

Relationship Coaching School Podcast
Jayson Gaddis
The Relationship Coaching School Podcast is for coaches, therapists, and growth-minded clients who want to master relationships and help their clients master relationships. Hosted by Jayson Gaddis, a world-class coach and trainer, this podcast dives into what sparks real change, what coaching methods actually work, and how to get results in our most important relationships.
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Nov 4, 2020 • 1h 27min
Resmaa Menakem on Trauma & White Body Supremacy - Resmaa Menakem - 315
Somatic Abolitonist, Resmaa Menakem, shares a true story about racial discrimination between the police and his family. He also challenges the hell out of me. Man, this was a good one, very intense. I learned a ton. I continue to learn about how me, as a white heterosexual male, can improve in the area of race, equity and diversity. This is a pretty charged episode. Trigger warning. Check it out. Shownotes: 5:25 Introduction Resmaa Menakem 9:35 Fearing racism deep-rooted in society 15:05 The necessary work to make a shift in society 21:30 How white people can address racial problems and understand black people 34:00 How trauma stays in people’s bodies and transforms through time 35:00 Cultural baggage 37:20 Racism manifested in police agencies 49:05 Diversity, equity, and inclusion trainings 58:10 What does the work of healing cultural trauma looks like for white people 1:11:35 How training black people differs from training white people 1:21:50 Action step Useful Links: https://www.resmaa.com/ https://www.instagram.com/resmaamenakem/?hl=en https://relationshipschool.com/connected/ https://relationshipschool.com/community/

Oct 28, 2020 • 52min
A Mother's Personal Journey with Attachment - Bethany Saltman - 314
We continue our discussion from last week’s podcast with my wife Ellen on attachment dynamics. This week, writer Bethany Saltman, author of a "Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment” breaks down her own experience with attachment after diving head first in the research. If you are unsure if you are “secure” or “insecure” and how that might impact your adult partnership or future family, you’ll want to check this out. Shownotes: 3:25 Introduction Bethany Saltman 9:45 Bowlby & Ainsworth’s Attachment Theory 21:30 Bethany’s relationship with her daughter 27:00 Understanding attachment theory to improve parenting 32:40 Teenagers' bad behavior 35:50 Thoughtful and deeper relationships through attachment theory 47:35 Action step

Oct 21, 2020 • 28min
How to Work with Different Attachment Styles - Jayson Gaddis and Ellen Boeder - 313
Here’s a scenario: You want to talk about something that is bothering you, but your partner tells you they need some time to think and walks away. You end up feeling frustrated and ignored for the rest of the day. Sounds familiar, right? Then this new podcast will shed some serious light on this dynamic. If you are interested in attachment dynamics, you’ll appreciate this podcast. My wife Ellen and I answer some of your questions about attachment styles posted directly from our Instagram followers Shownotes: 4:10 Understanding and healing what pushes your partner away 9:05: Working together with others who have a different attachment style 16:50: Willingness to work on yourself and with others 19:50: What if you or your partner struggle with being empathetic 25:00 Action Step Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/connected/ https://relationshipschool.com/community/

Oct 13, 2020 • 1h 14min
Resolving Trauma with Psychedelics & MDMA - Dr. Rick Doblin, Ph.D. - 312
Using psychedelics to resolve trauma wasn’t something I was aware of when I first started experimenting over 30 years ago. The research has exploded as well as the positive outcomes for people with PTSD. In this interview, I speak to one of the leading authorities on psychotherapy and psychedelics, Rick Doblin. Rick is such a trail-blazer. If you have questions about how “safe” or “effective psychedelics are for your healing journey, this is a must listen. We cover MDMA, psilocybin, LSD, and ayahuasca. Shownotes: 4:00 Introduction Rick Doblin 10:50 How to handle bad experiences with psychedelics 13:55 Using psychedelics recreationally and facilitators for growth 33:30 Experimental studies about the use of psychedelics 47:45 Psychedelics and psychotherapy 1:00:30: Using psychedelics alone vs. doing it with others 1:11:15 Action Step

Oct 8, 2020 • 31min
Tips For Helping Young Children Resolve Conflict - 311
When you were young, did you know how to work through conflict? Were the adults involved at all or was it more of a “hands off” situation? Whatever you went through as a kid, there’s another way. My belief is that if we raise kids in a good way, and teach them how to work through their differences, we’ll have a brighter future. My family and I wanted to record this podcast to show you what’s possible when kids have conflict. This is an unscripted conversation with my kids. Check it out here Shownotes: 3:20: Conflict between children 8:30: Tips for resolving conflict 16:00: When can adults intervene? 21:30 Taking a break and spending time alone 26:45: Using humor to resolve conflicts Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/connected/ https://relationshipschool.com/community/

Sep 24, 2020 • 1h 4min
Your Relationship To Money - Ken Honda - 309
A lot of couples fight about money. Money has a lot of charge for most of us. That’s why I wanted to interview Ken Honda about how we can improve our relationship to money. Ken has written dozens of books and has tons of advice for you about money and how you can increase wealth and connection. I think you’ll enjoy this one. Shownotes: 4:05: Introduction Ken Honda 12:10: Why is there pain and fear around money 16:00: Finding out who you are in order to have a better relationship with money 24:40: The relation between emotional intelligence and financial intelligence 31:00 Happiness and money 35:25: Money and generosity 39:00: How to relax our body and mind around money 43:00 Money advice for couples 47:40: Rising kids with financial intelligence 1:00:40 Action step Useful Links: https://kenhonda.com/ https://relationshipschool.com/community/ https://relationshipschool.com/connected/ Text me (USA): 7207044850

Sep 16, 2020 • 19min
3 Myths Single People Believe - 308
If you are single, I got some feedback from a lot of people on this. They helped me ensure that these are in fact, 3 of the biggest myths around being single. Would love your input. Take a listen and leave a comment on social, or below in the blog/podcast post. Shownotes: 4:45: Myth # 1 6:30: Myth # 2 8:25: Myth # 3 12:20: Action step Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/connected/ Text me (USA): 7207044850

Sep 9, 2020 • 1h 8min
Overcoming Fear, Standing Up To Your Parents & Finding Your Own Path - Kute Blackson - 307
Have you ever upset someone because you wanted to speak your truth or follow your truth? If you choose to follow your heart in life, you’re going to upset people and disappoint people. It’s part of the path. But so many of us listen to the fear and shrink away from what’s true for us, instead of having the courage to stand up, express ourselves, or follow our dreams. In this podcast, you’ll hear one man’s story of overcoming fear and saying no to his father’s wishes. Whew. It’s powerful what he did. And, as a result his life has been pretty extraordinary. Shownotes: 3:10: Introduction of Kute Blackson and his life story 16:55: Overcoming the fear of being your true self 33:35: Dealing with people who criticize you 39:10: How to overcome the victim mentality 47:15: How to let go of our past 52:35: About racism 1:03:10 Action step Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/connected/ https://www.amazon.com/You-Are-One-Adventure-Discovering/dp/1501127276 http://www.boundlessblissbali.com/ https://kuteblackson.com/blog/ https://www.instagram.com/kuteblackson/

Sep 2, 2020 • 16min
Meeting Adversity - 306
If you are feeling stressed I think this will be helpful for you now, and to save for a future date when you are feeling stressed. Your ability to meet adversity will likely determine your results in your relational life, and more. Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/connected/

Aug 26, 2020 • 44min
Social Capital At Work & At Home - Dr. Wayne Baker, Ph.D. - 305
Have you ever been around someone who just drains you of energy? Or, on the flip side, fuels you up? We all have energy flows, and it can actually be mapped among us. In episode 305 of the RS podcast Dr. Wayne Baker, an author and sociologist, shares his work with energy mapping and why we need both human capital AND social capital to be more effective in our relationships (I just learned these terms too and it’s fascinating stuff!). This one is especially valuable for bosses, business owners and anyone in leadership positions. Shownotes: 2:25: Introduction Dr. Wayne Baker 7:45: What is social capital? 9:00: How energy flows in our social networks 14:35: Human and social capital on this day and age 16:55: 4 elements of high-quality connections 23:55: Team culture values 29:15: What can we do to implement and promote better values 34:25: Advice for people in positions of power 41.15: Action Step