The Jayson Gaddis Podcast

Did you know the longest study conducted by Harvard University on human behavior found that the single biggest determining factor of a well-lived life was based on the quality of relationships the participants had? In today’s podcast, I give a few more examples of human behavioral studies showing how relationships affect the overall quality of life. I also give tips on how moving forward with your relationships with yourself and others are going to fit into all the challenges that lie ahead in the new year. https://relationshipschool.com/training

Ever wonder what makes a successful couple? This week, my wife and I welcome back a returning guest Christine Hassler (and her partner!).We hosted this fun Q&A related to growth in relationships, marriage & raising kids. Here’s one of the questions we answer in this podcast: What should I do if I'm growing, but my partner isn't? If you want to know the answer to this question, I invite you to listen to this interesting podcast. Shownotes: 3:25 Introduction Christine Hassler and Stefanos Sifandos 5:00 How Christine and Stefanos met and the evolution of their relationship 18:10 Deciding to commit to a long-term partnership 21:25: How being involved in self-development jobs affects their relationship 28:55 How having kids impacted their relationship 31:55 Dealing with taking care of others instead of yourself 38:45 How does it feel to work with your partner 50:00 What to do when you are putting in the work but your partner is not 57:45 How the pandemic impacted their family dynamics 1:09:20 Action Step Useful Links: https://stefanossifandos.com/ https://christinehassler.com/ https://relationshipschool.com/training  

Dr. C. Sue Carter, an author and expert in attachment and bonding, unveils the fascinating role of oxytocin, often dubbed the "Love Drug." She explains how this hormone acts as a vital glue in long-term relationships and its impact on pair bonding and emotional safety. The conversation dives into the evolutionary significance of oxytocin, highlighting its influence on both men and women. Dr. Carter also shares actionable steps to enhance oxytocin levels for healthier connections, emphasizing the importance of physical touch and nurturing interactions.

In this week’s podcast, my wife Ellen and I continue the discussion on attachment dynamics and give tips for all you ‘pursuers.’  If you are the pursuer in your relationship who always wants to connect with your partner, especially under stress and anxiety, we want to help you learn how to communicate your need for connection better so you don’t drive the other person further away. Here are two very important questions I ask all couples to think about:    Do we want the same kind of relationship? What do you really want out of the partnership?  Listen in as we answer these questions.  Shownotes: 1:45 Being there for yourself 5:20 Understanding your partner’s position 8:40 Letting your partner know that you care and want to understand them 11:35 Don’t expect others to behave as you want them to 13:20 You and your partner should act as a team 18:25: Action Step Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/training https://relationshipschool.com/dipr  

Here’s a scenario: You and your partner had a fight or disagreement. You want to talk about it;  they don’t. Hmmm. How do you deal?  In this podcast, my wife Ellen and I give you a few tips for you avoidant-types on how to deal with your partner who always wants a connection or wants to talk about it.  Here’s a critical question I ask space-takers to think about:    Does withdrawing relieve my partner or not? In other words, is my space-taking helpful to my partner and good for our relationship?  Listen in as we unpack this question.   Shownotes: 0:50: Distancing in relationships 6:25 Establishing a time limit on the time you take for yourself 10:30 Action Step Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/training  

Did you know when males have an emotive experience, two parts of the brain lights up? And when females have an emotive experience, nine parts of the brain light up? You’re probably thinking, why just two parts with men and nine parts with women?  If you’re interested in brain differences that boys and girls experience from the time they start school throughout adulthood, you’ll want to check this out:  This week, New York Times best selling author of "The Wonder of Boys: What Parents, Mentors and Educators Can Do to Shape Boys into Exceptional Men” examines the inner life of boys; their physical, socio-emotional, and neurological development.  Michael believes that to improve male sensitivity in America, parents should adopt bi-strategic and multi-strategic parenting styles and raise boys (and girls) with resiliency, purpose, and doing emotive development that fits their sensitivity. Shownotes: 3:05 Introduction Michael Gurian 5:20 Brain differences in education 10:10 Why men struggle more with therapy than women 21:50 How does empathy work inside the brain 27:00 How to raise boys in this day and age 34:15 What parents should keep in mind when rising girls 41:35 Action Step   Useful Links: https://gurianinstitute.com/events/gurian-winter-institute-2021/ https://relationshipschool.com/training  

What happens when you’re in a relationship with someone who’s dealing with depression and is being distant? Should you stay or should you give them an ultimatum?  In this week’s podcast, that was just one of the questions I answered from one of our listeners' posts in the Relationship School Facebook group.  I covered a lot of ground in the sex and relationships category from polyamorous relationships in the context of post-betrayal to dealing with relationship dissatisfaction. Some pretty intense stuff.  Here’s one of the other questions I answered in this new podcast:  No one talks about the sex slowing down in a long-term relationship. What is healthy and normal and what is not? If you want to know the answer to this question and more relationship advice, I invite you to listen to my new podcast.  Check it out. Shownotes: 1:30 Being in a relationship with someone who takes anti-depressives 5:45 Being the one who always takes the initiative to work on the relationship 8:45 Can polyamorous relationships solve partnership problems? 11:45 Benefits of men being part of a men’s group 13:35 Sex frequency in long term relationships 15:15 When can being too demanding cause dissatisfaction? 19:50 Supporting each other in conflicts with other people https://relationshipschool.com/training

Somatic Abolitonist, Resmaa Menakem, shares a true story about racial discrimination between the police and his family.  He also challenges the hell out of me.  Man, this was a good one, very intense. I learned a ton.  I continue to learn about how me, as a white heterosexual male, can improve in the area of race, equity and diversity.  This is a pretty charged episode. Trigger warning.  Check it out. Shownotes: 5:25 Introduction Resmaa Menakem 9:35 Fearing racism deep-rooted in society 15:05 The necessary work to make a shift in society 21:30 How white people can address racial problems and understand black people 34:00 How trauma stays in people’s bodies and transforms through time 35:00 Cultural baggage 37:20 Racism manifested in police agencies 49:05 Diversity, equity, and inclusion trainings 58:10 What does the work of healing cultural trauma looks like for white people 1:11:35 How training black people differs from training white people 1:21:50 Action step Useful Links: https://www.resmaa.com/ https://www.instagram.com/resmaamenakem/?hl=en https://relationshipschool.com/connected/ https://relationshipschool.com/community/

We continue our discussion from last week’s podcast with my wife Ellen on attachment dynamics. This week, writer Bethany Saltman, author of a "Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment” breaks down her own experience with attachment after diving head first in the research. If you are unsure if you are “secure” or “insecure” and how that might impact your adult partnership or future family, you’ll want to check this out.   Shownotes: 3:25 Introduction Bethany Saltman 9:45 Bowlby & Ainsworth’s Attachment Theory 21:30 Bethany’s relationship with her daughter 27:00 Understanding attachment theory to improve parenting 32:40 Teenagers' bad behavior 35:50 Thoughtful and deeper relationships through attachment theory 47:35 Action step

Here’s a scenario: You want to talk about something that is bothering you, but your partner tells you they need some time to think and walks away. You end up feeling frustrated and ignored for the rest of the day. Sounds familiar, right? Then this new podcast will shed some serious light on this dynamic. If you are interested in attachment dynamics, you’ll appreciate this podcast. My wife Ellen and I answer some of your questions about attachment styles posted directly from our Instagram followers   Shownotes: 4:10 Understanding and healing what pushes your partner away 9:05: Working together with others who have a different attachment style 16:50: Willingness to work on yourself and with others 19:50: What if you or your partner struggle with being empathetic 25:00 Action Step Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/connected/ https://relationshipschool.com/community/