Relationship Coaching School Podcast

Have you ever upset someone because you wanted to speak your truth or follow your truth? If you choose to follow your heart in life, you’re going to upset people and disappoint people. It’s part of the path. But so many of us listen to the fear and shrink away from what’s true for us, instead of having the courage to stand up, express ourselves, or follow our dreams. In this podcast, you’ll hear one man’s story of overcoming fear and saying no to his father’s wishes. Whew. It’s powerful what he did. And, as a result his life has been pretty extraordinary.   Shownotes: 3:10: Introduction of Kute Blackson and his life story 16:55: Overcoming the fear of being your true self 33:35: Dealing with people who criticize you 39:10: How to overcome the victim mentality 47:15: How to let go of our past 52:35: About racism 1:03:10 Action step Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/connected/ https://www.amazon.com/You-Are-One-Adventure-Discovering/dp/1501127276 http://www.boundlessblissbali.com/ https://kuteblackson.com/blog/ https://www.instagram.com/kuteblackson/  

If you are feeling stressed I think this will be helpful for you now, and to save for a future date when you are feeling stressed. Your ability to meet adversity will likely determine your results in your relational life, and more.  Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/connected/

Have you ever been around someone who just drains you of energy? Or, on the flip side, fuels you up? We all have energy flows, and it can actually be mapped among us. In episode 305 of the RS podcast Dr. Wayne Baker, an author and sociologist, shares his work with energy mapping and why we need both human capital AND social capital to be more effective in our relationships (I just learned these terms too and it’s fascinating stuff!).  This one is especially valuable for bosses, business owners and anyone in leadership positions.   Shownotes:   2:25: Introduction Dr. Wayne Baker 7:45: What is social capital? 9:00: How energy flows in our social networks 14:35: Human and social capital on this day and age 16:55: 4 elements of high-quality connections 23:55: Team culture values 29:15: What can we do to implement and promote better values 34:25: Advice for people in positions of power 41.15: Action Step

A lot of podcast listeners ask about narcissism so I thought I’d find an expert. Stan Tatkin is that guy. He did his dissertation on narcissism. So this one gets really dense. Stan reminds the listener that if you find yourself with a narcissistic person, you might want to look in the mirror. Gulp.   Shownotes:   7:50 Introduction Dr. Stan Tatkin 17:05 What is a narcissist person? 26:45 The second form of narcissism 38:30 How narcissists perceive their relationships 47:30 Is it possible to recover from a narcissistic behavior? 49:40 How do you spot a narcissist? 54:15: The difference between a healthy amount of selfishness and being a narcissist 59:30 Are narcissists capable of experiencing love? 1:04:30 What can we do for ourselves if we are around narcissists? 1:07:15 Action Step

If you’ve ever struggled to bring up something challenging with someone you care about, you know how dicey it can be sometimes. If you don’t bring it up, you might start to resent them. If you do bring it up, they might react and get upset. Hmmm. What do you do? Here are a few tips to help you navigate this quandary.   Shownotes: 4:15: How to bring up difficult things 16:40 Action step   Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/community/

If you are feeling stressed, anxious or overwhelmed, this is a must listen. It might have been one of the best parenting interviews I’ve done. My guest Tina Bryson shares 2 things that create stress in kids right now then she covers 3-4 things that relieve stress and anxiety. This one is very good. Even if you’re not a parent, you were a kid a while back and this will help you see what’s possible.   Shownotes: 5:15 Introduction Dr. Tina Bryson 9:40 The importance of self-awareness for parents 17:45 Two things that create stress for kids at home 22:40 How to relieve stress 32:00 Name it to tame it: The importance of acknowledging our feelings and emotions 37:35 How to provide children a safe and secure place at home 52:00 How parents can help children make better decisions for themselves 1:04:10 Action step Useful Links: https://www.tinabryson.com/ https://relationshipschool.com/rct  

Some of you know that I nerd out on research about relationships. Well, have you heard about the research study that says loneliness is more lethal than smoking 15 cigarettes per day?  Well, I finally got to talk to the woman that did this research. Wow. It’s astounding and puts our relationships with other people front and center.   Shownotes:   5:10 Introduction  Dr. Julianne Holt-Lunstad 7:30 The impact of loneliness and social isolation on people's health 14:00 Dr. Julianne’s health studies 19:45 The impact of relationships on our health and life expectancy 41:55 Why you might feel lonely even if you are surrounded by people 48:25 Why some people disagree with the studies about loneliness and social isolation 1:04:50 Action step   Useful Links: https://twitter.com/jholtlunstad?lang=en https://julianneholtlunstad.byu.edu/ https://relationshipschool.com/rct    

If you are a helper, therapist, or coach (or you are curious), here’s a great podcast I just recorded about helping others and taking the leap to be a relationship coach.   Shownotes: 9:50 What is coaching? 11:30 How to become a good relationship coach 25:05 About our coaching program 37:25 Action step   Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/rct https://relationshipschool.com/podcast/therapy-vs-coaching-sc-139/

My good friend and Men’s Coach Tripp Lanier joins me in episode 299 of the podcast for a killer convo about why we shouldn’t take ourselves so seriously and how to put a voice to our fears so we can use them for fuel to get what we want. Shownotes:   5:00 Introduction Tripp Lanier 10:35 What put Tripp on a path of self-discovery and growth? 12:50 Men dealing with their emotions and fears 14:25 The 3 big threats 18:00 The fear of being ourselves 20:40 Facing the problems in our lives 25:30 Using our feelings and emotions as a guide to a better life and better relationships 37:30 Assuming you are responsible for your own life 39:00 You don’t need to be in the mood to improve 41:15 Stop taking yourself too seriously 46:15 Setting goals for ourselves in a different way 50:30 What is freedom? 53:00 Comfort doesn’t mean fulfillment 56:00 The fear of change in our relationships 1:00:05 Advice to keep a marriage working 1:04:40 Action step   Useful Links: https://www.amazon.com/This-Book-Will-Make-Dangerous-ebook/dp/B086PY4W35 https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/ https://relationshipschool.com/rct  

Can we rewire our brains to find more fulfillment in ourselves and in our relationships? Psychologist Dr. Rick Hanson joins me in episode 298 of the podcast to share his take on how exactly we can get there. Shownotes:   3:30 What is happiness and why do we seek it? 6:40 How to overcome negativity without ignoring our traumas 10:25 The importance of self-awareness in our relationships 14:00 Why relationships matter so much 19:25 Recognizing good and bad intentions of others 27:40 What prevents people from growing? 32:40 What triggered change in Rick’s life 42:20 Why learning is essential for your brain’s health 48:15 Why it’s important to acknowledge and embrace your victories 54:30 Action step Useful Links: https://www.rickhanson.net/ https://rickhanson.net/neurodharma https://relationshipschool.com/rct