Relationship Coaching School Podcast

Few things can rip a partnership or friendship apart like conflict. In part one of this three-part series on conflict, Jayson proposes ten pre-conflict agreements to transform conflict from a threatening experience into a growth opportunity. SHOWNOTES: Why Learning How To Do Conflict Is Important [1:00] Ten Agreement You Should Make With Your Partner BEFORE Conflict [3:00] Learn How To Do Conflict Well At The Upcoming Embracing Conflict Weekend! [18:00] For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for part one of this conflict series episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast213

Weddings include a lot of really great traditions. But those old school 'in sickness and in health' vows suck. Find out how to do vows the right way.   SHOWNOTES:  Personalized Wedding Vows Vs Traditional Vows [2:00] Why You Should Revisit Your Vows … Over & Over Again [5:00] Good Vows Challenge Your Partner [7:00] Tell Us About Your Wedding Vows! [11:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this Wedding Vows Dos and Don'ts episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast212

You've submitted questions. Jayson's got answers! This Ask Me Anything episode addresses feelings of inadequacy and mismatched sex drives.   SHOWNOTES: Why We Sometimes Feel We’re Not Enough & What To Do About It [2:00] What To Do When Your Partner Has A Different Sex Drive [6:00] How To Submit Your Questions [10:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this Ask Me Anything episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast211

 Have a partner, friend or family member with an addiction? Feeling discouraged about their ability to change? Well, often times at the core of addiction ... is a relationship problem. SHOWNOTES: The Connection Between Addiction And Prior Relationship Issues [2:00] Tips For People Who Love An Addict [4:00] Why Trying To Help Save Them Is A Bad Idea [7:00] Addressing The Addict In Your Life Starts With You [10:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode about addiction and partnership visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast210

Society often glorifies the caretaker to a saint-like status. But, it’s important to know when caretaking reaches the point of actually being more harmful than helpful.   SHOWNOTES: What is Caretaking? [1:00] The Caretaker Blindspot [4:00] Slipping From Being A Caretaker And Into Codependency [7:00] Action Step [10:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode about caretaking visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast209

Do you feel safe and secure? Seen and understood? Supported and loved? On a daily basis? Are you spending a fortune cleaning up after your failed relationships? In this episode, Jayson answers your questions about DPIR® and breaks down why the course is so worth it. Click here to apply.    SHOWNOTES: Think About WHY You Were Anxious About Going Back To School [1:00] Some Important Questions You Need To Ask Yourself [5:00] You Have Room For Growth & That's A Responsibility [10:00] Some Things You Get In The DPIR Course [15:00] Let's Break Down The Cost To Join DPIR [26:00] Jayson's DPIR Money-Back Guarantee [32:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode about the Deep Psychology of Intimate Relationships (DPIR)® course visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast208

According to professor and therapist Dr. Alexandra Solomon, engaging your partner in conversation about their past experiences is one of the best things you can do to keep your relationship sexy and exciting. Listen in to find out why! Who is Dr. Alexandra Solomon? [6:00] Alexandra Defines "Relational Self-Awareness" [8:00]  Are Some People Just More Interested In Self-Awareness? [10:00] How Gender Norms Encourage Defensiveness [13:00] Alexandra’s Theories About Why People Avoid Introspection [23:00] How To Start Investigating Your History [31:00]  Why It’s Never Okay To Use Stories From Their Past Against Them [37:00] Things Alexandra is Learning Her Own Marriage [40:00]  Why Self-Care It Vital To A Healthy Partnership [42:00] Relational Themes Dr. Solomon Is Seeing Working With Students [49:00 Getting Better At Relationship To Bring About Social Change [55:00] FREE WEB CLASS - Aug. 14th - CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP!  For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Dr. Alexandra Solomon visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast207

You know those couples where the woman handles almost everything and the man, well ... kind of kicks back and acts like a teenager? That's the mother-son dynamic and in this episode, you'll learn how to escape that relationship trap and figure out why it happens in the first place. The Mom-Son Dynamic From A Woman’s Perspective [3:00] The Mom-Son Dynamic From A Guy’s Perspective [5:00] How to Help A Couple Living In A Parent-Child Relationship [9:00] How The Male Ego Comes Into Play [16:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Ellen Boeder visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast206

As grand prize winners of a recent Smart Couple podcast contest, Heather and Thomas got to sit down for a free session with Jayson. In this emotional and inspiring interview, Jayson helps Heather and Thomas dig into their past to find answers they've been seeking for years. Heather Lays Out Her Side Of The Story [8:00] Thomas Connects With Heather’s Past [20:00] Find Out WHY Your Partner Reacts That Way [28:00] Where Does The Smack You Talk To Yourself Come From? [38:00] Ways To Shake Things Up If You Spend Too Much Time Together [42:00] Jayson Explains The Contest [47:00]   COUPLES CONTEST DETAILS:  You must complete all three steps to qualify. No exceptions.    1. Apply separately by clicking HERE   2. Pay $25 total together (per couple, not per person) by clicking HERE   3. Record a selfie video together as to why you want to do this. 1-3 minutes long. Send to info@relationshipschool.net, with "SC 205 Contest" in the subject line, and if you feel inspired post it in the Smart Couple FB group too.   Grand Prize: One FREE spot for the DPIR 9-month training, which includes two live workshops in Boulder, CO! One person pays in full, and the partner is free. So basically it's two for the price of one! (Value is $6,000) If selected you must be willing to have us document your journey, no matter what happens to you as a couple. We want to show people what's possible if you invest in your relationship like this!    All Participants Win: One FREE [couples] coaching session with one of our Level 2 Relationship Coaches. (Value is $100)   So you can’t lose!    Deadline to enter: Sunday, June 29th by Midnight MT      Winners will be announced August 3rd.       For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Heather and Thomas visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast205

 A lot of things you take personally in relationship have very little to do with your partner. Those issues are really the result of YOUR past, YOUR triggers and YOUR perspective...So says long-time Boulder, Colorado therapist & expert in the field of Child and Adult Attachment Theory and Models, Dr. Diane Poole Heller.  How The Therapy Field Chose Diane [7:00] Why The Attachment Model Is So Central To Diane’s Work [12:00] The Kind Eyes Exercise [19:00] The Three Attachment Styles [21:00] Why Are You Complaining About Your Great Partnership? [32:00] Starting A Relationship Revolution With Secure Attachment [41:00] The Effects of A Disorganized Relationship Environment [46:00] Diane’s Method For Repairing From A Damaging Relationship [52:00] Don’t Sabotage Your Healthy Relationship Because Of Your Attachment Issues [1:01:00] Why You Shouldn’t Try To Heal Trauma Alone [1:03:00] Using Mental Time Travel (Autonoesis) For Healing [1:08:00] Diane’s Take On Why People Experience Repeated Trauma [1:11:00] Diane’s Jem Of Advice For Young Adults & Not Taking Things Personally [1:17:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Diane Poole Heller visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast204