Ask Kati Anything

Ask Kati Anything audience questions: Hello Kati, I've had such a horrible week despite my efforts to bring my mood up. And get myself feeling happy I've just been so tired every day, drained even with sleep. I've been unable... How do you tell the difference between feelings of loneliness, being alone, and being an introvert or “lone wolf”? I really struggle to tell where one starts and the other... Hi Kati! I'm gonna just get straight to the point here - I feel like I always have a desire to be the victim. For lack of a better term, I've experienced a "rush" at the thought of it. I feel uncomfortable if I... Hi Kati, ethical / therapy-related question here. I opened up with my therapist about part of my past sexual abuse, and I told her that I first realized it was actually sexual abuse when, recently, a friend told me of a  similar situation and we both found it disturbing and unacceptable. At the end of the session, my therapist asked me... Hey Kati, is it possible to choose to be emotionally neglected? A few years ago I noticed that I grew way too attached to my singing teacher for it to be considered normal. It led me to believe I have some attachment issues caused by my mother. I thought I... Hi Kati! I hope you're well. I have a random question about therapists and their clients. Is it legal to treat a family member? For example, if your aunt/uncle or... Do you have any recommendations for someone who has multiple conditions they need to work on? I have such a hard time even finding a therapist because I don’t know what to bring up or what is more important. I struggle with anxiety, OCD, ADHD, self-harm (not self-diagnosed), and I... Hi Kati, Is it possible to have a “favorite person” as it is described in relation to BPD, without having BPD? Since adolescence I’ve... Hi Kati, Since it’s encouraged for people in mental health industries to see their own psychologist from time to time, do you find it hard to “switch positions” and be... Hi Kati! I am a woman who has survived CSA and I have a question: is it normal to be aroused/turned on by the idea of being sexually assaulted? This is never something I would want in real life, but I have daydreamed scenarios of sexual assault often. I am currently in therapy but have never... Connecting with KatiAre u ok? Kati's book is in stores now!Kati's Amazon SuggestionsPATREON is a great way to help support the creation of mental health videosJournaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version  audio version ONLINE THERAPY  I do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust. BUSINESS EMAIL  linnea@toneymedia.com  MAIL  PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403  PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

ep.39 Rebecca Zamolo & Kati MortonAudience questions1. Hi Kati, please ask Rebecca how she manages to still have hope and faith after such a trauma. Maybe this inspires someone...2. Hi Kati, I have multiple chronic illnesses including autoimmune disorders, Celiac Disease, Fibromyalgia, pain disorders, chronic fatigue, etc.  My doctors have tried to tell me to stop working for many years, but it's unrealistic.  I also don't...3. Hey Kati and Rebecca! Can you talk about how to improve social skills (and maybe social anxiety) and learning how to improve/develop relationships? I'm an introvert with social anxiety...4. Hi Kati and Rebecca! Can you talk about trauma, and how it can affect your overall health? I experienced trauma as a child, and I think the stress has had a negative effect on my overall health. I often have symptoms of anxiety, I have a high resting heart...5. Hi Kati, Can reading articles on mental illnesses make your symptoms worse? Ever since I’ve searched up things about suicide, self-harm, depression, anxiety, ARFID, and complicated grief, my symptoms seem to...6. Hey Kati. Why is being sensitive viewed as a bad thing? Can sensitivity be a good thing? I'm a sensitive person myself and I often get criticized for it. I know others who get criticized for being sensitive too. I try to be less sensitive but it's...Rebecca Zamolo Social MediaInstagramTikTok Twitter Facebook MOST COMMON TYPES Crohn's disease: A chronic inflammatory bowel disease that affects the lining of the digestive tract. Ulcerative colitis: A chronic, inflammatory bowel disease that causes inflammation in the digestive tract. For informational purposes only. Consult your local medical authority for advice.Sources: Mayo Clinic and others.Connecting with Kati Are u ok? Kati's book is in stores now Kati's Amazon Suggestions PATREON is a great way to help me support the creation of mental health videos. Journaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself!  Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version  audio version ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.BUSINESS EMAIL  linnea@toneymedia.com MAIL  PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403 PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience questions for Ask Kati Anything ep381. Hey Kati, how do therapists deal with things that trigger their own mental illnesses? I want to be a therapist, but I struggle with anxiety and eating disorders myself and I’m afraid that there will be a patient who triggers me, potentially even to the point of relapse.2. Hi Kati! Is it weird that I really want to cry in therapy but never can? I’ve always been someone that suppresses and ignores my emotions because I grew up thinking they were a sign of weakness.  Because of this...3. Good day, Kati! Why do I keep pushing my friends away when I’m in a depressive episode? I know that’s when I need them the most and I need their support, but I just push them away and...4. How do you know that you're ready to start talking about your trauma? I keep telling myself I'm not ready but what if I just don't want to? A couple of months ago i got some really strong flashbacks from what might have been...5. Hi Kati! Do you think therapy is necessary for everyone? I spent three years in therapy but I stopped going a few months ago and I feel so much better since I stopped! Is there something wrong with me? I know deep down there is some stuff I...6. Why can't I tell my parents that I love them or hug them? I obviously do love them but saying that is nearly impossible even though we used to be very affectionate towards each other when I was a child. When my mom tells me she loves...7. How do I get over the feeling that I’m “faking” it. I feel like a fraud like I’m faking my way through life. I’ve accomplished a lot in life. But I can’t shake the feeling that I’m faking it!!... HELP. Appreciate all you do.Much love8. Hi Kati! Is it normal to feel like I need to prepare a lot before therapy? Before each session, I read through my journals and think about everything I want to say, as well as how I will answer any potential questions that my therapist might ask...9. Can someone be resistant to therapy because one sees through the strategies of the therapist so that they don't work?10. Hey Kati.  I’m 19 years old and in the last few years, I’ve found myself getting strongly attached to female figures who are older than me. It’s almost like I’ve got a little hole inside of me and...Connecting with Kati Are u ok? Kati's book is in stores now Kati's Amazon Suggestions PATREON is a great way to help me support the creation of mental health videos. Journaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself!  Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version  audio version ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.BUSINESS EMAIL  linnea@toneymedia.com MAIL  PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403 PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience questions for Ask Kati Anything ep.37 Hi Kati, what does a healthy attachment to your therapist feel like for the client? I am constantly wondering whether my attachment is healthy, for example, is it okay to be excited to tell them something that has happened to... Hi Kati! I’m just curious to know if therapists “stalk” their patients on social media? I would find it so tempting to want to know more about my patients if I was a therapist and I feel like I would want to look through their Instagrams and... Hi, Kati! I have a question. I’m 21, and I’ve suffered from depression and anxiety for several years. I’ve tried therapy on and off starting when I was 14. I would always just talk with a therapist about how I was feeling, but it never really went anywhere. I eventually stopped because it wasn’t helping. I feel... Hello Kati, Do you think “birth order” may play a role in mental illness, and have you seen any trends in your counseling sessions? (such as depressed middle children, eldest children facing too much pressure, youngest who might have been smothered) I’m... Hi Kati! My therapist and I both independently came to the conclusion that I was emotionally neglected as a child and teenager, but almost a year later I'm still struggling to see how it could have been bad enough to cause such severe mental... Dear Kati, Why do I feel the need to google or research things? Whenever a topic or item is posed that could be relatively related to me I find myself compulsively looking it up. I’ll spend hours reading about a topic and get a brief sense of relief, however... Dear Kati, How can I experience the emotional charge of trauma memories at the "right time"? My brain is very protective of me; it still treats the trauma as if... Hey Kati, what is the difference between social anxiety disorder and avoidant personality disorder? What do you have to work on with clients with AvPD vs... Hi Kati, why do I miss the old times when I felt bad and can't accept that it's good that I don't self-harm anymore. I miss feeling bad and that's crazy... Hi Kati! How do you take care of your own mental health when having to be a caretaker for your parent that has a chronic illness? I’m only 23 and feel completely burnt out from having to take on all of the household chores... Connecting with Kati Are u ok? Kati's book is in stores now Kati's Amazon Suggestions PATREON is a great way to help me support the creation of mental health videos. Journaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself!  Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version  audio version ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.BUSINESS EMAIL  linnea@toneymedia.com MAIL  PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403 PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/kati Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Intro with thoughts about Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard & his relapse.Audience questions: Hi Kati. How to deal with being a later-in-life virgin? I'm 21 and I'm getting to be requested to talk about it in therapy. It all started when we were talking about my poor interpersonal skills... Do therapists get bored if a patient doesn't give new information in sessions? I usually answer with 'nothing happened' when she asks how my week went, because I can't recall anything... Hi Kati. How can I cope with feeling lonely and seeking connection and validation while simultaneously being incredibly stressed out by human contact? I am easily triggered in conversations... Hi Kati! Is avoiding deep and hurtful emotions a sign that a person lacks empathy or the opposite- that they have too much of it? Is it healthy to keep avoiding sad/hurtful emotions? For example, I do everything to avoid things to do with tragedies like wars, Holocaust, or other disasters where people or animals get... Hi Kati! I have a tough question... My 16-year-old daughter (who is a virgin. Never had a BF, not even a first kiss yet) recently told me that her cousin (MY sister's son) sexually assaulted her 2 years ago, when they were both 14 years old... Hey Kati! Why is it bad that I intellectualize in my sessions? I know it's a defense mechanism, but I don´t understand why my therapist doesn't want me to say things like "I experience depersonalization". In the end, it doesn't truly make a difference if... Why is it when you have trauma happen multiple times does your brain want to just block it out? With me I’ve had trauma multiple times in my life that I just block it out and feel like I have to push it down, I feel like it doesn’t matter and I have to... Hey Kati - so my anxiety does this thing where I can't do things in front of other people. At first, I'll shake and get stuck in a panic state, then I'll dissociate and shut down. It makes things like cooking while other people are in the room, doing group work at... Hi Kati, can you please talk about how to deal with concentration and memory issues because of anxiety? I feel like I can't really make good experiences to... Connecting with Kati Are u ok? Kati's book is in stores now Kati's Amazon Suggestions PATREON is a great way to help me support the creation of mental health videos. Journaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself!  Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version  audio version ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.BUSINESS EMAIL  linnea@toneymedia.com MAIL  PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403 PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything audience questions:1. How do therapists feel when their client talks about something really traumatic? I mean, therapists are people too and really terrible things happening to other people...2. A friend of mine received a phone call from the school psychologist because her 10-year-old daughter used her school computer to google “How to commit suicide.” My friend recently...3. Hey Kati! Could you explain a bit more the science behind false memories ? I do not know if my abuse was made up because it became a problem in my life only a few years ago when I started learning about psychology in college and I started remembering stuff from...4. Hope you're doing great. Can you talk about hiding things we want to talk about but are ashamed of or scared of. I've been meaning to talk about more of my sexuality (being gay) and traumas I've...5. Hi Kati! Why can’t I be okay with the way I feel for my therapist? I told my therapist about imagining having her as my mother, really liking her. The fact she doesn't give me any kind of reaction makes me feel miserable and like what I feel is wrong, even if it...6. Hey there! How do we keep going towards a goal when we're seeing no encouraging feedback yet? It may or may not be "working", but we can't see it. It's so easy to quit at this...7. Hey Kati, how do I ask for help? I have really been struggling lately and I haven’t told anyone about it. I want to ask for help but every time I try the anxiety is...8. Any tips on how to become less body-focused/more body positive? My eating disordered and low self-esteemed mind cannot follow the progress my body made during the intuitive eating journey I've started in January this year. To this day I've become calmer around food and stopped hoarding it as much since binging/purging cycles, but I'm having a very hard time with...9. Hi Kati. All of my therapy sessions at the beginning are silent. I know that I have to start talking about whatever I want but the problem is I don’t know what to say, what is my problem at this moment. Everything seems unimportant, small and silly and I should be...10. Hi Kati hope you are doing well. How do I let go of my past self? I've been trying to move past my depressed and traumatised self but I can't seem to...Connecting with Kati Are u ok? Kati's book is in stores now Kati's Amazon Suggestions PATREON is a great way to help me support the creation of mental health videos. Journaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself!  Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version  audio version ONLINE THERAPY  I do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.BUSINESS EMAIL  linnea@toneymedia.com MAIL  PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403 PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room.Support the show (https Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything audience questions:1) Hey Kati!! I beat myself up a lot over not being able to self harm severely. I'm suicidal in my thoughts, but my actions aren’t always reflecting that directly.  Every time I ask those around me for help (regarding these suicidal thoughts), because I’ve not...2) Hi Kati, how do we actually "process" any emotion/situation? I never know how long to sit with hard emotions, I end up crying for a few minutes and then just saying to myself "okay time to do something...3) Hi Kati, have you ever needed to take time to grieve when a client has finished their sessions with you? I know you've said before that we as clients need to...4) Hi Kati! How can I ask my therapist about a specific disorder without seeming like I'm self-diagnosing? I have done a lot of research on my specific symptoms and I would like to ask to be evaluated for a specific disorder or...5) Hi Kati! Why do I feel the need to hear from my therapist that I am sick enough and/or that she is worried about me? Why do I constantly crave that validation?6) Hey Kati. How do I stop covering my trauma in humour in therapy? In today’s session, I shared a really hard story and at the end, I just made light of it and made a joke, and my therapist said...7) Hi Kati. How is talk therapy possible, when I can't talk about feelings without crying & basically can't talk when I just cry all the way through? For me, crying in front of others is associated with helplessness, rejection, and out of control...8) Hi Kati! Is it possible to feel worse after therapy? I have recently started working with my psychologist on processing childhood trauma as my parents were emotionally neglectful, although unintentionally...9) Hey Kati! I was wondering which Personality Disorders are the hardest for you to treat? Or which clients with Personality Disorders are most rewarding to work with overtime? Also to what degree is it possible to heal from PD’s? I have Avoidant/Schizoid Personality Disorder and I feel like I am annoying to my therapist, even if she says...10) As someone who has trust issues, how do you find a therapist you trust? The few I've tried recently felt like they were just running through a script and not engaging with my personal issues. I need serious help but...Connecting with Kati Are u ok? Kati's book is in stores now Kati's Amazon Suggestions PATREON is a great way to help me support the creation of mental health videos. Journaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself!  Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version  audio version ONLINE THERAPY  I do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.BUSINESS EMAIL  linnea@toneymedia.com MAIL  PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403 PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room.Support the show (https://www.patreon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience questions for Ask Kati Anything ep. 331. How come I feel really bad during the week but then I go to therapy and seem like the happiest person ever. I don’t know how to say help me?2. Hey Kati, I've been in therapy for a while now and have this thing where I'm always looking forward to the next session but when the day actually comes I dread going. In between sessions, I think about what I want to bring up next but I always end up feeling like I'm overreacting right before the next session. I usually warm up after a while but I was just wondering where this feeling comes from even after...3. Hi Kati, what do therapists think of adults who self harm? I know your opinion might not be representative of all therapists, but I just want to hear your...4. Hi Kati! What’s the best way to take care of your own mental health if you have loved ones with serious mental health problems? My brother is a recovering addict, and both of my parents have pretty serious...5. Hi Kati. Hope you're doing great. Can you talk about having a hard time naming things? I tend to surround things I want to talk about, I rationalize them, but when it comes to putting a name to them, it gets really hard. This happened to me in therapy while trying to talk about my...6. Hi Kati. How can you differentiate between feeling that something is wrong or off and being anxious? I had many times felt that way and something inevitably went wrong, even though I didn't...7. Hi Kati! I hope you're having a great week! Does an eating disorder have to be about body image and weight? I have recently been struggling with anxiety and depression but lately (for a month) I am never hungry, or I’ll...8. Hi kati, How do we stop avoiding things and at the same time start to listen to what we want more?? I have cptsd and am a big avoider; so I am told by my treatment team that I should be more gentle with myself, but also that I...9. Hi Kati! How do you deal with parents who aren’t supportive of you going to therapy? The thing is, I’m stuck back home after studying and working in the family business. I make my “own” money working during...---Connecting with Kati Are u ok? Kati's book is in stores now Kati's Amazon Suggestions PATREON is a great way to help me support the creation of mental health videos. Journaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself!  Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version  audio version ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.BUSINESS EMAIL  linnea@toneymedia.com MAIL  PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403 PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Questions for Ask Kati Anything!1. Hey Kati, how can I calm down in therapy? Most of the time I feel really anxious and nervous in session and it really bothers me because I feel as if I am not able to think and talk about my issues very well and I tend to push all of my feelings away and just feel empty or dissociate. I am not really able to...2 .Hi Kati, what do I do if I feel like my therapist doesn't always believe me? There are times when I feel like she dismisses my problems, or doesn't realise how much they are truly impacting my life. I will want to...3. How can I draw the line between coping & coddling myself too much? Sometimes, I feel like I am being too forgiving with myself when I am trying to cope. It almost feels like I am using 'coping' as an excuse to get out of..4. Hi Kati! Is it normal to feel triggered by someone being soft with you? Sometimes I get triggered by people like my therapist making me feel vulnerable but it’s weird because I...5. Hi Kati, how can I begin to work through trauma when I don't know what it was that traumatised me/when I barely remember anything? Thanks! 6. Hi Kati! I was emotionally neglected my whole life and that explains why I am emotionally extremely walled off and at the same time extremely attached to my therapist. I feel like I am still a little kid on the inside that is stuck in...7. This question almost made it two weeks ago! (40+ likes) Hi Kati! Is it normal to feel like your life is split in two "eras" or seasons when something traumatic happens? f. e. 3 years ago my parents got into a huge fight because my...8. Is it possible to improve suddenly in several mental health aspects? One day I'm attached to my therapist, I'm very anxious around people, I feel suicidal, I sleep a lot, and one day all of the above seem to have disappeared...9. Hi Kati, ever since I talked about and tried to deal with my problems (suicidal, insecurity, stress), are always on my face and in my heart. I don't feel I'm really happy even though I still...10. Hey Kati! How do you feel about clients telling you, they really care about you? I am really attached to my therapist and I wish she would be my mother. I have been feeling so much hurt because of the intensity of...Connecting with Kati Are u ok? Kati's book is in stores now Kati's Amazon Suggestions PATREON is a great way to help me support the creation of mental health videos. Journaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself!  Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version  audio version ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.BUSINESS EMAIL  linnea@toneymedia.com MAIL  PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403 PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience questions for ep.31 of Ask Kati Anything!1. Hi Kati! Can your depression change over time? I've been depressed for about 10 years but my depression feels different now (I'm 22) to when I was younger, for example around 15. It feels like...2. I have this faulty belief that I am not as good as everybody else. It is so deeply ingrained that I'm starting to witness myself sabotage myself. No matter what I do, I start by looking at myself then to a person who does...3. Hi Kati! Is there any advice you can give to help people who have no way of affording therapy right now? I lost my job due to COVID and haven’t been able to find another one. I have dealt with anxiety issues for a long time...4. Hi Kati, I hope you are doing well. What do you tell your clients when they want to give up? I have had so many periods where I’ve discovered a lower rock bottom than I could ever imagine, and every time I think “it really does get worse”...5. Do therapists lie whether they experienced a similar event or feeling to reassure clients? Do they make up harmless stories like they were bullied too, to make clients feel heard? Maybe not lying, but...6. Do therapists test you even outside your appointment? Is that part of their job? For example, when you meet them before the session, and they say sorry for being late because of traffic, do they pay attention to how you react? Are you empathic...7. Hi Kati I hope you’re having a happy day. I’m curious about your experience with patients working through C-PTSD. Do you feel like it’s generally a slow progression of healing, with people becoming a little less symptomatic here and there...8. Hi Kati, how can I learn to communicate my anger? Growing up I learned to never be angry because my parents often got loud and I still get a lot of anxiety around people whenever there is a confrontation or people shout at each other. I  feel uncomfortable around most men because of...9. Hi Kati, why do painful memories trigger self-harm urges? I’ve recently been trying to process painful memories from my childhood and it’s making me want to...10. I've always romanticized death. My whole life has been about running away from everything, escaping. I want to change that. I think I don't know how to live. I feel so lost and disorientated...Connecting with Kati Are u ok? Kati's book is in stores now Kati's Amazon Suggestions PATREON is a great way to help me support the creation of mental health videos. Journaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself!  Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version  audio version ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.BUSINESS EMAIL  linnea@toneymedia.com MAIL  PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403 PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/kat Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices