Ask Kati Anything

Ask Kati Anything audience questions for episode 501. What if I actually don't want to get better? Sometimes I catch myself being 'happy' that I have a mental illness. I experienced childhood abuse from my grandma and probably because of that I developed BPD...2. I've always been curious about what you would do if one of your patients has completely opposing views to you? For instance, what would you do if they turned out to be...3. Is there a way for me to open up in therapy? I have a great T, which is very supportive, but there are sessions when it’s really hard or even impossible to talk about certain things...4. Any tips for not being so nervous in therapy and being able to open up. I started getting worried about some of the homework she was giving me to say hi to someone as I walked by, so she had me do Square breathing as...5. I've been struggling to have calls ever since I remember. I've been working on my social anxiety and fear of talking on the phone and tried to have calls which I needed to do and it took a lot to get...6. What does it mean when you get triggered so easily? i would be lying in bed ready for sleep when my brain suddenly hits me with these haunting, embarrassing memories that make me feel so bad...7. How can I deal with loving and hating my parents at the same time? How do I know if I’m doing enough to help them and they just ask for too much or if I’m not doing enough?  I struggle with GAD, quiet BPD...8. Happy Thursday! I have a friend I confide in with a lot of my mental battles because she "gets it" - she's been there for the majority of my times of crisis and has been crucial within my support network. She's also a HSP...9. How do I be comfortable with being in the grey area? I'm so used to being in the black and white area where I have been conditioned to be when I was younger. I can't seem to be comfortable with the grey area and I would feel anxious worrying...10. Ever since I walked in on my sister's suicide attempt 2 months ago, I've been seeing hallucinations at night. I wake up to my sister's voice whispering my name, see a figure of her in the corner of my room, or see police lights...11. I know you've talked about maladaptive daydreaming in the past, but can you still have it if you haven't had any trauma in your life. I have social anxiety and depression and...---Ordering Kati's book Are u ok?  http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestions:https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimorton I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS EMAILlinnea@toneymedia.com MAILPO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything!1. How can I stop avoiding life? I’ve finished university and have been struggling ever since. It took me so long to finish my degree and I don't even like anything about it. I´m scared of starting to...2. Can you talk about the differences between panic attacks, anxiety attacks, meltdowns and just general overwhelm? I struggle to tell the difference and feel it might be easier to deal with...3. In a previous AKA, you mentioned giving yourself time once a week or so to just cry. But what if I can't? I've tried listening to sad music, watching sad videos or reading emotionally tugging stories. But later, I'll find myself bursting into tears...4. What can I do in and outside of therapy if I struggle with connecting? Sometimes I just feel out of touch with reality and out of touch with...5. Why do I struggle with not feeling sick enough because I’ve never had to be hospitalized for a...6. why would I find it hard to just share what's exactly in my mind with other people? I always feel like I can't find the 'right time' to talk about...7. I'm just wondering what counts as suicidal thoughts/ideation and when/if you should bring it up in therapy. I have thought about if I were to do it how would I do it, and ranking best to worst options. For example, taking pills, and the general idea of where I'd do it, but not figuring out how much of what...8. Is there anything I can do to switch off that desire in my head to ‘want’ to look very thin? I’m 8 months in recovery, and I have a naturally athletic build. I’m getting my personal training certification, and the way I’m eating and working out, I have put on a lot of muscle. But while I look my fittest, I still wake up every morning thinking I should...9. Are some people unhelpable? I know some of the things I need to work on, but they feel too big and entrenched to change. I don’t know where to start, or if...10. Any tips for when searching for a therapist? I've been having a hard time finding one due to time (i can only do after office hours), cost and poor administration staff. What can we do when things have gotten bad enough that we decided to seek...11. What if I'm the toxic one in relationships and friendships? I feel like I'm the person that self-help posts always tell people to cut out of their lives. I keep being too much, act needy, probably come across as jealous and clingy, and even...---Ordering Kati's book Are u ok?  http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestions:https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimorton I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS EMAILlinnea@toneymedia.com MAILPO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything, questions for episode 481. What IS a crisis? There's a lot of talk about, "If you're in crisis call and reach out and do this or that," but no one ever explains what that means. In light of last week's second question, it seems pertinent to discuss what "crisis" means...2. Hi Kati! My therapist will regularly ask me to rate my anxiety from 1 to 10 but I never know what to say. I feel like I just say random numbers as I don’t really know how I feel. Sometimes I think that saying a high number will make it look like I am not improving but...3. Hi Kati! I hope you are taking care of yourself. How can I feel safe in my own skin again? I’m on high alert all the time, any sudden...4. Hi Kati! If a client were to ask for more frequent sessions, how do you tell the difference between that person really needing more care or having an attachment to their therapist? Or can it be a mixture of both? For context, I am an ACoA (adult child of an alcoholic) with CPTSD from...5. Hi Kati, Does long term emotional numbness ever fully go away? I am 24 years old and I have been pushing down all my feelings and emotions since I was 11 years old, for multiple reasons. I am completely numb. I don't feel anything and when I do feel something I have no idea what it...6. Hi Kati. Could you please explain what exactly counts as physical abuse? For example, I know that unfortunately, it's not uncommon for parents to...7. Hi Kati. I wondered if you could please explain the rules surrounding sexual assault for minors. I know in other videos you've talked about it being the client's choice whether to report it or...8. Hi Kati! What exactly qualifies an experience to be traumatic? Growing up I went to a doctor who made me feel that the pain I had was “fake” telling me not to think about it, and it would go away. Since then I...9. hey Kati, what should someone do if they can't ask for help? For the longest time, I was suffering, and was offered therapy but refused, I couldn't admit that everything that happened was hard for me so I yelled at everyone I...10. Hey Kati, hope you’re well. I was just wondering, is it normal, after working on childhood sexual abuse in therapy and feeling okay for a month, for everything to fall apart again...JOURNALING CLUBEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! https://www.youtube.com/katimorton/join Ordering Kati's book Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestions:https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimorton I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS EMAILlinnea@toneymedia.com MAILPO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately t Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience Questions for Ask Kati Anything episode 471) Hey Kati, How long does it take you to "read" your clients mood if they don´t say anything? Can you see if they are struggling a lot or is it harder to see? I always wonder what techniques a therapist uses to adjust to each client's...2) Hi Kati, how do YOU keep yourself from judgment towards your patients (and us)? You always say that nothing is weird and we can say everything to our therapist, but don’t you ever find things weird, or stupid? Is our shame never in place? Isn’t it human to...3) Hi Kati, Why do I sometimes fantasize about horrible things happening to me? Sometimes I fantasize or almost wish something awful would happen to me...4) Hi Kati! I was wondering if you've got any tips on staying motivated. Recently, I've been having trouble getting things done such as schoolwork and other necessary tasks throughout the day. I've always been a straight-A student in the past, but recently I've...5) Hey Kati, do you have any tips with figuring out sexuality? I thought I was fairly certain that I'm straight, however, I constantly want to be around my female best friend and prefer spending time with her than with my boyfriend. I also admire girls but...6) Hi Kati, I have a curious question. Why do you always use "we" when explaining something? For example you say things like "when we are traumatised" or "when we suffer from BPD" or "when we feel abandoned" etc instead of "people who are traumatised" or...7) Hi Kati! I have a bad habit of apologizing for everything, for example, I've said sorry when my coworker bumped into a bookcase and I witnessed it, and I have tried replacing it with thank you but it didn't...8) Hi Kati! I noticed I've become SO awkward in casual small talks (I stumble with words much worse than I did before) and I don't even want to get in conversations with anybody...9) Hi Kati, How can I keep trying when every time I try things get immediately harder? I´ve been battling anxiety, depression and my social anxiety for so long, I don't remember a time without it. I take my medication, I go to therapy but it takes so...10) What would you say if a client asked you what you think of them? Would answer or ask why they want to know. I always worry about what people think of me...Connecting with KatiAre u ok? Kati's book is in stores now!Kati's Amazon SuggestionsPATREON is a great way to help support the creation of mental health videosJournaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version  audio version ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust. BUSINESS EMAIL  linnea@toneymedia.com  MAIL  PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403  PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything!  Audience questions for episode 46Hi Kati, How do you know if you’ve truly “gotten over” a particular trauma? I feel I’ve worked through my big ones, but sometimes when I see...Any advice for someone who is having a hard time accepting themselves as a lesbian? I was raised in church being taught that it is wrong and so after a while you start to feel wrong. I know I’m gay and want to be able to...I get distracted super easily working from home which means completing a task takes longer than it should, which sometimes means working later into the evening. My productivity has...Will the pandemic create generational trauma over time? If so, how can we be aware of that towards the future? (COMMENT: OMG YES! I think about my grandma, who lived through (and raised a child in!) the Great Depression and her response to food and hunger throughout her life. Dementia patients, in general, struggle with appetite loss and...Hi Kati! I hope you’re taking care! Are gaps in childhood memories always related to trauma and abuse? I’m always in awe when people tell elaborate, detailed stories from their childhood, but for me, I don’t remember very much at all. In fact, I didn’t develop a strong narrative-like memory of...Hi Kati, When does someone need a safety plan, and do you legally have to make one if you need it?Hey Kati, I've recently started going to therapy, and was given homework, which kinda sucks. Anyways I was asked to write a letter or at least think of what to say to my inner child. I was told I have social anxiety, and that I should think of things that I could say to my inner child that would...Hi Kati! In my last therapy session I was very down, and asked my therapist what if working through my trauma won't help, what if I'll resolve my trauma but keep being depressed. She replied that she thinks I asked that because I'm still minimizing my...Hey Kati happy Thursday. I was in a session with my therapist a few weeks ago and it was nearing the end when she asked me if I had anything else to share that was on my...Hi Kati, As a therapist how would you feel if a client you had been seeing for 4 months suddenly gave you a list of things they have been struggling with but keeping from you? I binge eat, I pick my skin and I have intense intrusive...Connecting with KatiAre u ok? Kati's book is in stores now!Kati's Amazon SuggestionsPATREON is a great way to help support the creation of mental health videosJournaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version  audio version ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust. BUSINESS EMAIL  linnea@toneymedia.com  MAIL  PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403  PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything!  Audience questions for ep.45 Hi Kati, every time I see my therapist look at the clock I get nervous that I am boring her and she's just waiting for the session to finally be over... Hello Kati, hope you're taking care of yourself. As someone who has always had suicidal ideation and just a general feeling of not wanting to exist, how do you talk honestly and openly about it with a therapist without being put in a facility or put on suicide watch? Hi Kati! What is the best way to stop extreme nervousness before a zoom call or any social interaction? I always think of the worst that can happen... Hey Kati happy Thursday! Has any of your clients had panic attacks during a session and if so what did you do about it in the moment? Hi Kati, hope you're doing well. How can I stop believing I have nothing interesting to say or contribute in a conversation? I find myself wanting to say something in response to a person but before I can say it my mind starts to worry about how the other person will react... How do I stop placing judgement on going through my own stuff while in school to become a therapist? Every time I have a bad mental health day, I think to myself “how am i supposed to help others when I don’t even have... Hey Kati! What are your thoughts on adults seeking therapy who were suicidal as children (not self harming necessarily, just wanting to no longer be alive). It feels like such an impressionable age to be feeling such deep feelings of hopelessness and... Hey Kati, If a client asked you if you experienced any countertransference with them, or what feelings came up for you during session with them, would you be honest? I noticed that when talking about my child abuse my therapist took a very... Hi Kati :) I hope you are doing wonderful! My question for you has to do with journaling. When you read a client's journal do you feel like you are invading their privacy, or do you think it is fun to get all the insider information? Also is it important for clients to share their journal with... Hi Kati! I know you don’t do much therapy with teens or people under the age of 18, but I would still like to hear your answer for this question! You say that people have to be willing to get better/want to put in the effort, but... Connecting with KatiAre u ok? Kati's book is in stores now!Kati's Amazon SuggestionsPATREON is a great way to help support the creation of mental health videosJournaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version  audio version ONLINE THERAPY  I do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust. BUSINESS EMAIL  linnea@toneymedia.com  MAIL  PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403  PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience Questions for Ask Kati Anything! Hello! Can emotional abuse or neglect lead to complex ptsd, hypervigilance and dissociation? I have experienced this during my whole childhood but.. Hi! How do I in the best way allow myself to be honest in therapy? Many times I make something sound less bad or not truly express how I feel or how bad it... Hi Kati, do you have any advice on choosing what to prioritise in session when every week it seems there's something more important? Do you believe it’s always possible for a patient to overcome an attachment to the therapist? In these past few weeks, my brain has brought me to believe that I’ll never get over my attachment to my therapist and have a normal and happy life. Thoughts like this have... Hey Kati, how can I take constructive criticism? Every time someone criticizes me I feel deeply offended. I know people just want me to do better but I still feel bad when someone... Hi Kati! You always talk about how we should bring up childhood traumas in therapy but what exactly would happen when... Hey Kati, What are some things you would never say to a depressed person? Hi kati! I hope you're doing well! So when I was 16 years old I went to a party to celebrate the beginning of uni. I got really really drunk and later I learnt that they put Rohypnol on my drink, I don't remember much, but I remember the pain... Hey Kati, How can I deal with my therapist suddenly being on leave? She was going to tell me she was pregnant 2 months before she expected to give birth, however, her baby decided to come very early so I had no warning before she left, how can I deal with this sudden change? Hi Kati, How do you stay positive during another lockdown, without falling back into a negative spiral that 2021 is going to be as bad as 2020? I love sport( specifically water polo) but I haven’t been able to play for a year and I can’t stop thinking things will never be okay or be “normal” again. I’ve also been really sick and had an operation a few weeks ago, so everything feels very overwhelming. Sorry, I hope this makes sense. Thank you for all you do, you’ve helped me so much! Love from Zimbabwe.  Connecting with KatiAre u ok? Kati's book is in stores now!Kati's Amazon SuggestionsPATREON is a great way to help support the creation of mental health videosJournaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version  audio version ONLINE THERAPY  I do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust. BUSINESS EMAIL  linnea@toneymedia.com  MAIL  PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403  PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Questions for Ask Kati Anything1. Hey Kati! How can I know if I am still attached to my therapist or if it started to be a healthy bond? Also, How do I know that everything I feel towards my therapist isn't just transference? How would I...2. Hey Kati! Hope you are doing well. How does one get over having to switch therapists and process the loss of that relationship and having to start a new one? Thank you for your content!3. Hi Kati! I hope you're doing great. I wanted to ask: am I ever going to make peace with what happened to me as a child and the collateral damages it has created? I was sexually abused from the age of 6 till I turned 8. I've been in therapy on and off...4. Hi Kati, How do you get through social anxiety during therapy sessions (when therapy triggers it much more than any experience ever has), anxiety leading up to sessions, dissociation during...5. Hey Kati! What impact does having a surgery as a baby have on our emotional development? I was wondering if my fear of abandonment is connected with a surgery I had at 6 months old. I recently found out that it...6. Hi Kati! I have a very hard time coping with change, I seem to be seeking comfort and stability all the time and the slightest change in my life brings me a lot of fear and anxiety, sometimes to the point that I...7. Hi Kati, You’ve mentioned in the past about listing what you had in a relationship vs. what you needed from that relationship and grieving the difference. I’ve never quite understood what that meant. What does “grieving the difference” look...8. Hi Kati. How can you start dating when you struggle with fear of intimacy (especially regarding romantic relationships and sex) and tend to use avoidance as a coping...9. Hi Kati happy Thursday! How can I stop blaming my past selves? I always feel like I had so much potential as a 17-year-old and I feel so angry with her for not...10. Hi Kati! Thank you for all the content you're posting! My question is: how do you know if you need therapy or if you can cope on your own? If I compare myself to my past self I think I'm doing quite well, I'm able to study more regularly...11. How important is it to have a clearly formulated goal that you want to work on before your first appointment with a therapist? I'm afraid I wouldn't be able to say...Connecting with KatiAre u ok? Kati's book is in stores now!Kati's Amazon SuggestionsPATREON is a great way to help support the creation of mental health videosJournaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version  audio version ONLINE THERAPY  I do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust. BUSINESS EMAIL  linnea@toneymedia.com  MAIL  PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403  PLEASE READ If you or someone you My new book TRAUMATIZED is available for preorder! Order your copy today https://geni.us/Bfak0j Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1. Hi Kati, how do you deal with feeling discouraged when symptoms of mental illness return despite doing everything to prevent it? I have been taking medication for depression for over a year and consistently go to therapy, but my symptoms...2. Hi Kati! Why is it so hard for me to bear my therapist's silence in sessions? Is it part of me wanting to hear her opinion, so I don't have to be confronted with my own...3. EDIT!!!!  Hi Kati! Why do I feel so responsible for other people's words/actions? I am often on edge when around others because I feel responsible for their words/actions and if they say or do something offensive or hurtful, I can feel super...4. Hey there! :) What is an appropriate gift for my therapist for the holidays? What gifts have you gotten and what gifts have you had to decline?5. Hi Kati, I am a frontline healthcare worker and I am so beyond exhausted, I’m not sure how much more I can take. It is so heartbreaking to watch people so sick and dying every shift and it seems nothing is helping. I started having panic attacks at work but I cannot...6. Hey Kati, could you please say some calming therapisty things, in your therapist voice? I often listen to your podcast to calm down and remind myself of my own therapist in between sessions. But recently my anxiety levels are...7. Hi Kati. I feel scared. The therapeutic relationship/emotional closeness is making me terribly afraid. I've known my therapist for years now and I am terrified because all I can think about is "eventually she'll leave. Therapy has to...8. How can I wire my brain to do something despite my fears or negative thoughts? I struggle with executing my plans because I am terrified that something might go wrong. I always end up stuck in going through the motions, lose motivation and interest, and go back to square one of...9. Dear Kati: Please accept some socially distanced holiday cheer, and my personal gratitude for all that you do on both of your channels. My question is about the working alliance between my therapist and...10. Hi Kati! I hope you're doing great. I wanted to ask: how can I deal with being attracted and falling for older people. I was sexually abused as a little girl, since the age of 6 till I turned 8. I've been in therapy on and off since I was 11. Now that I'm 21, I...Connecting with KatiAre u ok? Kati's book is in stores now!Kati's Amazon SuggestionsPATREON is a great way to help support the creation of mental health videosJournaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version  audio version ONLINE THERAPY  I do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust. BUSINESS EMAIL  linnea@toneymedia.com  MAIL  PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403  PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/ka Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything audience questions:1. Hey Kati! Thank you for all that you do! My question is how do I find meaning in my life? I struggle...2. Hey Kati happy Thursday! My dad left when I was 8 and recently he reached out to me for the first time in ten years. I repressed the feeling for so long that I truly lived in a happy delusion of believing my dad leaving had zero effect on me...3. Do therapists really mean it when they give you compliments or are they just saying it to build the therapeutic relationship? I've had therapists say things like "i'm in awe of you" or "I was completely blown away when you said...". I find my inner voice saying...4. Hi Kati! I was wondering, if you're around a narcissist for a long period of time (dating, married or grew up with one etc) can their narcissistic qualities rub off on you making you display their...5. Hey Kati, what is a healthy amount of control? I tend to feel all or nothing is the only approach. I try not to control others, but I feel like I’m the only thing I can control, so I can be a...6. Hey Kati, I hope you’re doing great. I’m a pretty shy person and I struggle to make eye contact with people in my daily life. The only person I can look in the eyes without feeling embarrassed is my therapist. When I started therapy I thought I was gonna struggle to...7. Hey Kati! How can I stop replaying the bad parts of my last therapy session in my head? I feel like my thoughts spin round and round like on one of those teacup rides - it's nauseating - and with my appointments being every fortnight, it's exhausting. I told her about a new intrusive thought that...8. Is psychosomatic pain a real thing, if so, how could one differentiate psychosomatic pain from a physical pain? Or just chat about psychosomatic symptoms..9. Hey Kati! Happy Thursday! Every once in a while, I have a feeling of intense anxiety or feeling down for no reason at all. I feel like I have to have a reason for why I feel the way that I do or else I will overthink it and I don't like not having a reason...10. Hi Kati, should I and how should I approach the topic of touch starvation in therapy? I struggle with touch starvation and didn’t really have that need fulfilled as a kid but I don’t like to talk about it in therapy because it’d be weird knowing that my therapist...Connecting with KatiAre u ok? Kati's book is in stores now!Kati's Amazon SuggestionsPATREON is a great way to help support the creation of mental health videosJournaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version  audio version ONLINE THERAPY  I do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust. BUSINESS EMAIL  linnea@toneymedia.com  MAIL  PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403  PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room.Support the show (ht Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices