Relationship Coaching School Podcast

A major shift is happening with the way we educate young adults about relationships and sex.  Despite what we hear in the media about the 'hookup culture,' the majority of young adults are very interested in learning about relationships and long-term partnerships. Alexandra Solomon is paving the way in the academic world, educating both students and adults in the all-important long-term relationship game.  If you're a parent or a teacher, this is a great episode to listen to.  You'll get a sense of what the important topics, conversations and areas that young adults are wanting to know about when it comes to relationships. SHOWNOTES Alexandra's story [3:00] Exploring the lessons you learned in childhood [13:00] How to talk to students about sex and relationships [18:00] Teaching young adults to shift from 'performance-based' sex to connection-based sex [20:00]

Do you have a friend or partner telling you to listen to this podcast?  Don't know where to start and feel pressured to get 'up to speed'?  This episode is for you. SHOWNOTES Should you listen to this podcast? [1:00] Why you SHOULD be skeptical [2:00] How to show your partner that you care about the relationship in your own way [5:00]

There’s been a surge in alternative, traditional methods to healing our deepest wounds. One of the main approaches that has gained popularity here in America is the use of the traditional South American brew, Ayahuasca, in guided ceremonies. Dr Gabor Maté, renowned addiction expert, and writer, is back for a second conversation to discuss the benefits & cautions to using Ayahuasca. In this conversation, we also discuss many natural (non-medicinal) methods to healing trauma through the power of present-moment awareness practices, safe relationships and creating space for healing. Here are a few of the highlights: SHOWNOTES Where Western medicine succeeds & fails [11:00] What traditional rituals can teach us about healing [13:00] How Ayahuasca works and why it’s used [16:00] Finding the roots of our trauma [29:00] Dealing with trauma using present-moment awareness [32:00] Why we need to create space in our lives for healing and rest [38:00]

How often do you find yourself wanting to ask for something in your relationship - more communication, more time & attention, more touch - only to find yourself holding back out of fear? Expressing (or confessing) our needs can feel scary and edgy.  If it's a 'non-negotiable need' it's easy to feel like you're threatening the relationship with an ultimatum: "I need this or I'm out". S0 do you hold back, hoping your partner will come around on their own (and getting more resentful when they don't)? Or do you bring your needs to the table and cross your fingers, hoping it all goes well? This episode will teach you how to get your needs met, without feeling  you're making a threat to the relationship. QUESTION  You speak of stating and sticking by your Non-Negotiable Needs, but you also say to never threaten to walk away from the relationship. So how do you stick up for yourself and your NNN's without the threat of walking away hanging around in the background -- isn't it implied that you'll be leaving if your NNN's aren't met? I am missing how to do this properly. THANK YOU for your help and for clearing this up! -Jessica SHOWNOTES Does having needs make you ‘needy’? [1:00] Communicating your needs to your partner in a non-threatening way [3:00] When your needs aren’t compatible with your partner’s [6:00] Getting your needs met without threatening the relationship [7:00] When you have a need for more communication and connection than he can give you [8:00] Your action step [9:30]

Finally about the real research that backs up the mission of The Relationship School®. Not only are teens NOT being educated about romantic relationships, but 70% of teens and young adults are WANTING more help and guidance around their love relationships. This is outstanding news because it's been a major void. In this episode, I speak with lead researcher Richard Weissbourd about his 5-year study with over 3000 teens and young adults on romantic relationships. If you are a parent, or want to be one, this is a must listen. SHOWNOTES How love evolves over the course of a relationship (and why that’s a good thing) [9:00] Why relationships aren’t being taught in school [14:00] The truth about teen hookup culture [20:00] Learning to talk about relationships and sex with our kids [23:00] Why it’s important to challenge misconceptions about romantic love [25:00]

QUESTION My husband’s parents have told me in the past (to them it’s funny) about how harsh they were with him as a baby and as a young child. This might explain why when our newborn has meltdowns he sometimes gets frustrated to the point of telling her to 'shut up' and at times handling her a little rougher than I feel comfortable with. I understand where my husband is coming from, given his past, but I refuse to allow my daughter to grow up with that kind of treatment or to allow her to be his experiment as he learns how to manage his hurt and frustration.  How can I approach my husband with concerns about how he treats our child? - Christina in South Florida SHOWNOTES When your partner crosses the ‘safety’ line with your child [1:00] The tricky game of setting boundaries in parenting [3:00] If your partner is unwilling to change their parenting style [5:00] What to do when you’ve reached your emotional limit with persistent tantrums [6:00]

This episode is for the male entrepreneur, a guy who is likely to have a hard time in romantic relationships. If you are dating or married to an entrepreneur, this podcast will help you. My guest Jordan Gray covers some of the main reasons why high-achieving male entrepreneurs struggle to find the same success in partnership as they might find in their businesses. From sexual dysfunction to relationships ending, Jordan will challenge you to take a few simple steps to earn your way into a great intimate partnership and it's not about accomplishing more. You'll have to think differently on this one... SHOWNOTES Jordan’s story [10:00] The connection between sensitivity and self-awareness 21:00] Can too much ‘self-reflection’ time cause depression and anxiety? [16:00] The hidden reason we use the excuse that ‘there are no good men left’ [18:00] ‘Maximizing’ vs ‘Satisficing’ in relationship (and which one is better) [20:00] How success-driven guys can develop sexual dysfunctions… and what to do about it [21:00] Can you work 70 hours/week and still have a good relationship? [22:00] How performance and achievement mindsets can block intimacy [24:00] Overcoming limiting beliefs that kill your connection [28:00] What to do if you’re feeling neglected by a busy, career-driven man [33:00] How to get a super-busy man to unplug, reconnect and spend time together [34:00] Why our libido is the first thing to shut down when we’re stressed [39:00]

How do we not burn out our partner with our problems? Is it okay to have them be the only support system for us? What is a better set up? In this episode you'll hear some feedback on why it's important to c0-support each other and not just have it be one way. Erica's question: Can you speak about dealing with a partner’s emotions during high stress and emotional times so that we can be both fulfilled? Erica's question [2:00] How to help your partner in a way that works for you [5:00] When you should be seeking support outside of the relationship [5:00] How to avoid burning your partner out with your problems [6:00] What you can do to take the pressure off the relationship in high-stress times [7:00]  

Are you aware how your past negative experiences are shaping your current relationship reality? Well, they are and until you deal with those, it will be harder to get what you claim you want. In this episode my guest Mark Groves takes us on a deeper exploration about how negative beliefs can block your relationship potential. And some of those negative beliefs might be buried below your awareness. I'm so grateful for Mark's gifts here and I think you'll get a lot out of this episode. Especially if you like working  your inner psychology. SHOWNOTES How Mark got to being a "Human Connection Specialist" [7:00] How do you know if they're 'The One'? [12:30] A quick tip for when you need to make a difficult decision [18:00] Finding the underlying core beliefs that keep you stuck in unconscious patterns [20:00] How we sell ourselves out for security and safety [21:00] Why people get married when they don't really want to [24:00] The power of subconscious narratives [25:00] Redefining marriage to suit your relationship [28:00] The difference between choosing marriage out of fear vs love [31:00] How you can re-frame your internal narrative to dis-identify from negative thought patterns [42:00] A powerful exercise to take ownership and responsibility for your life [44:00] How Mark handles relationship challenges [50:00]

QUESTION from our listener Jeff: How can a couple grow together and be truly happy if one of the parties has some underlying personal issues? I dive into this question and offer Jeff some basic feedback that all of us need to hear about "issues." If you think your partner has issues, this is going to help both of you, a lot! SHOWNOTES Whose 'issues' you need to beware of [3:00] Do you have to be happy with yourself before you get into a relationship? [5:00] The two decisions you need to make to deal with dysfunctional behaviour [8:00] How to avoid weaponizing self-help tools [10:00]