Relationship Coaching School Podcast

In this engaging conversation, Andrew Harvey, founder of the Institute of Sacred Activism, explores how relationship pain can guide personal healing. He defines evolutionary love as a force that transcends the individual self and encourages a global perspective. The discussion dives into shadow work, urging listeners to take responsibility for disowned parts of themselves. Harvey also shares insights on navigating spiritual suffering, emphasizing the necessity of love and self-reflection in fostering deep connections and serving one's soul's purpose.

What Does ‘Do the Work’ Actually Mean? 1:30 Defining ‘doing the work’ 3:00 Developing the self 4:00 What is the inner child? 5:30 How long must we work on the ‘inner child’? 

Loyalty is essential in a long-term partnership. Is loyalty different for gay couples? What honest conversations and boundaries are you both talking about? In this episode my guest Jean Malpas has some excellent tips for addressing these concerns and for giving your partner the benefit of the doubt. SHOWNOTES Understanding cisgender and transgender [2:00] At what age do people start to identify with their gender? [4:00] An issue that comes up for any couple, gay or straight [8:00] What’s ok and what’s not ok in an open relationship? [11:00] What is the one essential factor in a successful relationship? [14:00] Is there a difference between gay & straight couple relationships? [15:00] Being mindful about areas of shame in relationship [21:00] What is “minority stress”? [22:00] Advice for couples who are struggling in relationship [33:00]

What's porn's place in a relationship? [2:00] How porn can negatively affect a relationship [5:00] Porn is not the bad guy [7:00] Porn, like any compulsion, can be a wedge between two people [10:00] Ramifications of porn [12:00]

Arielle Ford explores the ups and downs of marriage, what to do with a new age nice guy, and how to rekindle the spark after stuckness. This week's guest got married at age 44, and realized she sucked at listening and didn't know anything about partnership. And now she teaches people all over the world the about the power of attraction, soul mates, and love. SHOWNOTES Talking vs communicating [6:00] The purpose of marriage [8:00] Shocking facts about divorce [12:00] Women: How to fill up your oxytocin tanks [17:00] Men: How to rebuild testosterone [18:00] Do both partners need to be into growth and development? [21:00] Stepping back into your feminine after being in work-mode [27:00] How to have a difficult conversation in a positive way [33:00] How to lighten the mood when you’re triggered [38:00]  

2:30 Defining emotional abuse 4:45 It Takes Two 5:30 Do you feel safe in your own home? 6:10 It's more complicated than 'just leave.' 7:00 How are you a part of your own abuse cycle? 7:35 Self-reflection and taking responsibility

What does your intention have to do with creating a great relationship? According to my guest, everything. If you are single, what vibe are you putting out into the world to attract a mate? If you are partnered, what vibe are you putting into your relationship? This week's guest has so much to say about upgrading your story and your intention and how that can impact how fulfilled you are in your relationship (or future relationship). She also has some practical tips on how to do exactly that.  If you are trying to "call in the one", or just trying to deepen with the one you have already, this interview is going to help you a ton! SHOWNOTES Why do some women have a pattern of dating unavailable men? [11:00] The power of setting intentions [14:00] Self-limiting beliefs and 'stories' we tell ourselves [21:00] Clearing up 'the power of thoughts' for skeptics [23:00] A guided exercise with Katherine for finding your 'false self' [29:00] How to talk to your inner child [34:00] What to do when you're really stuck in your own story [45:00] Katherine's go-to move for when she's triggered [49:00]

QUESTION When my boyfriend gets triggered and shares his thoughts and feelings with me, how do I not take it personal and get defensive? I feel like this creates a barrier between us when he is trying to reach out and I want to be with him in this moment. But I feel attacked even though I know he's not attacking me - I can hear my shitty defensive tone of voice and feel my body language change. I also can't get my thoughts clear enough to have a mature conversation with him, I'm all caught up in my own BS, it's pathetic! How do I get past this and be present with him? Kim - Fairfax VA SHOWNOTES Question from Kim [1:00] Zeroing in on what makes us defensive [3:00] Working out what you need when you're feeling defensive [5:00] What to do when you're too triggered to think clearly [7:00]

If you want to understand the long term cost of not repairing a rupture, Dan Siegel, who coined the term interpersonal neurobiology, is about to illuminate your mind.  We discuss how we human beings operate when our "minds" and hearts come together, trauma, and how to fight off disease with presence.  This episode is powerful. It's for the science nerds and relationship geeks who want to better understand the human nervous system, mindfulness, and even trauma. SHOWNOTES The 3 facets of the mind [15:00] Where does the mind live? [18:00] What do relationships and the body share in common? [20:00] How you can strengthen your mind through "monitoring and modifying" [27:00] Hyperarousal vs hypo-arousal [31:00] The 4 F’s of a reactive state [32:00] Coming back from reactivity [37:00] What are the long-term costs of not repairing ruptures to relationship? [42:00] How presence helps fight off disease [48:00] The importance of developing an "internal compass" [60:00]

Quote from the Smart Couple Quote Book Stop wasting time with people who don’t support your fullness. Stop apologizing for who you are. Do not spend another day dimming your light because someone’s uncomfortable. Some people you know will always be uncomfortable with your way and will always judge you. Let them go and keep being you as you are. SHOWNOTES A quote from The Smart Couple Quote Book [7:00] Outgrowing people on your path to growth and development [8:00] Surrounding yourself by growth-oriented people [10:00]