Relationship Coaching School Podcast
Jayson Gaddis
The Relationship Coaching School Podcast is for coaches, therapists, and growth-minded clients who want to master relationships and help their clients master relationships. Hosted by Jayson Gaddis, a world-class coach and trainer, this podcast dives into what sparks real change, what coaching methods actually work, and how to get results in our most important relationships.
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Dec 23, 2025 • 17min
How to Spot an Elder - Jayson Gaddis - 550
How do you recognize someone who has actually earned wisdom? In this conversation, Jayson breaks down what makes an elder an elder. He explains why it has nothing to do with age or status, how real elders show emotional maturity, what it means to hold space without fixing or rescuing, and why outgrowing your parents is a part of becoming an elder. If you want to understand who to trust, who to learn from, or how to become someone worth following, this episode lays it out clearly.Timestamps:2:21 - Elders are people who did the work5:46 - Elders hold space9:28 - Outgrowing your parentsLinks:The Relationship SchoolFollow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
Dec 16, 2025 • 10min
Your Strategy Is Draining - Jayson Gaddis - 549
What happens when you spend your life trying to be the good one, the agreeable one, or the one who never makes waves? Jayson breaks down the hidden exhaustion that comes from living in your strategic self. He explains how masking drains your energy, why people in strategy stay on the surface, and what it takes to reconnect with your true self. If you feel tired from managing how you come across, this episode shows you why and what to do next.Timestamps:0:21 - Are you tired from wearing a mask?3:42 - If you’re trying to be good you’ve already lost5:12 - The difference between your strategic self and your true self7:10 - People in their strategy stay surface levelLinks:The Relationship SchoolFollow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
Nov 18, 2025 • 17min
Extreme Ownership - Jayson Gaddis - 548
What makes securely attached families different? Jayson explores how self-examination and meaning making play a vital role in healthy relationships. He explains why understanding your own story and continuing to make meaning from it is essential for building lasting connection and security.Timestamps:0:40 - The hallmark of securely attached families2:55 - Clients need to do self-examination5:19 - Making meaning is an ongoing processLinks:The Relationship SchoolFollow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
Oct 22, 2025 • 10min
Putting the Pieces Together - Jayson Gaddis - 547
Explore the hallmarks of securely attached families and the role of self-reflection in nurturing their development. Discover how understanding personal narratives aids in forming lasting connections. Gain insights into the importance of therapists modeling self-work to guide clients effectively. Learn about the ongoing journey of meaning-making through life's challenges. Jason highlights the power of collaborative support in overcoming trauma and the impact of frameworks on personal growth.
Oct 14, 2025 • 10min
Knowing What to Work On - Jayson Gaddis - 546
How do you know what to actually work on in yourself or your relationship? Jayson explains how to identify your pain points, avoid vague or unhelpful advice, and set goals that lead to real progress. If you’re tired of spinning your wheels in personal growth, this episode will help you focus on what really matters.Timestamps:1:50 - Identify your pain points4:09 - Don’t settle for vague help5:30 - Set goals around your pain pointsLinks:The Relationship SchoolFollow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
Oct 8, 2025 • 1h 22min
Suffering & The Human Journey with Keith Kurlander - 545
Keith Kurlander joins Jayson to explore why people suffer and how we can move closer to authenticity. Is personal development ever narcissistic? Why do so many people chase quick fixes instead of real education and growth? Keith and Jayson discuss the importance of connecting to your authentic self and what makes relationships thrive with greater ease.Timestamps:0:49 - Why do people suffer so much?8:00 - Being authentic to yourself24:00 - Can person development be narcissistic?38:00 - Seek education, not quick fixes58:30 - Getting connected to your authentic self1:10:00 - Couples who have an easy timeLinks:Keith Kurlander, MA, LPC -Integrative Psychiatry Institute - Psychedelic Therapy Traininghttps://www.instagram.com/keithkurlander.ma/The Relationship SchoolFollow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
Oct 1, 2025 • 17min
Stop Avoiding Difficult Conversations (Do This Instead) - Jayson Gaddis - 544
Avoiding hard conversations doesn’t make them go away. It builds resentment, distance, and unresolved tension. In this episode, Jayson unpacks why avoiding conflict costs more than it saves, how to approach difficult conversations with honesty and care, and why vulnerability is the key to repair.Timestamps:1:00 - The cost of not having difficult conversations7:00 - How to have hard difficult conversations10:50 - Leading with vulnerability13:00 - Learning to repair after difficult conversationsLinks:The Relationship SchoolFollow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
Sep 17, 2025 • 10min
The World I Want to See - Jayson Gaddis - 543
In the wake of the Charlie Kirk shooting and the Evergreen High School shooting, Jayson reflects on the wave of hatred and blame that erupts online after tragedy. From a Buddhist perspective, he explores how we can stop seeing others as the enemy, reclaim our focus, and begin creating the kind of world we actually want to live in.Timestamps:0:44 - Hatred and blame on social media1:41 - A Buddhist perspective3:53 - Stop seeing other people as the enemy5:46 - Controlling your focus7:56 - The world I want to live inLinks:The Relationship SchoolFollow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
Sep 3, 2025 • 10min
The Disservice of Reassurance - Jayson Gaddis - 542
Jayson breaks down the hidden problems with reassurance. What’s wrong with saying “it’s going to be okay”? When is reassurance actually appropriate, and when does it backfire? What makes reassurance a problem in coaching or therapy? Jayson explains what to say instead and why a deeper response is far more effective for real growth.Timestamps:0:32 - What’s wrong with saying “it’s going to be okay”?2:12 - When reassurance is appropriate4:14 - The problem with reassurance as a coach or therapist6:10 - What to say instead of “it’s going to be okay”Links:The Relationship SchoolFollow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
Aug 28, 2025 • 10min
I Don’t Want to Bring It Up - Jayson Gaddis - 541
Jayson explores the dynamics of conflict avoidance and why so many people are scared to speak up. What childhood roots contribute to staying silent? Who are you really protecting when you avoid conflict? How does the fear of abandonment keep you quiet? Jayson also unpacks the role of differentiation in learning to bring things up with courage and clarity.Timestamps:0:44 - Conflict avoidance1:28 - Childhood roots of being scared to speak up2:33 - Who are you really protecting by avoiding conflict?3:34 - Fear of abandonment7:25 - DifferentiationLinks:The Relationship SchoolFollow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
