Relationship Coaching School Podcast

Ever heard of a freak accident rocking someone's world and totally changing them for the better? Gay Hendricks has one of those stories! If you're interested in the mind-body connection and seeking purpose, a forever partner or a new you...listen closely and Gay may just share all the wisdom you need, without experiencing your own life-altering mishap.   SHOWNOTES: The Gay Hendrick’s Story [15:00] Are You Having the Same Argument Over and Over? [23:00] Gay’s Second New Beginning [27:00] How to Bring Out Your Inner Genius [33:00] The Four Fears and Why They Matter [37:00] Taking Time Each Day To Connect With Your Genius [41:00] A Story About Physical Pain’s Tie to Relationship Struggle [46:00]

Kids have been getting a lot of attention for troubling behavior recently...committing mass shootings, posting disturbing viral videos and lashing out at their parents with shocking rage. What is going on!?! In this episode, renowned author and counselor Kim John Payne clears up misconceptions about "disobedient" children and explains how you can bring a balance of power back to your household. SHOWNOTES: Be Inquisitive, Not Accusatory [18:00] When a Child is Distressed, Connection is Key  [27:00] Why it's a Mistake to Give Kids Too Many Choices [31:00] Don't Take it Personally When Your Kid Pushes Your Buttons [45:00] Are You "Peer Parenting"? [49:00] What You Can Do to Take Back the Leadership Role [58:00] Kim's Take on Youth Involvement in Mass Shootings [1:01:00] How to Parent Post National Tragedy [1:04:00] Your Home the War Zone [1:10:00] The Four Types Love & Why We Shouldn't Confuse Them [1:16:00] For the full web post for this episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast185

Seeking purpose, health and happiness? International educator, best selling author, researcher and human behavior expert Dr. John Demartini can help you find answers! Don't miss this diverse episode with one of Jayson's greatest mentors.   SHOWNOTES:  What we do vs. what we say [10:00] What's your strategy for achieving your goals? [13:00] So you think your job sucks, but does it really? [18:00] Illness, symptoms and the mind [20:00] Thoughts on reincarnation [26:00] Demartini's theories on the rise in autoimmune disease [32:00] Is social media making us physically ill? [34:00] Demartini's opinions on attachment theory [38:00] No such thing as a dysfunctional family [45:00] Beware of the "all enlightened" person [50:00] Can we train our bodies to sleep less? [1:10:00] Cryptocurrencies and financial advice [1:14:00]   To view the webpage for this episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast184

Fighting in front of the kids is a major taboo, but should it be? What if we started treating each conflict in the home as an opportunity for relationship homeschooling? Jayson Gaddis has spent years teaching kids (including his own) about how to do conflict. News flash: Lectures aren't the answer. Leading by example is! In this episode, you'll learn how to take your family's authenticity to a whole new level AND ensure the young adults in your life learn how to do conflict from someone who cares about doing it right...someone like you! SHOWNOTES: DO fight in front of your kids [2:00] Why it's a mistake to lecture young people [4:00] Young people see, young people do [6:00] What are conflicts in front of kids like at the Gaddis house? [8:00] Shame as a tool [10:00] You're action step [15:00] Check out the webpage for this episode at https://relationshipschool.net/podcast183

Not a fan of your inner critic? Want to get rid of it? What if that negative voice inside isn't your enemy but a valuable part of your internal family? Author, psychotherapist and founder of the Internal Family Systems Model (IFS), Richard Schwartz, says our true "Self" exists side by side with the many parts that make us who we are. The trick is putting the "Self" back in the driver's seat. In this episode, Richard and Jayson talk IFS and explore the concept that people are naturally multiple. This one's great for therapists, coaches AND individuals alike! SHOWNOTES Who is Richard Schwartz? [7:00] What makes Internal Family System (IFS) therapy unique? [11:00] The three goals of IFS [19:00] Changing your relationship with your inner critic [22:00] Richard's thoughts on co-regulation [35:00] Is healing on your own realistic? [44:00] Your partner, your "tor-mentor" [49:00] Richard's bits of advice and suggested resources [54:00]    

Did you know around one in ten marriages starts as a long-distance relationship? Connor and Vienna are one long-distance couple on their way to marriage and, as professional mentors, they have many gems of wisdom to share.  Find out what's working for them and see how their insight applies to you!   SHOWNOTES Who are Connor Beaton and Vienna Pharaon? [7:00] Connor and Vienna's love story [10:00] This couple's tips for long-distance couples [20:00] The importance of communication in long-distance relationships [23:00] What does defensiveness say about a person's relationship priorities? [31:00] Balancing autonomy and the desire to be together [39:00] As relationship coaches, what advice do these two have for all couples? [51:00]

Wondering HOW The Relationship School® changes lives? If it's really worth it? Curious why more and more people are saying it's life changing and the best thing they've ever done? In this episode, we hear the honest stories of four Relationship School students, each living different lives with unique challenges. SHOWNOTES Who are these four women? [9:00] How The Relationship School did what therapy could not [19:00] Community & Commitment make it work [25:00] Relationship School and your kids  [28:00] What is LUFU? [36:00] Get in touch with your needs [41:00] Top reasons to enroll [48:00] Contest details:   In order to qualify, you must 1)- be able to fly to Boulder CO on your own, 2) pay $100 (for a $1000 course) 3) have not won anything before. 4) be a member of the private smart couple facebook group   There are 3 big prizes.   1st prize: Free ($100 non-refundable deposit so we know you are in) admission to the Embracing Conflict weekend (value $1000). PLUS, you get to bring a friend for half price! boom! 2nd Prize: $200 toward any relationship class (Must be used by Feb 1st) 3rd Prize: $50 toward a hat, shirt or other merchandise in our store (expires Feb 1st)   Instruction to enter: Record a 1 min video of 1) the most triggering behavior your partner (or past partner) does and 2) how you normally deal with it, and 3) what your question is about how to do it better.   Video must be no longer than 1 minute.

Happy New Year! In this special episode, Jayson shares his candid thoughts on what worked for the Smart Couple Podcast last year, what did not and the changes planned for 2018. We also get Jayson's top ten episodes list from 2017.   SHOWNOTES The Smart Couple Podcast: Reflections on 2017 and Plans for 2018 [4:00] What's The Relationship School Have In Store for 2018? [12:00] Jayson's 2017 Top Ten Episodes List [17:00] Hidden Power Of Conflict – Annie Lalla – SC 88 How To Deal With An Avoidant Partner & Interpersonal Stress – Stan Tatkin – SC 104 The Neuroscience & Power of Safe Relationships – Stephen W. Porges – SC 116 Ayahuasca, Trauma, & Relationships – Dr. Gabor Maté – SC 134 The 4 Freedoms That Develop Masculine Depth & Purpose – Satyen Raja – SC 140 The Trap of Becoming Your Partner’s Therapist – Danielle LaPorte – SC 146 My Wife On How To Repair After A Ruptured Connection – Ellen Boeder – SC 152 Setting Boundaries With Ease, Grace and Love – Terri Cole – SC 156 Interpersonal Neurobiology – Dan Siegel – SC 158 Why Spiritually Developed People Struggle With Monogamy – Ellen & Jayson – SC 176

Wondering what you can learn from a millennial couple? Turns out it's quite a bit! Kiyomi and Joel are a mixed-race millennial couple that discovers how much their culture plays into their relationship. These two high school sweethearts grew up together and their system for growing together as they mature (as we all do) is inspiring. Think where you come from isn't a big part of your love life? Uncertain a couple so young can offer profound wisdom? Prepare to be surprised!   SHOWNOTES:  Kiyomi & Joel’s high school love story [9:00] What is Relationship OCD? [12:00] Joel’s secret for consistent happiness [17:00] Couple discovers being mixed race affects them [21:00] Kiyomi & Joel’s conflict management method [29:00] What’s the secret to balancing work and relationship life? [35:00] Jayson’s advice when planning a wedding [43:00]

Couples that survive the toughest relationship challenges are so impressive! Leahnora and Noah are one of those couples. Cheating nearly tore them apart but they made commitments to change themselves and now they're stronger than ever before. What did they do? How do they handle the baggage of their past? Jayson explores the tough questions here. Also, Leahnora and Noah are still working through some common issues around sexuality and conflict and they share vulnerably about this as Jayson gives some relationship coaching. SHOWNOTES How did Noah handle the cheating? [9:00] Leahnora & Noah’s personal growth paths [15:00] Defensiveness isn’t always bad [25:00] Their open relationship experience [29:00] How Noah & Leahnora’s fighting style [35:00] Trusting love’s message no matter the cost [40:00] Jayson addresses their sexuality struggles [44:00] When you’re both triggered [54:00] Don’t respond with “That wasn’t my intent” [60:00]