Relationship Coaching School Podcast

We all want a little reassurance. And that's okay! But as Jayson's wife Ellen Boeder points out, if you're needing reassurance because you feel jealous, the issue you should address is the insecurity in your relationship. Is Monogamy The Problem Or Insecure Attachment? [1:00] The Power Of Reassurance [5:00] Two Impediments To Reassurance [10:00] Navigating A Jealous Partnership [13:00] For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Ellen Boeder visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast203

What does it take to build a strong team-style partnership? Why do so many entrepreneurial types rely on teamwork in their careers, but struggle to be a team player at home? Renowned therapist and co-founder of The Couples Institue, Pete Pearson, leads Jayson through a body-mind exercise that demonstrates ways to control reaction to stress in conflict and improve teamwork.  What Catapulted Pete Pearson Into The Psychology World? [5:00] Why Entrepreneurial & Military Types Struggle With Teamwork At Home [8:00] How To Negotiate With Your Partner Well [14:00] Pete Walks Jayson Through A Calming Exercise [21:00] How Entrepreneurs Respond To Pete’s Self-Strengthening Technique [38:00] Advice For People In Love With An Entrepreneur [44:00] Pete’s Feedback For The Therapeutic Community [47:00] For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Pete Pearson visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast202

Are you just defaulting to monogamy? Ever GENUINELY asked yourself, "Would a different sexual model work better for me?" Author, sex-advice columnist, podcaster and public speaker, Dan Savage, says we should all ask ourselves these questions regularly. Dan and his husband have chosen what they call a "monogamish" relationship. They've accepted that it's impossible to fulfill all your partner's needs and that's a message we can all learn from. We usually focus on monogamous long-term relationships, but in this episode, we'll learn about how all types of relationships can be successful. Listen in and get ready for some introspection into your own sexual expression. SHOWNOTES: What It Means To Be "Monogamish" [2:00] Culture’s Lies About Love & Why You’ll Never Be Enough [9:00] Advice For Bringing A Third Person Into Your Relationship [13:00] Why Non-Monogamy In A Gay Partnership Can Be Easier Straight Relationships [21:00] Thoughts On Transforming The Broken Monogamy Model [28:00] Dan Savage’s Journey To Becoming Monogamish [30:00] How Dan And His Husband Work Out Their Differences [34:00] Is Infidelity Really The Ultimate Betrayal? [41:00] The Consequences Of Denying Your Sexual Needs [46:00] Closing Thoughts [51:00] For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Dan Savage visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast201

It's fair to say that relationship is a journey to discover and learn the answers to one love-related question after another. So, what better way to celebrate this in our 200th EPISODE than to answer as many of your love related questions as we can! SHOWNOTES:  200th Episode Contest Details! [2:00] Doing Partnership With Emotionally Unavailable People [11:00]  How To Hold Your Partner's Feet To The Fire - With Compassion [20:00] Working Through Past Pain For A Better Relationship [24:00]  How to Prioritize Your Partner When Kids Join The Mix [27:00]  Getting Involved In Your Partner's Health Issues [34:00]   ‘Win a Chance to be Coached By Jayson'   To celebrate our 200th Smart Couple episode, we're giving away some big prizes:   Grand Prize - A 45-minute coaching session for you (or you and your partner) with Jayson 2nd Prize - $500 off your DPIR course 3rd Prize - $200 credit for any Relationship School  course 4th Prize - $30 to be used in the Relationship School  store 5th Prize - Smart Couple Quote Book signed by Jayson   Boom! Who’s in?   To enter and win you must: 1. Be or become a member of the Smart Couple Facebook group. 2. Follow Jayson on Instagram and tag 3 friends under his most recent selfie (looks like the one above). 3. Record a selfie video (2 minutes or less) teaching us about one thing you learned from the podcast so far and why it's impacted you so much. And post it in the Smart Couple Facebook group. The contest is open to anyone in the world until Sunday, June 17th at midnight MT. Winners will be announced on the Smart Couple Podcast's 201st episode and on Facebook Wednesday, June 20th.   Will you play? Enter today!   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for our 200th episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast200

Couples therapy legends Harville Hendrix & Helen Hunt were told by THEIR therapist that they were the couple from hell. Since then, not only have they mended, they've gone on to write multiple best-selling books that have revolutionized the therapy field.   SHOWNOTES: Understanding "Connection" [8:00] What Does 'Imago' Mean, According To The Word's Inventors [15:00] Harville & Helen's Response To Imago Therapy Criticism [20:00] How Harville & Helen’s Turned Their Relationship Around [30:00] What is Zero Negativity? [35:00] Tips For Staying Together In The Face of Separation [40:00] Thoughts For The Therapy Field From Helen & Harville [49:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Harville Hendrix & Helen Hunt visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast199  

Having awesome friends is great. Having awesome friends that are ALSO on the personal growth path IS BETTER! Personal growth powerhouses Reuvain Bacal, Will Vanderveer, Keith Kurlander & Jayson Gaddis are longtime friends with a quarter century of coaching & self-improvement experience between them. Listen in on their convo!   SHOWNOTES: Who Are These Guys? [9:00] The Value Of Community [13:00] How These Four Bros Get Through Conflict With Each Other [21:00] Things The Guys Have Called Each Other On [27:00] How These Men Are Defining Love Today [37:00] What Inspires These Friends The Most [51:00] What Does It Mean to Have a Healthy Mind? [1:09:00] Parting Words of Wisdom [1:24:00]   FREE CLASS FOR MEN ONLY - CLICK HERE!  For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Keith Kurlander, Will Vanderveer and Reuvain Bacal visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast198

We all have a tendency to avoid things that are difficult but Human Connection Specialist and dating coach, Mark Groves, knows where there's pain there's gain. Let's take a look at our wounded, angry warrior sides and see what they have to teach us about loving well!   SHOWNOTES: Are You Fixing People to Boost Your Control? [8:00] Overusing of the "Narcissist" Title [16:00] The Value of Accessing Your Anger [21:00] So Your Relationships Are Tough - Stop Running! [28:00] How to Tap Into Your Inner Warrior [31:00] Skillful and Attractive Anger [34:00] Staying in The Hurt [48:00] Why You Should Be Going to Conferences (Like MOTU) [52:00] Leaving Friends Behind When You’re Growing [54:00] P.S. Mark is HOOKING US UP with $200 off tickets to the Masters Of The [U]niverse Summit in Vancouver this July! I'll be presenting along with many other crazy inspiring speakers. Just enter the code "Smart Couple" when you get your tickets. Click here to get started.    For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast197

Who knew saying the words "I'm insecure" could be so sexy!?! It's time to uncover those insecurities, let go of the entitlement and celebrate where you're really at on your growth path.   SHOWNOTES: Why Insecurity Gets a Bad Rap [2:00] Call B.S. on Your Insecure Friends! [5:00] What Does it Mean to be ”Entitled” [6:00] Your Action Step - It’ll Make You Look Sexy! [9:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast196

Coaches Neil Sattin and Chloe Urban are a great example of a couple getting it right in the face of some serious challenges. Listen closely and you can snag some of their most helpful relationship tools!   SHOWNOTES: Chloe Urban and Neil Sattin’s Love Story [5:00] Advice for Couples When Step-Kids Are Involved [11:00] Why We Fail To Stand Up For Who We Are In Partnership [25:00] Primal Fears [27:00] How Does “Safety” Play a Role In Neil and Chloe's Relationship [31:00] Tip to Repair Relationship Disconnection [36:00] Dr. Pete Levine’s “Vu-ing” Technique for Self-Regulation [41:00] Chole & Neil’s Spiritual Practice-Relationship Intersection [45:00] When One Member of a Couple Doesn’t Have a Spiritual Practice [50:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Neil Sattin and Chloe Urban visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast195

Jayson met up with renowned couples therapy expert and author, Ellyn Bader, at this year's Interpersonal Neurobiology Conference at UCLA. WOW, was she a treasure trove of insight. Not just theories and concepts, but insight that can be used every day. SHOWNOTES: Who is Ellyn Bader? [3:00] Anxiety vs Growth-Promoting Anxiety in Relationship [7:00] Three Different Decision-Making Strategies For Couples [16:00] Ellyn’s Insight for Therapists [21:00] Why Telling Your Partner What You "Need" Can be Problematic [29:00] The Confusion Around Differentiation vs Individuation [37:00] What Ellyn Means When She Asks, "Are You a Lie Invitee?" [47:00] For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Ellyn Bader visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast194