The Jayson Gaddis Podcast

Did you know there are only two ways to end a relationship? It’s true—just two. And whether you’re the one initiating the ending or you’re the receiver of the break, the way you handle it can reveal a lot about the person you are. In this week’s podcast, I discuss the best ways to deal with a relationship’s end, plus some ways to reframe the situation into something that can help you in the future. This applies to any relationships: work or business, friendships, teams...it doesn’t have to be your partnership. If you’d like to know what can help you avoid disastrous relationship endings, take a listen. Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/training http://relationshipschool.com/challenge

This week, a very close friend Keith Kurlander joins me in a very inspiring discussion on mental health and overcoming mental illness. His story is beyond incredible. Seriously. I’ve actually never met anyone that has overcome mental illness so successfully. Keith is a true warrior. And, he’s a solid guide for others too. If you or someone you know struggles with mental health issues, this is a must-listen. Shownotes: 0:00 Introduction and life story: Keith Kurlander 11:05 The impact of medications on the treatment of mental illness 12:55 Finding ways to help yourself by practicing spirituality 17:40 What triggered Keith to work on his mental health 23:25 How Keith’s life was affected by his mental health 26:45 Using Ayahuasca as an experimental treatment 35:05 Useful treatments for mental health 39:25 How relationships can help you overcome mental illnesses 43:45 Ketogenic diet in a nutshell 45:00 Understanding your own mental heath 51:35 How being aligned with your life’s purpose helps you balance your life 59:05 Action Step Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/training https://psychiatryinstitute.com/ https://psychiatryinstitute.com/podcast/ https://www.psychiatriccenters.com/ https://keithkurlander.com/    

In this week’s podcast, my wife Ellen and I answer a common question: What do we do with this person who is saying they don't need anything? We posted a short video on this, and it received so many comments we thought we’d elaborate. Listen in as we unpack this question and give you tips on what to do.   Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/training How To Communicate Your Need For Space In A Relationship – Jayson Gaddis and Ellen Boeder – 318 How To Communicate Your Need For Connection In A Relationship – Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder – 319   

Ever wonder what our Relationship Coach Training (RCT) students go through to become relationship coaches? Curious to know what you can gain from taking RCT? In this week’s podcast, seven RCT students, who are halfway through the course, share their personal experiences and offer insight about their journeys in becoming a relationship coach. During this conversation, I felt my heart expand many times. It’s so incredible what these students are experiencing. This group is pretty dynamic as they all come from different walks of life and career backgrounds. I asked them some questions on how the RCT course has helped them with their current relationships and parenting, how it influenced their self-growth and what their aspirations are after they finish the course and become relationship coaches. We got into a very candid conversation that you do not want to miss. Here’s one of the other questions I asked them: What is your biggest takeaway so far in this course? If you want to know the answer to this question and curious to learn what this group of RCT students is gaining from the course, I invite you to listen to the podcast. Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/training https://relationshipschool.com/level1-rct

How do you deal with past traumas that get triggered in your daily life? Are you unsure why certain interactions in your current relationship get you so upset?  This week, trauma legend Dr. Peter Levine joins me in a discussion where we dive deep into how his somatic experiencing method helps with the healing of trauma and other physiological and stress disorders.  If you’re interested to learn about a body-oriented and neurobiological approach to healing trauma, I invite you to listen to this one. Shownotes: 2:35 Introduction Peter Levine 6:30 What differentiates people who can overcome trauma and find meaning on it 15:55 Practical tools you can use to help others and yourself to heal trauma 26:35 The importance of listening to your body 33:15 Being present and experiencing emotions as passive observers 46:20 The relation between trauma and feeling angry 49:40 Are past generations stronger than new ones? 52:35 Recreating traumas as a way to heal them 1:02:05 Action step     Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/training https://www.psychotherapynetworker.org/blog/details/1024/video-peter-levines-secret-to-releasing-trauma-from Books: https://www.somaticexperiencing.com/se-books Ergos Institute (his primary company now): SE student Master Classes, Public Courses, and FREE SE resources: https://www.somaticexperiencing.com/ergos Somatic Experiencing Institute: 8-module Professional SE training, Intro to SE, and educational webinars: https://www.somaticexperiencing.com/se-trauma-institute

What happens when someone you care about gets difficult to handle? Let's say they raise their voice at you or give you the silent treatment. Whatever triggers you, you get upset because they're behaving in an upsetting way.  So, how do you deal? What do you do? Our reaction speaks volumes about how we do relationships.  In this week’s podcast, I answered this question from one of our listeners' posts in The Relationship School Facebook group:  Can you explain the distinction between being calm and regulated?  If you want to know the answer to this question and get tips on how to self-regulate, I invite you to listen to my new podcast. Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/training

Our modern society presents us with the mythology that answers these philosophical questions like "Who am I?" or "What’s my purpose in life?” But once we answer all those questions through the story of separation, then what is the alternative? What does interbeing mean to you?  This week, author Charles Eisenstein, joins me in a very interesting discussion on how his journey of personal growth played an important role in his development and influenced his body of work on separation and interbeing.  Much of Charles' work draws on ideas from Eastern philosophy as he lived in Taiwan for nine years. The main goal of his work is to make you become aware of your own "story of interbeing.” If you’re interested in interdependence and your connection to the world, you’ll want to check the podcast: Shownotes: 4:15 Introduction Charles Eisenstein 11:10 Defining interbeing and separation 17:30 How separation creates disconnection in our lives 27:00 How deep relationships can help individuals and society 37:15 Communication crisis and lack of empathy 42:40 How to overcome being in a victimhood position   53:45 Framing problems in an “us" vs "them” mentality 59:20 Action Step Useful Links: https://charleseisenstein.org/ https://relationshipschool.com/training

If you’re single and dating, are you tired of all the dating apps in our swipe-right culture? This week, John Kim LMFT, better known as the Angry Therapist, joins me in a very interesting discussion about his life after getting divorced that transformed his journey in becoming a therapist and coach. We also talked about John’s new book, “Single On Purpose: Redefine Everything. Find Yourself First.” He wants you to prioritize your relationship with yourself and live a more meaningful life. If you’re interested in dating and relationship tips, you’ll want to check this podcast. Shownotes: 4:20 Men and therapy 9:00 John Kim’s background and childhood 16:55 Dealing with racism in John’s early years 20:30 How his divorce pushed John to start getting interested in therapy 28:00 Understanding parenting through experience 31:50 Working as a coach in this day and age 36:25 About John’s new book “Single on Purpose” 37:55: Dating and friendship advice 45:20 Final advice 46:40 Action Step   Useful Links: https://www.theangrytherapist.com/ https://www.instagram.com/theangrytherapist/ https://twitter.com/angrytherapist https://relationshipschool.com/training

Did you know I took my son on a 5-day father’s son wilderness survival trip a few months ago?  It was so amazing. And, did you also know connecting with nature by just taking a brisk walk at your local park is good for improving your mental health and emotional well-being? Just stepping away from my phone and laptop for 5 days was the kind of digital detox I needed.  Back when I was lost in my life, nature was always there for me. Nature is a big family value of ours. That’s why I wanted to take my son on this powerful trip. Good nature time, good father-son bonding time. Our guide on the trip was so solid, I wanted to have him on the podcast to share more of why it’s so key to get outside. This guy has a ton of experience and it was so great to jam about nature, connection, and purpose.  If you’re interested to know how immersing in nature can expand your awareness and find your true calling, you’ll want to check out the podcast.  Shownotes: 3:50 Introduction Tim Corcoran 6:15 The importance of having a connection with nature 13:20 Connecting with yourself through nature 19:45 Giving back and helping others to create a connection with nature 24:25 First steps towards finding your purpose 30:20 Listening to yourself and your emotions 38:50 The father-son / mother-daughter experiences 49:15 Advice for people who want to reconnect with nature and themselves 56:45 Action Step Useful links: https://www.twineagles.org/ https://www.purposemountain.com/ https://relationshipschool.com/training  

As 2020 winds down, what are you hoping to see what happens in the new year with your relationship? Maybe you want to rekindle the romance. Or maybe you want to start a family. Whatever your hopes and dreams are for the new year, in this podcast, my wife Ellen and I give you four important questions to start the new year. Here is one of the questions: Why are you together? In other words, what is the purpose of your relationship? Listen in as we unpack this question along with the other three. Shownotes: 0:45 4 questions to find the purpose of your relationship 3:30 Why are you in a relationship with your partner? 7:35 What do you want from your relationship? 9:30 Where do you want to go in your relationship? 11:25 How are you going to get where you want to be?   Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/training