Boomers and Millenials treat relationships differently [27:00] How to express complaints so that your partner hears them [34:00] A 2-step process to help overcome a harsh inner critic [39:00]

How do you end a relationship with respect and dignity?  People make breaking up a lot more complicated than it needs to be. In this episode, I talk about how to handle breaking up in a clean, direct and honest way. SHOWNOTES Question from Shelby: "I’ve been working on myself through a romantic relationship for about a year and a half now. We really seem to connect deeply when we are together - which is minimal - yet it’s not enough for him to stay in the relationship so that it goes anywhere significant. I feel like I’m just lingering in this relationship that I still have feelings for and it’s not at the level of commitment I want. I’ve heard you mention something along the lines of 'when you end a relationship, you set the stage for your next relationship.' How do I respectfully end a relationship with someone that won’t see me in person, won’t talk to me on the phone, or if I say anything serious by text, he disappears - in a way that invites a healthy relationship moving forward?" How do I end a relationship and not repeat patterns going forward? [2:00] Ending a relationship like a mature adult [3:00] How to un-complicate the break-up process [6:00]

Why do men pull away when they get close? Then, some of them will come back, only to pull away again. WTF is going on here? SHOWNOTES What is going on when a man pulls away? [7:00] The surprising reason he pulls away and disconnects from you [8:00] Why annoying your partner is a good thing (and will happen forever) [10:00] The feedback loop that keeps you both stuck [13:00] Two powerful tips for when he pulls away [14:00]

Personal growth isn't the end all be all. But it does make a massive difference if you want a thriving partnership over time... QUESTION: “My question is in relation to Podcast #34, Triggers.I’ve heard you’ve say in numerous podcasts what’s required to have growth oriented people, that it requires 100% commitment of “I’m in” to the path of personal development and responsibility and interest in myself for this work to be effective. What do you do if a person is 50% in? What do you do if they’re interested in taking responsibility and owning themselves about half the time? The rest of the time is still blaming, dealing with upsets, resentment and disconnection. The latter is tremendously difficult for me and brings up a lot for me. I can continue to work with my end of it, but also notice 50% is not good enough for me. I want more. Do you come up to this a lot in your work and if so, what are your solutions to dealing with it?" - Max, Boulder, CO - 3/29/17 SHOWNOTES Why you both need to be all-in [3:00] Can a man who has sexual addiction to escorts because of anger overcome his addiction, and how do I stand by him while he’s working on this? [6:00] Would a man cuddle with a female he doesn’t like or interested in? [7:00] What causes a man to cheat when the woman helps with just about everything and will do anything for him? [9:00] How do you know then you’re ready to take the next step in a relationship? [10:00] How can I get him to understand that I don’t want it all the time and it doesn’t mean I’m not attracted to him? [11:00] When you and your partner are under stress [12:00]