Relationship Coaching School Podcast

We all have a tendency to avoid things that are difficult but Human Connection Specialist and dating coach, Mark Groves, knows where there's pain there's gain. Let's take a look at our wounded, angry warrior sides and see what they have to teach us about loving well!   SHOWNOTES: Are You Fixing People to Boost Your Control? [8:00] Overusing of the "Narcissist" Title [16:00] The Value of Accessing Your Anger [21:00] So Your Relationships Are Tough - Stop Running! [28:00] How to Tap Into Your Inner Warrior [31:00] Skillful and Attractive Anger [34:00] Staying in The Hurt [48:00] Why You Should Be Going to Conferences (Like MOTU) [52:00] Leaving Friends Behind When You’re Growing [54:00] P.S. Mark is HOOKING US UP with $200 off tickets to the Masters Of The [U]niverse Summit in Vancouver this July! I'll be presenting along with many other crazy inspiring speakers. Just enter the code "Smart Couple" when you get your tickets. Click here to get started.    For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast197

Who knew saying the words "I'm insecure" could be so sexy!?! It's time to uncover those insecurities, let go of the entitlement and celebrate where you're really at on your growth path.   SHOWNOTES: Why Insecurity Gets a Bad Rap [2:00] Call B.S. on Your Insecure Friends! [5:00] What Does it Mean to be ”Entitled” [6:00] Your Action Step - It’ll Make You Look Sexy! [9:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast196

Coaches Neil Sattin and Chloe Urban are a great example of a couple getting it right in the face of some serious challenges. Listen closely and you can snag some of their most helpful relationship tools!   SHOWNOTES: Chloe Urban and Neil Sattin’s Love Story [5:00] Advice for Couples When Step-Kids Are Involved [11:00] Why We Fail To Stand Up For Who We Are In Partnership [25:00] Primal Fears [27:00] How Does “Safety” Play a Role In Neil and Chloe's Relationship [31:00] Tip to Repair Relationship Disconnection [36:00] Dr. Pete Levine’s “Vu-ing” Technique for Self-Regulation [41:00] Chole & Neil’s Spiritual Practice-Relationship Intersection [45:00] When One Member of a Couple Doesn’t Have a Spiritual Practice [50:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Neil Sattin and Chloe Urban visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast195

Jayson met up with renowned couples therapy expert and author, Ellyn Bader, at this year's Interpersonal Neurobiology Conference at UCLA. WOW, was she a treasure trove of insight. Not just theories and concepts, but insight that can be used every day. SHOWNOTES: Who is Ellyn Bader? [3:00] Anxiety vs Growth-Promoting Anxiety in Relationship [7:00] Three Different Decision-Making Strategies For Couples [16:00] Ellyn’s Insight for Therapists [21:00] Why Telling Your Partner What You "Need" Can be Problematic [29:00] The Confusion Around Differentiation vs Individuation [37:00] What Ellyn Means When She Asks, "Are You a Lie Invitee?" [47:00] For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Ellyn Bader visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast194

Right now, researchers and the public are fascinated with brain science and Dr. Dan Siegel is a legend in that department. Jayson and Dr. Siegel dig in deep in this one, discussing autoimmune disease, rewiring the brain, GMO food, struggles in the therapy field and so much more.d and so much more. SHOWNOTES: Why It’s Important to Have Healthy Adult Relationships for Good Health [12:00] Dr. Siegel's Thoughts on Epigenetics [15:00] The 5 Parts of Making Meaning [24:00] Emotion & The Importance of Subjective Experience [29:00] Autoimmune Disorders, Gluten and GMO Foods [41:00] Adverse Childhood Experiences and Illness [46:00] Where Are Therapist Falling Short And What Are They Doing Well [1:00:00] Dr. Siegel's Advice for Young People [1:06:00]   For the full web posting for this Smart Couple Podcast episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast193

A new study shows child abuse should be considered the second largest cause of illness in the U.S.. And yet, our diagnostic system ignores trauma completely. Listen to what trauma expert Bessel van der Kolk has to say about that and get his insight into turning traumatic pain into personal power!   SHOWNOTES: Bessel Responds to The Allegations Against Him [10:00] 2nd Largest National Health Problem: Child Abuse  [17:00] Avoiding Seeing Trauma Victims as Broken People [20:00] Why Meds Don't Cure Trauma [28:00] Explained: Why Child Abuse Can Lead to More Abuse [38:00] The Harm in Telling a Trauma Story Over and Over   For the full web posting for this Smart Couple Podcast episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast191

 Men are getting their world's rocked by the #MeToo movement and the rapid change in gender norms. In this episode, Jayson taps into Adam Gilad's valuable insight on men in the modern world. SHOWNOTES: Who is Adam Gilad & What is Going on With Men Right Now [3:00] Men and the #MeToo Movement [8:00] Why Does the #MeToo Movement Make Some Men Defensive? [11:00] Why Male Identity Ultimately Doesn't Mean Shit [14:00]  Mom Issues and Male Rage [18:00] Thoughts on Male Conditioning [20:00] How do you Help People who Don't Want to be Helped? [23:00] What Women Need to Know About men Right now [25:00]   For the full web posting for this Smart Couple Podcast episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast190

This year's Interpersonal Neurobiology Conference at UCLA was a dream for a relationship research and brain science nerd! If you geek out on that stuff, you'll love hearing the highlights Jayson and his therapist partner, Ellen Boeder, have in their personal conference notes. SHOWNOTES: Antonio Damasio Highlights [5:00] Dan Siegel Highlights [8:00] Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt Highlights - Safe Conversation [12:00] Crazy Listening Statistic [15:00] Secure Functioning Relationships and Other Stan Tatkin Highlights [18:00] Insight for Therapists and Couples from Peter Pierson [18:00] Affairs and Esther Perel Highlights [25:00] The Shame of Staying With a Partner That Cheats [29:00] Insight from the Couples Panel [31:00] For the full web posting for this Smart Couple Podcast episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast189

If you're like most people, you spend FOUR HOURS A DAY on your phone and check it ONE HUNDRED TIMES! Is all that time improving your life and the lives of others? If you use social media and want to hear a unique story about rebuilding after a separation, this episode is worth every minute!   SHOWNOTES: Who is Mark Shapiro? [5:00] Some Social Media Fails [12:00] Mark’s Extreme Social Media Experiment [16:00] Why do we Avoid Reaching out to Friends Online? [27:00] Mark’s First Marriage: Before & After [31:00] Showing Appreciation When You're not Feeling it [34:00] What was Open Relationship Life Like? [37:00] Advice for Couples Considering Divorce [48:00] Why Being Real is Important [56:00]   For the full web posting for this Smart Couple Podcast episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast188

  In this episode, Jayson breaks down the three stages of long-term relationships, why they matter and what it takes to advance beyond the three stages to the ultimate partnership phase we all desire.   SHOWNOTES: Relationship Stage One: Infatuation [4:00] Relationship Stage Two is Challenging! [8:00] Earning the RIGHT to Get to Stage Three: True Love [9:00] Jayson's Fourth Stage: Love 360 [11:00]  To view this episode's webpage visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast187